CurlyNight
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We do have proof it works! Hugs!!
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We do have proof it works! Hugs!!
FFChick32
Footballguy
Uruk-Hai
Footballguy
Nah. There's been a bunch of us who have made idiots of ourselves here over the years.
Several years ago several regular posters (including a couple of female posters) in this thread set up a private group on Yahoo where we could share/critique profiles and prospective dates with a little more openness than is prudent in an open forum like this.
Uruk-Hai
Footballguy
I've read along with your adventures the last couple of days. I know it's easier said than done, but you need to relax a bit. Write other women instead of stewing over this one. If she's 25 and attractive, she is getting carpet-bombed with responses and is probably overwhelmed with options. Just chill and look at other prospects.
cstu
Footballguy
Well I definitely continue to do that. But even then it just seems like the same thing over and over. Tired of it, not sure why it always has to be so difficult. I'm starting to wonder how I ever started dating anyone before.
This particular chick really has me turned around even more than usual with the mixed signals. I mean, if you'd have seen us in the restaurant the other night, you'd have thought we had just gotten engaged or something. I mean, she HAS to be interested, right? But no, apparently not...?
cstu
Footballguy
I'm not sure how to get it into your head, but this is what women, especially hot ones, do. It's a game to keep getting free stuff out of you.
Uruk-Hai
Footballguy
You're approaching burn-out mode. Take a break from the whole thing, then. I have done a LOT of on-line dating over the years and when you start getting frustrated like that, I've found it's best to step away for a bit.
As for the woman you've been talking about - who knows? That may be her nature or maybe she's getting a monster ego boost from all of these eligible fellas doting on her. It's obvious she's not repulsed by you, but that doesn't mean you are her focus. Back off for a bit.
Uruk-Hai
Footballguy
That's the biggest bunch of crap I've read today (though, it's still only morning and I haven't yet ventured into the political threads so maybe you'll get eclipsed soon).
cstu
Footballguy
I've had a couple of women who I've known platonically tell me exactly that. One woman told me she was so broke at one point she could only afford to buy food for her kids and would go out on dates to get free food for herself.
James Daulton
Footballguy
Would a lady a little bit older be a lit less flaky perhaps? I mean I know all chicks are flaky but the flakiness does seem to fade a little bit as they age. And Zed I'm not talking anything crazy like a chick almost 40, just maybe early 30's?
Of all the chicks I've talked to the last few months, age does not seem to correlate to level of flakiness.
cstu
Footballguy
Joe T
Footballguy
Agree with this. The best way to get over / not think about a woman is to find another woman. It's not easy but it has to be done.
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Insoxicated
You're on an hour by hour basis when it comes to communication.
She's on a day by day basis when it comes to communication
You can either slow down or you will 1) Drive yourself nuts and then 2) Chase her away.
There is no other option. She isn't changing until she's ready (and may never be). Nothing you can do to speed that up.
She's on a day by day basis when it comes to communication
You can either slow down or you will 1) Drive yourself nuts and then 2) Chase her away.
There is no other option. She isn't changing until she's ready (and may never be). Nothing you can do to speed that up.
Haha... looks good. I'll have to check it out further at home. But it looks like this will be preaching to the choir. I definitely don't give in to current societal b.s.
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Joe T
Footballguy
Dude, I posted my Jamaica stories a few days ago. I could post a bunch of stories, but don't want to woz up the thread too much.
I'll update a little here. For those who missed it, I met a girl I dated before in Jamaica for the week. We live in separate cities (not close). We agreed going in to the week (her idea) this is a one time thing and just for fun. We would come out of it being friends.
We had an awesome week. On our last night there, we are in the Japanese restaurant on the resort at the hibachi thing. There are 3 or 4 other couples at the table and everyone is introducing themselves and telling where they are from etc. Most of the couples are either honeymooners or on anniversaries or are married and getting a weekend away from the kids. It gets to our turn and people ask us, what is your story? Before she can answer, with a straight face I quickly say, "Oh, we are just friends." Everyone at the table laughed. I didn't look at the girl I was with, but I could feel her glaring right through me. She then reached under the table and squeezed my leg so I would look at her and I did and could tell she was not happy.
The rest of the dinner was fine, but as soon as we walked out of the restaurant she looked at me and said, "Just friends, huh? We'll see about that." Best secks of the week that night by far.
Yada... yada... I'm meeting her in Vegas this weekend. Apparently, the one time thing has turned into at least a two time thing. Will report back.
Peyton Marino
Footballguy
classic Joe T!
offdee
Footballguy
zed and I have been PMing the past couple of days and I've been guiding a bit. This in a nutshell is what I keep trying to instill in his mindset.
zed, honest question and not meant to be harsh whatsoever, science only...NTTAWWT, but where are you on the attractiveness scale? I know what this girl looks like and gave you my off-ficial rating (tm), so want to see how that stacks up.
