Wife is upset because I don't want to have TG with strangers. (1 Viewer)

[seahawk 17]

Wednesday night, my daughter starts setting the table at our house. As a side note, she sets the table for holidays; it's a big deal for her, so much she does it a day early.

Anyway, while she's setting the table my wife tells her she doesn't need to set the table because we're going to a friend's house for Thanksgiving.

It just simply doesn't compute to my daughter; she starts asking questions in a heightened voice like, "well how can we talk about things we're thankful for?" and "will there be turkey" and "why can't we stay here" etc etc etc.

My wife, initially, ignores her statements by just saying she'll have a nice time and don't worry about it.

My daughter goes silent for a while...then...outbursts into tears. She runs to the kitchen and continues setting the table in tears. I watched her placing forks, napkins, etc with a face full of tears and I couldn't take it anymore.

I looked at my wife...no, I gave my wife the laser beam death stare of WTF are you doing, look.

She walked over, picked up my daughter. We did a group hug and said Thanksgiving will be at our house.

win/win

If it's such a big deal, why is your wife waiting until the last minute to tell your daughter? It's just asking for trouble. Speaking of trouble, what was Angie up to?

It is odd to wait to tell your daughter. I enjoy your threads but as time has gone on your wife strikes me as a really crappy mother.

As opposed to Father of the Year Ron?

You can feel free to make whatever judgments you'd like about Ron's personal life. However one thing he always comes back to is his daughter's well being and taking care of her. From his posts here it sounds like he puts her first where as the wife sounds like she puts her needs/desires in front of the daughters.

The more stories I hear it appears to me that Ron just sits back and waits for his wife to #### up, and then he swoops in to be his daughter's savior. I'm not sure that's putting the daughter first.

 

[Rick James]

Why would your daughter set the table if you normally go out to dinner for thanksgiving?

 

[cstu]

Wednesday night, my daughter starts setting the table at our house. As a side note, she sets the table for holidays; it's a big deal for her, so much she does it a day early.

Anyway, while she's setting the table my wife tells her she doesn't need to set the table because we're going to a friend's house for Thanksgiving.

It just simply doesn't compute to my daughter; she starts asking questions in a heightened voice like, "well how can we talk about things we're thankful for?" and "will there be turkey" and "why can't we stay here" etc etc etc.

My wife, initially, ignores her statements by just saying she'll have a nice time and don't worry about it.

My daughter goes silent for a while...then...outbursts into tears. She runs to the kitchen and continues setting the table in tears. I watched her placing forks, napkins, etc with a face full of tears and I couldn't take it anymore.

I looked at my wife...no, I gave my wife the laser beam death stare of WTF are you doing, look.

She walked over, picked up my daughter. We did a group hug and said Thanksgiving will be at our house.

win/win

If it's such a big deal, why is your wife waiting until the last minute to tell your daughter? It's just asking for trouble. Speaking of trouble, what was Angie up to?

It is odd to wait to tell your daughter. I enjoy your threads but as time has gone on your wife strikes me as a really crappy mother.

As opposed to Father of the Year Ron?

You can feel free to make whatever judgments you'd like about Ron's personal life. However one thing he always comes back to is his daughter's well being and taking care of her. From his posts here it sounds like he puts her first where as the wife sounds like she puts her needs/desires in front of the daughters.

Ron is on the road most of the time banging random whores while his wife is at home taking care of his daughter every day. Not defending her since she's using Ron IMO but he's not a great father.

 

[Das Boot]

How does a family communicate so little that the daughter setting the table finally provokes a conversation about Thanksgiving dinner?

Maybe the daughter also doesn't enjoy her parent's non-traditional, promiscuous lifestyle.

That might be another topic for them to have a conversation about.

 

[jon_mx]

If you really want to not hurt your daughter, the first thing that needs to be done is repairing the relationship with your wife. Sit down with her and tell her you love her and ask her what you need to do to make her feel loved. And come to an agreement on what you can do and follow through.

Your daughter probably knows a lot more about what is going on than you think, so do you really want the life you are currently living to be a role model for the life of your daughter. She is still young, but the best thing you can do for her is be the kind of man you would be happy for her to marry. Not saying you need to be perfect, but you need to be a loving husband and not just a loving father.

 

[Arizona Ron]

Why would your daughter set the table if you normally go out to dinner for thanksgiving?

She's 7 dude, what I've done in the last 40 years and what she looks forward to is a little different.

 

[Disco Stu]

Wednesday night, my daughter starts setting the table at our house. As a side note, she sets the table for holidays; it's a big deal for her, so much she does it a day early.

Anyway, while she's setting the table my wife tells her she doesn't need to set the table because we're going to a friend's house for Thanksgiving.

It just simply doesn't compute to my daughter; she starts asking questions in a heightened voice like, "well how can we talk about things we're thankful for?" and "will there be turkey" and "why can't we stay here" etc etc etc.

My wife, initially, ignores her statements by just saying she'll have a nice time and don't worry about it.

My daughter goes silent for a while...then...outbursts into tears. She runs to the kitchen and continues setting the table in tears. I watched her placing forks, napkins, etc with a face full of tears and I couldn't take it anymore.

I looked at my wife...no, I gave my wife the laser beam death stare of WTF are you doing, look.

She walked over, picked up my daughter. We did a group hug and said Thanksgiving will be at our house.

win/win

If it's such a big deal, why is your wife waiting until the last minute to tell your daughter? It's just asking for trouble. Speaking of trouble, what was Angie up to?

It is odd to wait to tell your daughter. I enjoy your threads but as time has gone on your wife strikes me as a really crappy mother.

As opposed to Father of the Year Ron?

You can feel free to make whatever judgments you'd like about Ron's personal life. However one thing he always comes back to is his daughter's well being and taking care of her. From his posts here it sounds like he puts her first where as the wife sounds like she puts her needs/desires in front of the daughters.

You mean the narrator comes across as the better parent? Weird, that almost never happens.

 

[sbonomo]

Why not coach your daughter that in life there is always change. I understand she is only seven but that is a bit extreme right?