FFchamps01
Footballguy
I believe you. I just don't think I want her even MORE into me. I certainly enjoy the 'benefits'...however I am not looking for a full-blown relationship with the first girl I hook up with coming out of my marriage. I think the honesty is the best route, and then I can leave it up to her if she wants to continue hanging out. I'm ok with it either way. I was nervous about getting back into the dating world, but at least now I have a little bit of confidence back.Good lord.Funny thing is this is fine for you. Just be honest and say you aren't interested in anything serious right now and just want to enjoy each other's company and see how it shakes out. Believe it or not, this will make her even MORE into you. Trust me.While I tend to think (know) this is good advice, I have yet to do so. This is my first success story since getting divorced (which by the way, is not even 100% official yet!). I have seen her again, which ended up even more physical than the first time. This time, she flat out asked:"I know this is probably early, and there is no right or wrong answer...but what do you think about being exclusive?"Run, run fast.So I had a date with a new girl last night. Younger this time (31), and cute, though not really my 'ideal' type. When she left this morning, she said she thinks I'm a keeper. Uh-oh...
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I hope by the sudden silence that I maintained for about 30 seconds, that she understands that is not what I'm looking for right now, but in the moment, I came back with something lame like "Um...I don't know...we'll have to talk about that". Of course, we didn't.
Still, I am supposed to see her tomorrow, and I think I'll have to bring it up before we get too far along. It is way too early, and not what I'm looking for (at least with her), so I at least owe it to her to be honest and let her know where I'm coming from.