"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yo (1 Viewer)

[gianmarco]

Aside from the cheating, she really is everything I could look for in a partner. The cheating is not a small thing, but everything else is there.

Wow.

Noooo ####. Unreal.

"Aside from losing both legs, he's a hell of a runner."

 

[Zegras11]

"Your story sucks. It really does. I don't envy you. But it's a story that needs to be coming to a close. One way or another. It's been 7 months. If you want the ex, get aggressive. Push the issue. Woo her. Dinners, cards, flowers. Be relentless. Do not accept anything less than her jumping into bed with you and ending all contact with the pt. Or her telling you to beat it. Get back with her and a year from now you can share your story with some fbg before you go out and hit the town as a single man. Because there is no happy ending to your story with Alyssa. Not now. You're both too immature. If you want a serious chance, you both need to do some growing up apart from one another. I urge you to take 6 months to figure things out. No Alyssa. Tell her you'll shoot her an email in 6 months. If you're going to make things work you need a fresh start with her. And you cannot have a fresh start if there's never been an ending. Maybe she has done some growing up while away from you (I'm skeptical as she was contacting you off and on). But reading your posts here it is painfully clear you're not ready for anything serious with this woman. You might try lying to yourself and say you are but you really aren't. You're a selfish, greedy, spoiled child who wants his toy and wants it now. Part of being a man means you sometimes need to make some painful decisions. This is one of those times. You need some time away from her. Zero contact. And you desperately need to

see what other women can offer you. So sack up, soldier. "

Or any woman.

Cut this out.

Tape it to your bathroom mirror.

Tape it to your bedroom wall.

Tape it to your fridge.

Tape it to any where within 15 seconds of the last time you saw it.

Tape it on your ####.

 

[cstu]

No. 16 - my ex cheated on me. We worked through it and I stayed with her. What questions do you have for me?

1) How long ago was it?2) Did she become 1000% transparent for you after it?3) Was he a PT or Gardener?

It was about 3 years ago. She was on a business trip. It was a bartender. She told me on the drive back from the airport. She was in tears and told me within 10 minutes without me prodding. She was in tears and answered every single question I had. She told me stuff I probably didn't want to know. The guy wrote her an email soon after she got back. She told me about it. She told him to beat it as she was going to try making things work. Things were tense for a couple weeks. She put a ton of work into the relationship and winning me back. I put zero into the relationship for about 6 weeks and told her I had limited interest in doing so as it was clear to me we were pretty much done. We had been essentially living together when it happened but after the incident I went out with at least one other woman. We spent close to a year together after it happened. I had virtually zero trust in her for a long while. Things were never quite the same but within 6 months after the affair we were back to it being a great relationship and trust had returned. We split for reasons completely unrelated to the affair a little over a year after it happened.I have nowhere near the level of experience as some other folks on here, but I firmly believe just about anything can be worked out if both parties are willing to communicate and be completely open/honest with the other.

Total transparency has to be must. And not just the crappy details of what happened. Anything can be over come, but cheating has to be one of the tougher ones.Just don't see #16's being transparent enough for it to work. You said it took ten minutes. She's on month seven and cared more about the dog. She only wants to think about working it out now because there is doubt in her mind about the PT. Gotta cover those bases!

Can you blame her - he might have an STD!

 

[bushdocda]

I lost my phone is a good one. Man she is playing you so bad I don't know how can ask for more.

 

[Aaron Rudnicki]

Hawaii is an international call?

 

[glumpy]

Dr. Awesome just lived up to his name...

Seriously!

 

[Zow]

Embrace that "what if," 16. Itll be much better in ten years when you're happily married and can still imagine that hot chick you were really into (oh, you'll realize your attraction was far more sexual than loving) maybe still wants you. Much better than knowing she completely owned you and thinks nothing of you. And while I know all you thinking about is when you'll hear from you next, but if you contact her and she doesn't respond you cannot contact her again. It's difficult, but males you look incredibly weak.

Thanks, Studs.

Typing on your phone on a train is apparently a bad idea.

 

[zed2283]

Hawaii is an international call?

 

[Zow]

Dr. Awesome! That's my Idating wingman!!

Yeah, he is a big help in that arena. Guy can talk some game. Dr. Awesome, I recognize your story from like a year or two ago under an alias. Was that you?

 

[DA RAIDERS]

how long is this religious cornhole? and in what country?

 

[Aaron Rudnicki]

how long is this religious cornhole? and in what country?

a distant country called Hawaii

 

[DA RAIDERS]

how long is this religious cornhole? and in what country?

a distant country called Hawaii

seriously? no phone...too expensive to call..that's ####### hystericalthis dude is piping her out as we speak.

do we know if the PT is asianed, anglo or what?

