Details?Cool, I just got dumped via text for the first time. I feel so high tech. Though can you really get dumped after one date?![]()
Went out with librarian chick (not an iDate) Friday night. No plans were made for a second date. Called her yesterday on the way home from work and left a very brief message ("just calling to say hi, give me a call me back when you get a chance"). No other attempted contact. Just got this text...Details?Cool, I just got dumped via text for the first time. I feel so high tech. Though can you really get dumped after one date?![]()
Polite but completely unnecessary. I've thought of five girls today... she was not one of them.Hey stu - thank u so much for the other night. I wish this was different, but im just not feeling a connection. :-( good luck, and thanks a [cuts off here, too many characters]
atta boy, LBi got nothin for advice but way to not be chicken####larry_boy_44 said:ok guys... need something smooth to say to a hot, college student... blonde... has a pic with a cowboy hat... studying speech therapy and works with autistic kids...I pretty much know what I wanna say, just gotta figure something slick/funny to say... lol(she also likes to travel... I figure I'll ask her about her school/work and the traveling...)she is super hot...so it needs to be good....
too long? I can't come up with anything really witty ATM, so I figured I'd go with honesty lol...I don't have a header, either... could really use one... lolwhat do you think?Hey,I read that you work with kids with autism, I have to say I find that really cool and I'm glad you enjoy it. It sounds like it is something that is really rewarding.Me? I'm finishing up college at Carroll College (in Waukesha). My major is Computer Science. I'm officially done in about 2 weeks (can't wait) and am currently looking for a post-graduation job... lolI'm a lot like you it seems, very family-orientated and I want to travel really bad, but life just doesn't supply that kind of opportunity yet. I want to see Europe & Japan. Where do you want to go most?I look forward to hearing from you again and maybe we can have dinner or see a movie sometime, I think we'd have a lot of fun.Larry
Rest seems fine. Let her ask about you. She will if she's interested. End it with a "look forward to hearing from you".ok guys... what do you think of this:
too long? I can't come up with anything really witty ATM, so I figured I'd go with honesty lol...I don't have a header, either... could really use one... lolHey,
I read that you work with kids with autism, I have to say I find that really cool and I'm glad you enjoy it. It sounds like it is something that is really rewarding.
Me? I'm finishing up college at Carroll College (in Waukesha). My major is Computer Science. I'm officially done in about 2 weeks (can't wait) and am currently looking for a post-graduation job... lol
I'm a lot like you it seems, very family-orientated and I want to travel really bad, but life just doesn't supply that kind of opportunity yet. I want to see Europe & Japan. Where do you want to go most?
I look forward to hearing from you again and maybe we can have dinner or see a movie sometime, I think we'd have a lot of fun.
Larry
what do you think?
hmmm... ok... that makes sense }=o)any idea about a message header? lolRest seems fine. Let her ask about you. She will if she's interested. End it with a "look forward to hearing from you".ok guys... what do you think of this:
too long? I can't come up with anything really witty ATM, so I figured I'd go with honesty lol...I don't have a header, either... could really use one... lolHey,
I read that you work with kids with autism, I have to say I find that really cool and I'm glad you enjoy it. It sounds like it is something that is really rewarding.
Me? I'm finishing up college at Carroll College (in Waukesha). My major is Computer Science. I'm officially done in about 2 weeks (can't wait) and am currently looking for a post-graduation job... lol
I'm a lot like you it seems, very family-orientated and I want to travel really bad, but life just doesn't supply that kind of opportunity yet. I want to see Europe & Japan. Where do you want to go most?
I look forward to hearing from you again and maybe we can have dinner or see a movie sometime, I think we'd have a lot of fun.
Larry
what do you think?
I think this sounds really good. You ask about her, tell her a little about you, don't mention pedophilia. Excellent job. The only things I'd say are (1) take out the "dinner or a movie" part--too early to go there, and (2) lose the "lol", both here and in your messages.ok guys... what do you think of this:
too long? I can't come up with anything really witty ATM, so I figured I'd go with honesty lol...I don't have a header, either... could really use one... lolwhat do you think?Hey,I read that you work with kids with autism, I have to say I find that really cool and I'm glad you enjoy it. It sounds like it is something that is really rewarding.Me? I'm finishing up college at Carroll College (in Waukesha). My major is Computer Science. I'm officially done in about 2 weeks (can't wait) and am currently looking for a post-graduation job... lolI'm a lot like you it seems, very family-orientated and I want to travel really bad, but life just doesn't supply that kind of opportunity yet. I want to see Europe & Japan. Where do you want to go most?I look forward to hearing from you again and maybe we can have dinner or see a movie sometime, I think we'd have a lot of fun.Larry
XIn this very thread, you guys have also complained about never hearing from someone again and how it is the "right" thing to do to be mature and tell someone if you're not interested. You (I mean the royal "you") have stated how bad it is for someone not to take the time to do exactly what she just did. Sheesh...how about a little consistency here?Disco Stu said:Polite but completely unnecessary. I've thought of five girls today... she was not one of them.
