***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (1 Viewer)

[St. Louis Bob]

Just curious, are you guys sporting condoms? What if you are fixed? Do you take the "she looks clean" method?

Generally, yes. Hoping to dodge that herpes bus.It was almost never the girl's idea though. Many would just hop on, and I'd have to call timeout at some point. You have to be extremely disciplined to be safe consistently.

* a million

You decide on an OKCupid username yet GB?

Negative but she is doing everything she can to get me to start hiding (more) money.

 

[zed2283]

I'm no expert and haven't done any online dating so my opinion doesn't count for much, but I would go easy on the ultra-assertive method. I guess you don't have anything to lose, and eventually you'll probably find girls who respond positively to those remarks(and it sounds like the two girls haven't really been off put by these advances so maybe I'm way off base) But I would guess most girls get defensive/skeptical you're only looking for sex if you're dropping these lines before even meeting them/after one date.But like I said, I'm no expert. Maybe the seasoned vets can weigh in with their opinions.

I'm back in the game and I'm not going to p*ssyfoot around a whole lot. I think it works with the kind of girls I like, as long as there seems to be a little chemistry up front and you can pull it off in a silly, non-threatening way.I've got the Brazilian lined up for possibly tonight after she gets off work at 8pm (if not, then Saturday), I've got 23-yo blonde stalker on Thursday night, and I've got 22-yo 1/2 Filipina lined up for Friday night. She lives in Charlotte, an hour and a half away, but is going to meet me about halfway.

 

[PinkydaPimp]

Just curious, are you guys sporting condoms? What if you are fixed? Do you take the "she looks clean" method?

Generally, yes. Hoping to dodge that herpes bus.It was almost never the girl's idea though. Many would just hop on, and I'd have to call timeout at some point. You have to be extremely disciplined to be safe consistently.

once they have hopped on, might as well continue right?

 

[Major]

Just curious, are you guys sporting condoms? What if you are fixed? Do you take the "she looks clean" method?

Generally, yes. Hoping to dodge that herpes bus.It was almost never the girl's idea though. Many would just hop on, and I'd have to call timeout at some point. You have to be extremely disciplined to be safe consistently.

There's lots of dirty leg out there. It's crazy how many girls are willing to go raw dawg first night. Major wraps a lot but always willing to f their mouth. According to my boy The Sitch, you can't contract anything that way.

 

[Major]

Just curious, are you guys sporting condoms? What if you are fixed? Do you take the "she looks clean" method?

Never wore them, even with all the random chicks from Yahoo. I shudder when I think how stupid that was. I'd usually nut in the girl's mouth or on her face/#### if she'd let me, but I would actually take their word for it if they said they were on the pill, and did the internal shot on many occasions, even after just meeting them. Karma says I should have the herp at the very least, if not unwanted spawn. Obviously I got really lucky. I would strongly recommend wearing a condom, you just never know. Keep in mind that girls get really horny when they ovulate, so pull out at the very least (not that that's 100% either, especially if you already went that day).

 

[Major]

Oh please, please can I say something about not having to go all the way to Brazil to have a good time? Or something about private Portuguese lessons at her place? PLEEEAAASSSEEE???Just seems like too much there to let it go to waste.

I mentioned something about private lessons at her place... here was her response:

I actually live close to downtown. I would love to meet for drinks…Maybe I will bring some Brazilian books for your lesson…LOL…. NO! Too early for private lessons, but we never know in the near future.Would you like to meet Friday night?

bro - I know all the words in Brazilian Portuguese slang for women. When you see her say "Oi biscate" (be scotch). She'll probably slap you but it'll be hilarious.

 

[Major]

Okay...so whats the best line to transfer from email to phone # and date? This one girl and I are writing super long emails. She's a lot of fun and seems very into me, but I can't continue this forever. I end up spending close to an hour on each email to her.

poor bucky

 

[Major]

Okay...so whats the best line to transfer from email to phone # and date? This one girl and I are writing super long emails. She's a lot of fun and seems very into me, but I can't continue this forever. I end up spending close to an hour on each email to her.

poor bucky

you're not Brett Easton Ellis....kill the novelsget her in person asap. drinks at a cool bar.

