the problem is the schools does not want to tell the parents that they have convinced Johnny to be called Joanie,But a lot of the controversy isn’t just about instruction. If a kid asks to be called a different name, there’s no option to just let things be neutral. Either the entire class is going to “learn” about trans people because the kid has a new name and pronouns. Or the school is going to refuse to use the new name and the trans kid is going to suffer.
all the while lying to the parents that is what they are actively doing.