***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (2 Viewers)

[Bankerguy]

Update:Shot a 95 yesterday for my first round of the year. Brutal front 9, solid back nine. Oh, could someone teach me to putt.The date with "Sits around in her Bra" was OK. Nothing really exciting to report. Picked her up, went to a nice roof top patio type of place. Had a few Corona's, talked, a couple of laughs....blah blah.She was not as cute as her pics. See had an OK face, nice hair/lips, and great boobs. Seems like I am a boob man lately (WTF??). Everything else was very average. Not horrible or anything, but certainly not a tight body.Stardard good night kiss, see you again type of deal. I am on Vacation for a few days so I may take her to the beach to get a better look before I go in. Sorry...it's not more exciting, but it is real.

Has she been put in the "I'll take her out if I have nothing better to do" bin?

She is not a long term prospect, more of a I want to see your boobs in the next date or two prospect.

Was it just that you didn't match up intellectually or did the difference in anticipated looks vs what she really looks like disappoint you?

Yeah...both.

I hear ya. While I'm not a big believer in instant chemistry being required for a relationship (I think it can be developed over time if the basic criteria between two match pretty well), sometimes you just get that "meh" feeling. One thing to keep in mind, though, is that first dates can be weird (nerves, unfamiliarity, etc..) & may not show the norm for the person.What's your take on how it went for her?

She wants to see me again...Texted me right after the date. We'll go check out the beach today, I'l maybe get to see more and decide if I want to go in...so to speak.

 

[Woz]

Update:Shot a 95 yesterday for my first round of the year. Brutal front 9, solid back nine. Oh, could someone teach me to putt.The date with "Sits around in her Bra" was OK. Nothing really exciting to report. Picked her up, went to a nice roof top patio type of place. Had a few Corona's, talked, a couple of laughs....blah blah.She was not as cute as her pics. See had an OK face, nice hair/lips, and great boobs. Seems like I am a boob man lately (WTF??). Everything else was very average. Not horrible or anything, but certainly not a tight body.Stardard good night kiss, see you again type of deal. I am on Vacation for a few days so I may take her to the beach to get a better look before I go in. Sorry...it's not more exciting, but it is real.

Has she been put in the "I'll take her out if I have nothing better to do" bin?

She is not a long term prospect, more of a I want to see your boobs in the next date or two prospect.

Was it just that you didn't match up intellectually or did the difference in anticipated looks vs what she really looks like disappoint you?

Yeah...both.

I hear ya. While I'm not a big believer in instant chemistry being required for a relationship (I think it can be developed over time if the basic criteria between two match pretty well), sometimes you just get that "meh" feeling. One thing to keep in mind, though, is that first dates can be weird (nerves, unfamiliarity, etc..) & may not show the norm for the person.What's your take on how it went for her?

She wants to see me again...Texted me right after the date. We'll go check out the beach today, I'l maybe get to see more and decide if I want to go in...so to speak.

Hey, if she only sent you ONE text and has a decent rack, I say go for it.

 

[Woz]

1. She said she was going to kill herself. I don't care who the #### sends me that message, I'm going to react. It's bull####, I'm pissed about it, and I let her know (to probably the meanest extent I can get).

You're a moron. This is a fine reaction if you're 18.

Seriously. Your only response should have been "I hope it's not painful. Good luck."She's just manipulating you. She's not your problem. Don't ever talk to her again.

See at 18 I tend to think girls are even more likely to pull crap like this so had this happened 5 years ago I would have ignored it. But my ex has had supposed depression (which you should know about). Couple that with 6 more years of life experience to realize the gravity of saying something like that, I put the odds at her being serious at 5 percent. Well, I think that 5 percent is enough to scare the #### out of anyone, let alone someone who once cared for her a ton. Hindsight is 20/20 of course and I now wish I had ignored it completely, but I look at this situation as a possible positive for both: it makes me realize she is nuts and makes her less attractive to me and, for her, she probably got the attention she wanted and was able to ring around the guy she now has grown to hate and feel good about it.

