It really is hard for me to any of the blame for the lack of bipartisanship on Obama. From the beginning of his Presidency, it seems like we have seen the same pattern over and over:
OBAMA: This is what I want.
GOP: No.
OBAMA: Well, how about this then?
GOP: No.
OBAMA: OK, I'll give you this, if you give me this in return.
GOP: No.
OBAMA: Well, tell me what I need to do to make a deal.
GOP: we don't want any deal. We don't want to work with you at all.
OBAMA: Fine then I'll do it all on my own.
GOP: The imperial President! Refuses to compromise!
Honestly I can't think of a single major domestic issue which hadn't followed some variation of that pattern.
Well, then name a situation that went differently. I can't think of one.
How about Obama's "I won" mantra at the beginning of his administration, literally three days after inauguration? When he had the votes, there was no effort to include the GOP. Only after he lost in 2010 did he suddenly want to compromise.
How about his "grand bargain" where he constantly complained about the GOP's refusal to compromise, but never once made an actual proposal of his own? How could the GOP compromise on a non-existent proposal (they might well not have, but there wasn't any there there, to quote a phrase)?
Obama's standard operating procedure is to complain to the media about the GOP's refusals to compromise before there's any attempt on either side.