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shuke said:
Horrible, sorry buddy.  
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Thanks 

Binky The Doormat said:
what?  holy ####. sorry man, were you close?  
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Not particularly, he was dating one of the moms from school.  My wife is friends with her, wed see them at school functions and neighborhood parties, things like that 

seemed like a ok guy though... I guess he’d been posting about anxiety and depression lately.  I know from talking to him at a party last year they had some relationship issues.  No other details at this point, just felt like sharing, especially since it sounds like some warning signs were there

 
Dan Lambskin said:
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Not particularly, he was dating one of the moms from school.  My wife is friends with her, wed see them at school functions and neighborhood parties, things like that 

seemed like a ok guy though... I guess he’d been posting about anxiety and depression lately.  I know from talking to him at a party last year they had some relationship issues.  No other details at this point, just felt like sharing, especially since it sounds like some warning signs were there
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Warning signs are tough imo. My mom's side of the family has had multiple suicides. I never knew any of them, so I am only speaking 2nd hand, but often it is hard to know how to react when presented with potential warning signs.

Therefore, I think one of the most important things to address, is any guilt that survivors experience. I don't have an answer for that, but I know it is important to think about.

Good luck, and thanks for sharing Dan. Many people don't like the topic, but, discussion is part of dealing with it - I believe.

 
strykerpks said:
Kids are great, thanks. 6.5, 4 and 1.5 years old so we have our hands full. Wife has had a rough stretch with her family though. Her dad flipped his truck in Dec, their house burned down a month or so ago and her uncle recently got very sick and passed last week. Hoping the "things come in 3's" are all done for a while.
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heckmanm said:
Some TPWs my sister's and niece's way would be appreciated.  Same sister whose daughter had brain cancer several years ago (you may recall the head-shaving shot video).

Her daughter's husband (mid-50s, seemingly in decent health) had a massive brain bleed last night, 2 surgeries overnight and it was not sounding good as of this morning when she sent out the news. Probably looking at weeks in the hospital, but no updates on whether to expect permanent effects.

So of my sister's children:  Middle child died in a car accident when he was 22.  Youngest had the brain tumor when she was ~40; still alive but major short-term memory issues so is basically housebound and needs full time care.  And now her oldest child's husband with the aneurysm.  It's been over a span of 20+ years, but still.
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Update from Thursday was encouraging. Long way to go, but this was good news.

Dave is rated 11 out of 15 today. His vitals are good. He moves fingers and toes slightly on command and he opened his eyes a slit for just a bit. His organs are working and I will let you read between the lines on that. Overall a good day! CT scan tomorrow.
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I went to the landfill and got there right before it opened. The way this one works is, some guy comes out and looks at what you have in the truck and tells you how to split it up in various dumpsters.

Landfill Guy: "Jesus, dude - when's the last time you slept?"

Me: "Um, two hours ago"

LG: "You look awful"

(I don't know this person)

Me: "Ok, thanks"

LG: " I haven't slept since Thursday"

Me (starting to get pissed off): "Then you should have let me in earlier"

LG: "Why?"

Me: " :shrug:  "

LG: "Throw it all in that dumpster" (he's pointing to the one that holds plastics; I have no plastics)

Me: "You sure?"

LG: "Are you on drugs?"

Me: "I wish I was now"

(People are lining up behind me at this point)

LG: "I could call the cops, you know"

Me:  :unsure:

LG: "Ok, throw it in THAT dumpster" (points to the one for glass)

I threw the #### in the plastic dumpster. 

 
Uruk-Hai said:
I went to the landfill and got there right before it opened. The way this one works is, some guy comes out and looks at what you have in the truck and tells you how to split it up in various dumpsters.

Landfill Guy: "Jesus, dude - when's the last time you slept?"

Me: "Um, two hours ago"

LG: "You look awful"

(I don't know this person)

Me: "Ok, thanks"

LG: " I haven't slept since Thursday"

Me (starting to get pissed off): "Then you should have let me in earlier"

LG: "Why?"

Me: " :shrug:  "

LG: "Throw it all in that dumpster" (he's pointing to the one that holds plastics; I have no plastics)

Me: "You sure?"

LG: "Are you on drugs?"

Me: "I wish I was now"

(People are lining up behind me at this point)

LG: "I could call the cops, you know"

Me:  :unsure:

LG: "Ok, throw it in THAT dumpster" (points to the one for glass)

I threw the #### in the plastic dumpster. 
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No offense, brother, .but if the guy that works at the dump tells you that you look like ####....

