Nigel
Footballguy
She will no doubt live on campus. She's a quiet kid but is fairly active socially, captain of her lax team, hangs out with the "popular" crowd for whatever that's worth. But she's not comfortable in her own skin, her loneliness more a product of constantly feeling like a fish out of water than it is her actually being alone all of the time. I wouldn't describe any of her core group of friends as overachievers, she's kind of the outlier in her circle. I think if you asked most people they'd describe her as quietly confident, but in reality she's socially anxious to a level I had not realized until it all came pouring out this last week or two.I’d highly recommend making sure she stays on campus all the time. I’ve seen a couple bad experiences for kids in the neighborhood where the parents bought a house for a daughter to live off campus that helped her alienate herself and she dropped out. She baby sat for us and was a really nice and happy girl so sucked to hear that and she enjoyed her first year. Her parents regret thinking that would be better for her. The other case was a kid who drove home every weekend (2.5 hours) and I didn’t know him but that certainly wasn’t healthy.
I think I mentioned before that her cousin, also her best friend, will be in her class at BC. You'd think that would be a plus but it came out that in her mind "everyone likes Amy better, I don't want to be her sidekick for four years." Again, people who know both of them would find that notion absurd, but it's how she thinks. She's just struggling with feeling significant in this world.