In the OP hypothetical, we go out of our way to say "you don't know if it is the first born or the second born." Which is the same as saying "you don't know if it is the first card picked or the second card picked." Right?
Yeah, it sounds like you have all of the math right, but this quote is the point of what little debate remains. It's not just "first born or second born". If I know that one of them is left handed, and the other one is right handed, and you tell me the left handed one is a male, that's every bit as significant as saying the taller one, the older one, or the one with more pimples is a male. Because at that point, we go from three possible combinations of BB/BG/GB:more pimple boy/less pimple boy
more pimple boy/less pimple girl
more pimple girl/less pimple boy
to
more pimple boy/less pimple boy
more pimple boy/less pimple girl
In this case, their argument is that if the father randomly selects one of their children to tell you about, then we go from three combinations to two:
boy he mentioned/boy he didn't
boy he mentioned/girl he didn't
Their argument is that if we asked the father if he has a boy, then we know that one of his kids is a boy, but we don't have any criteria by which to narrow down from 3 to 2 combinations. But the moment the father chooses to tell us that he has a boy, he is selecting one of his children to mention, and thus giving us a selection criteria.
Of course, if the boy were not randomly selected - for example, you're at a football game, you talk to the guy next to you and ask him how many kids he has, and he says two, and that boy right there's my son - then we're still looking at 2/3.