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"Those were the best days of my life" (1 Viewer)

NewlyRetired

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While driving and listening to Bryan Adams singing Summer of 69, it has the familiar lyric, "those were the best days of my life"

And it got me to thinking, what do you guys consider the "best days of your life"?

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For me, it is a close call between what I am experiencing right now and my college days.   I think the feeling of youth gives the college days the edge but it is close.

 
In one sense, college was good - hard work, but also good friendships and memories. I wouldn't redo them, though.

Right now isn't too bad.

 
That song takes me back to my age 19-25 years, when it was a staple at our clubs "retro night". Those days were pretty great - being young, single, carefree, always lots of friends and beer around, parties twice a week. 

I'd probably elect for now though. Less care free but married to someone who makes me happy every day. Still a fair amount of friends and beer around. 

I didn't love high school. It was fine - I got good grades and played sports but most of my meaningful friendships, relationships, etc... came after. 

 
I was in the Virgin Islands once. I met a girl. We ate lobster, drank piña coladas. At sunset, we made love like sea otters. That was a pretty good day.

 
NewlyRetired said:
For me, it is a close call between what I am experiencing right now and my college days.   I think the feeling of youth gives the college days the edge but it is close.
Definitely not now - I'll be glad when this section is over.

If I were to pick probably the first 5 years of marriage.  Definitely good days in there.

 
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Northern Voice said:
I didn't love high school. It was fine - I got good grades and played sports but most of my meaningful friendships, relationships, etc... came after. 
This is my story as well.  I haven't spoke to anyone from high school in 20+ years.

I would go back to my 20s (which for me was 1990-1999) in a heartbeat.  Partied my a$$ off, whether it was in college or as a young single professional.  In high school I didn't date much....in my 20s I dated a lot.  I was young enough to play competitive sports.   I ended my 20s by getting married.

Not that my life is bad today.....it's great, it's just different having a wife, two kids and a lot of responsibility.

 
College was a blast.  I wish I could go back knowing so much more to redo.

That said, I'm just a better person overall now and there's something to be said for that.  Can't ask for much more now with family, kids, etc. and entirely thankful to be where I am. 

I don't know how I'd truly answer this question if given the choice.

 
I realize I've had a blessed life, despite some major setbacks. And I love my kids with everything I have. But all that being said, I truly hope my best days are ahead of me. 

 
It is going to be tough to ever beat the college years for me.  I am happy now with my family and good job but the college years were full of craziness. 

 
Definitely right now. My wife and I are at the best we've ever been, next year will be 25 years married, over 30 years together. No financial worries. Excited about plans we are making for the next 5 years or so. I actually get nervous about how things are going so well. Don't want it to end.

 
Definitely my 20's.  College allowed me to party like a rock star, play soccer and get a degree.  Followed that up by working odd jobs and saving money. Then spent 4 months crossing the country, backpacking, fishing and carousing. 

Followed that up with more odd jobs then in 1992 met my brother in Germany and we rode our bicycles to Spain following the Camino de Santiago. After that journey I lived in Spain for 3 months until my money ran out.  I moved back home and met my soon to be wife.  :thumbup:

The absolute care free nature in which I lived my life allowed every day to be an adventure.  I have an awesome wife and 3 great kids and wouldn't trade that for anything but the daily grind takes some shine of things.

Retirement is a long way off for me but I look at my 20's as pre-retirement as I traveled while I was single and healthy. 

 
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The two years of college I didn't have a live in girlfriend rate very high, as do the following two years in LA with my first real job. Another period while single, living on the beach in San Diego in my early 30s, making more money then I'd ever expected with a couple of best friends doing the same was probably better. I sure don't have anything to complain about right now in my mid 50s other than I am in my mid 50s.

 
Impossible to really say. If I did now what I did when I was 22, I would be depressed. If I did now what I did when I was 22, I would be hospitalized.  

 
It is going to be tough to ever beat the college years for me.  I am happy now with my family and good job but the college years were full of craziness. 
This for me too. Love my wife and kids but those days were amazing.  Life's great now but a little dull at times (which isn't bad per se).  College was filled with exciting, fun times.  Though I couldn't have maintain that lifestyle for too long of a period.

