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Golf Altercation: How Do You Handle This Situation? (1 Viewer)

What would do you do after he accused us of being cheaters?

  • Walk off course

    Votes: 4 2.5%

  • Fight him

    Votes: 27 17.2%

  • Physically bump him

    Votes: 8 5.1%

  • Ignore the comment and continue with match

    Votes: 98 62.4%

  • Other

    Votes: 20 12.7%
  • Total voters
    157
chet

chet

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I played in the member/guest tournament at my club and the following situation ensued.

I had a 6 foot putt for par on the second hole. My opponent (Don--the other member) was already in for par and the two guests were out of the hole. I missed my putt and picked up my ball and Don said, "You got a 5 and I got a 4."

As we were driving up to the next hole, he was out of his cart waiting for us and before we stopped, he was pointing and yelling at us. "You got a stroke on that hole. I didn't give you that putt. You lost the hole."

I told him to stop yelling and pointing and also to stop cross examining us. I explained that I didn't know I got a stroke and that had I known, I'd have tapped in. I also added that he gave us a 5 on the hole. He continued yelling and accusing and I told him that I'd ask the golf director what we should do.

At the next hole, he again approached us and said very aggresively, "I apologize. You didn't get a stroke on the hole. I gave you a 5 and you still lost." I didn't respond and simply continued with the game.

A couple of holes later, he tried to make small talk. I looked at him and said, "Don, I don't appreciate how you handled the situation. None of my friends would have handled it remotely closely to how you did. I don't have any respect for you. I don't like you. I don't want to talk to you ever again unless it's directly related to the match at hand."

He looked at me and said, "Well that's very rude. I apologized."

I responded with, "You set the tone of this relationship and have been ruder than anyone I've ever met here. You didn't apologize for your behavior either. Like I said, I don't want to talk to you again."

He comes back with, "Well, you guys are cheaters."

What's your move at this point?

 
I would have accepted the apology.

ETA: and tell him don't get up in my #### ever again.

 
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I would have unstrapped his bag from the cart every time he was not looking so that it kept falling off when he drove away.

 
eoMMan said:
Golf gets this serious? Were either of you in contention of winning or placing?
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They were winning the flight and we were in second. Only 6 teams in the flight so it's not as impressive as it sounds. Calcutta money at stake although I don't know if they owned their team.

 
Jaysus said:
I would have unstrapped his bag from the cart every time he was not looking so that it kept falling off when he drove away.
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:lol:

I did that to my friend a few years ago and he blamed the cart. Never caught on even when I prompted him to relate the story of the shoddy carts to 5 other people at the wedding.

 
First to recommend sleeping with his wife

:bag:

Okay, this has been recommended... Something came across my desk after I clicked the link :kicksrock:

In all honesty, a fight prob gets you both banned from the club, so I'd just avoid him and move on.

 
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Anyone have a serious answer? I agree that neither of us handled the situation optimally; however, he was by far the bigger #######.

Also, he's a sandbagger. 1 over through 7 playing to a 15 and doing the same thing in his other matches.

 
Instead of talking with him, you should just have focused on beating him at the windmill hole to tie it up.

 
chet said:
Anyone have a serious answer? I agree that neither of us handled the situation optimally; however, he was by far the bigger #######.

Also, he's a sandbagger. 1 over through 7 playing to a 15 and doing the same thing in his other matches.
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The best advice has already been given.

Move on, ignore in the future.

To take it a step further, talk to the director and let him know you do not want to be paired with this guy in any club tournament again.

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There must be more of a history with Don than you mentioned. The way I look at it is a trade off, and you need to decide which you would prefer.

Casually make small talk (or putting up with small talk) moving forward and not have it be as uncomfortable when you see him. Or ignore him completely and go out of your way not to socialize with him which might cause for some tension.

If I were you, your true feelings have already been voiced. Just go through the motions of being cordial when you see him and nothing more. Why would you want a situation of possible stress at your golf club, which is where you probably go to unwind from stress?

 
avoiding injuries said:
There must be more of a history with Don than you mentioned. The way I look at it is a trade off, and you need to decide which you would prefer.

