***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (3 Viewers)

[TLEF316]

Woz

Sometimes this stuff happens when you date women that don't spit tobacco or use the word "colored" to describe other races.

Not saying it isn't annoying frustrating and downright immature at times, but it sometimes comes with the territory when you date girls who live within the confines of modern civilization.

She's a nice girl from a good family. You basically had a coin flip between her being a total nymph or a total priss. Suck it up. You'll close next time around.

 

[Exit 1]

She then drops the, "If I didn't like you so much, I totally would have slept with you already - so take that as a compliment."

WTF kind of thing is that to say? "So, since I'm a slut, I would have banged you already but being that you seem like a nice guy, I'm going to pretend that I'm not a slut."Dude, bang her soon but don't waste time on her and don't think that she's the one. That chick is messed up in the head.

 

[Disco Stu]

She then drops the, "If I didn't like you so much, I totally would have slept with you already - so take that as a compliment."

WTF kind of thing is that to say? "So, since I'm a slut, I would have banged you already but being that you seem like a nice guy, I'm going to pretend that I'm not a slut."Dude, bang her soon but don't waste time on her and don't think that she's the one. That chick is messed up in the head.

Yeah, that's the kind of thing a girl would say to her friends when telling them about the date. Sharing that information with the guy is idiotic at best.

 

[Buck Bradcanon]

This thread was cool for a while but as a married man it hurts my soul to read about Woz getting laid. Congrats man.

:nofuneral:

 

[Orange Crush]

She then drops the, "If I didn't like you so much, I totally would have slept with you already - so take that as a compliment."

WTF kind of thing is that to say? "So, since I'm a slut, I would have banged you already but being that you seem like a nice guy, I'm going to pretend that I'm not a slut."Dude, bang her soon but don't waste time on her and don't think that she's the one. That chick is messed up in the head.

Yeah, that's the kind of thing a girl would say to her friends when telling them about the date. Sharing that information with the guy is idiotic at best.

Since she "really likes" Woz, she's going to employ the "make him wait for sex until he feels too invested in the relationship to simply walk away strategy." By the time he gets any, he's going to think that was way too much effort and time for a one-time occurrence, and then the manipulation really starts.Woz should expect several more dates before actual sex. Immediately followed by the "we shouldn't have done that so soon" conversation, further teases about sex to make it seem like she really wants to but obstacles to what you both want just keep popping up, and then immediately after the second occurrence (while you're still in bed) dropping the "so what are you doing this weekend? I'd like my parents to meet you."I've spent way too much time as the "safe" (i.e. happily married to one of our girlfriends) guy that's allowed to sit in on girl-talk. Thank god for becoming a father. Now I just take the boy out to play.

 

[The_Man]

I've spent way too much time as the "safe" (i.e. happily married to one of our girlfriends) guy that's allowed to sit in on girl-talk. Thank god for becoming a father. Now I just take the boy out to play.

Is that a euphemism for having to pleasure yourself because you no longer get regular loving from your wife as a safely married man?

 

[Orange Crush]

I've spent way too much time as the "safe" (i.e. happily married to one of our girlfriends) guy that's allowed to sit in on girl-talk. Thank god for becoming a father. Now I just take the boy out to play.

Is that a euphemism for having to pleasure yourself because you no longer get regular loving from your wife as a safely married man?

You're imagining me just whipping it out right there in the middle of their girl-talk? And this is allowed simply because I've reproduced?

 

[Walton Goggins]

Awesome stuff by Reginald (trying to remember whose alias this is). I can assure you though, the dog picture was a joke . My current profile is much like you describe with beach pictures, pictures of me playing QB in a competitive flag game (I think this one is quite effective because of the stigma that the QB is the top guy to go for), one getting strung up during one of those play-acting dinner cruise things, etc. I also think every girl I've met so far has commented that 1) they really liked I had a bunch of different photos up and 2) that I look exactly like I did in my photos. The second comment is almost always followed by some horror story of some guy who falsely advertised in his pictures (I love those guys, as they make make me look both more honest and more attractive). However, one point made by Reginald which I strongly disagree with* is having the picture of you and a hot chick up there or a picture where there has clearly been a grl cropped out of the picture. I've had a few dates tell me them immediately close a match if they see this because it means either that the guy may be hung up on his ex or he is a show-off and can't be trusted. I get the psychological effect it can have on a viewer as it is akin to say how a super high price tag can give some object a much higher implied value, but I think if the rest of your photos are good enough and you can put some seemingly impressive things in your profile it is way too big of a risk. This time around I've definitely done the less is more approach by not revealing much at all and simply relying on three things in addition to my photos:1. Job titles - on paper they sound impressive to mommy and daddy2. Just moved to town - while true, the main reason I make that known is that I'm no-drama, fresh meat type deal 3. Obsess about some guy thing - I don't know why it works, but girls seem drawn to some guy who has some oddly mild obsession to something. Whether it be cars, tattoos, or in my case, sports. I don't know if it gives them some competitive aspect or tht it makes it seem like my free time is more valuable or what, but it works. *However, it could have something to do with my angle and approach. I'm on eharmony, a more serious dating site and play the "got my crap together" angle because I think I really do well with the more nice rich girl type thing who is concerned with status and not some hot chick looking to hookup. If that were the case, the picture of a hot chick ploy could work.

The problem is that unlike most of the guys in this thread, you are looking for something serious / long term to marriage so you can't really use all the advice that's worked for the guys whose goal is to follow the operation scorch earth approach

 

[Walton Goggins]

Had this situation last night. Tell me what was the right play here:

Out for the third time with a nerdy MBA student from a very well off family. Made out a bunch on the last date. She spends our time out telling stories of taking advantage of guys, how she dated her last bf bc he looked hot, thinks sex is great, etc. I believe I'm doing the right things by making it seem like I'm listening and telling her I'm impressed. She then drops the, "If I didn't like you so much, I totally would have slept with you already - so take that as a compliment." Oh really, awesome. Anyway, it was still clear she was down to come back to my place so I invite her up for a class of wine. She agrees on the condition I know she isn't going to sleep with me because she likes me. We start making out heavily almost right upon getting there, and she suggests we go upstairs. We do and after getting her clothes off she again tells no sex. I don't say anything but am able to take care of her while adhering to her prior condition. She then whispers in my ear how "great" she is at . I'm thinking to myself awesome, at least she recognizes I should be thanked for my gentlemanly behavior. But for like 15 minutes she won't do it! I try nicely requesting it, suggesting she has me all interested in seeing how good she is, etc. She keeps shaking her head though and telling me I'll "be ok." At this point I'm thinking this is sadistic and consider telling her I'm not twelve and need a bit more than touching to enjoy this. I don't want to push too hard because my guess is she'll progress when I see her next, and I had exhausted all normal requests to the point of begging.

Chicks should be arrestd for crap like this.

Is she under 18? If I was looking for something long term and that would lead to marriage I would drop her right there but if I'm only wanting to get laid I would probably say something like "Don't worry, if you hadn't kept my attention from the start I definitely wouldn't have asked you out." You always should have something positive in there (you are great at keeping my attention) mixed with a signal that you aren't desperate (if you hadn't there are a lot of other girls wanting to go out with me so feel lucky).Also I've come to realize that any girl who says they are great at "it" aren't all that. It's not bad but it's not "OMG that's the best I've ever had in my life!" thing happen to me.

Any girl who plays sexual games, tells you how great they are at sex or foreplay and tease you, I would run or let her know that you aren't 16 anymore and don't have time to play games and looking for a woman, not a crockteasing girl.

