yeah, ok, but have the place/activity in mind - it's counter-intuitive, but girls hate making a decision right away when they're with you. they'll boss you around plenty later, but they like the guy to lead the way. trust me, i've made this mistake plenty before. you think you're being nice (and that is probably your intention as it was mine), but you come off as weak, indecisive, and not "in" enough to know where the cool places are. so, call her and be like "hey, let's me at 'Cool Restaurant' for dinner and drinks a half hour after you get off work. They have great patio seating/good desserts/great atmosphere/whatever." This shows her 1) you're confident, 2) know good dates places so you must be fun, and 3) put some individual thought into where you're taking "her" and not just looking to hang out with some girl.
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Sister Havana
Footballguy
I use Lavalife and Plentyoffish.
larry_boy_44
Footballguy
ok... I called... had place/activity in mind...
But it got shot down right away 'cuz she was open in the afternoon...
However, it was a perfect time for lunch, so I suggest that...
GREAT! Lunch is good... quick thinking gets me to Applebee's 'cuz its right off the freeway and easy for her to get to... She agrees, tells a story about how she used to work at an AppleBee's for a while but likes the food...
Then she goes to write it in her book and realizes she is fasting pretty much from Saturday until ??? (like a week she said)...
we talk a little while, consider jsut going for a walk in a park... Then she says something about ice cream/food is out unless its Friday (tommorow)...
I jump at it and was like "I'm not busy tomorow, we could do something tomorow night..."
and she's like "OK!"
then looks in her schedule...
meeting 'til 11 PM...
So I go "hey, we could still get something to eat after 11, it totally cuts down on where we can go, but its still doable..."
She goes "OK... HEY! 11 is great for ice cream, where is a good place to get ice cream around here?"
I'm like "NOOOO!!!" in my head, 'cuz all the ice cream places are closed...
BUT THEN I GET SMART!!
I say "Unfortunately all the Ice Cream places around here are closed, but how about this... I'll worry about the ice cream we'll just meet at a park and walk some and have some ice cream, ok?"
To which she is like "ABSOLUTELY!!"
So my date is tomorow at ~ 11:30 PM at a park in Waukesha... I need to be there with Ice Cream!!! She likes chocolate a lot, but pretty much likes any kind of ice cream... but doesn't like cherry anything... So I got to go with that }=o) I figure 2 Ben & Jerry somethings and some plastic spoons (we got tons at my house)...
But it got shot down right away 'cuz she was open in the afternoon...
However, it was a perfect time for lunch, so I suggest that...
GREAT! Lunch is good... quick thinking gets me to Applebee's 'cuz its right off the freeway and easy for her to get to... She agrees, tells a story about how she used to work at an AppleBee's for a while but likes the food...
Then she goes to write it in her book and realizes she is fasting pretty much from Saturday until ??? (like a week she said)...
we talk a little while, consider jsut going for a walk in a park... Then she says something about ice cream/food is out unless its Friday (tommorow)...
I jump at it and was like "I'm not busy tomorow, we could do something tomorow night..."
and she's like "OK!"
then looks in her schedule...
meeting 'til 11 PM...
So I go "hey, we could still get something to eat after 11, it totally cuts down on where we can go, but its still doable..."
She goes "OK... HEY! 11 is great for ice cream, where is a good place to get ice cream around here?"
I'm like "NOOOO!!!" in my head, 'cuz all the ice cream places are closed...
BUT THEN I GET SMART!!I say "Unfortunately all the Ice Cream places around here are closed, but how about this... I'll worry about the ice cream we'll just meet at a park and walk some and have some ice cream, ok?"
To which she is like "ABSOLUTELY!!"
So my date is tomorow at ~ 11:30 PM at a park in Waukesha... I need to be there with Ice Cream!!! She likes chocolate a lot, but pretty much likes any kind of ice cream... but doesn't like cherry anything... So I got to go with that }=o) I figure 2 Ben & Jerry somethings and some plastic spoons (we got tons at my house)...