Tip for you: Remember, only about 3-4% of your e-mails will get a response at all. Don't get your hopes pinned on one girl--too much disappointment happens that way.ok SENT!!took you guys' advice...although I did remove the paragraph about me... for 2 reasons:1. the info is in my profile, sh'es gonna check that out when she gets the message either way...2. I do want to keep the focus on her...time to pray agian... I know this girl was on the site today, so she is active... and she is super super SUPER hot... if I get a response I'll post pics on the underground...
lol I'm not as into this girl as I'm sure I sound... lolI just... would like to get an answer, 'cuz she is hot, and sounds pretty cool... so it would be cool.. but if not, no biggie, ya know?Tip for you: Remember, only about 3-4% of your e-mails will get a response at all. Don't get your hopes pinned on one girl--too much disappointment happens that way.ok SENT!!took you guys' advice...although I did remove the paragraph about me... for 2 reasons:1. the info is in my profile, sh'es gonna check that out when she gets the message either way...2. I do want to keep the focus on her...time to pray agian... I know this girl was on the site today, so she is active... and she is super super SUPER hot... if I get a response I'll post pics on the underground...
At first I thought you were going to tell me she was one of the five.XIn this very thread, you guys have also complained about never hearing from someone again and how it is the "right" thing to do to be mature and tell someone if you're not interested. You (I mean the royal "you") have stated how bad it is for someone not to take the time to do exactly what she just did. Sheesh...how about a little consistency here?Disco Stu said:Polite but completely unnecessary. I've thought of five girls today... she was not one of them.
if a girl puts her AIM/Yahoo messenger names in her profile and says to e-mail her and then IM her... do you actually do that? lolor do you see if she e-mails you back first...thoughts?
no, not a POF IM...she put her AIM address in her profile and said "IM me after you e-mail me"....if a girl puts her AIM/Yahoo messenger names in her profile and says to e-mail her and then IM her... do you actually do that? lolor do you see if she e-mails you back first...thoughts?Definitely wait. That's one thing at POF that is kind of weird, you can send an IM to anyone who hasn't turned that feature off. It'd be better if it was limited to existing contacts or something. No one likes unwanted IM screens popping up. I pissed somebody off the other day by closing the window immediately.
Same thing. Way too overanxious to IM someone you haven't gotten an email from.no, not a POF IM...she put her AIM address in her profile and said "IM me after you e-mail me"....if a girl puts her AIM/Yahoo messenger names in her profile and says to e-mail her and then IM her... do you actually do that? lolor do you see if she e-mails you back first...thoughts?Definitely wait. That's one thing at POF that is kind of weird, you can send an IM to anyone who hasn't turned that feature off. It'd be better if it was limited to existing contacts or something. No one likes unwanted IM screens popping up. I pissed somebody off the other day by closing the window immediately.
that is where I was leaning, too...I just wasn't sure since she said to do it...maybe I should have put my Yahoo ID in the message...Same thing. Way too overanxious to IM someone you haven't gotten an email from.no, not a POF IM...she put her AIM address in her profile and said "IM me after you e-mail me"....if a girl puts her AIM/Yahoo messenger names in her profile and says to e-mail her and then IM her... do you actually do that? lolor do you see if she e-mails you back first...thoughts?Definitely wait. That's one thing at POF that is kind of weird, you can send an IM to anyone who hasn't turned that feature off. It'd be better if it was limited to existing contacts or something. No one likes unwanted IM screens popping up. I pissed somebody off the other day by closing the window immediately.
