I need some help with my kid (1 Viewer)

[Limp Dogg Bizkits]

I have been trying to build a better relationship with my son for the last few years. Ex wife is crazy and does everything she can to make it difficult.

Anyways, long story short is that today is his 17th bday and he finally reached out to me. He's playing football for the 1st time and asked me for some advice. He's a long time soccer player. I'm really excited and hopefully football will bring us back together.

His team is doing a fundraiser for gear and I told him that I'd sponsor him. If anyone can help it would be greatly appreciated.

https://app.snap-raise.com/fundraisers/1151/participant/63112

 

[Limp Dogg Bizkits]

If this should be in the free for all let me know

 

[cstu]

Fundraisers to Exploit/Avoid.

 

[Hoosier16]

Whatever happened to washing cars or cutting lawns?

 

[ShaHBucks]

Whatever happened to washing cars or cutting lawns?

The Internet

 

[Osaurus]

A coach named Sharkey seems appropriate here. GL

 

[Tick]

Are you asking only for the donations, or for help with the football advice? What position?

 

[sports_fan]

Using other people's money to buy love. Seems like a good idea.

 

[JB Breakfast Club]

Tell him to stick with soccer.

 

[Limp Dogg Bizkits]

Advice, donations, whatever. I told him I'd spread the word. He's playing wr, corner, and kicker.

As far as buying his love? Seeing how I've paid $2300 a month in child support for the last 9 years, that doesn't make a difference because he doesn't see it. So if a $500 donation from me shows him that I'm here for him, then so be it.

 

[belljr]

But you donated 20. Says so on the website

 

[Limp Dogg Bizkits]

I haven't donated anything yet. I get paid on the 10th and will cover the rest then

 

[boots11234]

Advice, donations, whatever. I told him I'd spread the word. He's playing wr, corner, and kicker.

As far as buying his love? Seeing how I've paid $2300 a month in child support for the last 9 years, that doesn't make a difference because he doesn't see it. So if a $500 donation from me shows him that I'm here for him, then so be it.

LOOK AT ME I PAY $2300 A MONTH IN CHILD SUPPORT.!!

 

[BustedKnuckles]

so much for FBG community love and support

 

[shadyridr]

Advice, donations, whatever. I told him I'd spread the word. He's playing wr, corner, and kicker.

As far as buying his love? Seeing how I've paid $2300 a month in child support for the last 9 years, that doesn't make a difference because he doesn't see it. So if a $500 donation from me shows him that I'm here for him, then so be it.

from you or from us?

 

[shadyridr]

so much for FBG community love and support

hes trying to buy his son's affection with other people's money

 

[Frostillicus]

He's trying to support his son. Jesus this place just gets worse every day.

 

[Soulfly3]

He's trying to support his son. Jesus this place just gets worse every day.

when you look at the join dates, it's even worse.

It's mostly the "OG Members" from when this place "was great"

 

[General Tso]

Hey Limp - I've been in the same position as you so I can relate. The only advice I can give is to focus on the time rather than the money. I started doing that a couple years ago. The biggest change I made was packing up my entire life and moving to where my son lives. I'm a mile from his high school and it's so much easier to be a more active part of his life now. Best decision I ever made. There is no substitute for a father and the time spent between father and son. And as far as the ex wife goes - just tune her out. It's just noise.

Good luck with your son - hope it works out.

 

[John Bender]

I sent over the average donation just for all the grief you took here

Good luck!

 

[Mr.Pack]

so much for FBG community love and support

hes trying to buy his son's affection with other people's money

Sometimes you're a real jag

 

[eoMMan]

so much for FBG community love and support

hes trying to buy his son's affection with other people's money

Sometimes you're a real jag

He's right, though. Why should the FFA pay for his kids sporting equipment?

 

[John Bender]

so much for FBG community love and support

hes trying to buy his son's affection with other people's money

Sometimes you're a real jag

He's right, though. Why should the FFA pay for his kids sporting equipment?

I don't take it that way.

Lots of parents in here have posted links for their kids' fundraisers on FBG because it's typically a great community with a lot of people that are usually good with helping out. I don't see this as any different. Perhaps he could have worded the Title and OP a bit differently and just been more straightforward that was asking for the help of the FFA with his kid's fundraiser, but I really don't see a problem with this.

 

[Prince Myshkin]

so much for FBG community love and support

hes trying to buy his son's affection with other people's money

Sometimes you're a real jag

He's right, though. Why should the FFA pay for his kids sporting equipment?

I don't take it that way.

Lots of parents in here have posted links for their kids' fundraisers on FBG because it's typically a great community with a lot of people that are usually good with helping out. I don't see this as any different. Perhaps he could have worded the Title and OP a bit differently and just been more straightforward that was asking for the help of the FFA with his kid's fundraiser, but I really don't see a problem with this.

