Marital Advice - Friendly camping trip too friendly? (1 Viewer)

[3C's]

Having your wife talk to him might be the biggest chicken ##### move you could make. What are you thinkin', guy?

If she is telling the truth, you're going to leave it up to her to confront the guy that took advantage of her? Not to sound all Neanderthal, but you're supposed to be the man in your relationship. You're supposed to protect your family. If she doesn't remember, what's she going to say anyway? "Ummm, hey Steve. My husband seems to think we did something in the bathroom at the campground but I don't remember anything. Oh, we didn't? Ok. Sorry to bother you."

You're the one that's managed to piece this story together. You need to confront this guy. And yes, it'll be uncomfortable. And yes, it could escalate. And yes, you're going to have to be incredibly assertive. But you are in a better position to handle anything that might come up than your wife.

Wish you the best. You talk to Steve. You and your wife talk to a marriage counselor.

This is why I refuse to vote in his poll.It's pretty much the worst option you could think of, and that is what he is doing.

MITYH, tell your wife right now under no circumstances is she to talk to Steve. Tell her you've been mulling it over, and you want to talk to him yourself, face-to-face, and that if you find out she contacts him before you do there will be hell to pay.

As for the wedding, I don't know how happy I would be if one of my guests took the opportunity at my wedding to handle his dirty laundry, especially something this potentially explosive.

Touch decision though.

Go, don't go?

Confront Steve there, don't confront him there?

There's no easy answer in this, but if you can get to him before the wedding it would be ideal.

I'd wait until he goes to the pisser at the reception, walk in behind him, and about the time he's mid-stream, ask him if he needs somebody to hold it for him.

Yeah! Then say, I can get my wife to come in here since she's done it before.

 

[dickey moe]

Holy crap -- FORTY PAGES?

Brief synopsis please.

 

[Capn Crunch]

OK, MitYH, what happens sucked. no pun intended. For you to get closure will require a couple of things:

First, TALK TO STEVE YOURSELF. I mean, seriously, if you thought that someone you know stole your golf clubs with your wife's permission, would you have her talk to the thief??? THAT'S WHAT YOU'RE DOING - ONLY IT'S YOUR WIFE'S TRUST WE'RE TALKING ABOUT, NOT A FOUR IRON!!!!! To take the analogy further, just like playing golf at Pebble Beach, talking to Steve requires a set of balls. Go find yours. If he admits that he did take advantage of her, Crunchetize ® his ###.

Second, decide whether you can forgive her for whatever happened. If so, do so completely. If not, end it with her and let her know in no uncertain language why. But sitting in the middle of that hammock is going to eventually flip you face first onto the ground and - guess what? - someone's gonna laugh.

Good luck.

 

[Sweet J]

Leave George alone. He told you that something was going multiple tiimes that night, and you did nothing. It's not his job to pry Steve off your wife, or your wife off Steve. If I was George I'd want no part of this due in large part to the way you handled/are handling this.

Precisely. George hasn't done anything wrong, here. He doesn't want to be in the middle of it. He has tried to subtlely pass on information twice: First at the camp after the bathroom trip, and then by giving your third-party friend info. He may actually talk to you about it, but he WON'T put it in email (from what I understand, you asked him about this via email, NOT over the phone). George doesn't want to put anything in writing that may get other people mad at him. Call him up, but don't get pissy at him, he hasn't done anything wrong.

 

[stbugs]

Christ man, there's no way under these circumstances that I'd be encouraging my wife to have contact with Steve, much less give her tips on how to handle the conversation.

no kidding.can't give advice to a deaf man.

His wife is either lying to him or not. If she is, then something more than the little stuff we know went on and she is covering. If only the little stuff went on, then why not just tell MITYH that is all that happened, MITYH already knows that. If she isn't lying and was that drunk, then Steve took advantage of her. We heard how Steve reacted to George's comment back at camp, and it sure didn't seem like he was so drunk to not know what happened.To me, based on Steve's cheating history, Steve taking advantage of his wife is absolutely a possibility. If so, then MITYH is absolutely being an idiot for even thinking about letting his wife talk to Steve. People are assuming that MITYH could beat Steve's ###, and I think it is probably the other way around which is why there hasn't been a confrontation yet and why he would send his wife. MITYH should know his wife and know whether or not Steve is a shark compared to her guppiness. If so, then there is a 95% chance that he did take advantage of her drunkeness and prior flirtations.I still can't believe that it seems like MITYH hasn't even thought about that angle. He is upset that something could have happened, but if he believes his wife, then he should be hugely pissed off at Steve at this point, not sending his wife on a recon mission.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Having your wife talk to him might be the biggest chicken ##### move you could make. What are you thinkin', guy?

If she is telling the truth, you're going to leave it up to her to confront the guy that took advantage of her? Not to sound all Neanderthal, but you're supposed to be the man in your relationship. You're supposed to protect your family. If she doesn't remember, what's she going to say anyway? "Ummm, hey Steve. My husband seems to think we did something in the bathroom at the campground but I don't remember anything. Oh, we didn't? Ok. Sorry to bother you."

