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What tone? Is there a concensus of what maturity is?
Unfortunately, I was born with the opposite of this syndrome... My penis was longer than my legs at birth, however as I get older it keeps shrinking. When I turn 70 it'll be inverted. It also appears my nuts will be hanging about 4 feet by this time.
I turned 30 over the summer, and this video is a freaking home run, thanks so much for posting. I subscribe to everything Meg Jay had to say in the points that she made, just never was able to condense it as well as she did in the presentation. The three points she makes in the latter part of the video were really well put in terms of identity capital with your career, exploring your weak links, and picking your family.
Yes, that's the point of my post.You're an insufferable ### now. Nothing's changed.
I think you two are at the perfect age to start a family. Yes money is probably the biggest concern these days when making that decision but it doesnt have to be a financial burden unless you intend on spoiling them. When you are really forced to you find incredible ways to stretch money
Thanks. I'm starting to think this way too. We're at the right age and while it may be a struggle at first I consider myself to be pretty good with finances and finding the right ways to save money at the right time. I've already planned to cut the cable and have been doing my research in that thread. Picked up a BJ's membership the other day. Funny the things that get you excited when you're 30 compared to 20.
Make a list of everything that costs you too much money to afford to have kids. Mortgage, car lease, NFL Sunday Ticket, whatever. Everything you would have to give up to create a budget that you could live on while supporting a child on 1.5 salaries.
If you dont need to eat something different every night buying in bulk is huge savings. It doesnt take long to learn how to prepare most of the stuff you would buy pre-made un the grocery store. Most pre-packaged foods are complete rip offs. You can feed a family very healthy and very affordably by spenting a few extra minutes in the kitchen every day
You'll figure it out. It's amazing how much less money you spend when you can't just jump up and go to a restaurant, or because you aren't drinking because you have a baby.
It'll be okay. The fact that you and I have stable incomes likely means we're both ahead of the game already. It's tough though, because I think no matter what number you actually bring in we always tend to find enough expenses to add up to that number. My wife probably has a momentary panic every week or so now when we barely make bills despite making relatively good money. Ultimately, Henry Ford is right in that you just have to cut certain luxuries you've grown accustomed to. Which sucks, but is probably only the first of many sacrifices one makes for a child.
Suppose being black out drunk at 2 AM doesn't really work as an excuse to miss that call either when you're a parent.
Yeah, you'll want to start being sober while your kids are out in case they need anything. Once in a blue moon you'll leave someone responsible in charge of them and go get a little tipsy, but when you get back home you're in charge again. Which means if the kid rolls off the bed in the middle of the night and cracks his head, you have to be able to get him to the hospital.
She works full-time, but it's at a more "fun" job where she only makes like 20k/year. When we have kids she's going to stop working. I technically work a part-time second job already so we're going to be relatively stuck with a pay-cut when she quits and the added expense of a child. So, we gotta figure out where to cut money and the issue with that is that I/we've done what I'd consider a good job paying off my large student loan debt as well as investing early for the future (whole life insurance, Roth, disability insurance, cash saving, etc.). Unfortunately we may have to cut into that along with cutting way back on our discretionary spending. That's the stressful part.
It's the biggest boost to your budget when you have kids, and also the strangely toughest part about keeping your marriage fun and interesting with kids. I think it's a big part of why people grow apart when they have kids - those times of just going out and letting off steam together disappear.
don't delay for money reasons as you'll find a way to make it work. I've seen so many people delay having kids to get their career going, make more money, get a house first, whatever and those that delayed always seem to regret putting it off until their later years.
Not me. I never wanted to have a kid until I could do it without money pressures. I was 36 when my daughter was born and don't regret it at all.
You'll be amazed how much money you save when you're not out blowing $100+ a night at the bars.
Yes, I am the only 20 year old lawyer in the U.S. I'm like the Doogie Howser of litigation.