 

[St. Louis Bob]

Just curious, are you guys sporting condoms? What if you are fixed? Do you take the "she looks clean" method?

Generally, yes. Hoping to dodge that herpes bus.It was almost never the girl's idea though. Many would just hop on, and I'd have to call timeout at some point. You have to be extremely disciplined to be safe consistently.

once they have hopped on, might as well continue right?

right

 

[offdee]

Okay...so whats the best line to transfer from email to phone # and date? This one girl and I are writing super long emails. She's a lot of fun and seems very into me, but I can't continue this forever. I end up spending close to an hour on each email to her.

poor bucky

you're not Brett Easton Ellis....kill the novelas

I'm trying. What's the best way to transfer to real world contact?

I'm a busy man...would rather spend time getting to know you better in person instead of long emails at this point. Thursday night, I'm planning to grab a drink at (cool bar name here). You should join me.

 

[Dr. Awesome]

Okay...so whats the best line to transfer from email to phone # and date? This one girl and I are writing super long emails. She's a lot of fun and seems very into me, but I can't continue this forever. I end up spending close to an hour on each email to her.

poor bucky

you're not Brett Easton Ellis....kill the novelas

I'm trying. What's the best way to transfer to real world contact?

Ask for her number and/or give her yours. Sarnoff gave fantastic advice last page on dumping your digits. Seriously - write a paragraph at most (even that is pushing it). What I'll generally write is "Let's continue this conversation in person." Then give a time, date, and place and say let me know if you prefer to meet elsewhere. You're getting there...slowly. But you're getting there. Remember - you're a guy with a lot of options. You have yet to realize this or find these options, but they're out there. Keep telling yourself you have options and it will eventually start showing up in your actions.

 

[offdee]

I always called first. I've had multiple women tell me that texting before calling seems wimpy. Once you call, however, text away.

Got it. Do I call tomorrow, or Thursday?

Geezus dude. You're gonna get eaten alive in a real life conversation. Relax a bit.

 

[OC Zed]

There are so many smoking hot chicks on here. These girls must get 100's of emails a day. Is it even worth sending one to them??? How are they single?!?!?!

No, it's better to stay home and play Black Ops

 

[Dr. Awesome]

Some chick (?) just sent me a message. She looks cute. I checked out her profile and see she has an odd look but is extremely cute. Then I read the following at the bottom of her profile:

I wasn't born or raised as a girl. However, I have always known in my heart that I was supposed to be - and this is who I really am. I'm far from complete mentally, emotionally and physically... but I'm getting better at knowing my strengths/weaknesses.Once you get to know me you'll realize that I'm just like any other girl, so please don't be too shy to message me - I promise I won't bite.

 

[zed2283]

I always called first. I've had multiple women tell me that texting before calling seems wimpy. Once you call, however, text away.

I've given my cell number to three girls since Saturday, once we decided that we were going to get together. All three of them texted me within minutes.

 

[PinkydaPimp]

Okay...so whats the best line to transfer from email to phone # and date? This one girl and I are writing super long emails. She's a lot of fun and seems very into me, but I can't continue this forever. I end up spending close to an hour on each email to her.

poor bucky

you're not Brett Easton Ellis....kill the novelsget her in person asap. drinks at a cool bar.

Bucky, your over thinking this. Just ask her is she wants to do happy hour. its really that simple.

 

[Guster]

Just curious, are you guys sporting condoms? What if you are fixed? Do you take the "she looks clean" method?

Generally, yes. Hoping to dodge that herpes bus.It was almost never the girl's idea though. Many would just hop on, and I'd have to call timeout at some point. You have to be extremely disciplined to be safe consistently.

This is my experience as well.