 
Probably law school for me. I created more enduring friendships there than I did in undergrad.  Also, alcohol was a bit tougher for me to get under 21 where I was in undergrad (and there were few options to hang out at that did not card entry), so I didn't really go out as much in undergrad as I did in law school.  

 
Wife greets me with a kiss on the front porch every day when I get home from work, kids almost always happy to see me, dinner is almost always ready and I have a circle of friends that I can trust my family and life with.

If these aren't my best days then I'm focused on the wrong things.

 
I'll say right after college.  I got married and we moved far away from home.  We loved it.  In those 4-5 years we vacationed every weekend (or every weekend felt like a vacation), bought a house and met the best friends we still have today. 

My HS/College years are still a blur.  Hung out with all the wrong people and did all the wrong things.  Looking back on it I feel like I wasted my best years.  I don't really keep in touch with most of those people I knew from then either. 

Hard to beat right though.  Happily married for 13 years, 2 great kids with a 3rd (adopted) kid on the horizon.  Things really couldn't be better now.  

 
Jr High / Early High School were pretty great times, mainly getting wasted and screwing around.  Although out of the kids I grew up with 2 are dead (AIDS, Suicide) and my best friend from childhood turned into a junkie so now I’m kind of depressed 

 
Every stage of life has pros and cons:

  • Early ages (0-6) - No worries and just figuring things out....little to no freedom, but don't remember this too well.
  • Formative years (7-12) - Summers ruled, school was fun and life was still simple...limited freedom, some angst and not a lot of money.
  • Early teen years (13-16) - Still simple life with school easy and sports getting fun...no real identity, limited mobility and limited funds.
  • High School (16-18) - Started driving, sports, girls, school was fun/easy...still limited flexibility and funding.
  • College years (18-22) - Access to everything I wanted and freedom...had to became responsible for myself and didn't have a lot of money.
  • The Twenties (23-29) - Started a career, got married, still partied some, plus being DINCs cash was prevalent...adulting got hard and serious fast.
  • The Thirties (30-39) - Became a father...had young kids, went through a small mid-life crisis and then changed careers
  • The Forties (40) - Just started this one, but finally turning a corner financially and kids are getting older, this could be good, no complaints yet.
Right now is pretty good, but hard to beat those college years and 20's.  For just a single year, my senior year of HS would be tough to beat.

Final answer is college years.  My 30's were the suck, but that was mostly my fault.

 
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This would be a surprise to anyone that knows me as I am constantly dour, but I would say today. While working sucks, I have a great family and I love my kids. I'm not the kind that looks back finally to when they were younger, I enjoy them more and more as they get older. This may change when they move out, but for now I wouldn't go back. 

 
Mine is the same as @jb1020, the years just following college as a young professional.  Easy 9-5 job that still left plenty of free time.  No real responsibilities to the point where a modest starter salary made me feel like I had all the money in the world.  We traveled constantly, stayed up as late as we wanted on the weekends, drank like fish while rarely having so much as a hangover, didn't feel so tired by 2pm that it felt like I'd been away for 20 hours, etc.

 
I'm smarter and able to appreciate things much better now than at any point in my life.  My assumption is that will continue to be the case until my body and/or mind begins to deterioriate.  I've always felt my current stage in life is always my best because that's where life has led me.  No regrets.

Having said all the BS above (which I do believe) I would love to play in one more high school basketball game and hang out with my friends afterwards. 

 
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Like most people, close between college and right now. College was objectively “better” but I had no grasp of that or appreciation at the time so I’ll say now. 

ETA: I can tell you for sure it wasn’t years 0-18 or any of my years 25-34 spent in the rat race  

 
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I was in the Virgin Islands once. I met a girl. We ate lobster, drank piña coladas. At sunset, we made love like sea otters. That was a pretty good day.
:mellow:

I think you should read up on the sexual habits of sea otters and perhaps change your metaphor for the future. 