 
Binky The Doormat said:
sorry flop, seems like this "not getting the permit=fired" thought process has grabbed you.  Get to your support system.  
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Thanks binky. It's definitely that in a big way. But even my other project keeps zigging when I need it to zag. All of it adds up to me feeling like a completely useless fraud which unfortunately starts to seep into the rest of my life. Tbh, the wife hasn't been a pillar of loving support for a while, which also plays into things along with having lost more open regular communication with my people. Also feeling more misanthrpoic than normal. :Shakesfistwearily:

 
El Floppo said:
Thanks binky. It's definitely that in a big way. But even my other project keeps zigging when I need it to zag. All of it adds up to me feeling like a completely useless fraud which unfortunately starts to seep into the rest of my life. Tbh, the wife hasn't been a pillar of loving support for a while, which also plays into things along with having lost more open regular communication with my people. Also feeling more misanthrpoic than normal. :Shakesfistwearily:
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do you have someone nearby that you can go talk to?  

 
Binky The Doormat said:
well #### man, get to a FBG you know well over the phone - get someone to break that negative sucking hole you've got yourself in ...tough to do it yourself.  
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Loads of people here genuinely care about you, including me.  Reach out to someone with whom you feel comfortable.  We're here.  Sincerely.

To be clear, this message is intended for Floppo.  That Binky guy can suck it.

 
El Flop, I have gone through a lot on this front. 

El Floppo said:
the ol depression/anxiety voices are beginning to whisper again .
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El Floppo said:
feeling like a completely useless fraud which unfortunately starts to seep into the rest of my life.
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El Floppo said:
Also feeling more misanthrpoic than normal.
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I don't want to ramble on about this too much, but one of the best pieces of advice I got from a shrink was this:

Sometimes feelings like this are a normal reaction to life. They are not wrong or bad, in and of themselves; so don't stress or feel guilty over having these feelings. Often, they arise because they need to arise. The important part is how one deals with them. Find your own way to deal. Find your own way to understand. Find those who do understand. Find those who have dealt. Let them help you. It is human - it is not abnormal.
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PM me if ya want. I don't understand your life or what you are going through, but I have felt what you describe, and I have some small amount of understanding, in regards to my own personal life.

Sincere good luck, friend.

 
One final thought.

Derby crap and races have started here in Looseyville, and I just now am drinking the 1st carbonated drink I have had in ages (Diet Coke that a buddy gave me before leaving my house.)

Well, I've only been drinking water, coffee, tea, crystal light, protein shakes, etc...for months. During that time, I have taken to shaking everything pretty vigorously before each drink.

This does NOT work well with Diet Coke. 

My shirt, pants and laptop are now soaked.... ☹️

 
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El Floppo said:
Really needing a couple breaks to go my way in work/life instead of against me... the ol depression/anxiety voices are beginning to whisper again .
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Sorry buddy.  Vent here or send me a PM or even call if you need.

 
Uruk-Hai said:
I went to the landfill and got there right before it opened. The way this one works is, some guy comes out and looks at what you have in the truck and tells you how to split it up in various dumpsters.

Landfill Guy: "Jesus, dude - when's the last time you slept?"

Me: "Um, two hours ago"

LG: "You look awful"

(I don't know this person)

Me: "Ok, thanks"

LG: " I haven't slept since Thursday"

Me (starting to get pissed off): "Then you should have let me in earlier"

LG: "Why?"

Me: " :shrug:  "

LG: "Throw it all in that dumpster" (he's pointing to the one that holds plastics; I have no plastics)

Me: "You sure?"

LG: "Are you on drugs?"

Me: "I wish I was now"

(People are lining up behind me at this point)

LG: "I could call the cops, you know"

Me:  :unsure:

LG: "Ok, throw it in THAT dumpster" (points to the one for glass)

I threw the #### in the plastic dumpster. 
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I used to be that landfill guy back in my early 20s. You wouldn't believe how much porn got thrown out by guys I thought "looked awful". Not sayin....just sayin

 
El Floppo said:
Thanks binky. It's definitely that in a big way. But even my other project keeps zigging when I need it to zag. All of it adds up to me feeling like a completely useless fraud which unfortunately starts to seep into the rest of my life. Tbh, the wife hasn't been a pillar of loving support for a while, which also plays into things along with having lost more open regular communication with my people. Also feeling more misanthrpoic than normal. :Shakesfistwearily:
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Flop, Binky's on point here. Holler at one (or more) of us if you need to talk. It may sound melodramatic, but folks here actually helped saved my life. I'm forever in their debt.

On a more grounded note, I'm in construction. Maybe I can sympathize a little and share some of your frustrations?

I'll PM you my phone # if you ever want to chat,

 
El Floppo said:
Really needing a couple breaks to go my way in work/life instead of against me... the ol depression/anxiety voices are beginning to whisper again .
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I'm going though some of this, I am a great listener and understand your work.  If you need someone, I am here.  Phone or chat just PM me.  All the Best Cav.

 
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