 

[Exit 1]

Awesome stuff by Reginald (trying to remember whose alias this is). I can assure you though, the dog picture was a joke . My current profile is much like you describe with beach pictures, pictures of me playing QB in a competitive flag game (I think this one is quite effective because of the stigma that the QB is the top guy to go for), one getting strung up during one of those play-acting dinner cruise things, etc. I also think every girl I've met so far has commented that 1) they really liked I had a bunch of different photos up and 2) that I look exactly like I did in my photos. The second comment is almost always followed by some horror story of some guy who falsely advertised in his pictures (I love those guys, as they make make me look both more honest and more attractive). However, one point made by Reginald which I strongly disagree with* is having the picture of you and a hot chick up there or a picture where there has clearly been a grl cropped out of the picture. I've had a few dates tell me them immediately close a match if they see this because it means either that the guy may be hung up on his ex or he is a show-off and can't be trusted. I get the psychological effect it can have on a viewer as it is akin to say how a super high price tag can give some object a much higher implied value, but I think if the rest of your photos are good enough and you can put some seemingly impressive things in your profile it is way too big of a risk. This time around I've definitely done the less is more approach by not revealing much at all and simply relying on three things in addition to my photos:1. Job titles - on paper they sound impressive to mommy and daddy2. Just moved to town - while true, the main reason I make that known is that I'm no-drama, fresh meat type deal 3. Obsess about some guy thing - I don't know why it works, but girls seem drawn to some guy who has some oddly mild obsession to something. Whether it be cars, tattoos, or in my case, sports. I don't know if it gives them some competitive aspect or tht it makes it seem like my free time is more valuable or what, but it works. *However, it could have something to do with my angle and approach. I'm on eharmony, a more serious dating site and play the "got my crap together" angle because I think I really do well with the more nice rich girl type thing who is concerned with status and not some hot chick looking to hookup. If that were the case, the picture of a hot chick ploy could work.

The problem is that unlike most of the guys in this thread, you are looking for something serious / long term to marriage so you can't really use all the advice that's worked for the guys whose goal is to follow the operation scorch earth approach

The other issue I could see arising is because Woz is focused on putting his job title in the ad, he's going to get chicks that might be gold diggers. Granted, we all know Woz isn't balling yet ( ) but when you put something like lawyer or attorney in the ad, you might get some chicks with ulterior movtives. Just saying. Watch out for chicks that want a baby and a pay day.

 

[Walton Goggins]

Awesome stuff by Reginald (trying to remember whose alias this is). I can assure you though, the dog picture was a joke . My current profile is much like you describe with beach pictures, pictures of me playing QB in a competitive flag game (I think this one is quite effective because of the stigma that the QB is the top guy to go for), one getting strung up during one of those play-acting dinner cruise things, etc. I also think every girl I've met so far has commented that 1) they really liked I had a bunch of different photos up and 2) that I look exactly like I did in my photos. The second comment is almost always followed by some horror story of some guy who falsely advertised in his pictures (I love those guys, as they make make me look both more honest and more attractive). However, one point made by Reginald which I strongly disagree with* is having the picture of you and a hot chick up there or a picture where there has clearly been a grl cropped out of the picture. I've had a few dates tell me them immediately close a match if they see this because it means either that the guy may be hung up on his ex or he is a show-off and can't be trusted. I get the psychological effect it can have on a viewer as it is akin to say how a super high price tag can give some object a much higher implied value, but I think if the rest of your photos are good enough and you can put some seemingly impressive things in your profile it is way too big of a risk. This time around I've definitely done the less is more approach by not revealing much at all and simply relying on three things in addition to my photos:

1. Job titles - on paper they sound impressive to mommy and daddy

2. Just moved to town - while true, the main reason I make that known is that I'm no-drama, fresh meat type deal

3. Obsess about some guy thing - I don't know why it works, but girls seem drawn to some guy who has some oddly mild obsession to something. Whether it be cars, tattoos, or in my case, sports. I don't know if it gives them some competitive aspect or tht it makes it seem like my free time is more valuable or what, but it works.

*However, it could have something to do with my angle and approach. I'm on eharmony, a more serious dating site and play the "got my crap together" angle because I think I really do well with the more nice rich girl type thing who is concerned with status and not some hot chick looking to hookup. If that were the case, the picture of a hot chick ploy could work.

The problem is that unlike most of the guys in this thread, you are looking for something serious / long term to marriage so you can't really use all the advice that's worked for the guys whose goal is to follow the operation scorch earth approach

The other issue I could see arising is because Woz is focused on putting his job title in the ad, he's going to get chicks that might be gold diggers. Granted, we all know Woz isn't balling yet ( ) but when you put something like lawyer or attorney in the ad, you might get some chicks with ulterior movtives. Just saying. Watch out for chicks that want a baby and a pay day.

This is great you brought that up. You can seriously use your $$$ as a way to get a lot more from a girl who is a gold digger. They are easy to spot and the type of girls who generally can't keep it from you that she's looking for ANY man who has money. I use this line from time to time when I am with a girl that I know $ is the most important thing in a man in their eyes:"I'm just tired of dating women who are only interested in how much money I make."

They always agree and say those are awful women meanwhile you can see the wheels turning in their head. What I said to them was that I have money, enough of it that it impresses them to be with me. An idiot would say something like "I'm rich." Could be true or not but either way you come off as a dbag, this way indicates that you just want to find an incredible girl who is interested in you and not your wallet and unless they have access to your accounts then you could have a dime or really are rich, they won't know.

 

[Zow]

She then drops the, "If I didn't like you so much, I totally would have slept with you already - so take that as a compliment."

WTF kind of thing is that to say? "So, since I'm a slut, I would have banged you already but being that you seem like a nice guy, I'm going to pretend that I'm not a slut."Dude, bang her soon but don't waste time on her and don't think that she's the one. That chick is messed up in the head.

Yeah, that's the kind of thing a girl would say to her friends when telling them about the date. Sharing that information with the guy is idiotic at best.

Yeah, I didn't quite know what her motive was there. I think she was stuck in the predicament of wanting me to actually date her but not disinteresting me by no putting out so she'd try to "compliment" me by telling me she plans on jumping me but doesn't want to come across as a slut. Instead that's exactly what she did and I could feel my focus immediately going to bedding the chick. Rest assured, no long term plans there. Going to see if she's as good as she says she is, but that's the extent.

 

[Zow]

Awesome stuff by Reginald (trying to remember whose alias this is). I can assure you though, the dog picture was a joke . My current profile is much like you describe with beach pictures, pictures of me playing QB in a competitive flag game (I think this one is quite effective because of the stigma that the QB is the top guy to go for), one getting strung up during one of those play-acting dinner cruise things, etc. I also think every girl I've met so far has commented that 1) they really liked I had a bunch of different photos up and 2) that I look exactly like I did in my photos. The second comment is almost always followed by some horror story of some guy who falsely advertised in his pictures (I love those guys, as they make make me look both more honest and more attractive). However, one point made by Reginald which I strongly disagree with* is having the picture of you and a hot chick up there or a picture where there has clearly been a grl cropped out of the picture. I've had a few dates tell me them immediately close a match if they see this because it means either that the guy may be hung up on his ex or he is a show-off and can't be trusted. I get the psychological effect it can have on a viewer as it is akin to say how a super high price tag can give some object a much higher implied value, but I think if the rest of your photos are good enough and you can put some seemingly impressive things in your profile it is way too big of a risk. This time around I've definitely done the less is more approach by not revealing much at all and simply relying on three things in addition to my photos:1. Job titles - on paper they sound impressive to mommy and daddy2. Just moved to town - while true, the main reason I make that known is that I'm no-drama, fresh meat type deal 3. Obsess about some guy thing - I don't know why it works, but girls seem drawn to some guy who has some oddly mild obsession to something. Whether it be cars, tattoos, or in my case, sports. I don't know if it gives them some competitive aspect or tht it makes it seem like my free time is more valuable or what, but it works. *However, it could have something to do with my angle and approach. I'm on eharmony, a more serious dating site and play the "got my crap together" angle because I think I really do well with the more nice rich girl type thing who is concerned with status and not some hot chick looking to hookup. If that were the case, the picture of a hot chick ploy could work.

The problem is that unlike most of the guys in this thread, you are looking for something serious / long term to marriage so you can't really use all the advice that's worked for the guys whose goal is to follow the operation scorch earth approach

No, I'm not - but that's the angle I play with these girls.