You're the one that's managed to piece this story together. You need to confront this guy. And yes, it'll be uncomfortable. And yes, it could escalate. And yes, you're going to have to be incredibly assertive. But you are in a better position to handle anything that might come up than your wife.

Wish you the best. You talk to Steve. You and your wife talk to a marriage counselor.

This is why I refuse to vote in his poll.It's pretty much the worst option you could think of, and that is what he is doing.

MITYH, tell your wife right now under no circumstances is she to talk to Steve. Tell her you've been mulling it over, and you want to talk to him yourself, face-to-face, and that if you find out she contacts him before you do there will be hell to pay.

As for the wedding, I don't know how happy I would be if one of my guests took the opportunity at my wedding to handle his dirty laundry, especially something this potentially explosive.

Touch decision though.

Go, don't go?

Confront Steve there, don't confront him there?

There's no easy answer in this, but if you can get to him before the wedding it would be ideal.

I'd wait until he goes to the pisser at the reception, walk in behind him, and about the time he's mid-stream, ask him if he needs somebody to hold it for him.

Yeah! Then say, I can get my wife to come in here since she's done it before.

The follow-up sentence won't be necessary. He'll know.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

OK, MitYH, what happens sucked. no pun intended. For you to get closure will require a couple of things:First, TALK TO STEVE YOURSELF. I mean, seriously, if you thought that someone you know stole your golf clubs with your wife's permission, would you have her talk to the thief??? THAT'S WHAT YOU'RE DOING - ONLY IT'S YOUR WIFE'S TRUST WE'RE TALKING ABOUT, NOT A FOUR IRON!!!!! To take the analogy further, just like playing golf at Pebble Beach, talking to Steve requires a set of balls. Go find yours. If he admits that he did take advantage of her, Crunchetize ® his ###.

The only people I can imagine capable of an alias this bad are Statorama and Keys Myaths.

 

[ScottNorwood]

MAN UP

 

[millerarm]

MITYH, very sorry about all this. Not sure if this has been addressed or not:

1. Have you checked your home and wife's cell phone records?

2. Have you left messages with George and Steve?

Hang in there buddy.

 

[ElvisMonster]

...Crunchetize ® his ###.

Punch-a-size his face! For free!

 

[Strumey]

What about phone records? Email? Txt?Did you check these?This is critical information!!!!!!

Gotta post this on every page until Manhat answers this

Still no answer

 

[bigbottom]

I feel terrible for MITYH. that said...

Leave George alone. He told you that something was going multiple tiimes that night, and you did nothing. It's not his job to pry Steve off your wife, or your wife off Steve. If I was George I'd want no part of this due in large part to the way you handled/are handling this.

Well, people have different views of friendship. Steve and Manhat's wife were drinking/drunk. I would consider it my job not only as ManHat's friend, but also as their friend, to keep them from making a possibly life-altering mistake while completely ####-faced drunk.

 

[Capn Crunch]

OK, MitYH, what happens sucked. no pun intended. For you to get closure will require a couple of things:First, TALK TO STEVE YOURSELF. I mean, seriously, if you thought that someone you know stole your golf clubs with your wife's permission, would you have her talk to the thief??? THAT'S WHAT YOU'RE DOING - ONLY IT'S YOUR WIFE'S TRUST WE'RE TALKING ABOUT, NOT A FOUR IRON!!!!! To take the analogy further, just like playing golf at Pebble Beach, talking to Steve requires a set of balls. Go find yours. If he admits that he did take advantage of her, Crunchetize ® his ###.

The only people I can imagine capable of an alias this bad are Statorama and Keys Myaths.

I'll bet you eat King Vitaman. NTTIAWWT.

 

[General Malaise]

Having your wife talk to him might be the biggest chicken ##### move you could make. What are you thinkin', guy?

If she is telling the truth, you're going to leave it up to her to confront the guy that took advantage of her? Not to sound all Neanderthal, but you're supposed to be the man in your relationship. You're supposed to protect your family. If she doesn't remember, what's she going to say anyway? "Ummm, hey Steve. My husband seems to think we did something in the bathroom at the campground but I don't remember anything. Oh, we didn't? Ok. Sorry to bother you."

You're the one that's managed to piece this story together. You need to confront this guy. And yes, it'll be uncomfortable. And yes, it could escalate. And yes, you're going to have to be incredibly assertive. But you are in a better position to handle anything that might come up than your wife.

Wish you the best. You talk to Steve. You and your wife talk to a marriage counselor.

This is why I refuse to vote in his poll.It's pretty much the worst option you could think of, and that is what he is doing.

MITYH, tell your wife right now under no circumstances is she to talk to Steve. Tell her you've been mulling it over, and you want to talk to him yourself, face-to-face, and that if you find out she contacts him before you do there will be hell to pay.

As for the wedding, I don't know how happy I would be if one of my guests took the opportunity at my wedding to handle his dirty laundry, especially something this potentially explosive.

Touch decision though.

Go, don't go?

Confront Steve there, don't confront him there?

There's no easy answer in this, but if you can get to him before the wedding it would be ideal.