Slow down GB. Just take a deep breath and relax. You're coming off overanxious here, which makes me worry that you're coming off overanxious there. If I can pick up on it, I'm positive the girls can. You do not want the stink of desperation on you.that is where I was leaning, too...I just wasn't sure since she said to do it...maybe I should have put my Yahoo ID in the message...Same thing. Way too overanxious to IM someone you haven't gotten an email from.no, not a POF IM...she put her AIM address in her profile and said "IM me after you e-mail me"....if a girl puts her AIM/Yahoo messenger names in her profile and says to e-mail her and then IM her... do you actually do that? lolor do you see if she e-mails you back first...thoughts?Definitely wait. That's one thing at POF that is kind of weird, you can send an IM to anyone who hasn't turned that feature off. It'd be better if it was limited to existing contacts or something. No one likes unwanted IM screens popping up. I pissed somebody off the other day by closing the window immediately.
2 things... I always sound like that on here...something about this message board (actually most message boards) makes me sound like some crazed hyperactive 12 year old... lolI posted one of 3 messages I've sent here, that wasn't bad right?The only reason I asked about the IM is 'cuz she asked to be IMed, I wasn't sure what the "dating rule" or whatever is about that...Slow down GB. Just take a deep breath and relax. You're coming off overanxious here, which makes me worry that you're coming off overanxious there. If I can pick up on it, I'm positive the girls can. You do not want the stink of desperation on you.that is where I was leaning, too...I just wasn't sure since she said to do it...maybe I should have put my Yahoo ID in the message...Same thing. Way too overanxious to IM someone you haven't gotten an email from.no, not a POF IM...she put her AIM address in her profile and said "IM me after you e-mail me"....:(Definitely wait. That's one thing at POF that is kind of weird, you can send an IM to anyone who hasn't turned that feature off. It'd be better if it was limited to existing contacts or something. No one likes unwanted IM screens popping up. I pissed somebody off the other day by closing the window immediately.if a girl puts her AIM/Yahoo messenger names in her profile and says to e-mail her and then IM her... do you actually do that? lolor do you see if she e-mails you back first...thoughts?There's plenty of time to IM if you really want to. You have to wait for interest though. I'd also recommend against IM anyway, since it's a good way to give away too much too soon. It's better if you can leave the standard first date chat for the actual date instead of burning through it online.
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oof.I am 10 million times more comfortable (and "smoother") online than in person...
Responded. On the personality profile, some of it sounds like you, but not the "family" and "self-control" parts so much. But hell, I don't know you.POF profile is up...Krista, you're going to have to approve.BTW--what's with the personality test? Here's mine...let's see if you guys think it's accurate.
I'm not sure what the deal is with chicks putting their IM info in their profile, but I would never use it. Way too random and likely puts her on the defensive. If she specifically asks you (not the royal "you") to IM, then of course feel free. Until then sit tight.
The family is true, the self-control is not. I really want children--the marriage part is the problem.Responded. On the personality profile, some of it sounds like you, but not the "family" and "self-control" parts so much. But hell, I don't know you.POF profile is up...Krista, you're going to have to approve.BTW--what's with the personality test? Here's mine...let's see if you guys think it's accurate.Where did they get it from? Did you have to do some sort of quiz?
Yeah, it's a generic quiz. It's pretty lame. Pay no atention to it Keys.Responded. On the personality profile, some of it sounds like you, but not the "family" and "self-control" parts so much. But hell, I don't know you.POF profile is up...Krista, you're going to have to approve.BTW--what's with the personality test? Here's mine...let's see if you guys think it's accurate.Where did they get it from? Did you have to do some sort of quiz?
Gay adoption down?The family is true, the self-control is not. I really want children--the marriage part is the problem.Responded. On the personality profile, some of it sounds like you, but not the "family" and "self-control" parts so much. But hell, I don't know you.POF profile is up...Krista, you're going to have to approve.BTW--what's with the personality test? Here's mine...let's see if you guys think it's accurate.Where did they get it from? Did you have to do some sort of quiz?
I had a whole thread about this under my alias.Gay adoption down?The family is true, the self-control is not. I really want children--the marriage part is the problem.Responded. On the personality profile, some of it sounds like you, but not the "family" and "self-control" parts so much. But hell, I don't know you.POF profile is up...Krista, you're going to have to approve.BTW--what's with the personality test? Here's mine...let's see if you guys think it's accurate.Where did they get it from? Did you have to do some sort of quiz?