 

[Zow]

Awesome stuff by Reginald (trying to remember whose alias this is). I can assure you though, the dog picture was a joke . My current profile is much like you describe with beach pictures, pictures of me playing QB in a competitive flag game (I think this one is quite effective because of the stigma that the QB is the top guy to go for), one getting strung up during one of those play-acting dinner cruise things, etc. I also think every girl I've met so far has commented that 1) they really liked I had a bunch of different photos up and 2) that I look exactly like I did in my photos. The second comment is almost always followed by some horror story of some guy who falsely advertised in his pictures (I love those guys, as they make make me look both more honest and more attractive). However, one point made by Reginald which I strongly disagree with* is having the picture of you and a hot chick up there or a picture where there has clearly been a grl cropped out of the picture. I've had a few dates tell me them immediately close a match if they see this because it means either that the guy may be hung up on his ex or he is a show-off and can't be trusted. I get the psychological effect it can have on a viewer as it is akin to say how a super high price tag can give some object a much higher implied value, but I think if the rest of your photos are good enough and you can put some seemingly impressive things in your profile it is way too big of a risk. This time around I've definitely done the less is more approach by not revealing much at all and simply relying on three things in addition to my photos:1. Job titles - on paper they sound impressive to mommy and daddy2. Just moved to town - while true, the main reason I make that known is that I'm no-drama, fresh meat type deal 3. Obsess about some guy thing - I don't know why it works, but girls seem drawn to some guy who has some oddly mild obsession to something. Whether it be cars, tattoos, or in my case, sports. I don't know if it gives them some competitive aspect or tht it makes it seem like my free time is more valuable or what, but it works. *However, it could have something to do with my angle and approach. I'm on eharmony, a more serious dating site and play the "got my crap together" angle because I think I really do well with the more nice rich girl type thing who is concerned with status and not some hot chick looking to hookup. If that were the case, the picture of a hot chick ploy could work.

The problem is that unlike most of the guys in this thread, you are looking for something serious / long term to marriage so you can't really use all the advice that's worked for the guys whose goal is to follow the operation scorch earth approach

The other issue I could see arising is because Woz is focused on putting his job title in the ad, he's going to get chicks that might be gold diggers. Granted, we all know Woz isn't balling yet ( ) but when you put something like lawyer or attorney in the ad, you might get some chicks with ulterior movtives. Just saying. Watch out for chicks that want a baby and a pay day.

Oh I hear ya. I'm definitely very guarded there. I like listing my job title because, frankly, it gets my foot in the door and allows me to say less in a profile. I always tell them then on a first date how I am really attracted to a girl who can take care of herself because I think man and women are completely equal. I always wear non-expensive things too on a first date. This tends to weed them out pretty quickly because the golddiggers will say something like, "well, I think it's really cool of a man to take care of a girl..."

 

[Gr00vus]

She then drops the, "If I didn't like you so much, I totally would have slept with you already - so take that as a compliment."

WTF kind of thing is that to say? "So, since I'm a slut, I would have banged you already but being that you seem like a nice guy, I'm going to pretend that I'm not a slut."Dude, bang her soon but don't waste time on her and don't think that she's the one. That chick is messed up in the head.

Yeah, that's the kind of thing a girl would say to her friends when telling them about the date. Sharing that information with the guy is idiotic at best.

Since she "really likes" Woz, she's going to employ the "make him wait for sex until he feels too invested in the relationship to simply walk away strategy." By the time he gets any, he's going to think that was way too much effort and time for a one-time occurrence, and then the manipulation really starts.Woz should expect several more dates before actual sex. Immediately followed by the "we shouldn't have done that so soon" conversation, further teases about sex to make it seem like she really wants to but obstacles to what you both want just keep popping up, and then immediately after the second occurrence (while you're still in bed) dropping the "so what are you doing this weekend? I'd like my parents to meet you."I've spent way too much time as the "safe" (i.e. happily married to one of our girlfriends) guy that's allowed to sit in on girl-talk. Thank god for becoming a father. Now I just take the boy out to play.

Or, to put it more succinctly - Woz, you got worked. She's running the show right now. Don't let this continue.

 

[Gr00vus]

I've spent way too much time as the "safe" (i.e. happily married to one of our girlfriends) guy that's allowed to sit in on girl-talk. Thank god for becoming a father. Now I just take the boy out to play.

Is that a euphemism for having to pleasure yourself because you no longer get regular loving from your wife as a safely married man?

You're imagining me just whipping it out right there in the middle of their girl-talk? And this is allowed simply because I've reproduced?

If it's not, it sure should be.

 

[Zow]

She then drops the, "If I didn't like you so much, I totally would have slept with you already - so take that as a compliment."

WTF kind of thing is that to say? "So, since I'm a slut, I would have banged you already but being that you seem like a nice guy, I'm going to pretend that I'm not a slut."Dude, bang her soon but don't waste time on her and don't think that she's the one. That chick is messed up in the head.

Yeah, that's the kind of thing a girl would say to her friends when telling them about the date. Sharing that information with the guy is idiotic at best.

Since she "really likes" Woz, she's going to employ the "make him wait for sex until he feels too invested in the relationship to simply walk away strategy." By the time he gets any, he's going to think that was way too much effort and time for a one-time occurrence, and then the manipulation really starts.Woz should expect several more dates before actual sex. Immediately followed by the "we shouldn't have done that so soon" conversation, further teases about sex to make it seem like she really wants to but obstacles to what you both want just keep popping up, and then immediately after the second occurrence (while you're still in bed) dropping the "so what are you doing this weekend? I'd like my parents to meet you."I've spent way too much time as the "safe" (i.e. happily married to one of our girlfriends) guy that's allowed to sit in on girl-talk. Thank god for becoming a father. Now I just take the boy out to play.

Or, to put it more succinctly - Woz, you got worked. She's running the show right now. Don't let this continue.

It won't. Don't plan on calling her for at least a week. Subliminally letting her know that wasn't cool. Went out again with the 35 year old tonight. She's pretty awesome. Thinking that is heading down the relationship road. She is mentioning me joining her and her friends in a couple weekends and has informed me friday will be the day she puts out all the way. However, during tonight's date I get a text from the little redhead asking me if I want to meet her parents. I'm supposed to see her tomorrow. Yikes.

 

[Leeroy Jenkins]

So all of Woz'a girls thinks he's their boyfriend. They are all going to hate you and think you're an ####### within 2 weeks it seems. I feel like they're smarter/classier than the racist and other townies.

 

[Zow]

So all of Woz'a girls thinks he's their boyfriend. They are all going to hate you and think you're an ####### within 2 weeks it seems. I feel like they're smarter/classier than the racist and other townies.

Feel like? Of course they are. And the prior townies all think I'm an ####### now, even though none of them had ever discussed being exclusive with me. This internet dating thing is a weird dynamic in that it's super easy to get a date every night of the week with a different girl. Couple that with the fact that I really have to not like someone to not go out on a second date, and I'm going to be dating mulitple people. However, I'd imagine these girls are too. I just gotta figure out the best way to let them down when it becomes exclusive. Right now I'm thinking the best bet is to come right out and say I like dating and am not sure if I want to be exclusive with anyone. That could end badly, but at least it's honest (although they'll claim I'm not being honest since eharmony is supposed to be a long term site).

 

[jason12vb]

Anyone got any advice on first contacts when fishing for the 20 something cream of the crop girls on POF? I've got my profile down and get lots of positive feedback on it..just not getting the responses I'd like when making first contact. I normally try and reference something in their profile to show I've read it.

Also interested in hearing how an early 30s guy might go after the 21-24 range.

TIA

 

[skillz]

Well I am headed out for my first official idate tonight. Eharmony really takes a while to get stuff lined up with all the emailing and guided communication. I will say however that all of that really lets the women get emotionally into you so I figure that could pay dividends now that the dates have started - one of those things where even though it's the first date we've talked so much that it's almost as if we've known each other longer than that so she may be willing to be more affectionate than otherwise. She is 30, a teacher, with 2 kids. Some of her pics of her are decent and others she is real good looking. I guess I will find out what version shows up tonight.

I started communicating with another gal over 4th of July weekend and she is great. Really into her a lot and don't want to screw this one up so I will take things slow with her if need be. She's 33 with a kid, really good looking and in great shape, a PA, and shares my sense of humor. Gonna call her tomorrow and get something set up with her - hopefully do something tomorrow afternoon. She's my priority right now. The gal I am going out with tonight is a good option that I will hold onto but she doesn't compare to this gal.

Have a third gal who just sent me an email today. She is also 33 with a kid and is a recruiter. Not as good looking as the other 2. I am going to hold off on that for a bit. She took a while to get back to me - my guess is she was dating other guys and that didn't work out so she went to me as a lower option. It's been hard enough trying to remember details of what the first two gals told me about themselves and what I have already told them. Adding a third to the mix right now would really start confusing me. I don't know how some of you guys do it.

The interesting thing is each of these matches initiated contact with me - at this point I haven't had to do any work on the site to get a match to communicate with me. I don't know why I didn't try this stuff sooner.

 

[Disco Stu]

Autotuned version is a giggle.