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parasaurolophus
Footballguy
larryboyi dont know too many parks that are open in waukesha at 11:30. What about suggesting oscars?ok... I called... had place/activity in mind...But it got shot down right away 'cuz she was open in the afternoon...However, it was a perfect time for lunch, so I suggest that...GREAT! Lunch is good... quick thinking gets me to Applebee's 'cuz its right off the freeway and easy for her to get to... She agrees, tells a story about how she used to work at an AppleBee's for a while but likes the food...
we talk a little while, consider jsut going for a walk in a park... Then she says something about ice cream/food is out unless its Friday (tommorow)...I jump at it and was like "I'm not busy tomorow, we could do something tomorow night..."and she's like "OK!"
larry_boy_44
Footballguy
what parks close???There aren't any gates or anything... Are we gonna get in trouble?? Seriously?larryboyi dont know too many parks that are open in waukesha at 11:30. What about suggesting oscars?ok... I called... had place/activity in mind...But it got shot down right away 'cuz she was open in the afternoon...
parasaurolophus
Footballguy
i dont think you would get introuble, but likely the lights will all be off and it will be creepy. If a cop sees you go in, he would probably just tell you to get out.but oscars is open til midnight on the weekends. then you can always go for drinks afterwards.what parks close???There aren't any gates or anything... Are we gonna get in trouble?? Seriously?larryboyi dont know too many parks that are open in waukesha at 11:30. What about suggesting oscars?ok... I called... had place/activity in mind...But it got shot down right away 'cuz she was open in the afternoon...
larry_boy_44
Footballguy
note: I know Minooka and Frame and Sunset parks close... they have like gates and stuff...
but most of the park areas in Waukesha don't have gates or hours that I know of and I've lived here my whole life...
but most of the park areas in Waukesha don't have gates or hours that I know of and I've lived here my whole life...
larry_boy_44
Footballguy
I'm pretty sure she doesn't drink, she isn't against drinking, just doesn't do it...besides going out for drinks the night before you start fasting for a religious thing is probably not good (and suggesting it won't get me brownie points)and I think the lights where we are going are on 24/7... I'm not 100% sure, but I know I've been there past 10 or 11 and the lights were still on...i dont think you would get introuble, but likely the lights will all be off and it will be creepy. If a cop sees you go in, he would probably just tell you to get out.but oscars is open til midnight on the weekends. then you can always go for drinks afterwards.what parks close???There aren't any gates or anything... Are we gonna get in trouble?? Seriously?larryboyi dont know too many parks that are open in waukesha at 11:30. What about suggesting oscars?ok... I called... had place/activity in mind...But it got shot down right away 'cuz she was open in the afternoon...However, it was a perfect time for lunch, so I suggest that...GREAT! Lunch is good... quick thinking gets me to Applebee's 'cuz its right off the freeway and easy for her to get to... She agrees, tells a story about how she used to work at an AppleBee's for a while but likes the food...
we talk a little while, consider jsut going for a walk in a park... Then she says something about ice cream/food is out unless its Friday (tommorow)...I jump at it and was like "I'm not busy tomorow, we could do something tomorow night..."and she's like "OK!"
So I go "hey, we could still get something to eat after 11, it totally cuts down on where we can go, but its still doable..."She goes "OK... HEY! 11 is great for ice cream, where is a good place to get ice cream around here?"I'm like "NOOOO!!!" in my head, 'cuz all the ice cream places are closed...
Tremendous Upside
Footballguy
An 11:30pm meeting at a park just sounds seedy.
And honestly Larry, no disrespect intended, but what girl in her right mind agrees to meet a dude for the first time (that she met on the internet, no less) at 11:30 at night in a park?:itputsthelotioninthebasket:
larry_boy_44
Footballguy
lol...
yeah... didn't ever think of it like that... lol
Did I mention we were talking for like a half hour and it was totally natural and like Option F in our rundown of places to meet???
It wasn't like it was Plan A first thing I said, it was seriuosly the 5th or 6th different idea of time/thing to do....
yeah... didn't ever think of it like that... lol
Did I mention we were talking for like a half hour and it was totally natural and like Option F in our rundown of places to meet???