 

[Guster]

Figured I'd share a story of one of the more "interesting" girls that I've met online

So I went on a couple dates with this one girl off OKC. She seemed cool - was a big red sox fan, used to be a sportscaster, liked to drink, etc.

She looked pretty cute - she was a bit older than me (41 to my 34), but she seemed so fun that I figured it was worth a shot. I had been out to 2 happy hours earlier before we finally connected and decided to get together, so I was already feeling pretty good. I picked her up at her place and we went to a dive bar that she likes to go to...ok, off to a good start. We got a pitcher of beer because it was only a little more than the pric of two beers and hey, more beer, yay. After we polished that off, she asked if we could go back to my place and who am I to say no?

She put out at the end of the first date... I've got a fairly high success rate there, so not hugely shocking

In between that day and the second date (which we had set up on the first date), I started getting the feeling that she was way too into me. On the first date she had divulged some details of her past that left me a bit (abused growing up, used to be 3 inches taller but had to have some vertebrae removed after falling off a horse in a race - she was a jockey). That put me a bit on edge coupled with the fact that she was almost starting to seem a bit stalkerish with how often she'd reach out and how she'd freak out if I didn't get right back to her.

As high as my hopes had been going in, i knew i had to cut bait with this one, so I started the second date by telling her that this wasn't going anywhere serious, she was fun, but I wasn't looking for another girlfriend. She played ok with that, but I could tell she was disappointed.

We had some drinks and then she asked to go back to my place, so again, I let her... This time a bit more aprehensively. Anyway, she ends up telling me that it's her time of the month, so she ended up giving up the back door instead

After that, I dropped her off at her car and as I drove away, I saw her with her head in her arms on her steering wheel looking like she was crying

That was probably 3 weeks ago. I hadn't heard from her much after that, but just checked my OKC profile and I see that she checked me out last night



There are probably some horror stories posted in here along the way, but I'd be curious to hear some of your tales of how things didn't quite go how you expected

 

[Keerock]

:vicarious:

 

[Disco Stu]

Just curious, are you guys sporting condoms? What if you are fixed? Do you take the "she looks clean" method?

Generally, yes. Hoping to dodge that herpes bus.It was almost never the girl's idea though. Many would just hop on, and I'd have to call timeout at some point. You have to be extremely disciplined to be safe consistently.

once they have hopped on, might as well continue right?

Only if you want to risk knocking baby up in them.

 

[Major]

Just curious, are you guys sporting condoms? What if you are fixed? Do you take the "she looks clean" method?

Generally, yes. Hoping to dodge that herpes bus.It was almost never the girl's idea though. Many would just hop on, and I'd have to call timeout at some point. You have to be extremely disciplined to be safe consistently.

once they have hopped on, might as well continue right?

Only if you want to risk knocking baby up in them.

the rhythm method is

 

[Major]

Figured I'd share a story of one of the more "interesting" girls that I've met onlineSo I went on a couple dates with this one girl off OKC. She seemed cool - was a big red sox fan, used to be a sportscaster, liked to drink, etc. She looked pretty cute - she was a bit older than me (41 to my 34), but she seemed so fun that I figured it was worth a shot. I had been out to 2 happy hours earlier before we finally connected and decided to get together, so I was already feeling pretty good. I picked her up at her place and we went to a dive bar that she likes to go to...ok, off to a good start. We got a pitcher of beer because it was only a little more than the pric of two beers and hey, more beer, yay. After we polished that off, she asked if we could go back to my place and who am I to say no?She put out at the end of the first date... I've got a fairly high success rate there, so not hugely shockingIn between that day and the second date (which we had set up on the first date), I started getting the feeling that she was way too into me. On the first date she had divulged some details of her past that left me a bit (abused growing up, used to be 3 inches taller but had to have some vertebrae removed after falling off a horse in a race - she was a jockey). That put me a bit on edge coupled with the fact that she was almost starting to seem a bit stalkerish with how often she'd reach out and how she'd freak out if I didn't get right back to her. As high as my hopes had been going in, i knew i had to cut bait with this one, so I started the second date by telling her that this wasn't going anywhere serious, she was fun, but I wasn't looking for another girlfriend. She played ok with that, but I could tell she was disappointed. We had some drinks and then she asked to go back to my place, so again, I let her... This time a bit more aprehensively. Anyway, she ends up telling me that it's her time of the month, so she ended up giving up the back door instead After that, I dropped her off at her car and as I drove away, I saw her with her head in her arms on her steering wheel looking like she was crying That was probably 3 weeks ago. I hadn't heard from her much after that, but just checked my OKC profile and I see that she checked me out last night There are probably some horror stories posted in here along the way, but I'd be curious to hear some of your tales of how things didn't quite go how you expected

