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My older sister passed away today at 59 during hip surgery (1 Viewer)

Wow, sorry Guru.  When I read the thread title I was thinking your sister was likely battling something and had been sick for some time.  Not that she was an active, vital and young 59.  And passing away in that kind of shocking way ...man, I hate hospitals. 

The fact that she was such a supportive and important part of your life - makes it hurt that much more. Fifty-nine is so young (I'm 59 ...) really brings it home.

Remember the good times.  

 
Da Guru said:
I am 2 bottles of Merlot deep right now and cracking a third. Why I am posting this..not sure.  Just want to.

I grew up in a 900 sq home in Detroit, 6 people one bathroom, no air.   My parents were good hard working people who never made much money but my sister knew at a young age we had to get out and was the driving force of 4 kids that grew up in a low income family. My sister was brilliant and was determined  to get us  out of our situation.  I was the youngest and the wildest and she was on me every day. I graduated from Michigan because of her..she made sure I found every grant..and whatever was not there she paid.  She was the kind of person who was truly happier for others success more than her own.  I always thanked her for all she did for me and she always said the same thing  "You had it in you..you just needed to be kicked in the ### a few times"  Hate to imagine how my life would have turned out without her.

My sister had a full academic ride and then ended up being the CEO of 2 manufacturing firms after being in the Big 3 Auto business. On top of that she was a fitness freak...she hurt her hip skiing last year and needed surgery for a torn labrum. 

Everybody including me thinks it is routine surgery....but during surgery things started going wrong and she had a blood clot that caused a heart attack that eventually killed her. I was in the waiting room with her 2 kids and when the doctor came out to talk to us I knew right away something was wrong. We could not even comprehend what he was telling us.

I am editing as I go along because I am really drunk right now.  My sister  kept our whole family together after our parents passed, every holiday, she made sure we were all together. We were just planning our Christmas Eve and Day get together yesterday.
 

Love the people you care about..they will not be there forever. 
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Terribly tragic.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  

 
Oh, I'm so very sorry.  :(    She sounds like a fantastic person.  RIP and condolences, thoughts and prayers to you and her friends and family. 

 
Condolences. Be honored to have known so closely one of those who fulfilled the promise of life when you miss her, as i am honored to have heard a small part of her story.

 
She sounds like an awesome sister! It’s great that you thanked her a bunch for kicking you in the ### when you needed it. Keep those memories alive. Best wishes. 

Johnny Rock

 
No words can do, but it's all we have here to show.  Just know that we wish the words could help, even in a small way.

She sounds like a beacon who made the lives of everyone around her better.  And she lives on in every success you, your siblings and the next generations will have.

Hugs, GB. Wish we could do more.

 
T&P - It's sad that we always need to be reminded to thank folks when they're here instead of it just coming naturally.  Your sister sounded like an amazing person.  I'm sure her spirit lives on in the lives of everyone she helped along the way.

 
Dammit. So sorry to hear, Guru. Your sister was quite obviously the real deal. You and yours will be in my thought and prayers this holiday season.

 
I'm very sorry for your loss. 

She was a tremendous person, and I'm sure she was very proud of what you've accomplished.

 
Wow. So sorry to hear that. I have a similar older sister. I'm youngest of 6 from a low income home.... She was the reason I ended up being where I am today in my life. I named my daughter after her as she was such an influence in my life. I can't even imagine the pain you are in.  

Hang in there man.  :(   :(

 
Sorry to hear this Da Guru.  She had an amazing life and helped you all out.  Thanks for sharing some of her accomplishments.  

 
Your post saddened me deeply. I am so sorry for your loss. Your sister sounds amazing. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. 

 
Condolences Guru. I am truly sorry for your loss. She sounded like a family rock.

Thoughts and prayers.

 
My God that's awful, I'm very sorry.What an incredible lady, and a beautiful relationship the two of you had. :(

 
I feel so bad for her kids and your entire family.

It's one thing for a person to become terminally ill or die at an advanced age. Sad and a huge loss ..

but when someone healthy dies so suddenly at a relatively young age ... Tragic. 

 
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your remembrance of her - she sounds like the kind of person I try to be, and your obvious and heartfelt appreciation for all she did for you is very moving.

 
I truly appreciate all the kind words and thoughts. It does seem like I know you guys and venting here was helpful.

 I was pretty blasted when I did the OP..Did not mention that my dad passed when I was younger and that was why my sister took such a large role  in making sure all of us knew what we needed to do.

Today is the funeral and we had 30 people at our home last night.  Many relatives from out of state are now going to stay for Christmas and come to our house. It will be a nice Christmas in a different way, cousins who we never have spent Christmas with are staying..we are just missing a key person ..but like all of us who suffer these losses we go on and try to carry on traditions. I promised her this morning I would be the one now who holds things together for the family.Hope she heard me..

Enjoy your Christmas...

 
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My condolences, thoughts, and prayers to you and yours. The unexpected is always the hardest  deal with, especially when it's an accident.

 
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