 

[gianmarco]

Hopefully you called her father to keep him updated. I'm sure he's worried sick about both of you.

 

[IvanKaramazov]

What's up with the recurring Hawaiian motif in this thread? First the anniversary trip with the PT, then 16's trip with his buddies, and now this.

 

[jomar]

at least Alyssa was able to contact her sister and let her know her phone was stolen. and thankfully 16 was able to contact the sister, although the sister had been initiating all contact to this point.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

What's up with the recurring Hawaiian motif in this thread? First the anniversary trip with the PT, then 16's trip with his buddies, and now this.

cultural

 

[JFT Ben]

What's up with the recurring Hawaiian motif in this thread? First the anniversary trip with the PT, then 16's trip with his buddies, and now this.

cultural

...yeah, you wouldn't understand.

 

[Instinctive]

What's up with the recurring Hawaiian motif in this thread? First the anniversary trip with the PT, then 16's trip with his buddies, and now this.

cultural

Don't forget, the coke dealer was Hawaiian, no?

 

[sbonomo]

at least Alyssa was able to contact her sister and let her know her phone was stolen. and thankfully 16 was able to contact the sister, although the sister had been initiating all contact to this point.

This poor kid is a train wreck...It is painfull to continue watching him self destruct. The worse part is that he has no idea how poorly he is handling this whole thing.

 

[Evilgrin 72]

Though I have been a fool for love

I have finally made my score

I got a girl, and I don't mean to boast

But she loves me the most

Even though she's a highly paid whore

She'll give head to a sheep

She can stuff three cocks in her cheek

But she comes home to me

She'll do the groom and the best man

She'll slap your a-- in the back of a van

But she comes home to me

She could f--- nine guys in a row

But still have a tenth for me

And I'm the only one who gets to kiss them lips

Unless you pay an extra fifty

So mister, don't you fall in love

Cause I'm the only cat who doesn't wear a glove

Since her heart belongs to me

She has a throat that just won't quit

She can take all of it

And still have room for your balls

but she shops in the malls for me

She'll say twelve then call back and say one

But I don't care I know it's just work not fun

When she blows you, Jack

Don't you think she's not thinking of me

She'll go down on a yak, lick a horse's nutsack

But strictly for the cash

And it's only me who doesn't pay a fee

to watch her put a water bottle in her gash

(Put a water bottle in her gash)

She'll let you suck her nips till they're leakin'

But don't you dare try to go antiquing

Cause she does that with me

Her p----'s sweet as honey

But when she moans, it's just for the money

Unless she's sittin' on me

She'll cram your ###hole with a mouse

But she won't do it in our house

Tough luck, Jack

She knows that don't fly with me

She might eat your wife's box

But she won't tell ya where you left your socks

She rolled up and down your fat p--ck

But it was me who took her to the Meg Ryan flick

She's got a face full of nuts

And a mouth full of cocks

She's f---d Seal, Larry King, four New Kids on the Block,

She blew the Winnipeg Jets right after a game

But they never got to know her actual name

On your face she will piss

On your chest she might poop

But she won't prepare her famous vegetable soup

That's simply reserved..

Oh she'll bite ya, she'll spank ya

But she'll never thank you for free

Cause baby... comes home to me.

Comin' home!!

 

[johnnycakes]

Don't pull a Timmy on us, now, EG.

.

 

[Evilgrin 72]

Don't pull a Timmy on us, now, EG.

Oh, I wasn't taking credit for that, just felt like it applied. First time I heard that song, he was performing it on the Chris rock show, I almost pissed myself laughing.

 

[cstu]

So people you love never make mistakes?

No human love is unconditional IMO even those couples who are happily married.

When I talk about expectations I mean things we need to do to make things work. Be honest with each other, transparency, and be willing to work thing out.

Do you know for sure she will cheat on me again?

People make mistakes all the time. The mistake she made isn't really a mistake. She didn't miss a question on a test. She ####ed up your life big time and on purpose.Those that are the happiest are those that strive for unconditional the most. No one is perfect for sure.



Transparency? Don't see her doing this at all. Ever.

I don't know for sure. I've never had anyone cheat on me, but I'm going to Vegas in 2 weeks and putting down some

I dunno, she did call her sister to let her know she lost her phone knowing 16 would call her.

 

[cstu]

On a serious note, please let me know the name of this church that lets me go on Hawaii trips with dirty hot Asianed girls.

 

[johnnycakes]

Don't pull a Timmy on us, now, EG.

