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yeah, I wasn't really liking the first line once I pasted and read it, but then had a difficulty of re-wording it to sound better... lol... would it sound better without that phrase (which I wasn't liking when I read it again)
I also think it's too many questions. I like to take one or two at a time personally. Don't want to overwhelm...
I disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.
I think "hooks" are too cheesy and can be taken as too desperate.
I tend to agree...Unless there is an automatic "hook" that springs to mind and is organically funny or creative, I don't think it is a good idea to put one in just to have a hookI disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.
When they get 20 long vanilla emails and 1 hook that is only a few lines I think they take the hook. When you say "If they're interested" I think you mean if they think you have a hot pic, because that vanilla email is doing nothing for the chemistry or making you stand out from the other 19 guys that are showing very little personality in their vanilla emails.I disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.
Exactly. And quite honestly, I want the first e-mail to come from physical attraction...I can stun them with KeysCharm later.I tend to agree...Unless there is an automatic "hook" that springs to mind and is organically funny or creative, I don't think it is a good idea to put one in just to have a hookI disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.I think "hooks" are too cheesy and can be taken as too desperate.
look at the list of the people who haven't gotten a message in the last 24 hours...most of the girls I'm looking at (and they are online today) haven't gotten a message in the last 24 hours...When they get 20 long vanilla emails and 1 hook that is only a few lines I think they take the hook. When you say "If they're interested" I think you mean if they think you have a hot pic, because that vanilla email is doing nothing for the chemistry or making you stand out from the other 19 guys that are showing very little personality in their vanilla emails.I disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.
Maybe I'm looking for different things than you...
well, I'm ####ed...Exactly. And quite honestly, I want the first e-mail to come from physical attraction...I can stun them with KeysCharm later.I tend to agree...Unless there is an automatic "hook" that springs to mind and is organically funny or creative, I don't think it is a good idea to put one in just to have a hookI disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.
I disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.
So if you send a hook and they are attracted to you are you saying she will not write back because the hook seems desperate?It is a no-lose proposition. If you are on the fence looks wise the long email that you spent 10-15 minutes writing is not going to gain you any ground then the hook that took 5 minutes to whip together. I save the "meat" for the follow up emails when I know this is one of the 10% or whatever that finds my looks agreeable and then I invest my time. Gives me more time to send out more lures.
If you are talking about POF you cannot tell if they have received anything in the last 24 hours, you can only see when they were last online.look at the list of the people who haven't gotten a message in the last 24 hours...most of the girls I'm looking at (and they are online today) haven't gotten a message in the last 24 hours...When they get 20 long vanilla emails and 1 hook that is only a few lines I think they take the hook. When you say "If they're interested" I think you mean if they think you have a hot pic, because that vanilla email is doing nothing for the chemistry or making you stand out from the other 19 guys that are showing very little personality in their vanilla emails.I disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.
yes, you can... if you go to "my matches", there is this list:1. Your match also has to be willing to talk to someone your age to be displayed here. 2. If you specified you don't want messages from someone looking for friends etc they will not be shown here. 3. New Search --> Users who haven't gotten an email in over 24 hours sorted by last online.and it will then list people, in order of who has been on most recently, who haven't been messaged in the last 24 hours...If you are talking about POF you cannot tell if they have received anything in the last 24 hours, you can only see when they were last online.look at the list of the people who haven't gotten a message in the last 24 hours...most of the girls I'm looking at (and they are online today) haven't gotten a message in the last 24 hours...When they get 20 long vanilla emails and 1 hook that is only a few lines I think they take the hook. When you say "If they're interested" I think you mean if they think you have a hot pic, because that vanilla email is doing nothing for the chemistry or making you stand out from the other 19 guys that are showing very little personality in their vanilla emails.I disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.
I stand corrected - nice!yes, you can... if you go to "my matches", there is this list:1. Your match also has to be willing to talk to someone your age to be displayed here. 2. If you specified you don't want messages from someone looking for friends etc they will not be shown here. 3. New Search --> Users who haven't gotten an email in over 24 hours sorted by last online.and it will then list people, in order of who has been on most recently, who haven't been messaged in the last 24 hours...If you are talking about POF you cannot tell if they have received anything in the last 24 hours, you can only see when they were last online.look at the list of the people who haven't gotten a message in the last 24 hours...most of the girls I'm looking at (and they are online today) haven't gotten a message in the last 24 hours...When they get 20 long vanilla emails and 1 hook that is only a few lines I think they take the hook. When you say "If they're interested" I think you mean if they think you have a hot pic, because that vanilla email is doing nothing for the chemistry or making you stand out from the other 19 guys that are showing very little personality in their vanilla emails.I disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.I think "hooks" are too cheesy and can be taken as too desperate.
Maybe I'm looking for different things than you...