Most of those fundraisers either A) offer something in return like a raffle ticket or some goods/services or B) are for an exceptionally good cause like cancer research or C) both. This offers none of the above.

I have a hard time with healthy, active teenage boys bumming money for new football uniforms and helmets without offering anything in return. Make it something like, for every dollar donated the team will volunteer 1 man-hour at the local homeless shelter or Habitat for Humanity or something like that and I've got no problem with it. Give us money so we can look snazzy this season and we will write you this pretty receipt - well, that just doesn't do it for me

And let me add, this is not a gripe at the OP but at this particular fundraiser...

 

[Mr.Pack]

so much for FBG community love and support

hes trying to buy his son's affection with other people's money

Sometimes you're a real jag

He's right, though. Why should the FFA pay for his kids sporting equipment?

I don't take it that way.

Lots of parents in here have posted links for their kids' fundraisers on FBG because it's typically a great community with a lot of people that are usually good with helping out. I don't see this as any different. Perhaps he could have worded the Title and OP a bit differently and just been more straightforward that was asking for the help of the FFA with his kid's fundraiser, but I really don't see a problem with this.

It happens all the time, this is no different. Just an opportunity for shady to come in here and rip on someone to make himself feel good.

 

[Mr.Pack]

so much for FBG community love and support

hes trying to buy his son's affection with other people's money

Sometimes you're a real jag

He's right, though. Why should the FFA pay for his kids sporting equipment?

I don't take it that way.

Lots of parents in here have posted links for their kids' fundraisers on FBG because it's typically a great community with a lot of people that are usually good with helping out. I don't see this as any different. Perhaps he could have worded the Title and OP a bit differently and just been more straightforward that was asking for the help of the FFA with his kid's fundraiser, but I really don't see a problem with this.

Most of those fundraisers either A) offer something in return like a raffle ticket or some goods/services or B) are for an exceptionally good cause like cancer research or C) both. This offers none of the above.

I have a hard time with healthy, active teenage boys bumming money for new football uniforms and helmets without offering anything in return. Make it something like, for every dollar donated the team will volunteer 1 man-hour at the local homeless shelter or Habitat for Humanity or something like that and I've got no problem with it. Give us money so we can look snazzy this season and we will write you this pretty receipt - well, that just doesn't do it for me

And let me add, this is not a gripe at the OP but at this particular fundraiser...

Really? You only donate to a cause when you can get something in return???

smh

 

[Limp Dogg Bizkits]

Thanks for everyone's input. My son knows that I put this on here so I'm not trying to take credit for any money that someone else has paid. I'm probably going to do the $500 donation so that I get a football out of it, and gametime recognition so that I can stick it to his mom one last time.

 

[John Bender]

One funny thing about fundraisers (and maybe it's a good thing), but the internet has made it so easy and kids lazier about raising money. Just send a link out and do nothing and hope people donate.

I remember, schelpping around my neighborhood as a kid with crappy candy bars or candle catalogs to try and raise 20 bucks. Nowadays, kids run fundraising events by just sending out internet links and standing around on street corners at stoplights asking motorists for donations.

Do kids still do the candybar or catalog type thing anymore?

 

[comfortably numb]

One funny thing about fundraisers (and maybe it's a good thing), but the internet has made it so easy and kids lazier about raising money. Just send a link out and do nothing and hope people donate.

I remember, schelpping around my neighborhood as a kid with crappy candy bars or candle catalogs to try and raise 20 bucks. Nowadays, kids run fundraising events by just sending out internet links and standing around on street corners at stoplights asking motorists for donations.

Do kids still do the candybar or catalog type thing anymore?

Kinda puts a bummer on things when an 11 year old boy gets murdered selling candy door to door.

I thinks it's really rare in NJ now...parents typically will try to sell their kids fund raiser items.

 

[Limp Dogg Bizkits]

I'd rather just give money personally. Buy $10 Worth of candy bars and the kids maybe net $5.

 

[Quez]

Solid schtick

 

[John Bender]

Solid schtick

if this was shtick, I'll take my 60 bucks back!

 

[Foosball God]

I'd rather just give money personally. Buy $10 Worth of candy bars and the kids maybe net $5.

This. The kids don't get jack out of those candy bar, magazine, stuff. The companies that make it do. I don't need another GD candy bar anyway

 

[Foosball God]

BTW, I hope this starts you down the path towards a better relationship with your son Limp. Life is too short to waste the time without him.

 

[Galileo]

One funny thing about fundraisers (and maybe it's a good thing), but the internet has made it so easy and kids lazier about raising money. Just send a link out and do nothing and hope people donate.

I remember, schelpping around my neighborhood as a kid with crappy candy bars or candle catalogs to try and raise 20 bucks. Nowadays, kids run fundraising events by just sending out internet links and standing around on street corners at stoplights asking motorists for donations.

Do kids still do the candybar or catalog type thing anymore?