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Insoxicated
nice work JoeTAsk your gf
. Just kidding. I guess shouldn't take the blonde's repeated "hey, handsome" as any indication, but she did initiate contact on the website by liking a pic of mine. I guess I'll PM you and you can tell me.
offdee
Footballguy
I'm not in the business of rating dudes...no need to send pic (please)! Was just wanting to get your honest self-evaluation....deep down you know...are you in the same tier as her when it comes strictly to looks?Ask your gf
For girls they can usually drop a full point compared to them if the guy has other great intangibles
Joe T
Footballguy
Too late, PM sent. I included the famous red ribbed v-neck ensemble to give you some pointers.
No way I'm in the same tier as her on looks.
offdee
Footballguy
Does that red vneck have a sheen to it?!?!
As I PM'd you, don't sell yourself short...you're a handsome man. You're within the acceptable range of her that she would accept....just gotta keep those intangibles going to keep her excited.
Uruk-Hai
Footballguy
I know women like that, too (plus some guys), but you used a mile-wide brush to paint a narrow strip.
wilked
Footballguy
Three analogies I can give you zed, choose the one you like best
-Starting a fire. Starting a fire is all about the prep, gather small kindling, etc. Set it up right, take your time, start the fire. Do you put big logs on it? Nope, you wait, then slowly add some bigger sticks, and later some big logs angled around the growing fire, all slowly and with patience so you don't smother it / put it out. Gotta let the fire build, and gotta have a little patience.
-Getting a cat to chill with you. If you walk straight over the cat runs off. If you sit there, eventually the cat comes over and rubs against your leg. Next thing is to hold your hand down, let the cat sniff, judge, grant permission. Cat will let you pet her, but if you go near her face or underbelly right away cat will bite / take off. Pet long enough / cat likes you, eventually the cat will roll over and want some petting on the underbelly. If that same cat doesn't approach you for a day or two, is it because the cat doesn't like you? Nope. They cat just has other interests.
-Growing food in the garden. You plant a seed, wait. You dump a bunch of water on it / poke it / prod it that seed ain't doing ####. So what else do you? You don't plant one seed. You plant 2/3 per area, and you plant multiple rows. Plant seeds, then you wait and watch, play it cool. Eventually you will get some small plants poking out. If you have two plants developing in the same area, what do you do? You let them both keep going for a short while, but before long you pluck one out, focus on just one, but by that point the plant is progressing well and will continue to develop on its own. Multiple plants in multiple rows, no problem. And you diversify your plants to ensure maximum production.
There's something to learn in each of those for you. I leave it to the student to interpret and incorporate.
-Starting a fire. Starting a fire is all about the prep, gather small kindling, etc. Set it up right, take your time, start the fire. Do you put big logs on it? Nope, you wait, then slowly add some bigger sticks, and later some big logs angled around the growing fire, all slowly and with patience so you don't smother it / put it out. Gotta let the fire build, and gotta have a little patience.
-Getting a cat to chill with you. If you walk straight over the cat runs off. If you sit there, eventually the cat comes over and rubs against your leg. Next thing is to hold your hand down, let the cat sniff, judge, grant permission. Cat will let you pet her, but if you go near her face or underbelly right away cat will bite / take off. Pet long enough / cat likes you, eventually the cat will roll over and want some petting on the underbelly. If that same cat doesn't approach you for a day or two, is it because the cat doesn't like you? Nope. They cat just has other interests.
-Growing food in the garden. You plant a seed, wait. You dump a bunch of water on it / poke it / prod it that seed ain't doing ####. So what else do you? You don't plant one seed. You plant 2/3 per area, and you plant multiple rows. Plant seeds, then you wait and watch, play it cool. Eventually you will get some small plants poking out. If you have two plants developing in the same area, what do you do? You let them both keep going for a short while, but before long you pluck one out, focus on just one, but by that point the plant is progressing well and will continue to develop on its own. Multiple plants in multiple rows, no problem. And you diversify your plants to ensure maximum production.
There's something to learn in each of those for you. I leave it to the student to interpret and incorporate.
The Grizz
Footballguy
You guys want to help me brainstorm a solid opening message to the hot, tight blonde attorney that I posted about in my other thread? I've never really sent any opening messages on Tinder, except when not giving a #### on vacation. I just don't want my opener to get brushed aside amongst the many other messages that she must get on Tinder.
Here are some pics:
I need to hook her
I'd put in Nathan Jessep work to trade places with that tree
My Khaleesi
Tight! Tight! Tight! Tight!
Here is her profile:
"How romantic. Chances are you're swiping while pooping. Tinder is one big #### show, but alas, here I am fingers crossed you wash your hands before we meet.