link to test? i'm always interested to see how close these things get to my self-perception.POF profile is up...Krista, you're going to have to approve.BTW--what's with the personality test? Here's mine...let's see if you guys think it's accurate.Your Compatibility Test ResultsSelf-ConfidenceAs someone with high self-confidence, you feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, you find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. Your relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around you comfortable too. Perhaps because you feel comfortable talking about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and perceive you as socially competent.The confidence that helps you feel comfortable talking to people also spills into your own personal beliefs about yourself. Although you have several strengths, it’s likely that you also acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. But unlike some people, you take full responsibility for your actions—you rarely regret things you’ve done in the past and are not embarrassed easily.Perhaps the defining feature that sets you apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that you set for yourself. Your competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that people come to you for advice and generally think of you as someone with leader-like qualities.Family OrientationAs someone who is oriented to familial matters, you value the company of family-members and domestic life. If you have children already, you enjoy spending time with them very much and work hard to be a good parent. If you don’t have children, you very much desire having children in the future. And your preference for cooking and entertaining guests at home will likely ease the transition into parenthood.You take pride in maintaining and cultivating a healthy family and work hard to achieve this. This natural tendency is easily illustrated by your preference for doing things around the house as opposed to going out to clubs and restaurants.What really sets you apart from people that are low in family orientation is that you know how to manage your frustrations and work well on your own. This means that you are well-equipped to manage a family without letting all the work that is involved wear you down. However, as someone with strong family values, all the work that is involved in maintaining a tidy home and well-stocked kitchen might occasionally make it difficult for you to finish everything that you need to do.Self-ControlThe self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad. Occasionally people may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and your degree of self-control makes this likely to happen more often than not. This can be good in circumstances where being relaxed and open are important. However, in situations where it is necessary to be focused and careful, you might find that you do or say things that may be inappropriate.As someone who exerts little control over your actions, you may find that you commit social blunders that might offend other people and get yourself in trouble. For example, if you’re given responsibility to work on a project that requires close attention to detail, you may be likely to overlook important details because you have difficulty staying focused. Consequently, you might feel more comfortable delegating such tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able to recognize such characteristics in yourself and having more detail-oriented people do such tasks could be an effective way to manage your own stress level.Low self-control may diminish your effectiveness at work. Acting too relaxed can make it difficult for you to focus on projects that require organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, your ability to accomplish may be inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that you might be criticized periodically for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.” Nonetheless, you may still experience many short-lived pleasures and never be thought of as boring.OpennessAs someone high in openness, you have a strong appreciation for beauty, both in art and nature. Indeed, it’s likely that you are easily absorbed in music and art, as well as natural phenomena. Another aspect of your openness is your emotional insight; that is, you probably have good access to and awareness of your own emotions.Another aspect of the openness dimension is the tendency to think about abstract concepts and ideas. This thinking style may take the form of artistic and metaphorical use of language, and/or music composition or performance. Thus, it is likely that, either in your work or spare time, you enjoy activities that get your “creative juices” flowing.Your tendency to be open-minded can have advantages and disadvantages. For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach a particular problem, your openness makes it easier for you to identify new ways to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that are not as open as you are. In contrast, you may be bored easily in situations that lack high amounts of intellectual stimulation. In such cases, you might have difficulty excelling on projects that do not provide much stimulation or require much creative thinking.EasygoingnessEasygoingness refers to one's ability to relax. Based on your score, you appear to “take things as they come” and enjoy having a good time. However, being high in easygoingness also has the potential to produce stress in a number of ways. For example, you may find it difficult to complete tasks thoroughly and efficiently. In this way, being high in easygoingness cannot only make your life difficult, but also the lives of the people around you. Another potential problem with being too high in easygoingness is that it can provide you with gratification in the short-term, but in the long-term provide undesirable consequences.High easygoingness, even when not seriously destructive, may also diminish your effectiveness at work, for example. You may find it aversive and difficult to put in all the effort that may sometimes be needed to effectively accomplish certain tasks. For this reason, your colleagues might view you as forgetful and unfocused.How does your personality affect your love life?With the strong degree of self-confidence that you possess, it’s no surprise that you get along well with most people. Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel comfortable interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. For this reason, you shouldn’t have much difficulty in romance, at least not initially. Your social skills will likely help relieve any anxiety your romantic partners might have on those first few dates. However, over time, the high standards that you have for yourself could potentially frustrate your partner.Given how much you value family life, you probably get along best with people who share your values and beliefs. In fact, it’s likely that you maintain close connections with members of your immediate and distant family. For this reason, you would probably be most satisfied in a romantic relationship with someone who also values domestic life.Being in a relationship with someone who enjoys going out to parties and staying-up late at night might be fun, at least initially; yet it’s likely that you will find this tiring over time. Thus, it might be easier and more satisfying for you to develop a long-lasting relationship with a person who also enjoys spending time at home and desires starting a family. On first dates, perhaps you might suggest to your partner that the two of you spend a quiet night having dinner at one of your respective homes instead of going out to a restaurant or club.As someone who is more relaxed than most people, you likely get along with most people quite well. Chances are that your friends and colleagues perceive you as lively, fun to be with, and good-humored. When it comes to romance, you’ll likely be attracted to most people. However, your free-spirited nature might make being in a relationship with a person that is more rigid than you difficult because you might perceive the person as being too uptight and controlling.Your openness probably makes it easy for you to respect and appreciate people that are different from you. However, when it comes to romantic relationships, your openness might make it difficult for you to tolerate people that cannot appreciate diversity as much as you. Therefore, you may be happiest in serious relationships with people that share your open-mindedness. But, your openness might occasionally cause a certain degree of dependency on your end because you may be so open that you easily adopt the preferences and habits of your partners and gradually relinquish things that make you so unique.