well played

 

[Disco Stu]

Just curious, are you guys sporting condoms? What if you are fixed? Do you take the "she looks clean" method?

Generally, yes. Hoping to dodge that herpes bus.It was almost never the girl's idea though. Many would just hop on, and I'd have to call timeout at some point. You have to be extremely disciplined to be safe consistently.

once they have hopped on, might as well continue right?

Only if you want to risk knocking baby up in them.

the rhythm method is

Charting periods is a fun first date activity.

 

[Major]

You fellas every make a girl wear a dental dam before oral? I think that will be my new schtick for birds I don't know or care about.

 

[Major]

You fellas every make a girl wear a dental dam before oral? I think that will be my new schtick for birds I don't know or care about.

Wait a second, you guys use dental dams on the ladies? I thought that was only a lesbian thing?

I don't know anyone that does so I kind of want to be that guy. They'll never forget you.

 

[Major]

Before I #### this up....is it a good move to call this girl during my lunch and ask if she wants to grab a cocktail tonight or do I wait to call until tomorrow and see if she's up for Friday?

nah, play it cool....don't text her for a few weeks.

 

[xulf]

Send peepee pics to both. First to respond gets your undivided attention.

 

[identikit]

So, it's not an issue yet, but it could turn into one. I am supposed to call this one girl i've been texting later tonight, but I'm calling this other girl to hopefully set up drinks for tonight. What's the play here?

You're pretty high maintenance, Bucky.

 

[Disco Stu]

So, it's not an issue yet, but it could turn into one. I am supposed to call this one girl i've been texting later tonight, but I'm calling this other girl to hopefully set up drinks for tonight. What's the play here?

No guy in the history of ever has passed up a date in order to talk on the phone.

 

[Disco Stu]

You fellas every make a girl wear a dental dam before oral? I think that will be my new schtick for birds I don't know or care about.

Stick to the old shtick of just not venturing down there imo.

 

[offdee]

So, it's not an issue yet, but it could turn into one. I am supposed to call this one girl i've been texting later tonight, but I'm calling this other girl to hopefully set up drinks for tonight. What's the play here?

Being busy and a lot going on in your life is attractive to women. Just tell the one you were supposed to call that an important issue came up at work that you have to deal with tonight and you'll be in touch tomorrow hopefully. Simple and effective.

 

[Keerock]

So, it's not an issue yet, but it could turn into one. I am supposed to call this one girl i've been texting later tonight, but I'm calling this other girl to hopefully set up drinks for tonight. What's the play here?

Being busy and a lot going on in your life is attractive to women. Just tell the one you were supposed to call that an important issue came up at work that you have to deal with tonight and you'll be in touch tomorrow hopefully. Simple and effective.

In other words, lie to her.

 

[Keerock]

So, it's not an issue yet, but it could turn into one. I am supposed to call this one girl i've been texting later tonight, but I'm calling this other girl to hopefully set up drinks for tonight. What's the play here?

Being busy and a lot going on in your life is attractive to women. Just tell the one you were supposed to call that an important issue came up at work that you have to deal with tonight and you'll be in touch tomorrow hopefully. Simple and effective.

In other words, lie to her.

Duh. You clearly aren't very well versed in game theory.

Correct. I'm married. No games required.