Casually make small talk (or putting up with small talk) moving forward and not have it be as uncomfortable when you see him. Or ignore him completely and go out of your way not to socialize with him which might cause for some tension.

If I were you, your true feelings have already been voiced. Just go through the motions of being cordial when you see him and nothing more. Why would you want a situation of possible stress at your golf club, which is where you probably go to unwind from stress?
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I'd never met him before but had been warned about him. For most members, this is a second home community so it's not unusual to meet someone for the first time at an event like this.

Good point about stress etc.

 
You picked up without his acknowledgement on the second hole of the member guest tourney. He's a "15" and he's 1 over after 7. He's definitely the bigger ##### and handled the situation way too aggressively. But you probably should have tapped in unless you had good history established with the other member-guest.

:lmao: at I don't like you.

 
Grace Under Pressure said:
You picked up without his acknowledgement on the second hole of the member guest tourney. He's a "15" and he's 1 over after 7. He's definitely the bigger ##### and handled the situation way too aggressively. But you probably should have tapped in unless you had good history established with the other member-guest.

:lmao: at I don't like you.
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I wasn't assuming he gave the putt. I (correctly) thought I had lost the hole and was ready to move on.

 
Why not tap in if he didn't give you the putt?

Also poor form from him if it was inside the leather anyway

 
chet said:
Grace Under Pressure said:
You picked up without his acknowledgement on the second hole of the member guest tourney. He's a "15" and he's 1 over after 7. He's definitely the bigger ##### and handled the situation way too aggressively. But you probably should have tapped in unless you had good history established with the other member-guest.

:lmao: at I don't like you.
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I wasn't assuming he gave the putt. I (correctly) thought I had lost the hole and was ready to move on.
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But you have other bets going outside of this match, don't you?

 
jomar said:
chet said:
Grace Under Pressure said:
You picked up without his acknowledgement on the second hole of the member guest tourney. He's a "15" and he's 1 over after 7. He's definitely the bigger ##### and handled the situation way too aggressively. But you probably should have tapped in unless you had good history established with the other member-guest.

:lmao: at I don't like you.
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I wasn't assuming he gave the putt. I (correctly) thought I had lost the hole and was ready to move on.
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But you have other bets going outside of this match, don't you?
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It was match play. All bets were directly related to match points which were derived from winning holes.

For example, if he had a hole in one, I'd be right to pickup even if I hit to an inch (assuming no strokes).

 
chet said:
Grace Under Pressure said:
You picked up without his acknowledgement on the second hole of the member guest tourney. He's a "15" and he's 1 over after 7. He's definitely the bigger ##### and handled the situation way too aggressively. But you probably should have tapped in unless you had good history established with the other member-guest.

:lmao: at I don't like you.
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I wasn't assuming he gave the putt. I (correctly) thought I had lost the hole and was ready to move on.
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Yep, I was going to ask the length of the putt, but it doesn't matter in match-play unless there was also a total component in this tournament. **** move on his part making a big deal about it.

How long was the putt?

My partner one year wouldn't take a gimme from the other team even if it was 2". That was also annoying.

 
Every member guest I play in we have bets with all kinds of teams using net strokes. We always need one score to put in the card even if it is match play.

That said, 6 inches means this guy is a ####. 4-5 feet I could see....the guy is too serious and I'd call him out on his handicap if he's a sandbagger

 
You should have taken one of his balls out of his cart, put your initials on it and play with it. Then, when the ball is turned so you can't see your initials, tell him it's his ball. BAM! two stroke penalty. That would show him...don't F with chet.

 
Well, I can't speak to the golf issues here, but I have noticed that there are basically two types of amateur gamblers in the world: those that do it from time to time because it can be exciting and add a little spice to games, and those that take themselves seriously and imagine themselves to be professional gamblers, and care more about winning money than friendship or the fun of being there and playing the game.

I've always been among the former and tried to stay as far away from the latter as possible, because I've found them to be highly unpleasant individuals.

 
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