 
Definitely college years but not by a whole lot. Second would be getting married and moving into first house-that excitement of having your own place to do with what you wanted. Fun decade, working on house, playing just about every recreational sport there was, generally planning the future with your SO.

But college was the best: got away from a highly disfunctional home situation, learned how to be on my own, the freedom, the fun. Got exposed to so much outside of my narrow world, made the best friends I ever had. On top of all that, learned responsibility while still not having to feel that immediate pressure that one mistake could ruin you. Consequences didn't carry the weight that they do later in life. The future was bright and possibilities almost unlimited back then.

 
My widow's walk years. They were actually even better than my rock & roll tour years or my comedy writer in NY years.

After i got sued out of the music biz for poaching one of my agency's clients, i went back to Salem, MA and moped for a little while. Ran into this rich guy who'd bailed me out of some tough spots when i was a teen and he said he was still doing that kind of thing out-of-pocket because there were no programs for that kind of thing in town and he asked me if i would like to pay a little back by starting one. He gave me a few thousand bucks, a 6-month lease on a storefront and a grant-writing teacher from Boston's great Bridge Over Troubled Waters youth program. My street knowledge and skill for hooking people up turned out to be a good combo and we took off right away - rated #3 in the state in our first year of grant review, a source of pride for having put it together, though i had pretty much already moved on by that time.

During this time, one of my best buds from HS was a youth minister at a nearby church and asked me to help him work on a revue for his kids to put on for the church youth program's annual fundraiser. We both loved old movies so we combined Casablanca, the Marx Brothers' A Night in Casablanca and the apocryphal Charlie Chan in Casablanca to make Groucho the Claude Rains part in Casablanca and have Charlie Chan there to solve the murder of the couriers. We inserted the traditional Chico & Harpo talent segments to showcase some of the kids' skills and wrote quite a good, silly all-suspects-in-one-room ending so it went over real well. So much so that some audience members asked if i could adapt it for their community theater company.

They had a nice hit with O, To Be in Casablanca and asked me if i had anything else. I didn't, had never imagined writing, but they offered me dough so i gave it a try. There was a story in the news that, in those days of the tax code, there was such a savings for new two-income families filing separate, rather than joint, tax returns that affluent couples were going down to the Caribbean after Xmas, divorcing on New Year's Eve, remarrying on New Year's Day and paying for the whole trip & more on the tax savings. I thought that examining the dramatic possibilities which might occur with a couple's day of "single"hood on a tropical island might yield some humor and wrote Dinner & Divorce for them and they had a nice hit with it, so much so that it was later picked up by the Lyric Theater in Boston and there was even some talk of NY before the loophole closed.

And then, my gf Alix - who sold time @ a Boston radio station - asked me to use my studio "expertise" to help her produce her clients' commercials. The guy i chose - a friend of that youth minister pal -  to help me do the tech turned out to have the same kind of sense of humor as me and we couldnt help doing our own shadow version of these lame-o local commercials for our own entertainment. Some DJ's heard those carts and, soon enough, we were doing blackouts for their shows and ended up with our own weekly half-hour comedy show, Zero Hour, which ended up being syndicated to several cities (and we sent free to a bunch of college stations) around the NE and eventually got me an audition for the 2nd cast of SNL.

And then there was my house. All the musicians i grew up with wanted a piece of me when i made it in music mgmt, but i didn't have time for them til i was of no use to them. Felt bad about that, so i used some of my musicbiz dough to lease a 100+ yr-old, 3-story, 13-room sea captain's house in Salem. Took a floor for myself and let bands use the other two as a practice/party/crash space just to keep my flow goin', know'm'sayin? I could keep my hand in and actually ended up running several bands out of it (though thru a ghost company as per the terms of my lawsuit) over the next few years. I've already told the liveliest of my stories about this, including one gal separately giving the clap to seven of us over the course of a weekend. Needless to say, the landlords were glad to be rid of us after our two years there (the house was so huge it was carved into 6 apartments after we left).

