Yes this is an alias account. Mostly a lurker, but better safe than sorry.
Starting with the basics. Mid 30's and in a decade-long marriage. No kids. We're happy and we get along great. Much like best friends and care about each other. However, the physical side of things started off decent and waned quickly from there. Deeper connection through conversation and shared interests is somewhat limited as well. At times it feels like we're just coasting through life on auto-pilot. She's an amazing woman and I realize the issues are likely partially my fault.
In college there was a girl, flame, with whom I was tight as it gets with for a couple years. Inseparable, really. Never dated for a variety of reasons on both sides, but there was always underlying chemistry. We lost touch after school and have been out of touch for about 15 years, give or take. Recently we reconnected (she's separated, divorce coming, 2 kids). Through a stream of texts and calls it has surfaced that we've both attempted to reconnect periodically over the years, and there has been a strong "what if" in the back of both of our minds. No doubt that the lack of connection with wife is at least partially due to always wondering about flame.
This past weekend we decided to meet up to see where things stood. She flew in Saturday afternoon with plans for dinner and drinks. We immediately clicked. Dinner was great. The following 18 hours were spent in bed alternating between great conversation, and easily the best sex of my life. We squeezed in about 2 hours of sleep total. Dropping her off the next afternoon was tough, and subsequent talks have gone over what happened, and where that leaves us.
I realize that this is textbook case of "shiny new thing, inflating past memories, jumping at anything that fills a current void, beware the fresh divorcee", etc. Everything rational screams run back home and cut contact. I get it. However, I come to the FFA asking: "does this sort of thing ever end up working?" Curious for 1st and 3rd -person experiences.
Important FBG info: Flame has much better cans (30f) than wife. Both are petite. Sorry, no pics.
Starting with the basics. Mid 30's and in a decade-long marriage. No kids. We're happy and we get along great. Much like best friends and care about each other. However, the physical side of things started off decent and waned quickly from there. Deeper connection through conversation and shared interests is somewhat limited as well. At times it feels like we're just coasting through life on auto-pilot. She's an amazing woman and I realize the issues are likely partially my fault.
In college there was a girl, flame, with whom I was tight as it gets with for a couple years. Inseparable, really. Never dated for a variety of reasons on both sides, but there was always underlying chemistry. We lost touch after school and have been out of touch for about 15 years, give or take. Recently we reconnected (she's separated, divorce coming, 2 kids). Through a stream of texts and calls it has surfaced that we've both attempted to reconnect periodically over the years, and there has been a strong "what if" in the back of both of our minds. No doubt that the lack of connection with wife is at least partially due to always wondering about flame.
This past weekend we decided to meet up to see where things stood. She flew in Saturday afternoon with plans for dinner and drinks. We immediately clicked. Dinner was great. The following 18 hours were spent in bed alternating between great conversation, and easily the best sex of my life. We squeezed in about 2 hours of sleep total. Dropping her off the next afternoon was tough, and subsequent talks have gone over what happened, and where that leaves us.
I realize that this is textbook case of "shiny new thing, inflating past memories, jumping at anything that fills a current void, beware the fresh divorcee", etc. Everything rational screams run back home and cut contact. I get it. However, I come to the FFA asking: "does this sort of thing ever end up working?" Curious for 1st and 3rd -person experiences.
Important FBG info: Flame has much better cans (30f) than wife. Both are petite. Sorry, no pics.
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, though.
Both funny and a good point. There's just not a ton of chemistry there.