 

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hey (psycho chick), Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though. Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after. Talk to you later Woz

 

[krista4]

hey (psycho chick), Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though. Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after. Talk to you later Woz

 

[Drifter]

May as well give an update:

plentyoffish:

1. The date I mentioned earlier has been moved to Friday night. Gonna go to a martini lounge after my ball game. I pushed to just meet her there, but she insisted I pick her up. Couple this with the fact she's e-mailed me randomly twice to moreso tell me how her days have went and texted me twice last night after I called her have me a bit worried. The content of what she's saying if fine, but I almost get the feeling that she thinks we're "dating" already. And yeah as I was typing the thread of this I got a text from her asking if I'm still at work.

Run away. Seriously. You'll probably have a chance to land her on Friday night if you want but be prepared for some serious Stalking (unless you want to jump right into a relationship)

ahem

 

[Disco Stu]

hey (psycho chick),

Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though.

Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after.

Talk to you later

Woz

:(

Jesus Woz. You all but said "see you in a few weeks... keep the texts coming!" You need to run this #### by us before hitting send.

 

[Disco Stu]

I have a small update....went out with big-assed chick. Went to the park, and threw a softball around. She is on a team as of July and wanted to get some practice in. ....anyways, we threw the ball around, then went over to her place. she showed me around, and we sat on the patio, then went to her room and looked at some pics, then proceeded to make out for about 45 minutes. some Dry H'ing, but no clothes off. she wanted to 'take it slow'.... So, I think I might be getting myself in trouble here. She is really into me, and I see her as a little bit of a fling. how is the best way to manage this to get a little action, and get out unscathed? ....or should I just ditch her, and look for the next Ms.?

What am I, Chopped Liver? I know there is no Psycho chick, but I need to know how to play this!:noob:

If you have a good time with her, nothing wrong with keeping it real casual, hanging on occasion, and leaivng it open as a possibility. No rash decisions have to be made now. In the meantime, continue to do your thing elsewhere.

:(You don't have to ditch her before looking for the next Ms. She's not your girlfriend.

 

[Disco Stu]

My update...At home w/ kid tonight.Tomorrow night taking a girl out to see my buddy's band. Not an iGirl... we met at a bar. Nice girl, 30 (or 31?), never married, no kids, cute, black, possibly too quiet. This will be our third date, but they've been very spaced out. We share a lot of the same interests, she's putting up with my lack of time, and not asking for much attention. I'm just not sure the chemistry is there. Should know more after tomorrow though...Meeting 24 year old "southern belle" student for drinks Tuesday after work. Been talking to her quite a bit at hotornot. She seems easy to talk to and very interested. She has also buried a fiance...

Just got back from this date. Chemistry improving... It's possible this one could throw a wrench in my iDating adventures. She wants to see me more often. Next plan is for her to drive out to my place Wed night to "watch a movie or something".

It's been a long time since I was single... Is "watch a movie or something" still generally known to mean "have teh secks"?Also, I now have Thursday night free (ie no kid). Trying to decide if I should set keep it open for one of these two girls, or if I should add a third one to the mix...

 

[ditka...mike ditka]

Hey guys..just thought I would check in. Im signed up for match, but have not logged in at all since i posted pictures. Friday I had a couple friends in town adn we were out till 6am then saturday i had a party at my place that went through 5 kegs and 3 things of jungle juice...needless to say all i did yesterdy was sleep. So tonight I have some cleaning to do then i plan on getting on there (i cant login from work here) and trying to get to work. Looks like some of you are off to good starts. Hopefully i can catch up!

 

[Otis]

Update: Sent psycho chick this e-mail, according to my sister it's not cool to do such a thing over e-mail but I'm honestly scared to call this chick so I deflected it by saying she can call me if she wants:hey (psycho chick), Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though. Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after. Talk to you later WozThink this works? Went with this ex's help angle. I tried not to bruise her ego and play up the whole "don't want you to be a one-nighter thing." However, I'm afraid I came off too light and she'll be calling me in two weeks - but I was really afraid about alienating the sister.

My god.

