WWYD....You find out your daughter is a dancer. (1 Viewer)

[eoMMan]

What would you do?

Your daughter, who in this hypothetical is aged somewhere from 18 to 23, is dancing at a gentleman's club. The club is out of town. Your daughter went away for school and although she is still taking classes, she is dancing a few nights and weekends. She sort of lied to you and said she was a waitress. 

What would you do?

 

[rockaction]

Stop paying for school and yank her ### home. If she wants to keep dancing and being an adult, I'd have no choice other than to respect her decision and likely would be very wary of her future life decisions. 

Dancers wind up screwed up for the most part, if they're not messed up going in. 

Sad all around.  Worrisome.  

 

[bcdjr1]

Tell her she has nothing to be ashamed of and that I support her decisions. It's a job just like any other.

 

[RokNRole]

Topless or nude?

 

[msommer]

Seemingly the young lady in question is an adult, with adult rights and adult consequences arising from adult decisions and behaviour.

You shoud go to the show and glare angrily at the punters throwing dollar bills at her, obviously.

 

[AAABatteries]

Ask for drink vouchers and her schedule to know when she's not working so I won't show up when she's there?

 

[General Malaise]

What would you do?

Your daughter, who in this hypothetical is aged somewhere from 18 to 23, is dancing at a gentleman's club. The club is out of town. Your daughter went away for school and although she is still taking classes, she is dancing a few nights and weekends. She sort of lied to you and said she was a waitress. 

What would you do?

What would I do?   Steer FAR ####### CLEAR from that establishment.

 

[Zow]

Seemingly the young lady in question is an adult, with adult rights and adult consequences arising from adult decisions and behaviour.

You shoud go to the show and glare angrily at the punters throwing dollar bills at her, obviously.

 

This sums up my initial thoughts too. You want to dance because it's your legal choice to do so, great. I'll exercise my legal right to be a patron. 

 

[Don't Noonan]

Funny story, I heard a story that before I started working at my office there was a Christmas party several years ago.  Apparently a women that used to work in our office was pretty drunk and invited several co-workers over to a strip club after the Christmas party where her daughter was a dancer.

 

[jerry jones]

Well, I don't usually go to these sort of places, but if you give me her stage name I can go and check it out for you....

at least let you know if she has a future in it or not

 

[D in the D]

Start hiding singles?

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Arson

 

[Christo]

You had one job

 

[rockaction]

You had one job

That's a funny clip, but the sex industry is so pervasive and lucrative that it's often tough to judge a parent by something like that. 

It's like judging parents of kids with addictions: probably best to understand that young adults make their own choices, however flawed they may be.  

 

[NotSmart]

I know someone who faced this exact dilemma. It didn't turn out well. :(

I suspect the strip club job was more of a logical result for her though, and not the real underlying problem.

 

[General Malaise]

 

This sums up my initial thoughts too. You want to dance because it's your legal choice to do so, great. I'll exercise my legal right to be a patron. 

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwkwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaard

 

[George Jefferson Airplane]

If it's your daughter, I'm absolutely fine with it.  In fact, I encourage it unless she's fat. 

 

[Craig_MiamiFL]

Nothing.

Tell her she can make a lot more $$ working fewer hours (and whatever hours she wants) webcamming. Hot, personality, and isn't blowing money left & right and she can retire by 25. 

 

[NotSmart]

Nothing.

Tell her she can make a lot more $$ working fewer hours webcamming. Hot, personality, and isn't blowing money left & right and she can retire by 25. 

And have videos of her out there forever.

 

[Craig_MiamiFL]

And have videos of her out there forever.

 Non nude models out there making 7 figures/yr playing cards/video games/drinking/prize raffles on these sites......

Record away.

 

[Zow]

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwkwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaard

The thought process being it'd be so awkward for her that she'd stop.  I'm also mostly joking. 

 

[Clown Car]

My friends sister is a dancer. There was no going off to college cover up though. Just needed money. It has been hard for the parents. There was nothing for them to do about it though. She was out on her own. She has had 5 or 6 kids over the years and doesn't have custody of any of them. The parents have one. She uses a good bit of drugs and alcohol. It's really very sad. 

 

[BroadwayG]

Can;t you just twitch yourself playing pigeon dating in your underwear or something?

 

[Christo]

Can;t you just twitch yourself playing pigeon dating in your underwear or something?

Is this English?

 

[BroadwayG]

Sorry, I hit the semicolon instead of the apostrophe for Can't

 

[Osaurus]

Vocational?

 

[Statorama]

Everybody up there is someone's daughter.

My personal favorites are the ones with wedding rings.

 

[Reg Lllama of Brixton]

Daughter or stepdaughter?  