link to test? i'm always interested to see how close these things get to my self-perception.POF profile is up...Krista, you're going to have to approve.BTW--what's with the personality test? Here's mine...let's see if you guys think it's accurate.Your Compatibility Test ResultsSelf-ConfidenceAs someone with high self-confidence, you feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, you find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. Your relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around you comfortable too. Perhaps because you feel comfortable talking about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and perceive you as socially competent.The confidence that helps you feel comfortable talking to people also spills into your own personal beliefs about yourself. Although you have several strengths, it’s likely that you also acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. But unlike some people, you take full responsibility for your actions—you rarely regret things you’ve done in the past and are not embarrassed easily.Perhaps the defining feature that sets you apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that you set for yourself. Your competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that people come to you for advice and generally think of you as someone with leader-like qualities.Family OrientationAs someone who is oriented to familial matters, you value the company of family-members and domestic life. If you have children already, you enjoy spending time with them very much and work hard to be a good parent. If you don’t have children, you very much desire having children in the future. And your preference for cooking and entertaining guests at home will likely ease the transition into parenthood.You take pride in maintaining and cultivating a healthy family and work hard to achieve this. This natural tendency is easily illustrated by your preference for doing things around the house as opposed to going out to clubs and restaurants.What really sets you apart from people that are low in family orientation is that you know how to manage your frustrations and work well on your own. This means that you are well-equipped to manage a family without letting all the work that is involved wear you down. However, as someone with strong family values, all the work that is involved in maintaining a tidy home and well-stocked kitchen might occasionally make it difficult for you to finish everything that you need to do.Self-ControlThe self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad. Occasionally people may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and your degree of self-control makes this likely to happen more often than not. This can be good in circumstances where being relaxed and open are important. However, in situations where it is necessary to be focused and careful, you might find that you do or say things that may be inappropriate.As someone who exerts little control over your actions, you may find that you commit social blunders that might offend other people and get yourself in trouble. For example, if you’re given responsibility to work on a project that requires close attention to detail, you may be likely to overlook important details because you have difficulty staying focused. Consequently, you might feel more comfortable delegating such tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able to recognize such characteristics in yourself and having more detail-oriented people do such tasks could be an effective way to manage your own stress level.Low self-control may diminish your effectiveness at work. Acting too relaxed can make it difficult for you to focus on projects that require organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, your ability to accomplish may be inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that you might be criticized periodically for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.” Nonetheless, you may still experience many short-lived pleasures and never be thought of as boring.OpennessAs someone high in openness, you have a strong appreciation for beauty, both in art and nature. Indeed, it’s likely that you are easily absorbed in music and art, as well as natural phenomena. Another aspect of your openness is your emotional insight; that is, you probably have good access to and awareness of your own emotions.Another aspect of the openness dimension is the tendency to think about abstract concepts and ideas. This thinking style may take the form of artistic and metaphorical use of language, and/or music composition or performance. Thus, it is likely that, either in your work or spare time, you enjoy activities that get your “creative juices” flowing.Your tendency to be open-minded can have advantages and disadvantages. For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach a particular problem, your openness makes it easier for you to identify new ways to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that are not as open as you are. In contrast, you may be bored easily in situations that lack high amounts of intellectual stimulation. In such cases, you might have difficulty excelling on projects that do not provide much stimulation or require much creative thinking.EasygoingnessEasygoingness refers to one's ability to relax. Based on your score, you appear to “take things as they come” and enjoy having a good time. However, being high in easygoingness also has the potential to produce stress in a number of ways. For example, you may find it difficult to complete tasks thoroughly and efficiently. In this way, being high in easygoingness cannot only make your life difficult, but also the lives of the people around you. Another potential problem with being too high in easygoingness is that it can provide you with gratification in the short-term, but in the long-term provide undesirable consequences.High easygoingness, even when not seriously destructive, may also diminish your effectiveness at work, for example. You may find it aversive and difficult to put in all the effort that may sometimes be needed to effectively accomplish certain tasks. For this reason, your colleagues might view you as forgetful and unfocused.How does your personality affect your love life?With the strong degree of self-confidence that you possess, it’s no surprise that you get along well with most people. Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel comfortable interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. For this reason, you shouldn’t have much difficulty in romance, at least not initially. Your social skills will likely help relieve any anxiety your romantic partners might have on those first few dates. However, over time, the high standards that you have for yourself could potentially frustrate your partner.Given how much you value family life, you probably get along best with people who share your values and beliefs. In fact, it’s likely that you maintain close connections with members of your immediate and distant family. For this reason, you would probably be most satisfied in a romantic relationship with someone who also values domestic life.Being in a relationship with someone who enjoys going out to parties and staying-up late at night might be fun, at least initially; yet it’s likely that you will find this tiring over time. Thus, it might be easier and more satisfying for you to develop a long-lasting relationship with a person who also enjoys spending time at home and desires starting a family. On first dates, perhaps you might suggest to your partner that the two of you spend a quiet night having dinner at one of your respective homes instead of going out to a restaurant or club.As someone who is more relaxed than most people, you likely get along with most people quite well. Chances are that your friends and colleagues perceive you as lively, fun to be with, and good-humored. When it comes to romance, you’ll likely be attracted to most people. However, your free-spirited nature might make being in a relationship with a person that is more rigid than you difficult because you might perceive the person as being too uptight and controlling.Your openness probably makes it easy for you to respect and appreciate people that are different from you. However, when it comes to romantic relationships, your openness might make it difficult for you to tolerate people that cannot appreciate diversity as much as you. Therefore, you may be happiest in serious relationships with people that share your open-mindedness. But, your openness might occasionally cause a certain degree of dependency on your end because you may be so open that you easily adopt the preferences and habits of your partners and gradually relinquish things that make you so unique.
It's on POF, you take it when you sign up. Just make a fake name and try it.link to test? i'm always interested to see how close these things get to my self-perception.POF profile is up...Krista, you're going to have to approve.BTW--what's with the personality test? Here's mine...let's see if you guys think it's accurate.Your Compatibility Test ResultsSelf-ConfidenceAs someone with high self-confidence, you feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, you find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. Your relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around you comfortable too. Perhaps because you feel comfortable talking about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and perceive you as socially competent.The confidence that helps you feel comfortable talking to people also spills into your own personal beliefs about yourself. Although you have several strengths, it’s likely that you also acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. But unlike some people, you take full responsibility for your actions—you rarely regret things you’ve done in the past and are not embarrassed easily.Perhaps the defining feature that sets you apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that you set for yourself. Your competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that people come to you for advice and generally think of you as someone with leader-like qualities.Family OrientationAs someone who is oriented to familial matters, you value the company of family-members and domestic life. If you have children already, you enjoy spending time with them very much and work hard to be a good parent. If you don’t have children, you very much desire having children in the future. And your preference for cooking and entertaining guests at home will likely ease the transition into parenthood.You take pride in maintaining and cultivating a healthy family and work hard to achieve this. This natural tendency is easily illustrated by your preference for doing things around the house as opposed to going out to clubs and restaurants.What really sets you apart from people that are low in family orientation is that you know how to manage your frustrations and work well on your own. This means that you are well-equipped to manage a family without letting all the work that is involved wear you down. However, as someone with strong family values, all the work that is involved in maintaining a tidy home and well-stocked kitchen might occasionally make it difficult for you to finish everything that you need to do.Self-ControlThe self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad. Occasionally people may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and your degree of self-control makes this likely to happen more often than not. This can be good in circumstances where being relaxed and open are important. However, in situations where it is necessary to be focused and careful, you might find that you do or say things that may be inappropriate.As someone who exerts little control over your actions, you may find that you commit social blunders that might offend other people and get yourself in trouble. For example, if you’re given responsibility to work on a project that requires close attention to detail, you may be likely to overlook important details because you have difficulty staying focused. Consequently, you might feel more comfortable delegating such tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able to recognize such characteristics in yourself and having more detail-oriented people do such tasks could be an effective way to manage your own stress level.Low self-control may