 

[Eli2Shockey]

Hey guys..just thought I would check in. Im signed up for match, but have not logged in at all since i posted pictures. Friday I had a couple friends in town adn we were out till 6am then saturday i had a party at my place that went through 5 kegs and 3 things of jungle juice...needless to say all i did yesterdy was sleep. So tonight I have some cleaning to do then i plan on getting on there (i cant login from work here) and trying to get to work. Looks like some of you are off to good starts. Hopefully i can catch up!

This is just like every FBG being able to bench 650 lbs

 

[Bankerguy]

Since I am on Vacation today and tomorrow I decided to try to meet as

many of the girls I was talking to. Tonight I am meeting "No

nonsense" This is one on the list I haven't talked about. We could

just never get on the same page for whatever reason. Anyway, I asked

out this morning.

This girl has her #### together and not someone I would try any funny

business with. I could see dating her long term if we make a

connection. Adding her pic in a second (Underground). Going for a

nice dinner, we seem to have lots in common. Update to follow tonight

as there is zero chance for secs.

Wish me well.......and could we start a Bankerguy dating fund?

Seriously, this is getting crazy.

 

[Bankerguy]

Update: Sent psycho chick this e-mail, according to my sister it's not cool to do such a thing over e-mail but I'm honestly scared to call this chick so I deflected it by saying she can call me if she wants:hey (psycho chick), Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though. Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after. Talk to you later WozThink this works? Went with this ex's help angle. I tried not to bruise her ego and play up the whole "don't want you to be a one-nighter thing." However, I'm afraid I came off too light and she'll be calling me in two weeks - but I was really afraid about alienating the sister.

My god.

Bail

 

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Adding her pic in a second (Underground).

Underground Take a note from Otis on this one guy...half the fun of this thread is linking pics to stories...

 

[Bankerguy]

Adding her pic in a second (Underground).

Underground Take a note from Otis on this one guy...half the fun of this thread is linking pics to stories...

I don't control the underground......

 

[Otis]

Adding her pic in a second (Underground).

Underground Take a note from Otis on this one guy...half the fun of this thread is linking pics to stories...

I don't control the underground......

To me there is no harm in posting a pic here or there provided there is no identifying information that traces direct back to the source. I agree, half the fun is in the pics here. And it's not like these are private pics -- these are photos the women have posted on the internet for random guys to look at and judge their physical attractiveness by. No foul here.

 

[SeveredHorseHeads]

Dear Crazy,hey (psycho chick),

Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though.

Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after.

Talk to you later

Please leave me alone.

Goodbye forever,

Woz

Fixed.

 

[Bankerguy]

Adding her pic in a second (Underground).

Underground Take a note from Otis on this one guy...half the fun of this thread is linking pics to stories...

I don't control the underground......

To me there is no harm in posting a pic here or there provided there is no identifying information that traces direct back to the source. I agree, half the fun is in the pics here. And it's not like these are private pics -- these are photos the women have posted on the internet for random guys to look at and judge their physical attractiveness by. No foul here.

I guess I feel a bit differently....to each their own. I really don't mind sharing with a select few, but not the world. Odds are.....one of these guys will go out of their way to do something for board cred and mess around.

 

[Otis]

Dear Crazy,hey (psycho chick),

Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though.

Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after.

Talk to you later

Please leave me alone.

Goodbye forever,

Woz

Fixed.

 

[Pip's Invitation]

I STILL LOVE MATCH.COM

She'll become a pharmaceutical sales rep, if she's not already. As long as you're OK with her banging doctors in order to get them to write prescriptions, go for it.

 

[Pip's Invitation]

Afterwards as she's leaving, she's going "Oh my God, why'd I do that for you, you're never gonna call me, I'm not a slut like this."

Yes she is.

BS - chick was almost too kinky.

No such thing.

 

[Pip's Invitation]

Another prospect for drinks when I get back to NY. She's cute.

I've got like 4 or 5 solid leads going now. Not sure how I'm going to squeeze all of this in. It will be exhausting and expensive. But I'll make it happen. Given my recent slump, I need to make it happen.

Fancies herself an intellectual but is feeling the biological clock ticking. Won't age well.