Because I'm the best looking cat ever? (Hint: I'm not)Have some confidence, GB.well, I'm ####ed...Exactly. And quite honestly, I want the first e-mail to come from physical attraction...I can stun them with KeysCharm later.I tend to agree...Unless there is an automatic "hook" that springs to mind and is organically funny or creative, I don't think it is a good idea to put one in just to have a hookI disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.
I agree with most of the stuff that folks have said, and if you put those changes in, it reads like the above.One thing that JUMPS OUT at me as a positive for you here LB is that there is not one single "lol" in the whole thing. For that, I give you a BIG
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This has pretty much been my line of thinking. Plus I don't take any of this all that seriously, so entertaining myself with a nonstandard opening message is a bonus. I'd become very bored very quickly if I was cranking out a basic form letter to every cute girl I saw.When they get 20 long vanilla emails and 1 hook that is only a few lines I think they take the hook. When you say "If they're interested" I think you mean if they think you have a hot pic, because that vanilla email is doing nothing for the chemistry or making you stand out from the other 19 guys that are showing very little personality in their vanilla emails.I disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.
that was like 40% being funny, 30% wanting to say "####", and 30% lack of self confidence }=o) lolBecause I'm the best looking cat ever? (Hint: I'm not)Have some confidence, GB.well, I'm ####ed...Exactly. And quite honestly, I want the first e-mail to come from physical attraction...I can stun them with KeysCharm later.I tend to agree...Unless there is an automatic "hook" that springs to mind and is organically funny or creative, I don't think it is a good idea to put one in just to have a hookI disagree. If they're interested, they'll e-mail back.
don't sweat subjects, just "Hi" or "Hey there'
See, I was gonna do that, but I wasn't sure if that was enough to get them to click it... lolok....
yeah don't mention rape or abortion in the subject line, anything else is pretty much
yeah don't mention rape or abortion in the subject line, anything else is pretty much
Yeah, I think I got the "don't mention rape or abortion" rule down... no worries there...
Does this mean masturbation is legit?yeah don't mention rape or abortion in the subject line, anything else is pretty much
what exactly are you asking me? lol
It's probably not that important though. If something doesn't come to you in the first 30 seconds, just go basic.
IM her and ask her if she got your email yet
is that a woz move, too?
I did finally find where to turn that thing off last night. GD that's annoying when chicks want to chat after you've ignored their emails. 
Now only my "favorites" are able to send IM.
NYC <> Milwaukeelol
Some people have the view profile feature turned off, so you won't know if they viewed you or not.One way to improve your chances of finding someone decent on the "no emails" list is to search for each age individually (ie age range 27 to 27, then 28 to 28, etc). There's also a specific "new users" search. Click "SEARCH" (top row) then just under "Viewed Me" is "No Emails", next to that is "New Users".
she must have had to leave someplace and didn't get a chance to before...
not ATM... working on it... lolI know its horrid... I have one of me and my sibs the day I graduated I should put up, it makes it a little more obvious that is just a horrid pic... lol
I don't care if a guy is wearing a collared shirt or not in his picture. If he's wearing a T-shirt, as long as it's clean and doesn't say anything horribly offensive on it, fine by me. I have two pictures of me in a formal dress (only because they're halfway decent - a rarity!) but I'm casually dressed in all my others.
Here's a clip from the post I made about it. We didn't meet at a wedding, but I had to go with her to one.krista4 said:Homer Jay, what happened to the tall real-life girl that you met (at a wedding, maybe?) and seemed to like a lot?Just got a booty call from a chick I really shouldn't be going to hook up with. Somewhat attractive, but bad news from front to back.
Oh well. Fun shall ensue.
The third page of that thread is here.
I totally dig the sarcasm and humor.Here's the email I'm about to send her and I need it critiqued ASAP.for fun:
I am great! Love to travel, enjoy eating, running, watching movies, climbing walls, v-ball (sometimes) people watching, dog/cat pestering, spider/insect killing, and most of all chocolate cake with a side of water- also reading.
my ethnicity:
Totally Asian, sooo Asian.
favorite hot spots:
Love the coffee- the more caffeine in the system the better. Love to vacation but only when some sort of objective is involved. Not so keen on sunning on the beach like a big poached whale. Anywhere in Europe sounds great right about now.
favorite things:
TV: anything NOT reality TV. Food: ethnic cuisine is always muy bueno. Sushi, Indian, Thai, Mexican and the 3 P's: pizza, pasta, pastries- all good to me. I just purchased my first $200 backpacker backpack- how do you like them apples?
last read:
Books. I love 'em. Fiction, nonfiction, they run through me like grease and a bad bout of dysentery.
21things you ar
Going with her vibe, I think it's pretty solid.
Going with her vibe, I think it's pretty solid.
And depending on when and where we meet, there's a decent chance I could be wearing a tshirt then.