(If you're posing next to a dead animal in your pics, then I already called you a Bambi-killing piece of #### and possibly told you to die in a fire... so this would never work.)"
Here are some pics:
I need to hook her
I'd put in Nathan Jessep work to trade places with that tree
My Khaleesi
Tight! Tight! Tight! Tight!
Here is her profile:
"How romantic. Chances are you're swiping while pooping. Tinder is one big #### show, but alas, here I am fingers crossed you wash your hands before we meet.
(If you're posing next to a dead animal in your pics, then I already called you a Bambi-killing piece of #### and possibly told you to die in a fire... so this would never work.)"
Johnny Rock
Footballguy
Man, that was an epic story and of course I meant no disrespect. It's cool that you're going for round two! Maybe it will be a quarterly fling? So awesome.
Was that post only a few days ago? I was more about asking for other fathers to step up and post. Keep up the great work and feel free to pm me the pics.
The Grizz
Footballguy
Obviously she was pleased with it.V-neck tshirts are fine. It's the "ribbed" part that concerns me.
Johnny Rock
Footballguy
cstu
Footballguy
Women are looking to meet men for the following reasons:
- to ####
- for the attention
- to get free meals/gifts (the short con)
- to get married and have a guy take care of her and the kids (the long con)
Matched with this girl on Tinder yesterday. She has a quote on her profile "Girls are not machines that you put kindness coins into until sex falls out. -Sylvia Plath"
Her profile goes on to say:
- Fine dining
- Movie buff
- Biology majoy
- Summer intern
- soaking my feet in the sand
- Seeking Sugar D.
Her profile goes on to say:
- Fine dining
- Movie buff
- Biology majoy
- Summer intern
- soaking my feet in the sand
- Seeking Sugar D.
Weebs210
Footballguy
CurlyNight
Footballguy
This and I don't get why he's complaining. I thought he loves playing the field because with that kind of age difference, you need to be well to do or a great daddy fill in. I think I already posted this somewhere but I was a young hottie of 23 who was charmed into marrying a 46 year old because I kind of talked myself that I was in love. He was good looking, a great daddy fill in and well to do. After a year it ended when I realised I was in love with getting away from parents trying to control me. If he's looking for longer term then he's in the wrong age range. I haven't met a young hottie who isn't into having fun, which means playing the field. Hanging all over you and flirting doesn't necessarily mean she's into you beyond that date. She's into you at that time and next time is always tbd.
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CurlyNight
Footballguy
Kraft...
Footballguy
CurlyNight
Footballguy
Oh no. I was referring to Nathan R. Jessep's thread from the summer of him wooing his neighbour. Long but funny. He did have a good result of capturing her heart. She has 2 kids and he has a son. I think if you have kids, you'll have better luck with someone who has kids esp close to the same age. My cousin has 2 boys. He's been in love a few times but the women ran at the thought of 2 young boys as step kids. He finally met one who has a daughter close to the ages of his boys and they clicked, which help made them click.
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Captain Cranks
Footballguy
Alright. I'll play. I didn't meet this particular girl online, so excuse my abuse of this thread.
We were brought together by mutual friends. Me the friend of the husband and her the friend of his wife. We're both divorced (actually, mine's in process) and looking for long-term relationships. I'm playing it slow despite the fact that she's obviously interested in me (constant compliments, asking me out all the time, texting like zed) due to the mutual friends element. Early in the fourth date she is pretty explicit about sex being available if I wanted it. I was obviously cool with said news; however, I expressed to her that I want to continue dating other people and don't want to jump right from a divorce into another long-term relationship without having dating at least a few other women (she's # 3 since my separation).
She seemed cool with it and agreed that I need to get out there. "It's a numbers game. You have to date as many people as possible right now," she said. Cool, I thought to myself. She's down with sex and down with me dating other people. Not so fast, brochacho. About an hour later at dinner, seemingly out of left field, she tells me she wouldn't be cool having sex if I was dating other people. No biggie. I can wait.
That said, we're going to the Food and Wine Festival at Epcot tomorrow where we'll finish the day off most likely wasted and in a nice hotel room in Downtown Disney. I'm going to respect her wishes not to have sex, but it will be interesting to see if she sticks to her word as I have no doubt that she could be the initiator. To be continued...
The Grizz
Footballguy
FFChick32
Footballguy
I couldn't agree more!!!! If you guys don't want us to over-generalize you, don't do the same to us! Any girl worth dating would never have that attitude, and if she does, she is not someone you want to be around....
FFChick32
Footballguy
I have only dated guys with kids, but they all have them for small windows of time, and that is not my scenario....this is my challenge....protecting my daughters and wanting to be a good example, while trying to get to know someone is nearly impossible. While I am all for alone time and date nights, it is a very difficult balance.