 

[skillz]

Well I am headed out for my first official idate tonight. Eharmony really takes a while to get stuff lined up with all the emailing and guided communication. I will say however that all of that really lets the women get emotionally into you so I figure that could pay dividends now that the dates have started - one of those things where even though it's the first date we've talked so much that it's almost as if we've known each other longer than that so she may be willing to be more affectionate than otherwise. She is 30, a teacher, with 2 kids. Some of her pics of her are decent and others she is real good looking. I guess I will find out what version shows up tonight. I started communicating with another gal over 4th of July weekend and she is great. Really into her a lot and don't want to screw this one up so I will take things slow with her if need be. She's 33 with a kid, really good looking and in great shape, a PA, and shares my sense of humor. Gonna call her tomorrow and get something set up with her - hopefully do something tomorrow afternoon. She's my priority right now. The gal I am going out with tonight is a good option that I will hold onto but she doesn't compare to this gal. Have a third gal who just sent me an email today. She is also 33 with a kid and is a recruiter. Not as good looking as the other 2. I am going to hold off on that for a bit. She took a while to get back to me - my guess is she was dating other guys and that didn't work out so she went to me as a lower option. It's been hard enough trying to remember details of what the first two gals told me about themselves and what I have already told them. Adding a third to the mix right now would really start confusing me. I don't know how some of you guys do it. The interesting thing is each of these matches initiated contact with me - at this point I haven't had to do any work on the site to get a match to communicate with me. I don't know why I didn't try this stuff sooner.

My date on Saturday wasn't much fun at all. I hit the eject button after 2 hours. She looked closer to her bad pictures than good and was a bit chunkier than what I expected. She started off the date flapping her hands and saying how she was so nervous to be going on a date with me. Great, you're nervous, but no need to announce it. She just got more annoying from there. After we got done with some drinks at the bar, the gal asked me "so what's next on the agenda?" and I told her "nothing, the agenda is done. I just wanted a chance to get to meet you, no need to rush things." Parted ways and closed her out ASAP when I got home. I had no physical contact with her the whole night; didn't want to have anything to do with her.I talked with the PA on the phone Sunday and have a date with her set up for Thursday night so hopefully that goes better. Just a low key meeting where we eat some ice cream and go for a stroll. Looking forward to it...

 

[OC Zed]

With the finalization of my divorce languishing between lawyers and my ex-wife doing a lot of , I tried some iDating on Match a few months ago without much success. Although I tried to up front in my profile (without belaboring it) that the divorce was a mere formality and that I was looking to move on with my life, just about every chick was understandably spooked by my "Separated" status and I was able to get only one date with a chick who was good looking, but a little .

Fast forward four months later, the divorce settlement agreement is still mired in and I really need some tail after two long years. I decided to make a little white lie by switching my status on Match to "Divorced: and now the interest in me is way up. It looks like I already have dates lined up for next week with two solid-looking, fun chicks. I don't have any interest right now in diving into the one-night stand scene, so I imagine it will be two or three weeks at the earliest before I actually start seeing some action through the second/third dates. Hopefully by then, my divorce will actually be finalized and no one will be the wiser, but if not, I still feel like I have to come clean with any of these chicks about my status. The burden of being honest, I suppose.

 

[skillz]

With the finalization of my divorce languishing between lawyers and my ex-wife doing a lot of , I tried some iDating on Match a few months ago without much success. Although I tried to up front in my profile (without belaboring it) that the divorce was a mere formality and that I was looking to move on with my life, just about every chick was understandably spooked by my "Separated" status and I was able to get only one date with a chick who was good looking, but a little .

Fast forward four months later, the divorce settlement agreement is still mired in and I really need some tail after two long years. I decided to make a little white lie by switching my status on Match to "Divorced: and now the interest in me is way up. It looks like I already have dates lined up for next week with two solid-looking, fun chicks. I don't have any interest right now in diving into the one-night stand scene, so I imagine it will be two or three weeks at the earliest before I actually start seeing some action through the second/third dates. Hopefully by then, my divorce will actually be finalized and no one will be the wiser, but if not, I still feel like I have to come clean with any of these chicks about my status. The burden of being honest, I suppose.

If you do this they're probably going to bail because they'll think if you're lying about your divorced status that you're a liar about other things. Good luck though.

 

[skillz]

I talked with the PA on the phone Sunday and have a date with her set up for Thursday night so hopefully that goes better. Just a low key meeting where we eat some ice cream and go for a stroll. Looking forward to it...

This date was okay. She wasn't real talkative and when she did talk I found out she had just gotten out of her divorce and had been cheated on and I was her first date since. She was pretty messed up emotionally. I decided to stay far away from that mess so I didn't go out with her again.Meeting an attorney tonight for a quick beer before the Detroit Tigers game tonight. Set it up a week ago but she keeps sending me messages about it everyday so she seems real high maintenance. Should be interesting. Trying to set up another date with a cute, blonde teacher that I am at the email stage with right now (seems like there are a ton of teachers and nurses on eharmony for some reason). Never dated a blonde before so I am intrigued. I will say though that she keeps talking about all the degrees she has and how she needs a man with intellect but she misspells a ton of words whenever she writes a message. Good thing she is a teacher, huh?

 

[OC Zed]

I talked with the PA on the phone Sunday and have a date with her set up for Thursday night so hopefully that goes better. Just a low key meeting where we eat some ice cream and go for a stroll. Looking forward to it...

This date was okay. She wasn't real talkative and when she did talk I found out she had just gotten out of her divorce and had been cheated on and I was her first date since. She was pretty messed up emotionally. I decided to stay far away from that mess so I didn't go out with her again.Meeting an attorney tonight for a quick beer before the Detroit Tigers game tonight. Set it up a week ago but she keeps sending me messages about it everyday so she seems real high maintenance. Should be interesting.

Trying to set up another date with a cute, blonde teacher that I am at the email stage with right now (seems like there are a ton of teachers and nurses on eharmony for some reason). Never dated a blonde before so I am intrigued. I will say though that she keeps talking about all the degrees she has and how she needs a man with intellect but she misspells a ton of words whenever she writes a message. Good thing she is a teacher, huh?

Same with Match. It makes sense - both are occupations that involve very little interaction with single men and also involve significant free time outside of work.

 

[OC Zed]

With the finalization of my divorce languishing between lawyers and my ex-wife doing a lot of , I tried some iDating on Match a few months ago without much success. Although I tried to up front in my profile (without belaboring it) that the divorce was a mere formality and that I was looking to move on with my life, just about every chick was understandably spooked by my "Separated" status and I was able to get only one date with a chick who was good looking, but a little .

Fast forward four months later, the divorce settlement agreement is still mired in and I really need some tail after two long years. I decided to make a little white lie by switching my status on Match to "Divorced: and now the interest in me is way up. It looks like I already have dates lined up for next week with two solid-looking, fun chicks. I don't have any interest right now in diving into the one-night stand scene, so I imagine it will be two or three weeks at the earliest before I actually start seeing some action through the second/third dates. Hopefully by then, my divorce will actually be finalized and no one will be the wiser, but if not, I still feel like I have to come clean with any of these chicks about my status. The burden of being honest, I suppose.

If you do this they're probably going to bail because they'll think if you're lying about your divorced status that you're a liar about other things. Good luck though.

Ya, I know. But I'm really tired of keeping my life on hold. It's sort of a Catch-22.

 

[OC Zed]

I had a date last night with a chick from Match. In her description, she listed herself as "curvy." Her photos backed that up, although she definitely appeared to be on the sexy side of curvy - not the chunky side. The chick that showed up, however, was much different than her photos. She was at least 30 lbs. heavier and not in a good way.

I decided to make the best of the situation and enjoyed myself on the date. She's a nice, fun chick, but I just wasn't attracted to her. Perhaps against my better judgment, I invited her out for dinner following our drinks and I even brought her back to my place afterward. The good thing is that I didn't try hooking up with her as I have no desire to see her again and I didn't really think it was worth just pushing for a one-night stand. That, and also because she would have crushed a few of my ribs.

Rookie mistate: always be leery of whether the chick's photos are recent.

 

[Disco Stu]

I had a date last night with a chick from Match. In her description, she listed herself as "curvy." Her photos backed that up, although she definitely appeared to be on the sexy side of curvy - not the chunky side. The chick that showed up, however, was much different than her photos. She was at least 30 lbs. heavier and not in a good way. I decided to make the best of the situation and enjoyed myself on the date. She's a nice, fun chick, but I just wasn't attracted to her. Perhaps against my better judgment, I invited her out for dinner following our drinks and I even brought her back to my place afterward. The good thing is that I didn't try hooking up with her as I have no desire to see her again and I didn't really think it was worth just pushing for a one-night stand. That, and also because she would have crushed a few of my ribs.Rookie mistate: always be leery of whether the chick's photos are recent.