diminish your effectiveness at work. Acting too relaxed can make it difficult for you to focus on projects that require organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, your ability to accomplish may be inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that you might be criticized periodically for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.” Nonetheless, you may still experience many short-lived pleasures and never be thought of as boring.OpennessAs someone high in openness, you have a strong appreciation for beauty, both in art and nature. Indeed, it’s likely that you are easily absorbed in music and art, as well as natural phenomena. Another aspect of your openness is your emotional insight; that is, you probably have good access to and awareness of your own emotions.Another aspect of the openness dimension is the tendency to think about abstract concepts and ideas. This thinking style may take the form of artistic and metaphorical use of language, and/or music composition or performance. Thus, it is likely that, either in your work or spare time, you enjoy activities that get your “creative juices” flowing.Your tendency to be open-minded can have advantages and disadvantages. For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach a particular problem, your openness makes it easier for you to identify new ways to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that are not as open as you are. In contrast, you may be bored easily in situations that lack high amounts of intellectual stimulation. In such cases, you might have difficulty excelling on projects that do not provide much stimulation or require much creative thinking.EasygoingnessEasygoingness refers to one's ability to relax. Based on your score, you appear to “take things as they come” and enjoy having a good time. However, being high in easygoingness also has the potential to produce stress in a number of ways. For example, you may find it difficult to complete tasks thoroughly and efficiently. In this way, being high in easygoingness cannot only make your life difficult, but also the lives of the people around you. Another potential problem with being too high in easygoingness is that it can provide you with gratification in the short-term, but in the long-term provide undesirable consequences.High easygoingness, even when not seriously destructive, may also diminish your effectiveness at work, for example. You may find it aversive and difficult to put in all the effort that may sometimes be needed to effectively accomplish certain tasks. For this reason, your colleagues might view you as forgetful and unfocused.How does your personality affect your love life?With the strong degree of self-confidence that you possess, it’s no surprise that you get along well with most people. Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel comfortable interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. For this reason, you shouldn’t have much difficulty in romance, at least not initially. Your social skills will likely help relieve any anxiety your romantic partners might have on those first few dates. However, over time, the high standards that you have for yourself could potentially frustrate your partner.Given how much you value family life, you probably get along best with people who share your values and beliefs. In fact, it’s likely that you maintain close connections with members of your immediate and distant family. For this reason, you would probably be most satisfied in a romantic relationship with someone who also values domestic life.Being in a relationship with someone who enjoys going out to parties and staying-up late at night might be fun, at least initially; yet it’s likely that you will find this tiring over time. Thus, it might be easier and more satisfying for you to develop a long-lasting relationship with a person who also enjoys spending time at home and desires starting a family. On first dates, perhaps you might suggest to your partner that the two of you spend a quiet night having dinner at one of your respective homes instead of going out to a restaurant or club.As someone who is more relaxed than most people, you likely get along with most people quite well. Chances are that your friends and colleagues perceive you as lively, fun to be with, and good-humored. When it comes to romance, you’ll likely be attracted to most people. However, your free-spirited nature might make being in a relationship with a person that is more rigid than you difficult because you might perceive the person as being too uptight and controlling.Your openness probably makes it easy for you to respect and appreciate people that are different from you. However, when it comes to romantic relationships, your openness might make it difficult for you to tolerate people that cannot appreciate diversity as much as you. Therefore, you may be happiest in serious relationships with people that share your open-mindedness. But, your openness might occasionally cause a certain degree of dependency on your end because you may be so open that you easily adopt the preferences and habits of your partners and gradually relinquish things that make you so unique.
She's a local high school teacher erLooks awfully young...
I was about to tell you about how I spent my 31st by myself and how it might not be a totally weird thing because while I have a million friends, I just wanted to be mellow for that one...But then I realized that if I were IM'ing random chicks and telling them that I'm alone on my birthday, I might as well just put a gun in my mouth.Feel grateful that you got out of that one...girls without friends are extraordinary trouble.Remember that Seinfeld episode where he's shocked to find out the girl is out on a first or second date with him on her birthday? This is like that only worse...While I was trying to figure out how to turn the IM feature off, a random chick started a IM session with me.I have a hard time being a #### in these situations, so I was politely answering her questions but not attempting to disguise my lack of interest. After about a minute while I'm trying to figure out how to end this gracefully, she drops "I've never been alone on my birthday before" on me.