 

[Christo]

Sorry, I hit the semicolon instead of the apostrophe for Can't

Not what I was referencing.

Twitch yourself?

Pigeon dating?

 

[FUBAR]

What would you do?

Your daughter, who in this hypothetical is aged somewhere from 18 to 23, is dancing at a gentleman's club. The club is out of town. Your daughter went away for school and although she is still taking classes, she is dancing a few nights and weekends. She sort of lied to you and said she was a waitress. 

What would you do?

Am I paying for college or is she?  Assuming she is, we'd talk about why she's dancing, the potential issues and why she felt the need to say she was a waitress.  Then she'd make her decision like an adult. 

 

[FUBAR]

Not what I was referencing.

Twitch yourself?

Pigeon dating?

How do you play pigeon dating?  Are you playing a pigeon on a date or dating a play pigeon? 

 

[ProstheticRGK]

Yeesh. This hypothetical makes me glad I don't have daughters. I'd be torn between wanting to bring my wife and sit front-row/center to her next show and hope that makes her reconsider her choice, and wanting to just bury my head in the sand and pretend it wasn't happening.

I'd definitely have a serious conversation with her about being safe and smart, and get a feeling for where her head was at. At a certain point, you let your kids be adults and learn stuff the hard way. That talk would determine whether or not I continued to provide financial support for school. Also, I'd let her know that even though I understand her hesitation in admitting it to me, the fact that she felt she had to lie about being a waitress raises red flags for me, and maybe she should consider exactly how comfortable she really is doing this for money.

 

[Arsenal of Doom]

I'd make sure she knew I loved her and would support her no matter what.

 

[stbugs]

I am so glad I only have boys. This would be a nightmare for me. Not so much that she isn't an adult, but as posted above, as much as you want to believe there are strippers out there paying for college to get great jobs, that's not the reality. It's not a career choice that tends to lead to a good life.

 

[lakerstan]

Ask her for a loan....

 

[RokNRole]

I am so glad I only have boys. This would be a nightmare for me. Not so much that she isn't an adult, but as posted above, as much as you want to believe there are strippers out there paying for college to get great jobs, that's not the reality. It's not a career choice that tends to lead to a good life.

Jenna Jameson started as a stripper and she's a multi millionaire now

 

[TheAristocrat]

My first thought would be: Whoa, I have a daughter???

 

[McGarnicle]

I'd probably tell her I'm concerned about her being degraded & abused, and the long-term psychological damage and addiction that would be likely to happen. I wouldn't expect to change her mind though. The earning potential for dancers is insane.

 

[stbugs]

Jenna Jameson started as a stripper and she's a multi millionaire now

Great example. She's got a great life going for her and her kids. She's got money but her kids will be screwed up.

 

[ClownCausedChaos2]

Ask her to introduce me to her friends.

 

[RokNRole]

Great example. She's got a great life going for her and her kids. She's got money but her kids will be screwed up.

How can you be so sure?

 

[Zegras11]

Sleep with her mom

 

[ChiefD]

I would do as I do with all my kids events:

Show up with my folding chair and a cooler of juice boxes and orange slices for the whole team.

 

[nirad3]

I would do as I do with all my kids events:

Show up with my folding chair and a cooler of juice boxes and orange slices for the whole team.

preferably in sweatpants

 

[RokNRole]

I'll ask again

topless or nude?

 

[E Street Brat]

First I'd post some pics for my fbg buddies.

 

[Christo]

Great example. She's got a great life going for her and her kids. She's got money but her kids will be screwed up.

Yes, I love how we pick one of the most famous and successful people in her particular business rather than one of the thousands of cum dumsters no one but the worst porn addict would have heard of.

 

[Baloney Sandwich]

I was at one this afternoon and chatting with a broad that had just started working there.  She used to be a Manager at a Dunkin Donuts but said she could make so much more dancing. I didn't give her any money because she had no #### but I assume she would look to get some once she saved up enough money.  She said she loved working there so far and the other girls were fine and not all strung out. It is the type of place that some of the girls are sailing guys off in the back rooms (so I've heard) but not sure she has gone there yet.  Service industry does seem to pay the best for non-educated women.

 

[Joe Summer]

Jenna Jameson started as a stripper and she's a multi millionaire now

She's also a drug addict, has a messed up face from plastic surgery and meth, got the crap beat out of her by her MMA boyfriend multiple times, and lost custody of her kids because her life was a trainwreck.

But other than that, she's doing just fine.

 

[RokNRole]

Yes, I love how we pick one of the most famous and successful people in her particular business rather than one of the thousands of cum dumsters no one but the worst porn addict would have heard of.

I've heard of them