1. That's what "curvy" always means.2. No dinner on the first meeting unless things are going exceptionally well.3. Good luck losing this one.

 

[skillz]

I had a date last night with a chick from Match. In her description, she listed herself as "curvy." Her photos backed that up, although she definitely appeared to be on the sexy side of curvy - not the chunky side. The chick that showed up, however, was much different than her photos. She was at least 30 lbs. heavier and not in a good way.

I decided to make the best of the situation and enjoyed myself on the date. She's a nice, fun chick, but I just wasn't attracted to her. Perhaps against my better judgment, I invited her out for dinner following our drinks and I even brought her back to my place afterward. The good thing is that I didn't try hooking up with her as I have no desire to see her again and I didn't really think it was worth just pushing for a one-night stand. That, and also because she would have crushed a few of my ribs.

Rookie mistate: always be leery of whether the chick's photos are recent.

Oof. You shouldn't do this if you have no interest in the gal and no intention of hooking up. She knows where you live so if she turns out to be a psycho good luck with that.

 

[Reginald Cornsilks]

I had a date last night with a chick from Match. In her description, she listed herself as "curvy." Her photos backed that up, although she definitely appeared to be on the sexy side of curvy - not the chunky side. The chick that showed up, however, was much different than her photos. She was at least 30 lbs. heavier and not in a good way.

I decided to make the best of the situation and enjoyed myself on the date. She's a nice, fun chick, but I just wasn't attracted to her. Perhaps against my better judgment, I invited her out for dinner following our drinks and I even brought her back to my place afterward. The good thing is that I didn't try hooking up with her as I have no desire to see her again and I didn't really think it was worth just pushing for a one-night stand. That, and also because she would have crushed a few of my ribs.

Rookie mistate: always be leery of whether the chick's photos are recent.

1. That's what "curvy" always means.2. No dinner on the first meeting unless things are going exceptionally well.

3. Good luck losing this one.

I prefer "Curvy" women. But if a girl classifies herself as Curvy on match - she is usually clinically obese. It's tried and true.

If you like women that are curvy search for "About Average" chicks - they are more likely to be curvy in an actual good way.

Then of course there's the girls you meet that state "About Average" and are nowhere close to average. Really pisses me off. I usually end the date within 15 minutes with an excuse if she misrepresented myself. One time we were meeting in a very public place and on the phone to try to find each other. I saw the girl walking down the stairs and took off running. She was 100 lbs heavier than the last pic she posted. Lying is worse than doing this IMO.

 

[JbizzleMan]

I had a date last night with a chick from Match. In her description, she listed herself as "curvy." Her photos backed that up, although she definitely appeared to be on the sexy side of curvy - not the chunky side. The chick that showed up, however, was much different than her photos. She was at least 30 lbs. heavier and not in a good way.

I decided to make the best of the situation and enjoyed myself on the date. She's a nice, fun chick, but I just wasn't attracted to her. Perhaps against my better judgment, I invited her out for dinner following our drinks and I even brought her back to my place afterward. The good thing is that I didn't try hooking up with her as I have no desire to see her again and I didn't really think it was worth just pushing for a one-night stand. That, and also because she would have crushed a few of my ribs.

Rookie mistate: always be leery of whether the chick's photos are recent.

1. That's what "curvy" always means.2. No dinner on the first meeting unless things are going exceptionally well.

3. Good luck losing this one.

I prefer "Curvy" women. But if a girl classifies herself as Curvy on match - she is usually clinically obese. It's tried and true.

If you like women that are curvy search for "About Average" chicks - they are more likely to be curvy in an actual good way.

Then of course there's the girls you meet that state "About Average" and are nowhere close to average. Really pisses me off. I usually end the date within 15 minutes with an excuse if she misrepresented myself. One time we were meeting in a very public place and on the phone to try to find each other. I saw the girl walking down the stairs and took off running. She was 100 lbs heavier than the last pic she posted. Lying is worse than doing this IMO.

 

[Reginald Cornsilks]

Would you date a heavy hitter than recently had lap band surgery but is a surgeon and makes over $150,000 dollars a year and drives a Porsche?

Sort of like investing in stock when it's 2 dollars with the hope it'll be 50 dollars in another 9 months? Of course with the risk the stock collapses after she eats through the lap band?

Of course, you'd have to hide her from your friends until the stock reached 50 dollars.

Dead serious question.

 

[JbizzleMan]

Would you date a heavy hitter than recently had lap band surgery but is a surgeon and makes over $150,000 dollars a year and drives a Porsche?Sort of like investing in stock when it's 2 dollars with the hope it'll be 50 dollars in another 9 months? Of course with the risk the stock collapses after she eats through the lap band?Of course, you'd have to hide her from your friends until the stock reached 50 dollars.Dead serious question.

No.

 

[JbizzleMan]

I talked with the PA on the phone Sunday and have a date with her set up for Thursday night so hopefully that goes better. Just a low key meeting where we eat some ice cream and go for a stroll. Looking forward to it...

This date was okay. She wasn't real talkative and when she did talk I found out she had just gotten out of her divorce and had been cheated on and I was her first date since. She was pretty messed up emotionally. I decided to stay far away from that mess so I didn't go out with her again.Meeting an attorney tonight for a quick beer before the Detroit Tigers game tonight. Set it up a week ago but she keeps sending me messages about it everyday so she seems real high maintenance. Should be interesting. Trying to set up another date with a cute, blonde teacher that I am at the email stage with right now (seems like there are a ton of teachers and nurses on eharmony for some reason). Never dated a blonde before so I am intrigued. I will say though that she keeps talking about all the degrees she has and how she needs a man with intellect but she misspells a ton of words whenever she writes a message. Good thing she is a teacher, huh?

Met with the high maintenance attorney before the Detroit Tigers game. She had her two kids with her which she never mentioned anything about to be beforehand. It was odd introducing myself to her and then have her 5 and 8 year old kids start blurting out questions like "who is he?" I did some quick chit chat over a beer and got the heck out of there in about 10 minutes. Just told her it looked like she was busy and didn't want to impose on her day, glad we were able to meet, enjoy the game, and then ran away. A day later she somehow figures out who I am and friend requests me on FB. I ignore the request. She then sends me a pissy email (somehow she found my work email online - probably from my profile on my law firm's website after figuring out my name) two days later making a big deal about why I didn't accept her request. Told her I just met her and that I don't just friend people I just met and don't take it personally. She still made a big deal out of it so I used that as an opening to just say she seemed to be real confrontational over non-issues and that it was best we don't talk anymore if she was going to have such an attitude with me. That ended that.In the meantime, I went out on a date with a teacher. She is 32, good looking, and a blonde - which I have never dated before. Divorced with 3 kids though. In her hey day before she had kids I bet she was a complete knockout. She runs and is physically active with a nice rack and good body so I figured what the heck might as well meet up with her. Ended up doing mini golf, and then headed out for a dinner since things were going well. Talked a ton and got along very well. After dinner we hung out a local bar for a few more drinks. Drove her back to her car since it was still at the restaurant. Made out with her for a bit in the car before she left. Scheduled another date for this past Friday. Picked her up at her place and took her to the driving range this time - she really likes golf so I told her we'd have some fun at the range and just talk some more. After that we went to dinner and drinks. Ended up dropping her off at her place and we made out some more in the car. She then asks if I want to go inside for some wine. Uh, sure no problem. End up talking to her for about 10 minutes on the couch before we start making out again. Put down our wine glasses at that point and start going at it on the couch. Everything comes off at that point except for our shorts. At that point I get the pleasant surprise of finding out that she had a boob job and is now sporting 36DDD's. I guess I can knock off being able to experience fun time with a gal who had a boob job off the bucket list now. Anyway, we go at it on the couch for a while and then she says she wants to stop for a bit so we get back to drinking the rest of the wine. I could tell she really wanted to have sex but was conflicted about giving it up on the second date. (From what she told me, she met her husband at 19, got married at 21 and was with him until about 2 years ago so she didn't really date around a ton previously and was just starting back up now). She says we should probably stop for the night and I should go home. I figure, no big deal, I'll leave and, by the next date, I'll be able to close the deal. I didn't have any condoms with me anyway (rookie move as I never expected I'd get that far with her on date 2) and there wasn't really a place nearby so I told her I'd go and we'd just figure out another time to meet up. So we get to the front door and I kiss her goodbye. We start making out again and end up back on the couch. She says to me that if we go back on the couch that she won't be able to control herself and her pants are gonna have to come off. She says she wants to have sex real bad but doesn't have any condoms. I don't want to get some because a store is real far away and if I do that by the time I come back she could change her mind. I just tell her don't worry we can work around that and we keep making out. After a few minutes of that I tell her we should go to her room so we have more space than the couch to fool around. Get her upstairs, and the pants come off within one minute. She starts up with a ton of dirty talk about how she wants me to f her hard, be inside her, etc. So I oblige. End up having sex with her without a condom but obviously don't do anything stupid with my little guys. At that point, I wanted to leave her place and go home. She comes out of the bathroom though and says are you gonna sleep over now. Felt bad about leaving at that point so I stayed over. Not all bad though. Middle of the night she gets up and we start going at it again. Tried out a whole bunch of new positions the second time around and, for some reason, she is really into the dirty talk and likes things a bit rough. Never really been with a gal like that and, whenever she has been like that, it usually comes out a bit later not the first time we are messing around.So, I must say this idating thing is pretty good. Yes, there are some crazies and people you meet that don't look anything like their pictures, but if you have any decent amount of game it doesn't take too long to get results. As far as eharmony goes, the line "even though we just met it seems like we've known each other a long time since we've already been communicating" seems to work very well. In the female's mind it lets her give you a pass for only being on date #1 or #2 and accelerate things without feeling like a slut. At least that's my take. Anyway, I've read so many stories in this thread over the years I figured I might as well share one of my own for once.

