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Wife Texting Spin-off Question (1 Viewer)

Would you want to read the incriminating evidence?

  • Yes

    Votes: 111 87.4%

  • No

    Votes: 16 12.6%
  • Total voters
    127
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Reading the wife texting fishing trip, I noticed that it seems to be a 50/50 split on whether or not guys would want to know what the cheating wife was saying to her boy toy. I can see both sides and don't know how I'd answer this myself.

 
If nothing else, you get tips on what turns your wife on. I am not seeing a downside here.

 
My b-I-l had a cheating wife that walked away from the marriage after 19 years. He wound up finding notes going back to 3-4 years into the marriage that this tramp was exchanging with the next door neighbor. Then he found a bunch of e-mail exchanges after a little computer investigation - very graphic.

At first I think it would be devastating to actually read them - but over time it would be nice to have definitive proof of the ex-wife being a tramp and would alleviate concerns over what could you have done differently. Plus it would have to help when it came time for custody hearings.

 
I don't think it was a 50-50 split in the other thread, just a couple of vocal people who apparently are ok with sexting and cheating.

 
Of course - as others stated I would want to know for the divorce and also to understand exactly what level it went to.

 
Mr. Know-It-All said:
comfortably numb said:
side vote

If a "video" was uncovered.

Would you want to see?
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HELL no.
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It wouldn't be much different than walking in on the act. I'm not certain anyone really knows how they'd react unless they've been there before.

 
I voted yes because information is power. But, you need to go in knowing that you will most likely take whatever is said out of context:

 
tonydead said:
I voted yes because information is power. But, you need to go in knowing that you will most likely take whatever is said out of context:
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Agreed. "I can't wait to #### you while my husband is at work." Can be taking so many ways

 
GOB said:
tonydead said:
I voted yes because information is power. But, you need to go in knowing that you will most likely take whatever is said out of context:
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Agreed."I can't wait to #### you while my husband is at work." Can be taking so many ways
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Sure, but other than the point blank, your mind is automatically going to assume and interpret the worst. After all you've already felt the need to spy on your wife.

 
tonydead said:
GOB said:
tonydead said:
I voted yes because information is power. But, you need to go in knowing that you will most likely take whatever is said out of context:
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Agreed."I can't wait to #### you while my husband is at work." Can be taking so many ways
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Sure, but other than the point blank, your mind is automatically going to assume and interpret the worst. After all you've already felt the need to spy on your wife.
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:lmao:

 
I think I'd want to see them. If I'm in that situation, whether I just want to walk away, or hope that it was just innocent and try to reconcile, I'd want to see them for sure. If I'm leaning towards walking away, I'd want to see them to make sure I'm making the right decision. If I'm wanting to reconsile, I think my imagination would get the best of me and I'd wonder what was said until I knew for sure.

 
If I was unsure that she was cheating = yes.

If I was sure through other means (caught her in the act, she made admissions, etc.) = no, there'd be no need and it'd just cause more anguish

 
Not sure if I would be more pissed about her sending them...or that she never sent anything close to that to me!

 
tonydead said:
GOB said:
tonydead said:
I voted yes because information is power. But, you need to go in knowing that you will most likely take whatever is said out of context:
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Agreed."I can't wait to #### you while my husband is at work." Can be taking so many ways
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Sure, but other than the point blank, your mind is automatically going to assume and interpret the worst. After all you've already felt the need to spy on your wife.
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:confused:

I guess I can speak only for myself, but if I'm reading the texts of someone I love I'm probably actually giving the benefit of the doubt/assuming a plausible innocent explanation.

 
Absolutely. If you already know she's cheating it's not gonna add anything that your worst fears weren't already projecting. If you don't know for sure I'd want to confirm.

Plus if the divorce happens and anyone doubts it or someone from her family is making things difficult I'd absolutely want some evidence to shut them up if necessary.

 
Walking in on them would be the final nail in the coffin. Leave no room for ambiguity, no margin for error, no chance of her lying her way out of it banking on you wanting the texting to be just flirtation. What could she possibly say, oops I tripped and fell onto his spear?

 
I voted no, but only because I've been in this situation, and wanted to read them, did read them. It didn't help anything, in fact made things worse.

That said, were I in that spot again, I'd probably be dumb enough to read them again.

 
I love my wife, but I'm sure I could love any number of other women if this didn't work out. Or, I was pretty happy single too. I don't get the angst some of you guys are putting out there. Change is opportunity.

 
I know a guy who found out his wife was having an affair. He had pictures of them together taken. He then sat on the pictures and at Christmas gave everyone in the family (mostly his extended family) an envelop to open with said pictures in them.

Ironic thing is he came off as the jerk. His own family was mad at him for how he handled it.

 
Papa Georgio said:
I know a guy who found out his wife was having an affair. He had pictures of them together taken. He then sat on the pictures and at Christmas gave everyone in the family (mostly his extended family) an envelop to open with said pictures in them.

Ironic thing is he came off as the jerk. His own family was mad at him for how he handled it.
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Well yeah he kinda was. Ruin Christmas for people who have little business with it? Kinda weird.
 
mr roboto said:
Papa Georgio said:
I know a guy who found out his wife was having an affair. He had pictures of them together taken. He then sat on the pictures and at Christmas gave everyone in the family (mostly his extended family) an envelop to open with said pictures in them.

Ironic thing is he came off as the jerk. His own family was mad at him for how he handled it.
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Well yeah he kinda was. Ruin Christmas for people who have little business with it? Kinda weird.
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I was much younger when it happened and I thought it was hard core, now not so much. I am a fairly private person to begin with so not sure why one would take that route.

 
Papa Georgio said:
mr roboto said:
Papa Georgio said:
I know a guy who found out his wife was having an affair. He had pictures of them together taken. He then sat on the pictures and at Christmas gave everyone in the family (mostly his extended family) an envelop to open with said pictures in them.

Ironic thing is he came off as the jerk. His own family was mad at him for how he handled it.
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Well yeah he kinda was. Ruin Christmas for people who have little business with it? Kinda weird.
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I was much younger when it happened and I thought it was hard core, now not so much. I am a fairly private person to begin with so not sure why one would take that route.
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Guy was a doosh - that's a horrible gift. He should have made the picture his Christmas card.

 
I'd want to see them until I knew what was going on. I don't need to read every last one. The first one that said something about banging her the night before would be a good stopping point.

 
This is a very difficult question. As a practical manner, I'd want to see the texts.

As a man, it would be very difficult to see.

Unsure.

 
McGarnicle said:
I love my wife, but I'm sure I could love any number of other women if this didn't work out. Or, I was pretty happy single too. I don't get the angst some of you guys are putting out there. Change is opportunity.
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I never understood this (your) position either. Why get married?
 
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Ned said:
McGarnicle said:
I love my wife, but I'm sure I could love any number of other women if this didn't work out. Or, I was pretty happy single too. I don't get the angst some of you guys are putting out there. Change is opportunity.
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I never understood this (your) position either. Why get married?
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I'm pretty happy being married. It's not perfect but nothing is. But if it doesn't work out, I know I'll eventually be happy again too. :shrug:
 
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