 

[ditka...mike ditka]

Hey guys..just thought I would check in. Im signed up for match, but have not logged in at all since i posted pictures. Friday I had a couple friends in town adn we were out till 6am then saturday i had a party at my place that went through 5 kegs and 3 things of jungle juice...needless to say all i did yesterdy was sleep. So tonight I have some cleaning to do then i plan on getting on there (i cant login from work here) and trying to get to work. Looks like some of you are off to good starts. Hopefully i can catch up!

This is just like every FBG being able to bench 650 lbs

why so? Had alot of poeple over..party started at 3 went strong till about midnight or one when a fight broke out..then there was still about 15 people there till 4 or 5. I said 3 things of jungle juice which means 3 bottles of everclear..thats really not that much with alot of people and a bbq that started getting planned about 2 months ago so all my friends new and planned to come for awhile.

 

[Pip's Invitation]

In like flynn...First question.....There is a hottie in my area that likes baseball, so I am all over that. My question is what's the opening line? (Astro's Fan)1. Do you throw like a girl?2. Astros' bring teh suck...3. Why did the rocket have to leave?4. Wanna go catch a game?Whats the FBG play here....

"You seem pretty cool... for an Astros fan."That worked for me (Phillies fan) on a Mets fan a few years ago. Of course it was said in person, not by email, so maybe something might get lost in the translation.

 

[Mrs. BSR]

Woz

I don't necessarily mean to pile on here but Lord Almighty what the hell is wrong with you? You need to get your #### together and deal with your ex. You've been advised by the guys here a million times but you continue to ignore some good advice.

Look, it's a crappy thing for you to still be so connected to your ex, no matter how much you want to deny it and give excuses for it, and then start dating other girls and possibly stringing them along. YOU ARE STILL SHARING A PHONE PLAN WITH YOUR EX!!!!!!!

Pull your head out of your ### and stop messing with the emotions of other women until you deal with your ex permanently. It's not fair to the other women. Man up and do the right thing.

Don't give excuses. Just deal with it. And I'm going to say on letting this psycho chick "take care of you" when you knew damn well you didn't want anything to do with her. Did the 20 or so text messages not give you a clue that she was going to turn into some sort of stalker? Jeez! You led her on and now you're worried about what the attorney sister is going to think?

Also, your e-mail was more along the lines of, "If you just wait for me to deal with my ex, I'll be here always" more than a "I don't want to date you so leave me alone" e-mail. You don't have to be mean but you should have been more honest with her. Now you're just going to prolong the hurt. Nice job.

 

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Woz

Egggg-xactly

 

[ragincajun]

In like flynn...First question.....There is a hottie in my area that likes baseball, so I am all over that. My question is what's the opening line? (Astro's Fan)1. Do you throw like a girl?2. Astros' bring teh suck...3. Why did the rocket have to leave?4. Wanna go catch a game?Whats the FBG play here....

"You seem pretty cool... for an Astros fan."That worked for me (Phillies fan) on a Mets fan a few years ago. Of course it was said in person, not by email, so maybe something might get lost in the translation.

Thanks pip. Thats money.Question #2I am on my way to a slimmer better looking cajun. Should I wait till the goals are met, or contact now?

 

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Question #2I am on my way to a slimmer better looking cajun. Should I wait till the goals are met, or contact now?

The time is now, GB...unless you are way off the deep end bring the skillz you've got and where appropriate let her know you're moving in a new and improved direction...she should appreciate that and might even be able to help you burn a few extra calories

 

[Team Tosh]

In like flynn...First question.....There is a hottie in my area that likes baseball, so I am all over that. My question is what's the opening line? (Astro's Fan)1. Do you throw like a girl?2. Astros' bring teh suck...3. Why did the rocket have to leave?4. Wanna go catch a game?Whats the FBG play here....

"You seem pretty cool... for an Astros fan."That worked for me (Phillies fan) on a Mets fan a few years ago. Of course it was said in person, not by email, so maybe something might get lost in the translation.

Thanks pip. Thats money.Question #2I am on my way to a slimmer better looking cajun. Should I wait till the goals are met, or contact now?

