Need Advise - Dealing with the Office Chatty Cathy (1 Viewer)

[Chemical X]

asking advise for my wife.

she works for a service providing company. she has become the de facto on site team leader and is well respected. because she is highly regarded, her input is often solicited. she is usually involved with providing advise and mentoring others on her team, though not officially the boss. during a group meeting (the client was not involved), her muckity mucks mentioned to her that a new team member is bright, hard working, etc......but never shuts up. this person joins in on every conversation, babbles away on every topic and involves themselves in everything from a talking standpoint. they asked if she could pass the word on to this person to limit the chatter. so, how does one tell a co-worker that a piece of feedback/advise is to shut up every so often? she is thinking to say to this person that the takeaways are they like the work, but would like to have the talking quelled, as it gives the wrong impression. it is difficult to tell someone to stop yapping to some degree.

any advise for her would be appreciated.

will answer yours

 

[mr roboto]

As someone who is prone to being that talker I would much rather have someone nicely call me out in private than let me make an ### of myself. But I'm 1. A dude and 2. Very aware of my tendency and 3. Want to be corrected if it's too much. YMMV

 

[Abraham]

I don't think it's hard to communicate at all. You tell her that everyone loves working with her but they feel their input is overlooked because she has so many ideas and so much input. Would she try to to be more mindful of letting other people participate in conversations and it is sure to generate better results for everyone.

 

[CurlyNight]

I nipped something in the bud similar by changing how I held a meeting. I don't know how large the group is, but in the practice of 15 I was in, myself, the docs, PAs would speak first with our news and such. Then we'd go around the table to each person giving them a chance to speak. Most people passed but it made them feel included and did put a time limit on the chatties. Worked very well. Everyone knew the format so they'd come prepared. Sometimes I'd put out an agenda sheet the day before so they could start with their thoughts to speak on.

 

[Dan Lambskin]

"Shut your ####-holster"

 

[Bonfire]

Bang her.

 

[Cliff Clavin]

If you do figure out how to stop a woman from talking, please share with men everywhere.

 

[belljr]

Punch her in the uterus

 

[Chemical X]

um, the chatty cathy is a dude.

 

[mr roboto]

um, the chatty cathy is a dude.

Well in that case just tell hes a great contributor but needs to talk less and listen more.

 

[Das Boot]

um, the chatty cathy is a dude.

honographRecordNeedleScratchingSound:

 

[ShamrockPride]

Bang her.

How do I get -300,000 posts?

 

[Brony]

Tell him god gave us one mouth but two ears and one ###hole. Let him do the math.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

um, the chatty cathy is a dude.

Cathy is a dumb name for a dude.

 

[Mors Venit]

um, the chatty cathy is a dude.

If its really as constant as she says this guy needs to be terminated immediately.

 

[msommer]

Send her down to Janice in Accounting

 

[Christo]

Ask for a promotion.

 

[McGarnicle]

I usually just blatantly interrupt people who do that, and change the subject. If they keep speaking, I raise my hand toward their face, palm facing outward, and say "Enough".

Come to think of it, it was my boss's idea that I should start working from home.

 

[Doctor Detroit]

Bring in a third person, as soon as she starts talking to that person, pretend you have to poop and get out of there.

Rinse and repeat, never fails.

 

[GroveDiesel]

*advice

 

[Ladsud]

This is why women should not be allowed to work.

 

[Mors Venit]

Bring in a third person, as soon as she starts talking to that person, pretend you have to poop and get out of there.

Rinse and repeat, never fails.

How long does she have to keep up this poop charade?

Eventually the entire office will start getting concerned.

 

[Mors Venit]

This is why women should not be allowed to work.

Not just this right?

 

[Mors Venit]

I usually just blatantly interrupt people who do that, and change the subject. If they keep speaking, I raise my hand toward their face, palm facing outward, and say "Enough".

Come to think of it, it was my boss's idea that I should start working from home.

Do you work at versace or something?

 

[fantasycurse42]

um, the chatty cathy is a dude.

It's Jake, from State Farm. She sounds hideous. Well she's a guy, sooo...

 

[wilked]

Why is your wife being used as a proxy for this persons boss?

Your wife has nothing to gain, plenty to lose. If the "muckity mucks" really want something done they need to talk to her boss, who should be the one providing feedback