But the funnest, sweetest part of all of it was the widow's walk. There was a tiny, creeky stairway to a platform at the top of the roof where a sea-captain's wife would go to scan the horizon of Salem Harbor for her husband's ship. That was kind of cool and, not used to writing at all but now having to write grants for the youth program, a play, commercials for Alix's clients and my comedy show, i needed a quiet & inspiring spot - especially with the dramarama of that house - to cogitate and i weren't gonna get better than that. So i kept a card table & chair under a tarp up there and, on good days, i would bring my typewriter, a thermos of coffee, a cassette player w tapes of improvs between me and my comedy partner and my cat (who eventually learned how to jump off the roof & fall three floors safely, then find her way back up to do it again&again) and do my work looking over the roofs (some copper even, like Paris) of the grand old houses of sea captain's row and the harbor beyond.

A decade or so ago, when i first started formulating my theories on human happiness, i realised it behooved one to find a memory that most represented one's happiest state, to meditate upon for to bring peace to frantic mind. I settled upon the bliss & vitality of those widow's walk sessions and, now, i reflect on that until i can smell salt in the air and i am free. nufced

 
When I look back to when I had the most flat-out fun, it was High School.  Senior year.  We lived in a small town and this was before cell phones were big.  My girlfriend and I would just cruise around in my Jeep every weekend and meet up with various folks for parties, or just hang out, whatever.  Everybody knew everybody else.  Not many cares in the world.  I had good grades and was already accepted in college by November, so that whole year was largely stress free.

When I roll in more than just fun, and look at rewarding life, I'd go with now.  Having kids is a joy you can't really replace.  I love my kids.  I couldn't imagine my "best days" being anything before them.  I'm just generally happy now.  Not stress free, but overall more happy and content than ever.

 
Right now I would say either high school (after getting driver's license) or college years.

In 10 years, after my kids have moved out and older family members start passing away, I'll probably say it was now.

You don't know what you've got until something something...

 
My widow's walk years. They were actually even better than my rock & roll tour years or my comedy writer in NY years.

After i got sued out of the music biz for poaching one of my agency's clients, i went back to Salem, MA and moped for a little while. Ran into this rich guy who'd bailed me out of some tough spots when i was a teen and he said he was still doing that kind of thing out-of-pocket because there were no programs for that kind of thing in town and he asked me if i would like to pay a little back by starting one. He gave me a few thousand bucks, a 6-month lease on a storefront and a grant-writing teacher from Boston's great Bridge Over Troubled Waters youth program. My street knowledge and skill for hooking people up turned out to be a good combo and we took off right away - rated #3 in the state in our first year of grant review, a source of pride for having put it together, though i had pretty much already moved on by that time.

During this time, one of my best buds from HS was a youth minister at a nearby church and asked me to help him work on a revue for his kids to put on for the church youth program's annual fundraiser. We both loved old movies so we combined Casablanca, the Marx Brothers' A Night in Casablanca and the apocryphal Charlie Chan in Casablanca to make Groucho the Claude Rains part in Casablanca and have Charlie Chan there to solve the murder of the couriers. We inserted the traditional Chico & Harpo talent segments to showcase some of the kids' skills and wrote quite a good, silly all-suspects-in-one-room ending so it went over real well. So much so that some audience members asked if i could adapt it for their community theater company.

They had a nice hit with O, To Be in Casablanca and asked me if i had anything else. I didn't, had never imagined writing, but they offered me dough so i gave it a try. There was a story in the news that, in those days of the tax code, there was such a savings for new two-income families filing separate, rather than joint, tax returns that affluent couples were going down to the Caribbean after Xmas, divorcing on New Year's Eve, remarrying on New Year's Day and paying for the whole trip & more on the tax savings. I thought that examining the dramatic possibilities which might occur with a couple's day of "single"hood on a tropical island might yield some humor and wrote Dinner & Divorce for them and they had a nice hit with it, so much so that it was later picked up by the Lyric Theater in Boston and there was even some talk of NY before the loophole closed.