I'd wait until he goes to the pisser at the reception, walk in behind him, and about the time he's mid-stream, ask him if he needs somebody to hold it for him.

 

[KingVitamin]

OK, MitYH, what happens sucked. no pun intended. For you to get closure will require a couple of things:First, TALK TO STEVE YOURSELF. I mean, seriously, if you thought that someone you know stole your golf clubs with your wife's permission, would you have her talk to the thief??? THAT'S WHAT YOU'RE DOING - ONLY IT'S YOUR WIFE'S TRUST WE'RE TALKING ABOUT, NOT A FOUR IRON!!!!! To take the analogy further, just like playing golf at Pebble Beach, talking to Steve requires a set of balls. Go find yours. If he admits that he did take advantage of her, Crunchetize ® his ###.

The only people I can imagine capable of an alias this bad are Statorama and Keys Myaths.

I'll bet you eat King Vitaman. NTTIAWWT.

Got a problem with that?

 

[jonessed]

I don't like the idea of her talking to Steve to find out what happened. You left out what you told her you'd do, but unless that includes her pretending to know what happened

Exactly. And not even really to a huge extent. All I said was that if you tell him you don't remember, he'll tell you straight out nothing happened. I told her your approach has to be "Hey, I know things got a little out of control in the bathroom. I remember a lot of what went down, but I still have some gaps. What do you remember?" I then said if he says "nothing", hit him with the fact that you are aware you held his penis. The other piece of info to throw in is chest related. If it came to it, I told her to ask him who took them out, her or him?

You're crazy. I'm sorry this happened to you, but you are playing the major sucker here. If you were a friend I would slap you in the face to see if there was still life somewhere inside there.

 

[bigbottom]

Leave George alone. He told you that something was going multiple tiimes that night, and you did nothing. It's not his job to pry Steve off your wife, or your wife off Steve. If I was George I'd want no part of this due in large part to the way you handled/are handling this.

Precisely. George hasn't done anything wrong, here. He doesn't want to be in the middle of it. He has tried to subtlely pass on information twice: First at the camp after the bathroom trip, and then by giving your third-party friend info. He may actually talk to you about it, but he WON'T put it in email (from what I understand, you asked him about this via email, NOT over the phone). George doesn't want to put anything in writing that may get other people mad at him. Call him up, but don't get pissy at him, he hasn't done anything wrong.

If my drunk wife was getting frisky with some other dude (friend or otherwise) in a bathroom, I'm quite certain that my good friends would step in and put a stop to it. I know I would if it was my friend's drunk wife. And if I walked away from that bathroom with the knowledge that something might happen, and then it did happen, I would feel like complete and utter crap.

 

[Emerson Biggens]

MITYHIAFP--------->

 

[jonessed]

Leave George alone. He told you that something was going multiple tiimes that night, and you did nothing. It's not his job to pry Steve off your wife, or your wife off Steve. If I was George I'd want no part of this due in large part to the way you handled/are handling this.

Precisely. George hasn't done anything wrong, here. He doesn't want to be in the middle of it. He has tried to subtlely pass on information twice: First at the camp after the bathroom trip, and then by giving your third-party friend info. He may actually talk to you about it, but he WON'T put it in email (from what I understand, you asked him about this via email, NOT over the phone). George doesn't want to put anything in writing that may get other people mad at him. Call him up, but don't get pissy at him, he hasn't done anything wrong.

You have a bizarre sense of friendship.

 

[wildbill]

Leave George alone. He told you that something was going multiple tiimes that night, and you did nothing. It's not his job to pry Steve off your wife, or your wife off Steve. If I was George I'd want no part of this due in large part to the way you handled/are handling this.

Precisely. George hasn't done anything wrong, here. He doesn't want to be in the middle of it. He has tried to subtlely pass on information twice: First at the camp after the bathroom trip, and then by giving your third-party friend info. He may actually talk to you about it, but he WON'T put it in email (from what I understand, you asked him about this via email, NOT over the phone). George doesn't want to put anything in writing that may get other people mad at him. Call him up, but don't get pissy at him, he hasn't done anything wrong.

If my drunk wife was getting frisky with some other dude (friend or otherwise) in a bathroom, I'm quite certain that my good friends would step in and put a stop to it. I know I would if it was my friend's drunk wife. And if I walked away from that bathroom with the knowledge that something might happen, and then it did happen, I would feel like complete and utter crap.

You guys need to remember that everyone at that campsite was drunk that night. None of them were in any condition to make good decisions.

 

[Emeril]

You should find out if she was Emeril-ized. You know, he finishes in his hand and then throws it at her with a cry of "BAM !!!!"

Of course, if done underhand, and with no "BAM", then he executed the vaunted "Spiderman."

 

[Third]

next post is . . .

 

[Third]

2000!!!!!