Yes, my Science Olympiad team sells frozen cookie dough, pizzas and soft pretzels to raise funds...Many organizations are selling stuff, in fact too many do it at our school. Seems that I am buying something every couple weeks.

 

[belljr]

so much for FBG community love and support

hes trying to buy his son's affection with other people's money

Sometimes you're a real jag

He's right, though. Why should the FFA pay for his kids sporting equipment?

I don't take it that way.Lots of parents in here have posted links for their kids' fundraisers on FBG because it's typically a great community with a lot of people that are usually good with helping out. I don't see this as any different. Perhaps he could have worded the Title and OP a bit differently and just been more straightforward that was asking for the help of the FFA with his kid's fundraiser, but I really don't see a problem with this.

this. The story in the op confused me and I felt like it was "scammy" , my apologies

 

[Galileo]

I'd rather just give money personally. Buy $10 Worth of candy bars and the kids maybe net $5.

probably less than this...we got to keep about 35% of our sales last time we sold goods

 

[BustedKnuckles]

One funny thing about fundraisers (and maybe it's a good thing), but the internet has made it so easy and kids lazier about raising money. Just send a link out and do nothing and hope people donate.

I remember, schelpping around my neighborhood as a kid with crappy candy bars or candle catalogs to try and raise 20 bucks. Nowadays, kids run fundraising events by just sending out internet links and standing around on street corners at stoplights asking motorists for donations.

Do kids still do the candybar or catalog type thing anymore?

Yes, my Science Olympiad team sells frozen cookie dough, pizzas and soft pretzels to raise funds...Many organizations are selling stuff, in fact too many do it at our school. Seems that I am buying something every couple weeks.

even Flynn tried this approach with his www.savewalterwhite.com website ....which actually worked out really well for his quite wealthy meth dealing dad

 

[Prince Myshkin]

so much for FBG community love and support

hes trying to buy his son's affection with other people's money

Sometimes you're a real jag

He's right, though. Why should the FFA pay for his kids sporting equipment?

I don't take it that way.

Lots of parents in here have posted links for their kids' fundraisers on FBG because it's typically a great community with a lot of people that are usually good with helping out. I don't see this as any different. Perhaps he could have worded the Title and OP a bit differently and just been more straightforward that was asking for the help of the FFA with his kid's fundraiser, but I really don't see a problem with this.

Most of those fundraisers either A) offer something in return like a raffle ticket or some goods/services or B) are for an exceptionally good cause like cancer research or C) both. This offers none of the above.

I have a hard time with healthy, active teenage boys bumming money for new football uniforms and helmets without offering anything in return. Make it something like, for every dollar donated the team will volunteer 1 man-hour at the local homeless shelter or Habitat for Humanity or something like that and I've got no problem with it. Give us money so we can look snazzy this season and we will write you this pretty receipt - well, that just doesn't do it for me

And let me add, this is not a gripe at the OP but at this particular fundraiser...

Really? You only donate to a cause when you can get something in return???

smh

Yes, that is exactly what I said... SMH

 

[John Bender]

He's trying to support his son. Jesus this place just gets worse every day.

Honestly its kind of weird to beg money from strangers..I'm dating myself here but grew in the 2000 and this is panhandling.

he didn't beg anyone for anything.

He asked for some help and took it pretty well when he was mocked by 90% of others in response.

 

[John Bender]

BTW, I hope this starts you down the path towards a better relationship with your son Limp. Life is too short to waste the time without him.

This x 1000. Good luck Limp

 

[Frostillicus]

One funny thing about fundraisers (and maybe it's a good thing), but the internet has made it so easy and kids lazier about raising money. Just send a link out and do nothing and hope people donate.

What kind of person would do this?

 

[John Bender]

One funny thing about fundraisers (and maybe it's a good thing), but the internet has made it so easy and kids lazier about raising money. Just send a link out and do nothing and hope people donate.

What kind of person would do this?

I'm not knocking it Frosty...just calling back to the olden days of walking through a neighborhood with a cardboard box full of candy bars. I'm always happy to help either way

 

[BustedKnuckles]

One funny thing about fundraisers (and maybe it's a good thing), but the internet has made it so easy and kids lazier about raising money. Just send a link out and do nothing and hope people donate.

What kind of person would do this?

I'm not knocking it Frosty...just calling back to the olden days of walking through a neighborhood with a cardboard box full of candy bars. I'm always happy to help either way

we didnt have social media back then...may as well take advantage of it

 

[John Bender]

One funny thing about fundraisers (and maybe it's a good thing), but the internet has made it so easy and kids lazier about raising money. Just send a link out and do nothing and hope people donate.

What kind of person would do this?

I'm not knocking it Frosty...just calling back to the olden days of walking through a neighborhood with a cardboard box full of candy bars. I'm always happy to help either way

we didnt have social media back then...may as well take advantage of it

I agree.