 

[Reginald Cornsilks]

I talked with the PA on the phone Sunday and have a date with her set up for Thursday night so hopefully that goes better. Just a low key meeting where we eat some ice cream and go for a stroll. Looking forward to it...

This date was okay. She wasn't real talkative and when she did talk I found out she had just gotten out of her divorce and had been cheated on and I was her first date since. She was pretty messed up emotionally. I decided to stay far away from that mess so I didn't go out with her again.Meeting an attorney tonight for a quick beer before the Detroit Tigers game tonight. Set it up a week ago but she keeps sending me messages about it everyday so she seems real high maintenance. Should be interesting. Trying to set up another date with a cute, blonde teacher that I am at the email stage with right now (seems like there are a ton of teachers and nurses on eharmony for some reason). Never dated a blonde before so I am intrigued. I will say though that she keeps talking about all the degrees she has and how she needs a man with intellect but she misspells a ton of words whenever she writes a message. Good thing she is a teacher, huh?

Met with the high maintenance attorney before the Detroit Tigers game. She had her two kids with her which she never mentioned anything about to be beforehand. It was odd introducing myself to her and then have her 5 and 8 year old kids start blurting out questions like "who is he?" I did some quick chit chat over a beer and got the heck out of there in about 10 minutes. Just told her it looked like she was busy and didn't want to impose on her day, glad we were able to meet, enjoy the game, and then ran away. A day later she somehow figures out who I am and friend requests me on FB. I ignore the request. She then sends me a pissy email (somehow she found my work email online - probably from my profile on my law firm's website after figuring out my name) two days later making a big deal about why I didn't accept her request. Told her I just met her and that I don't just friend people I just met and don't take it personally. She still made a big deal out of it so I used that as an opening to just say she seemed to be real confrontational over non-issues and that it was best we don't talk anymore if she was going to have such an attitude with me. That ended that.In the meantime, I went out on a date with a teacher. She is 32, good looking, and a blonde - which I have never dated before. Divorced with 3 kids though. In her hey day before she had kids I bet she was a complete knockout. She runs and is physically active with a nice rack and good body so I figured what the heck might as well meet up with her. Ended up doing mini golf, and then headed out for a dinner since things were going well. Talked a ton and got along very well. After dinner we hung out a local bar for a few more drinks. Drove her back to her car since it was still at the restaurant. Made out with her for a bit in the car before she left. Scheduled another date for this past Friday. Picked her up at her place and took her to the driving range this time - she really likes golf so I told her we'd have some fun at the range and just talk some more. After that we went to dinner and drinks. Ended up dropping her off at her place and we made out some more in the car. She then asks if I want to go inside for some wine. Uh, sure no problem. End up talking to her for about 10 minutes on the couch before we start making out again. Put down our wine glasses at that point and start going at it on the couch. Everything comes off at that point except for our shorts. At that point I get the pleasant surprise of finding out that she had a boob job and is now sporting 36DDD's. I guess I can knock off being able to experience fun time with a gal who had a boob job off the bucket list now. Anyway, we go at it on the couch for a while and then she says she wants to stop for a bit so we get back to drinking the rest of the wine. I could tell she really wanted to have sex but was conflicted about giving it up on the second date. (From what she told me, she met her husband at 19, got married at 21 and was with him until about 2 years ago so she didn't really date around a ton previously and was just starting back up now). She says we should probably stop for the night and I should go home. I figure, no big deal, I'll leave and, by the next date, I'll be able to close the deal. I didn't have any condoms with me anyway (rookie move as I never expected I'd get that far with her on date 2) and there wasn't really a place nearby so I told her I'd go and we'd just figure out another time to meet up. So we get to the front door and I kiss her goodbye. We start making out again and end up back on the couch. She says to me that if we go back on the couch that she won't be able to control herself and her pants are gonna have to come off. She says she wants to have sex real bad but doesn't have any condoms. I don't want to get some because a store is real far away and if I do that by the time I come back she could change her mind. I just tell her don't worry we can work around that and we keep making out. After a few minutes of that I tell her we should go to her room so we have more space than the couch to fool around. Get her upstairs, and the pants come off within one minute. She starts up with a ton of dirty talk about how she wants me to f her hard, be inside her, etc. So I oblige. End up having sex with her without a condom but obviously don't do anything stupid with my little guys. At that point, I wanted to leave her place and go home. She comes out of the bathroom though and says are you gonna sleep over now. Felt bad about leaving at that point so I stayed over. Not all bad though. Middle of the night she gets up and we start going at it again. Tried out a whole bunch of new positions the second time around and, for some reason, she is really into the dirty talk and likes things a bit rough. Never really been with a gal like that and, whenever she has been like that, it usually comes out a bit later not the first time we are messing around.So, I must say this idating thing is pretty good. Yes, there are some crazies and people you meet that don't look anything like their pictures, but if you have any decent amount of game it doesn't take too long to get results. As far as eharmony goes, the line "even though we just met it seems like we've known each other a long time since we've already been communicating" seems to work very well. In the female's mind it lets her give you a pass for only being on date #1 or #2 and accelerate things without feeling like a slut. At least that's my take. Anyway, I've read so many stories in this thread over the years I figured I might as well share one of my own for once.

Surprised you go for a kiss on the first date. I NEVER do. It's not a confidence thing really but you can only really tell if they are into you based on whether or not they agree to a 2nd date. I always wait until the 2nd date...on the first meeting she's never going to say anything negative. There's been times when I know I could have, but you have to exert some authority and control. It's paid off - I've closed all the way on a 2nd date many times. You know they are interested at that point/Also a tip for the new guys. Never ASK a girl if you can kiss her. Terrible idea - women like a man that are just going to do it. I've been given the side of the head a few times, you get over it quickly. If you want to plant one on her - just do it. I see too many dudes who ask first - awful awful awful - she's going to think you are a ###### (clinical name for a female reproductive organ)

 

[OC Zed]

I've had an interesting problem on Match the last few weeks. I've sent initial e-mails to a few chicks with the standard semi-witty joke and a few sentences about what we might have in common. These chicks then replied back to me seemingly interested and asking some basic questions about me (very light, on-the-surface type info - e.g., how long have you lived out here, where do you hang out for fun, etc.). I'd send a response back with a little bit more witty banter and light questions and then ask if she wants to meet for a drink (wanting to keep the first date pretty casual).

For three chicks now, I've received no response back at all following my reply to their own e-mails. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong here - I figure if the chicks were not interested, they would not have sent me the initial e-mail back to me. Or is it this common for chicks to be this flaky on Match?