That's an interesting point. I'm in that position as well. I started eating better and have been exercising. Would like to lose the "office weight" that I put on three years ago. I still signed up. No contacts yet, but am working at it. I would still contact now. He who hesitates...you know.

 

[Pip's Invitation]

Woz apparently thinks this is a contest to see how many needy girls/stalkers can attach themselves to you. He's winning, that's for sure.

 

[Woz]

Update: Sent psycho chick this e-mail, according to my sister it's not cool to do such a thing over e-mail but I'm honestly scared to call this chick so I deflected it by saying she can call me if she wants:hey (psycho chick), Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though. Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after. Talk to you later WozThink this works? Went with this ex's help angle. I tried not to bruise her ego and play up the whole "don't want you to be a one-nighter thing." However, I'm afraid I came off too light and she'll be calling me in two weeks - but I was really afraid about alienating the sister.

My god.

what?

 

[SeveredHorseHeads]

Update:

Sent psycho chick this e-mail, according to my sister it's not cool to do such a thing over e-mail but I'm honestly scared to call this chick so I deflected it by saying she can call me if she wants:

hey (psycho chick),

Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though.

Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after.

Talk to you later

Woz

Think this works? Went with this ex's help angle. I tried not to bruise her ego and play up the whole "don't want you to be a one-nighter thing." However, I'm afraid I came off too light and she'll be calling me in two weeks - but I was really afraid about alienating the sister.

My god.

what?

Really? Start with the bolded. That's where you blew it.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Woz - please tell me that email was a joke. You should have just sent this.

Hey Crazy,

I'd like to sneak around with you on the sly while I deal with my suicidal ex. It'll be exciting. Please text more and climb through my window as necessary for "fun".

Hugs and kisses,

Wozzy Bear

 

[Woz]

Update:

Sent psycho chick this e-mail, according to my sister it's not cool to do such a thing over e-mail but I'm honestly scared to call this chick so I deflected it by saying she can call me if she wants:

hey (psycho chick),

Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though.

Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after.

Talk to you later

Woz

Think this works? Went with this ex's help angle. I tried not to bruise her ego and play up the whole "don't want you to be a one-nighter thing." However, I'm afraid I came off too light and she'll be calling me in two weeks - but I was really afraid about alienating the sister.

My god.

what?

Really? Start with the bolded. That's where you blew it.

I was trying to make her and her sister think that I wasn't going to just hit it because I could and that's all I wanted. Figured me saying I'd be up for going out again accomplished this.

 

[Disco Stu]

Update:

Sent psycho chick this e-mail, according to my sister it's not cool to do such a thing over e-mail but I'm honestly scared to call this chick so I deflected it by saying she can call me if she wants:

hey (psycho chick),

Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though.

Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after.

Talk to you later

Woz

Think this works? Went with this ex's help angle. I tried not to bruise her ego and play up the whole "don't want you to be a one-nighter thing." However, I'm afraid I came off too light and she'll be calling me in two weeks - but I was really afraid about alienating the sister.

My god.

what?

Really? Start with the bolded. That's where you blew it.

You didn't bold nearly enough.

 

[mr. furley]

Woz I don't necessarily mean to pile on here but Lord Almighty what the hell is wrong with you? You need to get your #### together and deal with your ex. You've been advised by the guys here a million times but you continue to ignore some good advice.Look, it's a crappy thing for you to still be so connected to your ex, no matter how much you want to deny it and give excuses for it, and then start dating other girls and possibly stringing them along. YOU ARE STILL SHARING A PHONE PLAN WITH YOUR EX!!!!!!! Pull your head out of your ### and stop messing with the emotions of other women until you deal with your ex permanently. It's not fair to the other women. Man up and do the right thing. Don't give excuses. Just deal with it. And I'm going to say on letting this psycho chick "take care of you" when you knew damn well you didn't want anything to do with her. Did the 20 or so text messages not give you a clue that she was going to turn into some sort of stalker? Jeez! You led her on and now you're worried about what the attorney sister is going to think? Also, your e-mail was more along the lines of, "If you just wait for me to deal with my ex, I'll be here always" more than a "I don't want to date you so leave me alone" e-mail. You don't have to be mean but you should have been more honest with her. Now you're just going to prolong the hurt. Nice job.

you know things have gone off the rails when Mrs. B is jumping your ####

 

[Disco Stu]

Update:

Sent psycho chick this e-mail, according to my sister it's not cool to do such a thing over e-mail but I'm honestly scared to call this chick so I deflected it by saying she can call me if she wants:

hey (psycho chick),

Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though.

Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after.

Talk to you later

Woz

Think this works? Went with this ex's help angle. I tried not to bruise her ego and play up the whole "don't want you to be a one-nighter thing." However, I'm afraid I came off too light and she'll be calling me in two weeks - but I was really afraid about alienating the sister.

My god.

what?

Really? Start with the bolded. That's where you blew it.

I was trying to make her and her sister think that I wasn't going to just hit it because I could and that's all I wanted. Figured me saying I'd be up for going out again accomplished this.

Very shortsighted thinking there. So what happens later when you don't actually want to go out again?It looks like you're enjoying the attention from her and want it to continue.

 

[Mrs. BSR]

I guess a few responses:1. Made up most of that #### with the ex to support my e-mail. I have not instigated any contact with her aside from checking up on the suicide text (which I'm adamant when I say I think I did the right thing). 2. I'm fine with a relationship - just not one with a psycho. 3. I didn't want to ruin this chick's ego. I slam her shut right away and she'd feel bad. This way she felt good about herself for a night or two. 4. I didn't try to "mess with her emotions." All I did was take her out for a drink, be nice to her, and answer like 1 out of every 5 texts she sent. But yeah, you make good points. I don't want to be ####### with otherwise decent girls' heads. Maybe I'm being selfish by trying to find other chicks to occupy my time and make me forget about the ex - just thought that was a decent idea and according to Jenny McCarthy (see: Cowboys' thread) a slumpbuster is a good way to do it. You made me feel though which I guess was the point.

I know you're fine with a relationship. You have to deal with your ex first and I'm not talking about the suicide crap. Either get her out of your life or marry the chick but do something.I didn't say you set out to mess with psycho chick's emotions but you did it regardless. You didn't accomplish making her feel good about herself but I have to say you need to reread that sentence as you come off as quite self serving. And you did more than just take her out for a drink and be nice to her. Don't be so naive.I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I'm trying to point out to you what everyone sees but you. Instead of looking at what you do from another's point of view, you get defensive and give reasons/excuses. Don't do that. From a woman's point of view, let me tell you that you are playing with every woman's emotions everytime you go out with one if you still have the issue of your ex hanging over your head. Don't deny it because you do. Cut the ties with her then feel free to date other women.

 

[Pip's Invitation]

Update:

Sent psycho chick this e-mail, according to my sister it's not cool to do such a thing over e-mail but I'm honestly scared to call this chick so I deflected it by saying she can call me if she wants:

hey (psycho chick),

Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though.

Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after.

Talk to you later

Woz

Think this works? Went with this ex's help angle. I tried not to bruise her ego and play up the whole "don't want you to be a one-nighter thing." However, I'm afraid I came off too light and she'll be calling me in two weeks - but I was really afraid about alienating the sister.

My god.

what?

Really? Start with the bolded. That's where you blew it.

I was trying to make her and her sister think that I wasn't going to just hit it because I could and that's all I wanted. Figured me saying I'd be up for going out again accomplished this.

No, it accomplishes making her think you actually want to go out with her again -- giving her a license to keep in contact with you. A subtle variation on "it's not you, it's me" woulda worked just fine.

 

[Kendall]

Woz, you're saying you're trying not to hurt this girl emotionally (let her down gently so to speak). You're only making things worse for her giving her hope that you know is not there. You needed to get it over with right away, she may not have liked it initially, but she would respect it a lot more than the false hop you have given her. What you did is the emotional equivalent of slowly pulling off a band-aid when you should have just given it one strong clean tug and taken it off all at once.