I figured. Just had to bust balls a little. It's a compliment to your writing, though... my first impression was, "how long did that mofo take to compose this?" Then I got to thinking... better do a little google work to see if he's pulling a Timmy. I enjoy your original work, though... some really good schtick. Good enough that when you do a copy-and-paste, you really need to give credit lest people think you may be trying to rip it off.

 

[gianmarco]

On a serious note, please let me know the name of this church that lets me go on Hawaii trips with dirty hot Asianed girls.

Missionary work to distant, 3rd world countries. Happens all the time.

 

[GreatLakesMike]

at least Alyssa was able to contact her sister and let her know her phone was stolen. and thankfully 16 was able to contact the sister, although the sister had been initiating all contact to this point.

This poor kid is a train wreck...It is painfull to continue watching him self destruct. The worse part is that he has no idea how poorly he is handling this whole thing.

"I texted her 5 times Thursday morning and didn't get a response, so I contacted her sister but she didn't know what was going on. Thursday night, I contacted her mom and dad, nothing. Then I tried the PT, but for some reason he was busy. Friday morning I started really getting worried so I called the Hawaii Five O and tried to file a missing persons report. The line kept going dead for some reason after I explained my situation. I booked a flight and I'm heading to Hawaii tonight. I must know that she is safe."

 

[gianmarco]

at least Alyssa was able to contact her sister and let her know her phone was stolen. and thankfully 16 was able to contact the sister, although the sister had been initiating all contact to this point.

This poor kid is a train wreck...It is painfull to continue watching him self destruct. The worse part is that he has no idea how poorly he is handling this whole thing.

"I texted her 5 times Thursday morning and didn't get a response, so I contacted her sister but she didn't know what was going on. Thursday night, I contacted her mom and dad, nothing. Then I tried the PT, but for some reason he was busy. Friday morning I started really getting worried so I called the Hawaii Five O and tried to file a missing persons report. The line kept going dead for some reason after I explained my situation. I booked an international flight and I'm heading to Hawaii tonight. I must know that she is safe."

FYP

 

[Aaron Rudnicki]

going to Hawaii? bring your passport.

 

[flranger]

going to Hawaii? bring your passport.

LMAO

 

[gianmarco]

going to Hawaii? bring your passport.

And don't forget your currency exchange. It's pricy if you wait and do it overseas.

 

[RJS113]

Women want what they can't have. She's only interested in you again because she started to believe that you really moved on. Once she sees that she can get you back, it's over (if it isn't already).

 

[UniAlias]

going to Hawaii? bring your passport.

Did I miss the OP ever mentioning the current trip was to Hawaii? I don't recall seeing that. The original PT/CheatingSlut trip was to Hawaii but that was awhile back.

 

[Aaron Rudnicki]

Did I miss the OP ever mentioning the current trip was to Hawaii?

I might have made that up or just misread something.

 

[offdee]

And yes, she was hot. offdee has seen pictures and he gave her an 8.

Science.

 

[zoonation]

Wow...just checking in for the first time in a while. No. 16 is like Rocky fighting Clubber for the first time. Outclassed, outhustled and getting up off the mat just in time to get knocked the #### out.

What a moron.

 

[hutchins929]

I'm just going on record saying you avatar is bad ###!:hijack over:

 

[Dr. Awesome]

Dr. Awesome, I recognize your story from like a year or two ago under an alias. Was that you?

Yes.

 

[No. 16]

Dr. Awesome, I recognize your story from like a year or two ago under an alias. Was that you?

Yes.

Just posted on your profile. Since your PM box is full.Need some help/guidance for the OKCupid profile.

 

[Dr. Awesome]

Dr. Awesome, I recognize your story from like a year or two ago under an alias. Was that you?

Yes.

Just posted on your profile. Since your PM box is full.Need some help/guidance for the OKCupid profile.

Sent you my profile. Not sure if it went through as fbg went down for a bit. As you can see, it's laughably easy. Spell things properly and don't list any problems in your life are the two biggest things. After that it all comes down to your preferences/personality. Were I in your shoes I'd mention something about Vegas, white water rafting, trip to Hawaii, loving basketball, certified LeBron hater, and ability to rock on the dance floor. Make yourself sound fun and/or you have your crap together. After that it's just a numbers game. There's nothing special about any of the women until you get to know them. They think the same of you. You're one of the many. Cast a wide net.

 

[Keerock]

Dr. Awesome, I recognize your story from like a year or two ago under an alias. Was that you?

Yes.

Just posted on your profile. Since your PM box is full.Need some help/guidance for the OKCupid profile.