 

[ScottNorwood]

2000

2000

 

[3C's]

2000

 

[squidrope]

MITYHIAFP--------->

just got it

 

[Micon]

I think your wife is lying about what she did and how much she knows and just is trying to hide what happened, hoping you will just stop pursuing it. She has probably fantasized about Steve for many years and has grown tired of your penis and finally found a chance to live out her fantasy. I would divorce her immediately and try to get on with you life. Sucks for the kids but it is whats best in the long run. Good luck.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

OK, guess the date and time of the 2000th post.I say Saturday July 7, 2007 at 3:52 PM.

Friday July 6th, 2007 10:30 AM

Good guess, only about an hour and a half off.

 

[Pimpin Ain't Easy]

Having your wife talk to him might be the biggest chicken ##### move you could make. What are you thinkin', guy?

If she is telling the truth, you're going to leave it up to her to confront the guy that took advantage of her? Not to sound all Neanderthal, but you're supposed to be the man in your relationship. You're supposed to protect your family. If she doesn't remember, what's she going to say anyway? "Ummm, hey Steve. My husband seems to think we did something in the bathroom at the campground but I don't remember anything. Oh, we didn't? Ok. Sorry to bother you."

You're the one that's managed to piece this story together. You need to confront this guy. And yes, it'll be uncomfortable. And yes, it could escalate. And yes, you're going to have to be incredibly assertive. But you are in a better position to handle anything that might come up than your wife.

Wish you the best. You talk to Steve. You and your wife talk to a marriage counselor.

Manhat, it sucks to be in your shoes, and I feel for ya, but I think it's pretty clear you don't want to find out the truth. If you did, you'd have to take action, and that is just not in the cards for you.

You wouldn't make a move after George told you to do so, twice, and now you want her to man up, and have the conversation with Steve. When the onus is on you, you have no clue, but when it comes to the wife doing the talking you've got all kinds of ideas, and questions that need to be asked.

No matter how this turns out, you need to take a good look in the mirror, and deal with this lack of confidence you have in yourself.

You are sending a terrible message to your wife. Either that it's ok for her to cheat, because she can get away with it, or it's ok for another man to take advantage of her. Sooner or later, it will sink in, and she will not respect you. Then you will have more problems.

Good Luck

 

[General Malaise]

I feel terrible for MITYH. that said...

Leave George alone. He told you that something was going multiple tiimes that night, and you did nothing. It's not his job to pry Steve off your wife, or your wife off Steve. If I was George I'd want no part of this due in large part to the way you handled/are handling this.

Well, people have different views of friendship. Steve and Manhat's wife were drinking/drunk. I would consider it my job not only as ManHat's friend, but also as their friend, to keep them from making a possibly life-altering mistake while completely ####-faced drunk.

I still can't believe that Steve is bold enough to advance on another man's wife WITH HIS WIFE either right there or nearbye. Either he just has no scrupals or he and his wife have done things like this before. And probably both.

 

[bigbottom]

Leave George alone. He told you that something was going multiple tiimes that night, and you did nothing. It's not his job to pry Steve off your wife, or your wife off Steve. If I was George I'd want no part of this due in large part to the way you handled/are handling this.

Precisely. George hasn't done anything wrong, here. He doesn't want to be in the middle of it. He has tried to subtlely pass on information twice: First at the camp after the bathroom trip, and then by giving your third-party friend info. He may actually talk to you about it, but he WON'T put it in email (from what I understand, you asked him about this via email, NOT over the phone). George doesn't want to put anything in writing that may get other people mad at him. Call him up, but don't get pissy at him, he hasn't done anything wrong.

If my drunk wife was getting frisky with some other dude (friend or otherwise) in a bathroom, I'm quite certain that my good friends would step in and put a stop to it. I know I would if it was my friend's drunk wife. And if I walked away from that bathroom with the knowledge that something might happen, and then it did happen, I would feel like complete and utter crap.

You guys need to remember that everyone at that campsite was drunk that night. None of them were in any condition to make good decisions.

Sure, but being drunk would probably just make me more beligerent when putting a stop to the horny couple in the pisser. George was concerned and sober enough to drop all these semi-vague hints to ManHat, but too drunk to actually step in when he saw things crossing the line? Sorry, in my book, George sorta sucks as a friend.

 

[3C's]

OK, guess the date and time of the 2000th post.I say Saturday July 7, 2007 at 3:52 PM.

Friday July 6th, 2007 10:30 AM

Good guess, only about an hour and a half off.

Ivan was off by an impressive 10 minutes.

 

[Yep]

Yellow Hat Listen to this:

Firstoff I only registered to reply to this forum topic. I had something similar happen to me. Here's the story: This guy "Joe" I was friends since the teenage years, and 2 other friends got a house to rent. My soon to be wife kinda stayed the night all the time with me. From time to time she would wake up and go to the bathroom, and come back. Then my mind started going so I asked her if she was doing anything with "joe" . Of course denial. Fast forward 14 months we have a baby boy and I go on a road trip with joe, and 2 other friends to see a show. We're sitting down talking and joe brings up the question.."What would you do if someone slept with your wife?" So being me and I'd been up for 26 hours since my work sched was messed up I told him some graphic details of what I would do. All of a sudden everyone got quiet and shut up. Now I don't know if it was sleep deprivation or what but it tweaked the brain and it got me thinking more. After the trip I asked 1 friend what he knew and he said "nothing" (possibly George in your case) So I tripped out on the wife and she said she's never done anytihng. So I asked Joe if anything happened and he too said nothing. To this day I still wonder and it kills a person to have this happen. I will tell you this I went to counseling with the wife about that and other things with her and nothing came of it. She once again denied.

