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My MIL is an AMAZING woman! (1 Viewer)

shadyridr

shadyridr

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I'm trying to turn depression into happiness. My MIL has been suffering with lung cancer for two years now. My FIL (who is also an amazing person) called my wife crying yesterday that the doctor said her lungs are now failing, they are stopping the chemo, and she has 2 weeks to 2 months left to live. Obviously everyone is devastated including me. My wife is beside herself and it doesn't help that she is 8 months pregnant. Meanwhile, my MIL still has a smile on her face. They have a baby "sprinkle" planned for my wife in two weeks and my MIL is still looking forward to it.

A lot of people hate their in-laws but I definitely got lucky. I have known my MIL for 20 years now and she has never said a mean thing to me a day in my life and has always treated me and loved me like her own child. I love her more than anything and I truly hope she can hold out a few more months and not suffer too much more than she is (she has broken bones in her back and trouble breathing). She is a beautiful woman and I just want to not be depressed and instead feel joy that I have known her for so long. The hardest part is knowing how much my 6 year old son is going to miss her. He loves his Nanny more than anything and she loves him so much.

 
She sounds awesome. Damn, shady. Best of luck to you and your family and my condolences. 

I hope you are able to provide your wife and child support during this time. It will be difficult, but best of luck, again.  

 
Im sorry to hear that she doesnt have much time left. Cherish what you have. Sounds like you got lucky (so did I)

But wtf is a baby sprinkle

 
AcerFC said:
Im sorry to hear that she doesnt have much time left. Cherish what you have. Sounds like you got lucky (so did I)

But wtf is a baby sprinkle
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Its like a mini-version of a baby shower. This is our second child (first girl) and we have a 6 year old so they decided to throw her a small baby shower (called a sprinkle). I dunno its a chick thing.

 
shadyridr said:
 My wife is beside herself and it doesn't help that she is 8 months pregnant.
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Hopefully she can hold out to greet the newborn. It would be bitter sweet but likely one of those memories that would be burned into your soul and from your description of her, I bet that is her biggest goal right now.

She certainly does sound amazing and obviously will be deeply missed. Prayers for you and the family as you continue through this journey.

 
Don't just tell your MIL your feelings...show her you posted them in a forum for the world to see. 

That's not sarcasm. There's something validating about hearing positive feelings about you expressed to others. 

Your boss tells you that you did a great job. You feel good. Your boss tells HIS boss what a great job you did. You feel awesome. Dumb example, but you understand.

Granted, MIL may not "get it" as far as the FBG forum goes (so specifically telling her about this thread isn't a prerequisite), but it is a nice way of showing your feelings by telling her "I've been talking about how awesome you are and how much I love you and how much my son loves you and telling everyone I know...so I thought I should tell you, too."

Prayers are with you, shady. Losing a loved one is devastating, particularly when you feel the pain of your wife and son on top of your own. Best of luck.

 
Thoprawishes.

Sounds like you hit the jackpot with the in laws.  Best wishes for you to be able to enjoy your time with her as much as possible.

I also second the encouragement to tell her how you feel.  It would be a difficult thing for me to do as well, but I imagine it would be immensely therapeutic for all involved.

 
tell her this stuff.  and celebrate the #### out of her.  

something cool for your kids, and everyone else, would be for her to make a few recordings, where she talks about herself.  i wish i had these from my dad.  my grandpa did it and they are extremely cool.

 
shadyridr said:
I haven't. I am VERY uncomfortable saying these things to anybody but I will do so.
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Indeed, let her know how much she means to you.

Agree with Raiders above - I wish I knew more about my grandparents and what their lives were like when they were younger/etc.

And T&P's during this tough time.

 
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What I was going to say has been said. Sending ts & ps to all, and for her the strength to forge on as painlessly as possible.

 
I won the "in-law lottery" as well.  My MIL and FIL treated me like the son they never had.  I would travel around the world with my FIL, go to baseball, football, & hockey games with him, do 36-hour road trips with him.  He truly was a great friend.  Someone that I would hang-out with even if I didn't marry his daughter.  

Unfortunately, cancer took my him last year.  I really miss him.  It's hard to even think about going to a baseball game or football game without him now.

Most people talk about how hard their in-laws are to be with, but mine were (and my MIL still is) supreme-champions of in-law awesomeness.  I'm glad and lucky to still have a great MIL and if only she visited more (or we visited her more).

My heart goes out to you, shadyridr.  

 
Cancer is so awful.

My mom died of cancer two weeks ago.

Really sorry to hear about your MIL.

 
I'm grateful she got to meet and hold Riley but it doesn't seem like she'll be around for whenever Riley comes home. My poor wife is with her now. Labored breathing, went eat or drink anything. Doesnt have much time left. Justin will be devastated. 

 
shadyridr said:
I'm grateful she got to meet and hold Riley but it doesn't seem like she'll be around for whenever Riley comes home. My poor wife is with her now. Labored breathing, went eat or drink anything. Doesnt have much time left. Justin will be devastated. 
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Shady, words are hard here.  Sounds like your MIL held on long to see Riley. That's an awesome thing.

Thoughts, prayers and grace to all in your family.

 

 
shadyridr said:
I'm grateful she got to meet and hold Riley but it doesn't seem like she'll be around for whenever Riley comes home. My poor wife is with her now. Labored breathing, went eat or drink anything. Doesnt have much time left. Justin will be devastated. 
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Sorry to hear shady. Prayers to you and your family.

 
I also hit the in-law jackpot.  I know we only have so much time left with them.  I can't imagine losing one at the same time as the other stuff.  I am so sorry for her situation and so glad you had the benefit of her presence in your life.

 
Damn your family has been hit hard lately.  Very sorry to hear about your MiL.   I hope she doesn't suffer with the time she has left.

 
MIL passed away last night. #fcancer

Doctor almost hit the nail on the head when he said 2 months

 
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shadyridr said:
MIL passed away last night. #fcancer

Doctor almost hit the nail on the head when he said 2 months
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Sorry for your loss Shady. Hang in there buddy.  

At least your MIL was able to meet precious Riley before this day came and you have the beautiful picture to always look at and remember. 

 
shadyridr said:
MIL passed away last night. #fcancer

Doctor almost hit the nail on the head when he said 2 months
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Very sorry.  If it men's anything, I took a lot of consecutive blows in 2014.  You know the exponentially biggest one, but grandma and mom died all within months. Hang in there.  It gets better.

 
Damn dude. You're gonna be one tough hombre after you make it through all this and the sun comes back out. 

My condolences and best wishes man. 

 
Sorry to hear this, shady.  Hoping you continue to find strength during this difficult time.  Hang in there, Man.

 
so sorry, Shady. No words for what you are going through. I'm just glad she got to meet Riley.

 
So sorry for your loss. So glad she got to meet Riley. Now she is an angel in heaven looking out for all of you. X

 
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