It wasn't like it was Plan A first thing I said, it was seriuosly the 5th or 6th different idea of time/thing to do....
parasaurolophus
Footballguy
and seriously wtf is up with her not drinking?
larry_boy_44
Footballguy
she jsut doesn't seem like she does it a lot or its something that she would want to do on a date is all...I don't think she's opposed or doesn't ever, just doesn't actively... (see: how I am, really)
larry_boy_44
Footballguy
It wasn't desperate or impatient... it was actually really easy and cool how the conversation went... }=o)we actually talked for like a half hour... 20 minutes of that was the rundown on things to do/not to do... lol but still... very cool all around
Disco Stu
Confirmed FBGal
In general only two types of people meet guys in the park at night - hookers and other guys.An 11:30pm meeting at a park just sounds seedy.
:itputsthelotioninthebasket:
Keys Myaths
Pokerguy
Alright, so about to ask the 32 year old for a drink. Any special play here, or treat her like I do the girls 10 years younger?
pricklypete
Footballguy
In general only two types of people meet guys in the park at night - hookers and other guys.An 11:30pm meeting at a park just sounds seedy.
:itputsthelotioninthebasket:
That's exactly what I was thinking.
Alias
Footballguy
Ask her if she likes robbing the cradle.
Keys Myaths
Pokerguy
Can't stress this enough. I like to talk when I'm in a comfortable situation, but during my last date and the convos before it I pretty much said the bare bones. During the date I smiled while she talked, asked follow up questions, and when she asked me questions just gave short, comical answers then skirted the questions. She pretty much implied she already thought I was desirable through comments like "I can't believe you're single," "your work must be so challenging... my family always wanted me to date a lawyer," etc. Why fool with this by talking about myself. I didn't and it worked.
s_ezy
Footballguy
Date 4
the very next night
we had discussed that Modest Mouse was playing downtown and thought it would be fun
i made the 45 minutes drive to her hosue to pick her up, then we made the 20 minute drive to downtown.
when we got to the ticket window she offered to pay for the tickets (very cool, she said "its not fair that the guy has to be the only one spending money on dates)
we agreed, she got the tickets i got the food and drinks, so we had some food and beer.
the venue was very open and just under a 50'x100' tent with the sides open
we got there early so we had time to hangout and enjoy good conversation and have a couple drinks
we listened to the opening 2 acts from far enough away that we could still converse and they were fine
then we made our way towards the front, at this point i stopped drinking beer and switched to water while she had one more drink
we also found out that Talib Kweli was playing a week and a half later at the house of blues, i told her we should get a group to go, so we both would talk to our friends on that one.
Modest Mouse was awesome, great band to see live.
they took all there 3 mintues songs and jammed them out to 6-8 minutes each.
after the show i took her back to her place where we agreed to do something beginning of the next week, (this was on a thursday)
obv. made out more and had another great time.
will update on date 5 either sometime this weekend or next week.
the very next night
we had discussed that Modest Mouse was playing downtown and thought it would be fun
i made the 45 minutes drive to her hosue to pick her up, then we made the 20 minute drive to downtown.
when we got to the ticket window she offered to pay for the tickets (very cool, she said "its not fair that the guy has to be the only one spending money on dates)
we agreed, she got the tickets i got the food and drinks, so we had some food and beer.
the venue was very open and just under a 50'x100' tent with the sides open
we got there early so we had time to hangout and enjoy good conversation and have a couple drinks
we listened to the opening 2 acts from far enough away that we could still converse and they were fine
then we made our way towards the front, at this point i stopped drinking beer and switched to water while she had one more drink
we also found out that Talib Kweli was playing a week and a half later at the house of blues, i told her we should get a group to go, so we both would talk to our friends on that one.
Modest Mouse was awesome, great band to see live.
they took all there 3 mintues songs and jammed them out to 6-8 minutes each.
after the show i took her back to her place where we agreed to do something beginning of the next week, (this was on a thursday)
obv. made out more and had another great time.
will update on date 5 either sometime this weekend or next week.