If you're going to ask Steve about this he's going to lie since he too is married. Also you'll never find closure once this seed of mistrust has been planted. PERIOD. Sorry to be blunt but it's reality. I have yet to find a perfect solution since I know have kids and am still married, but still have those same thoughts and nothinig to rid me of them, but I stay for the kids since todays kids need direction. I'd love to say that if I had this kind of evidence I would flip out and beat george and steve. Friends are friends and if they're true they should tell you this stuff till it's settled. How good of friends are George and steve? If you have a true friend they'll stay with you till the end through everything AND answer your phone calls. I think there may be some denial on your part maybe for kids sake, but you'll never find closure. To me if my wife, if my wife handled another man drunk or not that means feelings ARE there not just inhibited due to alcohol. I don't have much advise but I'm a revengeful type where I would talk to steve in front of his wife, then call her a week later and hook up with her and send pics to steve. DON"T DO THIS THOUGH THAT"S WHAT I WOULD DO.

In the end the only one to know what to do which is right is you. Deep down consider everything (evidence,kids,life after) and do it. Evidence, or lack there of, is what keeps me where I'm at and the thought still eats at me. Don't let it do it to you. Remember, if you get a divorce life is not over and there's other lady's out there and above all care for those kids of yours.

Good Luck brother!

 

[Kilgore Trout]

OK, guess the date and time of the 2000th post.I say Saturday July 7, 2007 at 3:52 PM.

Friday, July 6, 2007 at 11:37 AM.

Winner winner, chicken dinner.

 

[General Malaise]

I think your wife is lying about what she did and how much she knows and just is trying to hide what happened, hoping you will just stop pursuing it. She has probably fantasized about Steve for many years and has grown tired of your penis and finally found a chance to live out her fantasy. I would divorce her immediately and try to get on with you life. Sucks for the kids but it is whats best in the long run. Good luck.

Really? This is what you chose to write here? You're just hell bent on kicking a guy in the dirt, huh? Neat.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

I think your wife is lying about what she did and how much she knows and just is trying to hide what happened, hoping you will just stop pursuing it. She has probably fantasized about Steve for many years and has grown tired of your penis and finally found a chance to live out her fantasy. I would divorce her immediately and try to get on with you life. Sucks for the kids but it is whats best in the long run. Good luck.

Really? This is what you chose to write here? You're just hell bent on kicking a guy in the dirt, huh? Neat.

Sadly, he is not the only one who was chosen to make that kind of post. Lots of insensitve #######s in the FFA.

 

[Shrek]

2000!!!!!

to padding so that you can have 2K. Where oh where is PPP when you need him? That would really complete this thread.

 

[Micon]

I think your wife is lying about what she did and how much she knows and just is trying to hide what happened, hoping you will just stop pursuing it. She has probably fantasized about Steve for many years and has grown tired of your penis and finally found a chance to live out her fantasy. I would divorce her immediately and try to get on with you life. Sucks for the kids but it is whats best in the long run. Good luck.

Really? This is what you chose to write here? You're just hell bent on kicking a guy in the dirt, huh? Neat.

the truth hurts

 

[squidrope]

Leave George alone. He told you that something was going multiple tiimes that night, and you did nothing. It's not his job to pry Steve off your wife, or your wife off Steve. If I was George I'd want no part of this due in large part to the way you handled/are handling this.

Precisely. George hasn't done anything wrong, here. He doesn't want to be in the middle of it. He has tried to subtlely pass on information twice: First at the camp after the bathroom trip, and then by giving your third-party friend info. He may actually talk to you about it, but he WON'T put it in email (from what I understand, you asked him about this via email, NOT over the phone). George doesn't want to put anything in writing that may get other people mad at him. Call him up, but don't get pissy at him, he hasn't done anything wrong.

If my drunk wife was getting frisky with some other dude (friend or otherwise) in a bathroom, I'm quite certain that my good friends would step in and put a stop to it. I know I would if it was my friend's drunk wife. And if I walked away from that bathroom with the knowledge that something might happen, and then it did happen, I would feel like complete and utter crap.

You guys need to remember that everyone at that campsite was drunk that night. None of them were in any condition to make good decisions.

Sure, but being drunk would probably just make me more beligerent when putting a stop to the horny couple in the pisser. George was concerned and sober enough to drop all these semi-vague hints to ManHat, but too drunk to actually step in when he saw things crossing the line? Sorry, in my book, George sorta sucks as a friend.

I guess I look at it differently. If Steve and Wifey are going to mess around, they're going to mess around. Even if George did hose them down that nite, what would happen next time when George wasn't around. If I were George I'd want MITYH to see it with his own eyes. This way it doesn't become George against Steve,wifey,MITYH.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Having your wife talk to him might be the biggest chicken ##### move you could make. What are you thinkin', guy?