 

[Major]

You fellas every make a girl wear a dental dam before oral? I think that will be my new schtick for birds I don't know or care about.

Stick to the old shtick of just not venturing down there imo.

I keep my tongue in my mouth because I can't see down south

 

[Major]

So, it's not an issue yet, but it could turn into one. I am supposed to call this one girl i've been texting later tonight, but I'm calling this other girl to hopefully set up drinks for tonight. What's the play here?

Being busy and a lot going on in your life is attractive to women. Just tell the one you were supposed to call that an important issue came up at work that you have to deal with tonight and you'll be in touch tomorrow hopefully. Simple and effective.

Unless, they're fat chicks. Then it doesn't matter. I'd advise taking batting practice from scrubs. It's not like you need to take BP from Nolan Ryan. Find the farm animals on Match. You'll have less competition and the women will love you for it....Whenever I see a hot girl and her fat friend, I always smile at the fattie just to make her day.

 

[Disco Stu]

What's the deal with all the planned phone calls anyway? Was this their idea or yours?

Texting is almost surely what they're more comfortable with.

 

[Major]

Bucky - is there anyway I can send you a hidden camera and you film these dates? I imagine there will be some great content for the FFA. It will enable us to give you constructive criticism and help you develop your game. Also make sure before you meet said women out you visit the :style: section and get yourself some $200 jeans.

 

[Sarnoff]

:hijack:

Bucky - is there anyway I can send you a hidden camera and you film these dates for me? I imagine there will be some great content for the FFA.

I did this in college once. An episode of a show I produced was a few minutes short. We needed some filler, so I called the guys down to the studio to shoot something. No script, no plan. One of the guys didn't show. "Where's Kevin?" "Oh, he's on a date with some chick, he can't make it." There's the plan, right there. "Where'd they go?" "I think they're at Baskin Robbins." "OK, let's grab a mic and the remote cam."We stalked them and filmed them through the window. We had the Scottish exchange student stand across the street with the mic and report on it like a sideline reporter/play-by-play announcer. "It looks like it's going well from over here. Good eye contact, they're both laughing." We spliced it into the show every so often... "Let's go back and see how it's going on the date." "Well Nate, it appears things are still progressing. She just touched his arm. I think I see some tenting in his pants."We never told him or the girl. He didn't know about it until he saw it on the air two weeks later.:end hijack:

 

[Buck Bradcanon]

I would just like to point out that Bucky86 is not a Buck Bradcanon alias.

 

[UniAlias]

What's the deal with all the planned phone calls anyway? Was this their idea or yours? Texting is almost surely what they're more comfortable with.

I said I was going to call after I got off work. I'll just say I got stuck in the office if I end up going to drinks with this other girl.

Call just to talk? That sounds awful. Getting stuck on the phone with a chatty girl who rambles about the most inane #### is worse than the holocaust.

 

[offdee]

What's the deal with all the planned phone calls anyway? Was this their idea or yours? Texting is almost surely what they're more comfortable with.

I said I was going to call after I got off work. I'll just say I got stuck in the office if I end up going to drinks with this other girl.

Call just to talk? That sounds awful. Getting stuck on the phone with a chatty girl who rambles about the most inane #### is worse than the holocaust.

No kidding. This is setting a bad precedent. If need to call, make it short and sweet...2-3 minutes to finalize plans. Otherwise just stick to texting.

 

[Bogart]

So, it's not an issue yet, but it could turn into one. I am supposed to call this one girl i've been texting later tonight, but I'm calling this other girl to hopefully set up drinks for tonight. What's the play here?

No guy in the history of ever has passed up a date in order to talk on the phone.

 

[Disco Stu]

What's the deal with all the planned phone calls anyway? Was this their idea or yours? Texting is almost surely what they're more comfortable with.

I said I was going to call after I got off work. I'll just say I got stuck in the office if I end up going to drinks with this other girl.

Call just to talk? That sounds awful. Getting stuck on the phone with a chatty girl who rambles about the most inane #### is worse than the holocaust.