Sent you my profile. Not sure if it went through as fbg went down for a bit. As you can see, it's laughably easy. Spell things properly and don't list any problems in your life are the two biggest things. After that it all comes down to your preferences/personality. Were I in your shoes I'd mention something about Vegas, white water rafting, trip to Hawaii, loving basketball, certified LeBron hater, and ability to rock crackin' on the dance floor. Make yourself sound fun and/or you have your crap together. After that it's just a numbers game. There's nothing special about any of the women until you get to know them. They think the same of you. You're one of the many. Cast a wide net.

Fixed.

 

[Ned]

going to Hawaii? bring your passport.

 

[TxBuckeye]

Make yourself sound fun and/or you have your crap together.

In other words, lie.

 

[belljr]

ALOHA MEANS GOODBYE, BRAH

 

[dickey moe]

Be sure to let us know how PT's #### tastes.

Unless you hook up with only virgins you're always tasting another man's sloppy seconds.

Not if they use soap.

 

[identikit]

Be sure to let us know how PT's #### tastes.

Unless you hook up with only virgins you're always tasting another man's sloppy seconds.

Not if they use soap.

mmm jasmine...

 

[No. 16]

Dr. Awesome, I recognize your story from like a year or two ago under an alias. Was that you?

Yes.

Just posted on your profile. Since your PM box is full.Need some help/guidance for the OKCupid profile.

Sent you my profile. Not sure if it went through as fbg went down for a bit. As you can see, it's laughably easy. Spell things properly and don't list any problems in your life are the two biggest things. After that it all comes down to your preferences/personality. Were I in your shoes I'd mention something about Vegas, white water rafting, trip to Hawaii, loving basketball, certified LeBron hater, and ability to rock on the dance floor. Make yourself sound fun and/or you have your crap together. After that it's just a numbers game. There's nothing special about any of the women until you get to know them. They think the same of you. You're one of the many. Cast a wide net.

Thanks. Helps a lot as I didn't know how crazy/non-serious the tone should be. Also was wondering about the format/length an it seems like bullet style points vs. A paragraph is better.Will finally get crackin on this tonight and start firing away messages.

 

[Rick James]

16- When is Alyssa expected to be back in town?

 

[comfortably numb]

Dr. Awesome, I recognize your story from like a year or two ago under an alias. Was that you?

Yes.

Just posted on your profile. Since your PM box is full.Need some help/guidance for the OKCupid profile.

Sent you my profile. Not sure if it went through as fbg went down for a bit. As you can see, it's laughably easy. Spell things properly and don't list any problems in your life are the two biggest things. After that it all comes down to your preferences/personality. Were I in your shoes I'd mention something about Vegas, white water rafting, trip to Hawaii, loving basketball, certified LeBron hater, and ability to rock on the dance floor. Make yourself sound fun and/or you have your crap together. After that it's just a numbers game. There's nothing special about any of the women until you get to know them. They think the same of you. You're one of the many. Cast a wide net.

Thanks. Helps a lot as I didn't know how crazy/non-serious the tone should be. Also was wondering about the format/length an it seems like bullet style points vs. A paragraph is better.Will finally get crackin on this tonight and start firing away messages.

I don't get it. I thought you knew what you wanted and it was Alyssa?Why are you bothering trying to hook up if you know who you want to be with?

 

[DA RAIDERS]

Dr. Awesome, I recognize your story from like a year or two ago under an alias. Was that you?

Yes.

Just posted on your profile. Since your PM box is full.Need some help/guidance for the OKCupid profile.

Sent you my profile. Not sure if it went through as fbg went down for a bit. As you can see, it's laughably easy. Spell things properly and don't list any problems in your life are the two biggest things. After that it all comes down to your preferences/personality. Were I in your shoes I'd mention something about Vegas, white water rafting, trip to Hawaii, loving basketball, certified LeBron hater, and ability to rock on the dance floor. Make yourself sound fun and/or you have your crap together. After that it's just a numbers game. There's nothing special about any of the women until you get to know them. They think the same of you. You're one of the many. Cast a wide net.

Thanks. Helps a lot as I didn't know how crazy/non-serious the tone should be. Also was wondering about the format/length an it seems like bullet style points vs. A paragraph is better.Will finally get crackin on this tonight and start firing away messages.

I don't get it. I thought you knew what you wanted and it was Alyssa?Why are you bothering trying to hook up if you know who you want to be with?

He's not. This is a weak attempt to project the facade of moving on and not caring. Nothing will come of it until alyssa crawls off the PT long enough to shred our heroes heart again.