If she is telling the truth, you're going to leave it up to her to confront the guy that took advantage of her? Not to sound all Neanderthal, but you're supposed to be the man in your relationship. You're supposed to protect your family. If she doesn't remember, what's she going to say anyway? "Ummm, hey Steve. My husband seems to think we did something in the bathroom at the campground but I don't remember anything. Oh, we didn't? Ok. Sorry to bother you."

You're the one that's managed to piece this story together. You need to confront this guy. And yes, it'll be uncomfortable. And yes, it could escalate. And yes, you're going to have to be incredibly assertive. But you are in a better position to handle anything that might come up than your wife.

Wish you the best. You talk to Steve. You and your wife talk to a marriage counselor.

This is why I refuse to vote in his poll.It's pretty much the worst option you could think of, and that is what he is doing.

MITYH, tell your wife right now under no circumstances is she to talk to Steve. Tell her you've been mulling it over, and you want to talk to him yourself, face-to-face, and that if you find out she contacts him before you do there will be hell to pay.

As for the wedding, I don't know how happy I would be if one of my guests took the opportunity at my wedding to handle his dirty laundry, especially something this potentially explosive.

Touch decision though.

Go, don't go?

Confront Steve there, don't confront him there?

There's no easy answer in this, but if you can get to him before the wedding it would be ideal.

I'd wait until he goes to the pisser at the reception, walk in behind him, and about the time he's mid-stream, ask him if he needs somebody to hold it for him.

Can you honestly think of a more effective way of kicking off the conversation? You let him know right away you know (at least some of) what happened without revealing you don't know more than that, you do it in a somewhat secluded place so as not to disrupt the wedding reception itself (Although if it were crowded in there, I wouldn't let that stop me), you're going to catch him completely off guard, and watching him stammer, stutter, and try his best to gain composure while you're completely silent after asking the question would have to bring some element of enjoyment to an otherwise unenjoyable conversation.As an added benefit, there's the distinct possibility he pees on both himself and his suit. And if he follows up with a smug answer like, "I double-DD do," you just punch him in the neck while he's peeing. It's seriously a no-lose proposition.

 

[Shrek]

Having your wife talk to him might be the biggest chicken ##### move you could make. What are you thinkin', guy?

If she is telling the truth, you're going to leave it up to her to confront the guy that took advantage of her? Not to sound all Neanderthal, but you're supposed to be the man in your relationship. You're supposed to protect your family. If she doesn't remember, what's she going to say anyway? "Ummm, hey Steve. My husband seems to think we did something in the bathroom at the campground but I don't remember anything. Oh, we didn't? Ok. Sorry to bother you."

You're the one that's managed to piece this story together. You need to confront this guy. And yes, it'll be uncomfortable. And yes, it could escalate. And yes, you're going to have to be incredibly assertive. But you are in a better position to handle anything that might come up than your wife.

Wish you the best. You talk to Steve. You and your wife talk to a marriage counselor.

This is why I refuse to vote in his poll.It's pretty much the worst option you could think of, and that is what he is doing.

MITYH, tell your wife right now under no circumstances is she to talk to Steve. Tell her you've been mulling it over, and you want to talk to him yourself, face-to-face, and that if you find out she contacts him before you do there will be hell to pay.

As for the wedding, I don't know how happy I would be if one of my guests took the opportunity at my wedding to handle his dirty laundry, especially something this potentially explosive.

Touch decision though.

Go, don't go?

Confront Steve there, don't confront him there?

There's no easy answer in this, but if you can get to him before the wedding it would be ideal.

I'd wait until he goes to the pisser at the reception, walk in behind him, and about the time he's mid-stream, ask him if he needs somebody to hold it for him.

Can you honestly think of a more effective way of kicking off the conversation? You let him know right away you know (at least some of) what happened without revealing you don't know more than that, you do it in a somewhat secluded place so as not to disrupt the wedding reception itself (Although if it were crowded in there, I wouldn't let that stop me), you're going to catch him completely off guard, and watching him stammer, stutter, and try his best to gain composure while you're completely silent after asking the question would have to bring some element of enjoyment to an otherwise unenjoyable conversation.As an added benefit, there's the distinct possibility he pees on both himself and his suit. And if he follows up with a smug answer like, "I double-DD do," you just punch him in the neck while he's peeing. It's seriously a no-lose proposition.

It's like a scene out of some Steven Seagal movie.

"You think you wanna mess with my wife, ####stick?"

 

[bigbottom]

Leave George alone. He told you that something was going multiple tiimes that night, and you did nothing. It's not his job to pry Steve off your wife, or your wife off Steve. If I was George I'd want no part of this due in large part to the way you handled/are handling this.

Precisely. George hasn't done anything wrong, here. He doesn't want to be in the middle of it. He has tried to subtlely pass on information twice: First at the camp after the bathroom trip, and then by giving your third-party friend info. He may actually talk to you about it, but he WON'T put it in email (from what I understand, you asked him about this via email, NOT over the phone). George doesn't want to put anything in writing that may get other people mad at him. Call him up, but don't get pissy at him, he hasn't done anything wrong.

If my drunk wife was getting frisky with some other dude (friend or otherwise) in a bathroom, I'm quite certain that my good friends would step in and put a stop to it. I know I would if it was my friend's drunk wife. And if I walked away from that bathroom with the knowledge that something might happen, and then it did happen, I would feel like complete and utter crap.

You guys need to remember that everyone at that campsite was drunk that night. None of them were in any condition to make good decisions.

Sure, but being drunk would probably just make me more beligerent when putting a stop to the horny couple in the pisser. George was concerned and sober enough to drop all these semi-vague hints to ManHat, but too drunk to actually step in when he saw things crossing the line? Sorry, in my book, George sorta sucks as a friend.

I guess I look at it differently. If Steve and Wifey are going to mess around, they're going to mess around. Even if George did hose them down that nite, what would happen next time when George wasn't around. If I were George I'd want MITYH to see it with his own eyes. This way it doesn't become George against Steve,wifey,MITYH.

Not on my watch. If Steve and wifey find a way to hook up when I'm not around, there's really little I can do about that. But if they're ####-faced drunk and crossing the line right in front of me, I'm putting a stop to it. This is as much about being a friend to Steve and Wifey as it is being a friend to George. Sometimes it isn't convenient to be a friend and do the right thing, and sometimes doing the right thing will piss people off.

 

[Wyldfox]

Fill this out...and let them take care of it for you.

 

[Strumey]

What about phone records? Email? Txt?Did you check these?This is critical information!!!!!!

Gotta post this on every page until Manhat answers this

 

[ScottNorwood]

LOL @ the people saying "If I were in this situation I wouldn't let my wife cheat in the first place"

 

[JFT Ben]

Having your wife talk to him might be the biggest chicken ##### move you could make. What are you thinkin', guy?

If she is telling the truth, you're going to leave it up to her to confront the guy that took advantage of her? Not to sound all Neanderthal, but you're supposed to be the man in your relationship. You're supposed to protect your family. If she doesn't remember, what's she going to say anyway? "Ummm, hey Steve. My husband seems to think we did something in the bathroom at the campground but I don't remember anything. Oh, we didn't? Ok. Sorry to bother you."

You're the one that's managed to piece this story together. You need to confront this guy. And yes, it'll be uncomfortable. And yes, it could escalate. And yes, you're going to have to be incredibly assertive. But you are in a better position to handle anything that might come up than your wife.

Wish you the best. You talk to Steve. You and your wife talk to a marriage counselor.

This is why I refuse to vote in his poll.It's pretty much the worst option you could think of, and that is what he is doing.

MITYH, tell your wife right now under no circumstances is she to talk to Steve. Tell her you've been mulling it over, and you want to talk to him yourself, face-to-face, and that if you find out she contacts him before you do there will be hell to pay.

As for the wedding, I don't know how happy I would be if one of my guests took the opportunity at my wedding to handle his dirty laundry, especially something this potentially explosive.

Touch decision though.

Go, don't go?

Confront Steve there, don't confront him there?

There's no easy answer in this, but if you can get to him before the wedding it would be ideal.

I'd wait until he goes to the pisser at the reception, walk in behind him, and about the time he's mid-stream, ask him if he needs somebody to hold it for him.

Can you honestly think of a more effective way of kicking off the conversation? You let him know right away you know (at least some of) what happened without revealing you don't know more than that, you do it in a somewhat secluded place so as not to disrupt the wedding reception itself (Although if it were crowded in there, I wouldn't let that stop me), you're going to catch him completely off guard, and watching him stammer, stutter, and try his best to gain composure while you're completely silent after asking the question would have to bring some element of enjoyment to an otherwise unenjoyable conversation.As an added benefit, there's the distinct possibility he pees on both himself and his suit. And if he follows up with a smug answer like, "I double-DD do," you just punch him in the neck while he's peeing. It's seriously a no-lose proposition.

:Guinnessguy: Brilliant!!

 

[wildbill]

Leave George alone. He told you that something was going multiple tiimes that night, and you did nothing. It's not his job to pry Steve off your wife, or your wife off Steve. If I was George I'd want no part of this due in large part to the way you handled/are handling this.

Precisely. George hasn't done anything wrong, here. He doesn't want to be in the middle of it. He has tried to subtlely pass on information twice: First at the camp after the bathroom trip, and then by giving your third-party friend info. He may actually talk to you about it, but he WON'T put it in email (from what I understand, you asked him about this via email, NOT over the phone). George doesn't want to put anything in writing that may get other people mad at him. Call him up, but don't get pissy at him, he hasn't done anything wrong.

If my drunk wife was getting frisky with some other dude (friend or otherwise) in a bathroom, I'm quite certain that my good friends would step in and put a stop to it. I know I would if it was my friend's drunk wife. And if I walked away from that bathroom with the knowledge that something might happen, and then it did happen, I would feel like complete and utter crap.

You guys need to remember that everyone at that campsite was drunk that night. None of them were in any condition to make good decisions.