Disco Stu
Confirmed FBGal
Woz said:Disco Stu said:Can't stress this enough. I like to talk when I'm in a comfortable situation, but during my last date and the convos before it I pretty much said the bare bones. During the date I smiled while she talked, asked follow up questions, and when she asked me questions just gave short, comical answers then skirted the questions. She pretty much implied she already thought I was desirable through comments like "I can't believe you're single," "your work must be so challenging... my family always wanted me to date a lawyer," etc. Why fool with this by talking about myself. I didn't and it worked.
Woz actually followed the advice he was given, and it worked. Who would have guessed? 
JAA
Footballguy
hopefullylarry_boy_44 said:what parks close???There aren't any gates or anything... Are we gonna get in trouble?? Seriously?springroll said:larryboyi dont know too many parks that are open in waukesha at 11:30. What about suggesting oscars?larry_boy_44 said:ok... I called... had place/activity in mind...But it got shot down right away 'cuz she was open in the afternoon...
ditka...mike ditka
Footballguy
So I met up with that girl last night. She called me at like 845 when I had planned to be out by her at like 9 (she lives like 25 min away) and I had already figured she wasnt calling. So anyway, I hurry up and get readdy and we meet at a bar/grill about halfway. She was pretty cute but some things have me questioning it. For example, she is 24, and in october it will be her 5 year anniversary of not having a drink because she said she was an alcoholic when she was like 18-19. Which is ok, but she is thinking about celebrating her 5 year anniversary with a drink, and then starting to drink again and just control it, although her family has a long history of alcoholism. She also used to do some drugs, but again hasnt in forever, but was talking about how her job would enable her to prescribe people for certain drugs if I wanted them. Anyway, we talked for a good 4 hours and then finally called it a night. I just gave her a hug goodbye and left it at that. Not sure if im going to call her or not.
Keys Myaths
Pokerguy
Tremendous Upside
Footballguy
Wow...Good luck, but I would be
here...Celebrating 5 years of sobriety with a drink and then "handling" her drinking sound slike the worst idea ever and an almost guaranteed
JAA
Footballguy
cute or hot?you know what I mean
krista4
Footballguy
I'm going to go with "offering to get drugs for you and your friends drugs on a first date" = bad news.Ah, and I am
at larry meeting the girl late at night in a park. Can't wait for this one.
Capella
Footballguy
"Hi Larry, I'm Chris Hanson. Why don't you have a seat on this bench."Ah, and I am
Tremendous Upside
Footballguy
I was all like "Why is DrPill in here?"Avatar thief!I'm going to go with "offering to get drugs for you and your friends drugs on a first date" = bad news.Ah, and I am
Tremendous Upside
Footballguy
Jesus"Hi Larry, I'm Chris Hanson. Why don't you have a seat on this bench."Ah, and I am
krista4
Footballguy
"Hi Larry, I'm Chris Hanson. Why don't you have a seat on this bench."Ah, and I am
woah. usually girls like to make themselves look good on a first date. psycho. i've had several teenage-aged alcoholics as clients. most seemed like good people but man their life-paths are a disaster. dependency is often an offshoot of depression, anger issues, or a tendency to succumb to peer pressure which suggest a weak mind. she may be cute, but i certainly wouldn't want a buddy of mine dating a girl like her.
Keys Myaths
Pokerguy
pricklypete
Footballguy
even at that young age? just making an observation based on what i've seen. i'm sure you know i meant no offense to anyone.ETA: And I differentiate between dependency and addiction.
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parasaurolophus
Footballguy
I was actually thinking it was going to be more like "hi larry I am a senator." :tapsfoot:"Hi Larry, I'm Chris Hanson. Why don't you have a seat on this bench."Ah, and I am
Keys Myaths
Pokerguy
Disco Stu
Confirmed FBGal
To be fair, there are actually three. I had forgotten about drug dealers.pricklypete said:Disco Stu said:In general only two types of people meet guys in the park at night - hookers and other guys.Tremendous Upside said:Disco Stu said:An 11:30pm meeting at a park just sounds seedy.
:itputsthelotioninthebasket:
larry_boy_44
Footballguy
dude... she's not a hooker... or a guy... or a drug dealer...
sheesh....
I think you all are just jealous....
sheesh....
I think you all are just jealous....