ETA: In case this is of any importance, all of the chicks are mid-30s, no kids, professional job. It could be that they get scared of me having a kid, but they should have seen that from my initial e-mail as it's listed in my profile.

 

[Reginald Cornsilks]

I've had an interesting problem on Match the last few weeks. I've sent initial e-mails to a few chicks with the standard semi-witty joke and a few sentences about what we might have in common. These chicks then replied back to me seemingly interested and asking some basic questions about me (very light, on-the-surface type info - e.g., how long have you lived out here, where do you hang out for fun, etc.). I'd send a response back with a little bit more witty banter and light questions and then ask if she wants to meet for a drink (wanting to keep the first date pretty casual). For three chicks now, I've received no response back at all following my reply to their own e-mails. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong here - I figure if the chicks were not interested, they would not have sent me the initial e-mail back to me. Or is it this common for chicks to be this flaky on Match? ETA: In case this is of any importance, all of the chicks are mid-30s, no kids, professional job. It could be that they get scared of me having a kid, but they should have seen that from my initial e-mail as it's listed in my profile.

Most likely you're asking them too soon to meet for drinks. Some of the chicks on there are scared of serial killers and rapists. That'd be my guess anyway - I usually give it 5-10 days before asking to meet up for a drink/

 

[OC Zed]

I've had an interesting problem on Match the last few weeks. I've sent initial e-mails to a few chicks with the standard semi-witty joke and a few sentences about what we might have in common. These chicks then replied back to me seemingly interested and asking some basic questions about me (very light, on-the-surface type info - e.g., how long have you lived out here, where do you hang out for fun, etc.). I'd send a response back with a little bit more witty banter and light questions and then ask if she wants to meet for a drink (wanting to keep the first date pretty casual).

For three chicks now, I've received no response back at all following my reply to their own e-mails. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong here - I figure if the chicks were not interested, they would not have sent me the initial e-mail back to me. Or is it this common for chicks to be this flaky on Match?



ETA: In case this is of any importance, all of the chicks are mid-30s, no kids, professional job. It could be that they get scared of me having a kid, but they should have seen that from my initial e-mail as it's listed in my profile.

Most likely you're asking them too soon to meet for drinks. Some of the chicks on there are scared of serial killers and rapists. That'd be my guess anyway - I usually give it 5-10 days before asking to meet up for a drink/

Really? Drinks in a public place? And this is Match.com which I figured to be a bit less uptight/more casual than EHarmony. To be honest, it seems really awkward and impersonal to maintain this weird e-mail pen-pal relationship instead of just meeting face to face - like normal adults - and having an actual conversation. You might be right as I'm pretty new at this. But if you are correct, then chicks seem really uptight and nutty to me.

 

[Dr. Awesome]

I've had an interesting problem on Match the last few weeks. I've sent initial e-mails to a few chicks with the standard semi-witty joke and a few sentences about what we might have in common. These chicks then replied back to me seemingly interested and asking some basic questions about me (very light, on-the-surface type info - e.g., how long have you lived out here, where do you hang out for fun, etc.). I'd send a response back with a little bit more witty banter and light questions and then ask if she wants to meet for a drink (wanting to keep the first date pretty casual).

For three chicks now, I've received no response back at all following my reply to their own e-mails. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong here - I figure if the chicks were not interested, they would not have sent me the initial e-mail back to me. Or is it this common for chicks to be this flaky on Match?



ETA: In case this is of any importance, all of the chicks are mid-30s, no kids, professional job. It could be that they get scared of me having a kid, but they should have seen that from my initial e-mail as it's listed in my profile.

Most likely you're asking them too soon to meet for drinks. Some of the chicks on there are scared of serial killers and rapists. That'd be my guess anyway - I usually give it 5-10 days before asking to meet up for a drink/

Really? Drinks in a public place? And this is Match.com which I figured to be a bit less uptight/more casual than EHarmony. To be honest, it seems really awkward and impersonal to maintain this weird e-mail pen-pal relationship instead of just meeting face to face - like normal adults - and having an actual conversation. You might be right as I'm pretty new at this. But if you are correct, then chicks seem really uptight and nutty to me.

It depends. Some chicks are down for meeting that night (or very soon). But when you come across that type they'll make the first move. When you find those chicks be aggressive once they make a move (but always flirty with an air of indifference). For the most part, you need to give a chick a reason to want to meet you in person. That takes a series of emails/texts to show you stand out from the crowd. 5-10 days is a bit much but there's absolutely nothing wrong with making it seem like you're a busy guy with a lot of options. It's always nice to feel like someone whose time is limited is going out of their way to spend it with you.

Asking for drinks right off the bat generally gives off an air of desperation.

 

[Reginald Cornsilks]

I've had an interesting problem on Match the last few weeks. I've sent initial e-mails to a few chicks with the standard semi-witty joke and a few sentences about what we might have in common. These chicks then replied back to me seemingly interested and asking some basic questions about me (very light, on-the-surface type info - e.g., how long have you lived out here, where do you hang out for fun, etc.). I'd send a response back with a little bit more witty banter and light questions and then ask if she wants to meet for a drink (wanting to keep the first date pretty casual).

For three chicks now, I've received no response back at all following my reply to their own e-mails. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong here - I figure if the chicks were not interested, they would not have sent me the initial e-mail back to me. Or is it this common for chicks to be this flaky on Match?



ETA: In case this is of any importance, all of the chicks are mid-30s, no kids, professional job. It could be that they get scared of me having a kid, but they should have seen that from my initial e-mail as it's listed in my profile.

Most likely you're asking them too soon to meet for drinks. Some of the chicks on there are scared of serial killers and rapists. That'd be my guess anyway - I usually give it 5-10 days before asking to meet up for a drink/

Really? Drinks in a public place? And this is Match.com which I figured to be a bit less uptight/more casual than EHarmony. To be honest, it seems really awkward and impersonal to maintain this weird e-mail pen-pal relationship instead of just meeting face to face - like normal adults - and having an actual conversation. You might be right as I'm pretty new at this. But if you are correct, then chicks seem really uptight and nutty to me.

It depends. Some chicks are down for meeting that night (or very soon). But when you come across that type they'll make the first move. When you find those chicks be aggressive once they make a move (but always flirty with an air of indifference). For the most part, you need to give a chick a reason to want to meet you in person. That takes a series of emails/texts to show you stand out from the crowd. 5-10 days is a bit much but there's absolutely nothing wrong with making it seem like you're a busy guy with a lot of options. It's always nice to feel like someone whose time is limited is going out of their way to spend it with you.

Asking for drinks right off the bat generally gives off an air of desperation.

 

[Dr. Awesome]

I haven't dated much the past few months for some personal reasons but I've helped a couple friends with their profiles. A new shtick I've rolled out is to have them hold up a piece of paper that has "Bored?" written on it. Set that as the default picture (only show that sign - no body shot). If you have a decent profile (ie follow Reginald's how to guide) it will be a very awesome combination.

 

[Disco Stu]

In the meantime, I went out on a date with a teacher. She is 32, good looking, and a blonde - which I have never dated before. Divorced with 3 kids though. In her hey day before she had kids I bet she was a complete knockout. She runs and is physically active with a nice rack and good body so I figured what the heck might as well meet up with her. Ended up doing mini golf, and then headed out for a dinner since things were going well. Talked a ton and got along very well. After dinner we hung out a local bar for a few more drinks. Drove her back to her car since it was still at the restaurant. Made out with her for a bit in the car before she left. Scheduled another date for this past Friday.

Picked her up at her place and took her to the driving range this time - she really likes golf so I told her we'd have some fun at the range and just talk some more. After that we went to dinner and drinks. Ended up dropping her off at her place and we made out some more in the car. She then asks if I want to go inside for some wine. Uh, sure no problem. End up talking to her for about 10 minutes on the couch before we start making out again. Put down our wine glasses at that point and start going at it on the couch. Everything comes off at that point except for our shorts. At that point I get the pleasant surprise of finding out that she had a boob job and is now sporting 36DDD's. I guess I can knock off being able to experience fun time with a gal who had a boob job off the bucket list now. Anyway, we go at it on the couch for a while and then she says she wants to stop for a bit so we get back to drinking the rest of the wine. I could tell she really wanted to have sex but was conflicted about giving it up on the second date. (From what she told me, she met her husband at 19, got married at 21 and was with him until about 2 years ago so she didn't really date around a ton previously and was just starting back up now). She says we should probably stop for the night and I should go home. I figure, no big deal, I'll leave and, by the next date, I'll be able to close the deal. I didn't have any condoms with me anyway (rookie move as I never expected I'd get that far with her on date 2) and there wasn't really a place nearby so I told her I'd go and we'd just figure out another time to meet up.

