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What age were you allowed to stay home alone at? I assume you're in the 35+ age range like most on the board. So i'd guess pretty young.
A 12 year old should be fine for up to a week as long as they have food or something like door dash.
I honestly don't recall. I had a stay at home mother, so being left home alone wasn't much of a factor. I'm not ducking your question, I simply can't answer it honestly. As for 35+, yea, plus quite a bit.
I wish. That's part of the problem. She needs to move on and manipulating the kid to be with her all the time is her way of compensating.
This is my issue. A 12 year old staying home one day by themselves isnt a big deal but it sounds like this kid is spending 3 days a week indoors by himself all summer. That cant be good for the kid.
What do you think he'd be doing if mom worked from home those days? My son is 16 now but even when we were home he barely came up for air out of his bedroom or the basement.
Not sure what that means. Parents dont take there kids to these places in the summer? Im not saying they have to take them out every single day.
I can work from home whenever I want basically. I run the kids to the golf course, training/gym and friends houses a lot of days during the week
I work from home and my job allows me the freedom to take some time off in the afternoons. Had I know he was just sitting at home by himself all day, I'd make sure to take him to the water park at least once a week. I'm trying to make plans to do as much this Friday.
Right, but that is a run and back right? It isn't like you're spending a few hours at the golf course or the gym in the middle of the day are you?I can work from home whenever I want basically. I run the kids to the golf course, training/gym and friends houses a lot of days during the week
Completely different situation, then yes I would totally expect for more planned adventures.
Now that I reread your post, yes it would be the same issue if she worked from home every day but she can at least drop him off places if possible. Is camp not an option? Yeah I know that #### is expensive. I send my son to camp 3 days a week and WFH once a week. The day I WFH my son is home all day playing video games and I HATE it but have no choice. At least thats only one day a week though. The 5th day my wife and I take alternating Fridays off to do things with him.
Can I ask why? Specifically why you hate it? While I don't advocate for all video games all the time there is a lot to be said for video gaming. Strategy, teamwork, kids talk to their friends. Kids do tons of research on these games and how to beat certain bosses, what kinds of strategies to use, etc.
No, they are 12 and 13 so they are on their own at those places. Kinda like the OP's kid would be I'm sure. I do go to the gym by myself during the middle of the day though....
Some people would be much more concerned with their kid being at those types of places alone than at home alone. Personally I think people bubblewrap their kids too much. Kids should know how to get some place on the bus, or riding a train, etc. They should be able to do some light cooking/heating up meals. Kids like that are much better prepared for the real world imo.
Just razzing you, gb.
Fine by me. I wish I had a lawyer in the family. Plus he'll be better equipped to pay for my nursing home costs.
12/13yo kids don't golf or workout alone, they are going to do it with a friend or don't do it basically. I agree on the bubblewrap, I tell the kids to go ride there bikes and I have no clue where they go. They have phone if I need them (I don't even do the tracking thing most other parents do). That said not sticking them on a city bus if I don't have too....
8 hours of him screaming at the TV on Fortnite is annoying AF. I dont mind video games. I played them growing up and I still do. I dont mind him playing. I HATE Fortnite though.
This is why I don't want him playing shooter games all the time. He has a difficult enough time coping with the things going on in his life and being stressed from video games only exaggerates those difficulties.
I've seen my youngest rage over Minecraft harder than any other game.Captain Cranks said:
It’s kind of sad if you think this way. Having alone time is a luxury to be appreciated. One of my daughters is an empath and needs time alone to recharge. To say that wanting to be alone is only for nefarious reasons is just weird.GStrot said:
No idea what that means, but he was playing with friends who decided to surprise attack him, steal his diamond gear and log off.He must be getting griefed.
It sounds like you know exactly what it means.No idea what that means, but he was playing with friends who decided to surprise attack him, steal his diamond gear and log off.
I was left alone parts of the day at home when I was 13. I was not allowed to use the stove (I could heat up something in the microwave or use the toaster for my breakfast and that was it), answer the phone or answer the door if someone knocked unless it was a neighbor. I could get the mail after the mail person was out of sight. 12 is iffy but it depends how mature your son is at his age. Is he trustworthy that he wouldn't cook anything on the stove and other things?
That's far more a reflection of the kid than it is the age. Plenty of 12 year olds are more mature than that 17 year old.
If thats the case I say he should be with you. Is the Son of your Ex with him though and how old is he? if he's older and there with him I think it shouldn't be an issue as long as he knows if theres an issue right way to call you or 911
Screw leaving the house. If I had a daughter she'd only be dating when I was deadjvdesigns2002 said:
