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[comfortably numb]

I also didnt wanna mention this before but the gf and daughter is of a nationality that has a pretty bad reputation for being money hungry conniving whores. Also, my dad bragged about her whoorish ways to his nephew. And finally shes been married and divorced 2 times before.

White?

no human lol

2:1 Brazilian

6:1 Puerto Rican

 

[Henry Ford]

I also didnt wanna mention this before but the gf and daughter is of a nationality that has a pretty bad reputation for being money hungry conniving whores. Also, my dad bragged about her whoorish ways to his nephew. And finally shes been married and divorced 2 times before.

The fact that she's really good at sex doesn't make her a whore. And your dad has every right to spend his last years making the "oh" face.

 

[shadyridr]

The best thing you could do is stop contact and move on. There are worse things in the world than not having a father or getting whatever inheritance he had.

You have a lot of anger towards him. IMO you should also work on forgiving your father, so you don't have to carry thing around for years to come.

not worried about any inheritance. If he leaves her i think i can forgive him eventually

You're not getting it. You need to move on and let what happens, happens. If he dies and your brothers get all the inheritance, you need to be fine with that.

He's not good for you or your son. He doesn't understand the meaning of respect. Do you really think that he's changed his position on dogs, or was that just a shot at you and your allergic son?

He's a cancer in your life. Remove the cancer and live free of it.

just a quick update since its a friday but i havent talked to my father since June of last year. He hasnt seen his grandson since then and has never seen his other grandson (my nephew). Fyi we didnt even have a big falling out or anything. My last post was really the last update. I just stopped texting him and he made no effort either. Im very happy with my decision and want to thank everyone for their advice. Im much happier without him in my life. My son hasnt even asked for him in a year.He did send me a $300 check for my bday in Oct of last year (he never gave me bday gifts my whole life). I sent it back to him.

 

[Bigboy10182000]

The best thing you could do is stop contact and move on. There are worse things in the world than not having a father or getting whatever inheritance he had.

You have a lot of anger towards him. IMO you should also work on forgiving your father, so you don't have to carry thing around for years to come.

not worried about any inheritance. If he leaves her i think i can forgive him eventually

You're not getting it. You need to move on and let what happens, happens. If he dies and your brothers get all the inheritance, you need to be fine with that.

He's not good for you or your son. He doesn't understand the meaning of respect. Do you really think that he's changed his position on dogs, or was that just a shot at you and your allergic son?

He's a cancer in your life. Remove the cancer and live free of it.

just a quick update since its a friday but i havent talked to my father since June of last year. He hasnt seen his grandson since then and has never seen his other grandson (my nephew). Fyi we didnt even have a big falling out or anything. My last post was really the last update. I just stopped texting him and he made no effort either. Im very happy with my decision and want to thank everyone for their advice. Im much happier without him in my life. My son hasnt even asked for him in a year.He did send me a $300 check for my bday in Oct of last year (he never gave me bday gifts my whole life). I sent it back to him.

Life is short and when he goes you'll feel pretty bad about not reaching out and trying to correct things with him. His birthday gift sounds like his attempt IMHO

 

[El Floppo]

The best thing you could do is stop contact and move on. There are worse things in the world than not having a father or getting whatever inheritance he had.

You have a lot of anger towards him. IMO you should also work on forgiving your father, so you don't have to carry thing around for years to come.

not worried about any inheritance. If he leaves her i think i can forgive him eventually

You're not getting it. You need to move on and let what happens, happens. If he dies and your brothers get all the inheritance, you need to be fine with that.

He's not good for you or your son. He doesn't understand the meaning of respect. Do you really think that he's changed his position on dogs, or was that just a shot at you and your allergic son?

He's a cancer in your life. Remove the cancer and live free of it.

just a quick update since its a friday but i havent talked to my father since June of last year. He hasnt seen his grandson since then and has never seen his other grandson (my nephew). Fyi we didnt even have a big falling out or anything. My last post was really the last update. I just stopped texting him and he made no effort either. Im very happy with my decision and want to thank everyone for their advice. Im much happier without him in my life. My son hasnt even asked for him in a year.He did send me a $300 check for my bday in Oct of last year (he never gave me bday gifts my whole life). I sent it back to him.

Life is short and when he goes you'll feel pretty bad about not reaching out and trying to correct things with him. His birthday gift sounds like his attempt IMHO

had the same thought.

you don't have to go out of your way with him... but in this case, you kind of did- to return the bday gift. a gift that isn't his normal thing- which made me think he was reaching out to you as well.

 

[jwb]

The best thing you could do is stop contact and move on. There are worse things in the world than not having a father or getting whatever inheritance he had.

You have a lot of anger towards him. IMO you should also work on forgiving your father, so you don't have to carry thing around for years to come.

not worried about any inheritance. If he leaves her i think i can forgive him eventually

You're not getting it. You need to move on and let what happens, happens. If he dies and your brothers get all the inheritance, you need to be fine with that.

He's not good for you or your son. He doesn't understand the meaning of respect. Do you really think that he's changed his position on dogs, or was that just a shot at you and your allergic son?

He's a cancer in your life. Remove the cancer and live free of it.

just a quick update since its a friday but i havent talked to my father since June of last year. He hasnt seen his grandson since then and has never seen his other grandson (my nephew). Fyi we didnt even have a big falling out or anything. My last post was really the last update. I just stopped texting him and he made no effort either. Im very happy with my decision and want to thank everyone for their advice. Im much happier without him in my life. My son hasnt even asked for him in a year.He did send me a $300 check for my bday in Oct of last year (he never gave me bday gifts my whole life). I sent it back to him.

Life is short and when he goes you'll feel pretty bad about not reaching out and trying to correct things with him. His birthday gift sounds like his attempt IMHO

I 100% disagree with this.

Some people just become toxic. I think many people would be a lot happier if they forgot that silly "blood" thing and just got rid of toxic people, instead of unhappily dealing with it out of some family obligation.

Good for you, Shady. I haven't spoken to my father in 8+ years. Cutting that tie was very good for me.

 

[Henry Ford]

The best thing you could do is stop contact and move on. There are worse things in the world than not having a father or getting whatever inheritance he had.

You have a lot of anger towards him. IMO you should also work on forgiving your father, so you don't have to carry thing around for years to come.

not worried about any inheritance. If he leaves her i think i can forgive him eventually

You're not getting it. You need to move on and let what happens, happens. If he dies and your brothers get all the inheritance, you need to be fine with that.

He's not good for you or your son. He doesn't understand the meaning of respect. Do you really think that he's changed his position on dogs, or was that just a shot at you and your allergic son?

He's a cancer in your life. Remove the cancer and live free of it.

just a quick update since its a friday but i havent talked to my father since June of last year. He hasnt seen his grandson since then and has never seen his other grandson (my nephew). Fyi we didnt even have a big falling out or anything. My last post was really the last update. I just stopped texting him and he made no effort either. Im very happy with my decision and want to thank everyone for their advice. Im much happier without him in my life. My son hasnt even asked for him in a year.He did send me a $300 check for my bday in Oct of last year (he never gave me bday gifts my whole life). I sent it back to him.

Life is short and when he goes you'll feel pretty bad about not reaching out and trying to correct things with him. His birthday gift sounds like his attempt IMHO

had the same thought.

you don't have to go out of your way with him... but in this case, you kind of did- to return the bday gift. a gift that isn't his normal thing- which made me think he was reaching out to you as well.

Wasn't exactly a "fly across the world to see him" moment. He sent the guy a check.

 

[glock]

I'm calling my boys tonight.

 

[Fennis]

Next time send the $300 this way

 

[El Floppo]

had the same thought.

you don't have to go out of your way with him... but in this case, you kind of did- to return the bday gift. a gift that isn't his normal thing- which made me think he was reaching out to you as well.

Wasn't exactly a "fly across the world to see him" moment. He sent the guy a check.

yeah- true. but it was a moment... and to me, you accept it, send a thank you and move on- without contact if that's what works. sending the check back is actively aggressive towards the dad- which is fine, if that's the relationship shady wants.

 

[Mr.Pack]

had the same thought.

you don't have to go out of your way with him... but in this case, you kind of did- to return the bday gift. a gift that isn't his normal thing- which made me think he was reaching out to you as well.

Wasn't exactly a "fly across the world to see him" moment. He sent the guy a check.

yeah- true. but it was a moment... and to me, you accept it, send a thank you and move on- without contact if that's what works. sending the check back is actively aggressive towards the dad- which is fine, if that's the relationship shady wants.

Agree.

 

[shadyridr]

cant win with you people

 

[shadyridr]

The best thing you could do is stop contact and move on. There are worse things in the world than not having a father or getting whatever inheritance he had.

You have a lot of anger towards him. IMO you should also work on forgiving your father, so you don't have to carry thing around for years to come.

not worried about any inheritance. If he leaves her i think i can forgive him eventually

You're not getting it. You need to move on and let what happens, happens. If he dies and your brothers get all the inheritance, you need to be fine with that.

He's not good for you or your son. He doesn't understand the meaning of respect. Do you really think that he's changed his position on dogs, or was that just a shot at you and your allergic son?

He's a cancer in your life. Remove the cancer and live free of it.

just a quick update since its a friday but i havent talked to my father since June of last year. He hasnt seen his grandson since then and has never seen his other grandson (my nephew). Fyi we didnt even have a big falling out or anything. My last post was really the last update. I just stopped texting him and he made no effort either. Im very happy with my decision and want to thank everyone for their advice. Im much happier without him in my life. My son hasnt even asked for him in a year.He did send me a $300 check for my bday in Oct of last year (he never gave me bday gifts my whole life). I sent it back to him.

Life is short and when he goes you'll feel pretty bad about not reaching out and trying to correct things with him. His birthday gift sounds like his attempt IMHO

had the same thought.

you don't have to go out of your way with him... but in this case, you kind of did- to return the bday gift. a gift that isn't his normal thing- which made me think he was reaching out to you as well.

Wasn't exactly a "fly across the world to see him" moment. He sent the guy a check.

yeah he mailed me a check, no card and he lives 5 minutes away from me.

 

[El Floppo]

cant win with you people

you already won, gb.

 

[17seconds]

cant win with you people

I think you should or should not have sent back the check.

 

[shadyridr]

Found out from my brother that my dad married her

 

[sbonomo]

Found out from my brother that my dad married her

Well, i think deep down you knew this was coming. Sounds like you have done a pretty good job of just moving on. Don't let this change that. You have your own family to worry about.

 

[shadyridr]

Found out from my brother that my dad married her

Well, i think deep down you knew this was coming. Sounds like you have done a pretty good job of just moving on. Don't let this change that. You have your own family to worry about.

yeah when my brother told me i just said Good Riddance. Really had no impact on my day. Also, my brother moved out and is renting his own place now so my dad has no connection to any of us now. Im assuming he will move his new step daughter and kids into the basement apartment now lol.

 

[comfortably numb]

Found out from my brother that my dad married her

Well, i think deep down you knew this was coming. Sounds like you have done a pretty good job of just moving on. Don't let this change that. You have your own family to worry about.

yeah when my brother told me i just said Good Riddance. Really had no impact on my day. Also, my brother moved out and is renting his own place now so my dad has no connection to any of us now. Im assuming he will move his new step daughter and kids into the basement apartment now lol.

Good to hear you have moved on but still sorry to hear the outcome.

 

[El Floppo]

Found out from my brother that my dad married her

Well, i think deep down you knew this was coming. Sounds like you have done a pretty good job of just moving on. Don't let this change that. You have your own family to worry about.

yeah when my brother told me i just said Good Riddance. Really had no impact on my day. Also, my brother moved out and is renting his own place now so my dad has no connection to any of us now. Im assuming he will move his new step daughter and kids into the basement apartment now lol.

Good to hear you have moved on but still sorry to hear the outcome.

Agree.

Can you talk about this stuff with your wife and brother? Moving on is great... Also healthy, imo, to still allow yourself to be pissed- ideally with a loving and sympathetic ear. Like Frosty.

 

[Frostillicus]

Wait what?

 

[popsecret]

Kind of ironic that you guys hated her for being manipulative, but made it a billion times easier for her to manipulate him by cutting him out of your lives.

Also, didn't you tell your mother you would look after your father? I guess you lied to her.

It is also selfish of you to take away your child's grandpa.

 

[comfortably numb]

Kind of ironic that you guys hated her for being manipulative, but made it a billion times easier for her to manipulate him by cutting him out of your lives.

Also, didn't you tell your mother you would look after your father? I guess you lied to her.

It is also selfish of you to take away your child's grandpa.

Em,

Your troll shtick with poptart is one of the worst ever

 

[sbonomo]

Kind of ironic that you guys hated her for being manipulative, but made it a billion times easier for her to manipulate him by cutting him out of your lives.

Also, didn't you tell your mother you would look after your father? I guess you lied to her.

It is also selfish of you to take away your child's grandpa.

em looking for another month away I see.....