Sure, but being drunk would probably just make me more beligerent when putting a stop to the horny couple in the pisser. George was concerned and sober enough to drop all these semi-vague hints to ManHat, but too drunk to actually step in when he saw things crossing the line? Sorry, in my book, George sorta sucks as a friend.

People don't make good decisions when they're drunk.

 

[General Malaise]

Having your wife talk to him might be the biggest chicken ##### move you could make. What are you thinkin', guy?

If she is telling the truth, you're going to leave it up to her to confront the guy that took advantage of her? Not to sound all Neanderthal, but you're supposed to be the man in your relationship. You're supposed to protect your family. If she doesn't remember, what's she going to say anyway? "Ummm, hey Steve. My husband seems to think we did something in the bathroom at the campground but I don't remember anything. Oh, we didn't? Ok. Sorry to bother you."

You're the one that's managed to piece this story together. You need to confront this guy. And yes, it'll be uncomfortable. And yes, it could escalate. And yes, you're going to have to be incredibly assertive. But you are in a better position to handle anything that might come up than your wife.

Wish you the best. You talk to Steve. You and your wife talk to a marriage counselor.

This is why I refuse to vote in his poll.It's pretty much the worst option you could think of, and that is what he is doing.

MITYH, tell your wife right now under no circumstances is she to talk to Steve. Tell her you've been mulling it over, and you want to talk to him yourself, face-to-face, and that if you find out she contacts him before you do there will be hell to pay.

As for the wedding, I don't know how happy I would be if one of my guests took the opportunity at my wedding to handle his dirty laundry, especially something this potentially explosive.

Touch decision though.

Go, don't go?

Confront Steve there, don't confront him there?

There's no easy answer in this, but if you can get to him before the wedding it would be ideal.

I'd wait until he goes to the pisser at the reception, walk in behind him, and about the time he's mid-stream, ask him if he needs somebody to hold it for him.

Can you honestly think of a more effective way of kicking off the conversation? You let him know right away you know (at least some of) what happened without revealing you don't know more than that, you do it in a somewhat secluded place so as not to disrupt the wedding reception itself (Although if it were crowded in there, I wouldn't let that stop me), you're going to catch him completely off guard, and watching him stammer, stutter, and try his best to gain composure while you're completely silent after asking the question would have to bring some element of enjoyment to an otherwise unenjoyable conversation.As an added benefit, there's the distinct possibility he pees on both himself and his suit. And if he follows up with a smug answer like, "I double-DD do," you just punch him in the neck while he's peeing. It's seriously a no-lose proposition.

Of course, there's a chance Steve turns around having no idea about any of this and punches Manhat in the nose before things play out like describe.Other than that, it's pretty freaking brilliant.

 

[bigbottom]

LOL @ the people saying "If I were in this situation I wouldn't let my wife cheat in the first place"

People have said that?

 

[Strumey]

Having your wife talk to him might be the biggest chicken ##### move you could make. What are you thinkin', guy?

If she is telling the truth, you're going to leave it up to her to confront the guy that took advantage of her? Not to sound all Neanderthal, but you're supposed to be the man in your relationship. You're supposed to protect your family. If she doesn't remember, what's she going to say anyway? "Ummm, hey Steve. My husband seems to think we did something in the bathroom at the campground but I don't remember anything. Oh, we didn't? Ok. Sorry to bother you."

You're the one that's managed to piece this story together. You need to confront this guy. And yes, it'll be uncomfortable. And yes, it could escalate. And yes, you're going to have to be incredibly assertive. But you are in a better position to handle anything that might come up than your wife.

Wish you the best. You talk to Steve. You and your wife talk to a marriage counselor.

This is why I refuse to vote in his poll.It's pretty much the worst option you could think of, and that is what he is doing.

MITYH, tell your wife right now under no circumstances is she to talk to Steve. Tell her you've been mulling it over, and you want to talk to him yourself, face-to-face, and that if you find out she contacts him before you do there will be hell to pay.

As for the wedding, I don't know how happy I would be if one of my guests took the opportunity at my wedding to handle his dirty laundry, especially something this potentially explosive.

Touch decision though.

Go, don't go?

Confront Steve there, don't confront him there?

There's no easy answer in this, but if you can get to him before the wedding it would be ideal.

I'd wait until he goes to the pisser at the reception, walk in behind him, and about the time he's mid-stream, ask him if he needs somebody to hold it for him.

Can you honestly think of a more effective way of kicking off the conversation? You let him know right away you know (at least some of) what happened without revealing you don't know more than that, you do it in a somewhat secluded place so as not to disrupt the wedding reception itself (Although if it were crowded in there, I wouldn't let that stop me), you're going to catch him completely off guard, and watching him stammer, stutter, and try his best to gain composure while you're completely silent after asking the question would have to bring some element of enjoyment to an otherwise unenjoyable conversation.As an added benefit, there's the distinct possibility he pees on both himself and his suit. And if he follows up with a smug answer like, "I double-DD do," you just punch him in the neck while he's peeing. It's seriously a no-lose proposition.

ding ding dingWinnah!