 

[dotman]

Update: Sent psycho chick this e-mail, according to my sister it's not cool to do such a thing over e-mail but I'm honestly scared to call this chick so I deflected it by saying she can call me if she wants:hey (psycho chick), Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though. Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after. Talk to you later WozThink this works? Went with this ex's help angle. I tried not to bruise her ego and play up the whole "don't want you to be a one-nighter thing." However, I'm afraid I came off too light and she'll be calling me in two weeks - but I was really afraid about alienating the sister.

My god.

what?

Camon man. You really think that email was good?All you had to do was tell her you're just not interested. Just because you know her sister doesn't mean you have to like her. You went out, it didn't work, so what. I think the whole thing is amusing, so by all means keep trying to justifying what you do. But you always say the advice here is good, while not following any of it.

 

[code]

Wozzy Bear

 

[Mr. Pickles]

Update: Sent psycho chick this e-mail, according to my sister it's not cool to do such a thing over e-mail but I'm honestly scared to call this chick so I deflected it by saying she can call me if she wants:hey (psycho chick), Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though. Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after. Talk to you later WozThink this works? Went with this ex's help angle. I tried not to bruise her ego and play up the whole "don't want you to be a one-nighter thing." However, I'm afraid I came off too light and she'll be calling me in two weeks - but I was really afraid about alienating the sister.

My god.

what?

This pretty much sums it up.

 

[code]

Disco Stu is good people

 

[Woz]

Update: Sent psycho chick this e-mail, according to my sister it's not cool to do such a thing over e-mail but I'm honestly scared to call this chick so I deflected it by saying she can call me if she wants:hey (psycho chick), Got in real late last night so I got all your texts then. Had dinner at my aunt's then did a marathon workout at Gold's to relieve some frustation. To answer your texts, we lost our game 12-10 and I did okay but just missed hitting a home run three separate times - just couldn't keep it fair. Appreciate the encouragement though. Anyways, I gotta let you know that the whole ex-gf thing with the suicide text has been escalating since Friday and I am legitimately worried about the effect me dating has on her. So, while it's not fair to you or me and this isn't my optimal choice, I need to relax a bit on the dating - at least for the foreseeable near future. Certainly this sucks because I did enjoy talking politics and academics with you, but given what almost happened Saturday night (which seemed like a good idea at the time, not so much after) I don't want to be "that guy" who sleeps with a girl just once and I know you don't want that to happen to. Either way though I'll certainly be up for trying again at a later date or grabbing a drink sometime, I just need to get this ex #### taken care of for now and don't want to string you along while I do so. If you have any questions, feel free to call - I'll be at work until around 5:30 or so I'm guessing (have a trial tomorrow) and likely won't be by my phone until after. Talk to you later WozThink this works? Went with this ex's help angle. I tried not to bruise her ego and play up the whole "don't want you to be a one-nighter thing." However, I'm afraid I came off too light and she'll be calling me in two weeks - but I was really afraid about alienating the sister.

My god.

what?

Camon man. You really think that email was good?All you had to do was tell her you're just not interested. Just because you know her sister doesn't mean you have to like her. You went out, it didn't work, so what. I think the whole thing is amusing, so by all means keep trying to justifying what you do. But you always say the advice here is good, while not following any of it.

I just thought the whole "this guy has ex issues" thing (suggesting it's solely my fault) is a lot easier to take than the "this guy doesn't think I'd work with him" angle (suggesting it may be something wrong with her). And I did take advice - the using the ex's suicide thing was suggested by another poster here.

 

[Bankerguy]

Disco Stu is good people

Welcome to the Underground.

 

[Woz]

When I get a chance I got some more pics for the underground.

 

[Mrs. BSR]

I just thought the whole "this guy has ex issues" thing (suggesting it's solely my fault) is a lot easier to take than the "this guy doesn't think I'd work with him" angle (suggesting it may be something wrong with her). And I did take advice - the using the ex's suicide thing was suggested by another poster here.

Yeah except you still left it open for her. You could have said you were sorry for misleading her and appreciated the time you both had but that your head isn't screwed on straight and that you have issues with the ex that will never go away, blah, blah, blah.

 

[code]

Disco Stu is good people

Welcome to the Underground.

I thought you were the one who thought I was gonna do something crazy with the photos?