And then, my gf Alix - who sold time @ a Boston radio station - asked me to use my studio "expertise" to help her produce her clients' commercials. The guy i chose - a friend of that youth minister pal -  to help me do the tech turned out to have the same kind of sense of humor as me and we couldnt help doing our own shadow version of these lame-o local commercials for our own entertainment. Some DJ's heard those carts and, soon enough, we were doing blackouts for their shows and ended up with our own weekly half-hour comedy show, Zero Hour, which ended up being syndicated to several cities (and we sent free to a bunch of college stations) around the NE and eventually got me an audition for the 2nd cast of SNL.

And then there was my house. All the musicians i grew up with wanted a piece of me when i made it in music mgmt, but i didn't have time for them til i was of no use to them. Felt bad about that, so i used some of my musicbiz dough to lease a 100+ yr-old, 3-story, 13-room sea captain's house in Salem. Took a floor for myself and let bands use the other two as a practice/party/crash space just to keep my flow goin', know'm'sayin? I could keep my hand in and actually ended up running several bands out of it (though thru a ghost company as per the terms of my lawsuit) over the next few years. I've already told the liveliest of my stories about this, including one gal separately giving the clap to seven of us over the course of a weekend. Needless to say, the landlords were glad to be rid of us after our two years there (the house was so huge it was carved into 6 apartments after we left).

But the funnest, sweetest part of all of it was the widow's walk. There was a tiny, creeky stairway to a platform at the top of the roof where a sea-captain's wife would go to scan the horizon of Salem Harbor for her husband's ship. That was kind of cool and, not used to writing at all but now having to write grants for the youth program, a play, commercials for Alix's clients and my comedy show, i needed a quiet & inspiring spot - especially with the dramarama of that house - to cogitate and i weren't gonna get better than that. So i kept a card table & chair under a tarp up there and, on good days, i would bring my typewriter, a thermos of coffee, a cassette player w tapes of improvs between me and my comedy partner and my cat (who eventually learned how to jump off the roof & fall three floors safely, then find her way back up to do it again&again) and do my work looking over the roofs (some copper even, like Paris) of the grand old houses of sea captain's row and the harbor beyond.

A decade or so ago, when i first started formulating my theories on human happiness, i realised it behooved one to find a memory that most represented one's happiest state, to meditate upon for to bring peace to frantic mind. I settled upon the bliss & vitality of those widow's walk sessions and, now, i reflect on that until i can smell salt in the air and i am free. nufced
Thanks for taking the time to type all of this out. I would ask if you have ever considered writing a book or keeping a blog, but those can be very time consuming and quite the burden, so instead I will just say that I appreciate it whenever you give an extended snippet like this of a time in your life. I always feel like I should pour a little whiskey, smoke a little weed, and play some warren zevon when we get one of these posts. 

 
Followed the dead late eighties until Jerr died in ninety five. Lean, tan, with a pocket full of hallucinogenics. 

 
Definitely from the time when I was nineteen to twenty-three/twenty-four. Any other claim would be a lie.

College and great friends and first job ruled. 

 
24 years old (1992) and took a road trip with a group of friends to see the Allman Brothers in George, Washington, which is a fantastic venue.  3 guys and 2 girls in my old Nissan Sentra.  Camped 2 nights, partied like mad, cliff jumping in the Columbia river, and a great show with a mind-numbing acoustic set. 

I'll always remember stopping by a roadside stand on the drive and buying a watermelon, which we couldn't figure out how to open since we didn't have a knife.  Nobody had thought to ask the guy at the stand to cut it for us and we just drove off with the girl in the middle of the back seat holding this huge watermelon.  Had to pull over and smash it to pieces, eating whatever didn't have gravel and dirt in it.  Best tasting watermelon I ever had.    

 
The most fun I never want to have again - a little earlier than most, age 16-20.  Growing up in a college town definitely played a role because I was exposed to that lifestyle while still in high school, so I was kinda burned out by the time I was an upperclassman.  That helped academically though - got my head screwed on straight sometime sophomore year.  First year post grad once moving to Cleveland was something else too.  But not quite on the same level.

Neither are periods I have any interest in repeating right now though.  I'm good.

 

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