So we get to the front door and I kiss her goodbye. We start making out again and end up back on the couch. She says to me that if we go back on the couch that she won't be able to control herself and her pants are gonna have to come off. She says she wants to have sex real bad but doesn't have any condoms. I don't want to get some because a store is real far away and if I do that by the time I come back she could change her mind. I just tell her don't worry we can work around that and we keep making out. After a few minutes of that I tell her we should go to her room so we have more space than the couch to fool around. Get her upstairs, and the pants come off within one minute. She starts up with a ton of dirty talk about how she wants me to f her hard, be inside her, etc. So I oblige. End up having sex with her without a condom but obviously don't do anything stupid with my little guys. At that point, I wanted to leave her place and go home. She comes out of the bathroom though and says are you gonna sleep over now. Felt bad about leaving at that point so I stayed over. Not all bad though. Middle of the night she gets up and we start going at it again. Tried out a whole bunch of new positions the second time around and, for some reason, she is really into the dirty talk and likes things a bit rough. Never really been with a gal like that and, whenever she has been like that, it usually comes out a bit later not the first time we are messing around.

How old are you? Just curious, as it seems like there are a lot of new experiences here.

 

[Disco Stu]

I've had an interesting problem on Match the last few weeks. I've sent initial e-mails to a few chicks with the standard semi-witty joke and a few sentences about what we might have in common. These chicks then replied back to me seemingly interested and asking some basic questions about me (very light, on-the-surface type info - e.g., how long have you lived out here, where do you hang out for fun, etc.). I'd send a response back with a little bit more witty banter and light questions and then ask if she wants to meet for a drink (wanting to keep the first date pretty casual).

For three chicks now, I've received no response back at all following my reply to their own e-mails. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong here - I figure if the chicks were not interested, they would not have sent me the initial e-mail back to me. Or is it this common for chicks to be this flaky on Match?



ETA: In case this is of any importance, all of the chicks are mid-30s, no kids, professional job. It could be that they get scared of me having a kid, but they should have seen that from my initial e-mail as it's listed in my profile.

Most likely you're asking them too soon to meet for drinks. Some of the chicks on there are scared of serial killers and rapists. That'd be my guess anyway - I usually give it 5-10 days before asking to meet up for a drink/

I disagree. Attractive girls are in high demand on these sites. They get a ton of messages and can lose interest quickly. Therefore the window of opportunity is limited.If you have her interest, you make a move after exchanging just a few messages of witty banter. "Let's meet for a drink. How's Thursday?"

 

[Dr. Awesome]

If you have her interest, you make a move after exchanging just a few messages of witty banter. "Let's meet for a drink. How's Thursday?"

There are tons of hot chicks in my neck of the woods. Probably a ton of hot chicks in whatever part of the country the average fbg lives in.If you miss one there's another that will be along soon. And if you've set your profile up nicely chicks will be anxious to get in your queue. Guys who are a catch are in just as much of a demand as hot chicks.I basically go in with the idea that I am the #### and don't waste my time with just anyone who wants to meet up. It's a tad chauvinistic, ego-maniacal, or whatever else you want to call it but it works extremely well for me. I'm looking for a girl who acts the same. If she's that quick to throw herself at the first guy who comes along I have little interest. And if she actually meets someone fantastic before I get my chance there are plenty of others lined up.

 

[Walton Goggins]

I had a date last night with a chick from Match. In her description, she listed herself as "curvy." Her photos backed that up, although she definitely appeared to be on the sexy side of curvy - not the chunky side. The chick that showed up, however, was much different than her photos. She was at least 30 lbs. heavier and not in a good way. I decided to make the best of the situation and enjoyed myself on the date. She's a nice, fun chick, but I just wasn't attracted to her. Perhaps against my better judgment, I invited her out for dinner following our drinks and I even brought her back to my place afterward. The good thing is that I didn't try hooking up with her as I have no desire to see her again and I didn't really think it was worth just pushing for a one-night stand. That, and also because she would have crushed a few of my ribs.Rookie mistate: always be leery of whether the chick's photos are recent.

Always shoot for trying to get a text picture. I would say the majority of chicks LOVE taking pics of themselves on their phone so when one balks or avoids your request then that's generally a red flag.I was in your shoes and started dating while separated, the main thing is to have fun and don't even think about staying with someone long term. Get your feet wet and have a lot of variety.

 

[Walton Goggins]

I had a date last night with a chick from Match. In her description, she listed herself as "curvy." Her photos backed that up, although she definitely appeared to be on the sexy side of curvy - not the chunky side. The chick that showed up, however, was much different than her photos. She was at least 30 lbs. heavier and not in a good way. I decided to make the best of the situation and enjoyed myself on the date. She's a nice, fun chick, but I just wasn't attracted to her. Perhaps against my better judgment, I invited her out for dinner following our drinks and I even brought her back to my place afterward. The good thing is that I didn't try hooking up with her as I have no desire to see her again and I didn't really think it was worth just pushing for a one-night stand. That, and also because she would have crushed a few of my ribs.Rookie mistate: always be leery of whether the chick's photos are recent.

1. That's what "curvy" always means.2. No dinner on the first meeting unless things are going exceptionally well.3. Good luck losing this one.

I would say 9 out of 10 chicks think of themselves as curvy where they are honestly fat.The times you are good to go is when a girl says they are curvy and then say something like "I'm thin in the right places and curvy in the right places" or something like that. I tend to go out with a lot of ethnic women and find they are generally curvy and honestly are curvy (small waist and has backside/chest). Generally when a white chick says curvy it also means they are fat. If a white chick has bolt on's she never says she's curvy, she's either thin or athletic.Definitely NO dinner on first date, ever and don't even bring a chick back to your place unless you want/hope for sex

 

[Walton Goggins]

Would you date a heavy hitter than recently had lap band surgery but is a surgeon and makes over $150,000 dollars a year and drives a Porsche?Sort of like investing in stock when it's 2 dollars with the hope it'll be 50 dollars in another 9 months? Of course with the risk the stock collapses after she eats through the lap band?Of course, you'd have to hide her from your friends until the stock reached 50 dollars.Dead serious question.

Save her contact info and get in touch with her in a year

 

[Reginald Cornsilks]

I've had an interesting problem on Match the last few weeks. I've sent initial e-mails to a few chicks with the standard semi-witty joke and a few sentences about what we might have in common. These chicks then replied back to me seemingly interested and asking some basic questions about me (very light, on-the-surface type info - e.g., how long have you lived out here, where do you hang out for fun, etc.). I'd send a response back with a little bit more witty banter and light questions and then ask if she wants to meet for a drink (wanting to keep the first date pretty casual).

For three chicks now, I've received no response back at all following my reply to their own e-mails. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong here - I figure if the chicks were not interested, they would not have sent me the initial e-mail back to me. Or is it this common for chicks to be this flaky on Match?



ETA: In case this is of any importance, all of the chicks are mid-30s, no kids, professional job. It could be that they get scared of me having a kid, but they should have seen that from my initial e-mail as it's listed in my profile.

Most likely you're asking them too soon to meet for drinks. Some of the chicks on there are scared of serial killers and rapists. That'd be my guess anyway - I usually give it 5-10 days before asking to meet up for a drink/

I disagree. Attractive girls are in high demand on these sites. They get a ton of messages and can lose interest quickly. Therefore the window of opportunity is limited.If you have her interest, you make a move after exchanging just a few messages of witty banter. "Let's meet for a drink. How's Thursday?"

Well - one of my rules is to not respond to message for 1-2 days so as not to come off as desperate. If we were emailing once or twice a day than I don't necessarily think 5-10 days is appropriate but as it stands now, if I get a message, I give it 2 days before sending my reply. From there I usually wait a day or so in between.

Going too quickly backfired on me this past weekend. Got a 2:30 AM wink from a chick last Saturday night. Emailed her Sunday morning, she emailed me back an hour later. I emailed her back 2 hours later (I don't do much on Sundays so was just sitting around) and gave her my number in the 2nd email. Told her to shoot me a text if she wants to keep talking because truthfully I hate emailing.

No response since. And she was one of the hotter girls I've talked to on here.