My first thought was that it's pretty sad to spend your birthday trying to rope random iGuys into conversation. My second was "how the eff am I going to get out of this without feeling like a ####?" Thankfully within a minute my phone rang (an iGirl I actually wanted to talk to) and I had my excuse without having to lie. :sighofrelief:
It's the skinny thing, IMO.I'd do her.She's a local high school teacher erLooks awfully young...
Exactly. I like being alone... people in general are a pain in the ###. Being alone on a weeknight birthday sounds fine to me. However IM'ing complete strangers about it in some sort of play for sympathy sounds pitiful.I was about to tell you about how I spent my 31st by myself and how it might not be a totally weird thing because while I have a million friends, I just wanted to be mellow for that one...But then I realized that if I were IM'ing random chicks and telling them that I'm alone on my birthday, I might as well just put a gun in my mouth.Feel grateful that you got out of that one...girls without friends are extraordinary trouble.Remember that Seinfeld episode where he's shocked to find out the girl is out on a first or second date with him on her birthday? This is like that only worse...While I was trying to figure out how to turn the IM feature off, a random chick started a IM session with me.I have a hard time being a #### in these situations, so I was politely answering her questions but not attempting to disguise my lack of interest. After about a minute while I'm trying to figure out how to end this gracefully, she drops "I've never been alone on my birthday before" on me.
My first thought was that it's pretty sad to spend your birthday trying to rope random iGuys into conversation. My second was "how the eff am I going to get out of this without feeling like a ####?" Thankfully within a minute my phone rang (an iGirl I actually wanted to talk to) and I had my excuse without having to lie. :sighofrelief:
Could be any of...1. She has no intention of replying but doesn't keep a tidy inbox.2. She plans to reply but didn't have time right then.3. She's considering replying but hasn't made up her mind.Unfortunately these are probably in order from most to least likely.so what's it mean when a girl read your e-mail...didn't respond...but didn't delete...but is no longer on the site?? lolshe just forget to delete it?(BTW 2 read deleteds, at least I'm getting the messages read and my profile checked out before they delete...)
Unedited, it was 1000% better than anything I've seen Woz post.Rest seems fine. Let her ask about you. She will if she's interested. End it with a "look forward to hearing from you".ok guys... what do you think of this:
too long? I can't come up with anything really witty ATM, so I figured I'd go with honesty lol...I don't have a header, either... could really use one... lolHey,
I read that you work with kids with autism, I have to say I find that really cool and I'm glad you enjoy it. It sounds like it is something that is really rewarding.
Me? I'm finishing up college at Carroll College (in Waukesha). My major is Computer Science. I'm officially done in about 2 weeks (can't wait) and am currently looking for a post-graduation job... lol
I'm a lot like you it seems, very family-orientated and I want to travel really bad, but life just doesn't supply that kind of opportunity yet. I want to see Europe & Japan. Where do you want to go most?
I look forward to hearing from you again and maybe we can have dinner or see a movie sometime, I think we'd have a lot of fun.
Larry
what do you think?
edited in order of likelihoodCould be any of...1. She has no intention of replying but doesn't keep a tidy inbox (or does not get many emails so not used to immediately deleting)2. She plans to reply but didn't have time right then.3. She's considering replying but hasn't made up her mind.Unfortunately these are probably in order from most to least likely.so what's it mean when a girl read your e-mail...didn't respond...but didn't delete...but is no longer on the site?? lolshe just forget to delete it?(BTW 2 read deleteds, at least I'm getting the messages read and my profile checked out before they delete...)
well, hopefully the answer ends up being 2....Could be any of...1. She has no intention of replying but doesn't keep a tidy inbox.2. She plans to reply but didn't have time right then.3. She's considering replying but hasn't made up her mind.Unfortunately these are probably in order from most to least likely.so what's it mean when a girl read your e-mail...didn't respond...but didn't delete...but is no longer on the site?? lolshe just forget to delete it?(BTW 2 read deleteds, at least I'm getting the messages read and my profile checked out before they delete...)
edited in order of likelihoodCould be any of...1. She has no intention of replying but doesn't keep a tidy inbox (or does not get many emails so not used to immediately deleting)2. She plans to reply but didn't have time right then.3. She's considering replying but hasn't made up her mind.Unfortunately these are probably in order from most to least likely.so what's it mean when a girl read your e-mail...didn't respond...but didn't delete...but is no longer on the site?? lolshe just forget to delete it?(BTW 2 read deleteds, at least I'm getting the messages read and my profile checked out before they delete...)