How to Tell Someone is a Good Person by the Small Things (1 Viewer)

[Judge Smails]

I think this is a good topic and a great question. I've often thought about this myself and have a few things I'd consider for this list of being a good person....the shopping cart thing is definitely one of them!

- On your license, are you an organ donor? If 'yes' I think that is a point in favor of being a good person.
- If you are a dog owner, did you rescue or adopt the dog? If 'yes' I think that's another point in favor of being a good person. And yes, I know some people have to BUY designer dogs for allergies and there are other reasons to spend money to buy a puppy, but the world is full of animals that will be euthanized if we don't step up to give them a home. Those people are the good people, IMO.
- How does a person treat the restaurant server, bartender, staff, etc? Are you treating them all with respect, kindness and possibly with some grace if they are slammed? If I don't know you well and we're out together at a restaurant or bar, I'm judging you on how you interact with the staff there.
- Do you wave when people let you in to merge or change lanes? If you wave, I think you're a nice person who knows how to thank a person for their kindness. I find the non-wavers to be selfish and inconsiderate.


That's a few I'd add. Not sure how this helps your daughter dating, though.

Good on all of these except adoption/rescue dogs. I may - buy haven’t yet. Have had 2 amazing pure bred labs that I bought from reputable, excellent breeders. 28 great years combined with my family. Zero regrets. If that makes me a bad person so be it.

 

[Chadstroma]

I think this is a good topic and a great question. I've often thought about this myself and have a few things I'd consider for this list of being a good person....the shopping cart thing is definitely one of them!

- On your license, are you an organ donor? If 'yes' I think that is a point in favor of being a good person.
- If you are a dog owner, did you rescue or adopt the dog? If 'yes' I think that's another point in favor of being a good person. And yes, I know some people have to BUY designer dogs for allergies and there are other reasons to spend money to buy a puppy, but the world is full of animals that will be euthanized if we don't step up to give them a home. Those people are the good people, IMO.
- How does a person treat the restaurant server, bartender, staff, etc? Are you treating them all with respect, kindness and possibly with some grace if they are slammed? If I don't know you well and we're out together at a restaurant or bar, I'm judging you on how you interact with the staff there.
- Do you wave when people let you in to merge or change lanes? If you wave, I think you're a nice person who knows how to thank a person for their kindness. I find the non-wavers to be selfish and inconsiderate.


That's a few I'd add. Not sure how this helps your daughter dating, though.

Good on all of these except adoption/rescue dogs. I may - buy haven’t yet. Have had 2 amazing pure bred labs that I bought from reputable, excellent breeders. 28 great years combined with my family. Zero regrets. If that makes me a bad person so be it.

I don't think anything said here is a sure fire 100% if they do this or don't do this then you know. I think most (all?) Of what has been brought up is evidence pointing in a direction. Some better or stronger evidence than others but you have to build a case.

I do think dog adoption/rescue is a good piece of evidence. As with other evidence, it shows the ability to have empathy and think of others in need over other desires. I would never think someone who buys a pure breed is a bad person... just like I wouldn't for someone driving a BMW but do I think the percentages are higher for those who versus who adopt? I would say strongly yes just like the chance of you being a douche are better for BMW drivers over other brands. It is all about evidence.

(Apologies to BMW owners... yet again one of our kin showed themselves to be a douche on the road recently thus you catch strays here)