No kidding. This is setting a bad precedent. If need to call, make it short and sweet...2-3 minutes to finalize plans. Otherwise just stick to texting.

and Texting makes it ridiculously easy to casually date multiple girls. Especially if you don't insist on replying instantly. Lay that groundwork from the beginning.

 

[Disco Stu]

I feel like I have to do homework trying to remember these girls names and info...the two girls that are closest to meeting have very similar sounding names. I know I'm going to mess this up.

Jesus Christ.

 

[Sarnoff]

Thank god for my Google Voice account. Makes texting coordination between multiple girls much easier.

 

[identikit]

I feel like I have to do homework trying to remember these girls names and info...the two girls that are closest to meeting have very similar sounding names. I know I'm going to mess this up.

Jesus Christ.

blah blah blah. So, I'm getting mixed messages here. DO I CALL OR TEXT THE GIRL IM TRYING TAKE TO DRINKS TONIGHT!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!?

Yes.

 

[offdee]

I feel like I have to do homework trying to remember these girls names and info...the two girls that are closest to meeting have very similar sounding names. I know I'm going to mess this up.

Jesus Christ.

blah blah blah. So, I'm getting mixed messages here. DO I CALL OR TEXT THE GIRL IM TRYING TAKE TO DRINKS TONIGHT!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!?

- Do not call any women during the day on your lunch hour. You're a busy man during the day...no time for that nonsense.- When in doubt, stick to texting. (this you can do during the day. "Found a quick break between meetings. Busy day and looking forward to a drink tonight. You should join me"- In regards to texting you should rarely feel the need to reply instantly. Let it linger for a little bit and let the girl anticipate a response a little bit...shows you have a lot going on in your life and makes it exciting for the girl. Women like the chase and a little challenge. If you make it too easy for her the interest will fade quickly.

 

[Disco Stu]

I feel like I have to do homework trying to remember these girls names and info...the two girls that are closest to meeting have very similar sounding names. I know I'm going to mess this up.

Jesus Christ.

blah blah blah. So, I'm getting mixed messages here. DO I CALL OR TEXT THE GIRL IM TRYING TAKE TO DRINKS TONIGHT!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!?

- Do not call any women during the day on your lunch hour. You're a busy man during the day...no time for that nonsense.- When in doubt, stick to texting.

- In regards to texting you should rarely feel the need to reply instantly. Let it linger for a little bit and let the girl anticipate a response a little bit...shows you have a lot going on in your life and makes it exciting for the girl. Women like the chase and a little challenge. If you make it too easy for her the interest will fade quickly.

Yes to all this. The other benefit to the delayed reply is it sets a precedent. At some point she will text you while you're on a date with another girl. With the precedent set, she won't think anything of it when she doesn't hear back from you right away.

And if you can't keep 2 girls straight (TWO!!!11) you're not ready for this.

 

[UniAlias]

I feel like I have to do homework trying to remember these girls names and info...the two girls that are closest to meeting have very similar sounding names. I know I'm going to mess this up.

Jesus Christ.

blah blah blah. So, I'm getting mixed messages here. DO I CALL OR TEXT THE GIRL IM TRYING TAKE TO DRINKS TONIGHT!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!?

- Do not call any women during the day on your lunch hour. You're a busy man during the day...no time for that nonsense.- When in doubt, stick to texting.

- In regards to texting you should rarely feel the need to reply instantly. Let it linger for a little bit and let the girl anticipate a response a little bit...shows you have a lot going on in your life and makes it exciting for the girl. Women like the chase and a little challenge. If you make it too easy for her the interest will fade quickly.

Yes to all this. The other benefit to the delayed reply is it sets a precedent. At some point she will text you while you're on a date with another girl. With the precedent set, she won't think anything of it when she doesn't hear back from you right away.

And if you can't keep 2 girls straight (TWO!!!11) you're not ready for this.

Dude, but they have similar sounding names!!!

 

[PinkydaPimp]

I love this thread!