***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (3 Viewers)

[Paulymaggs]

She reeks of desperation. Offdee already made it pretty clear how he felt - or she wouldn't have sent that initial text about him losing interest.

Sounds like it's pretty clear she's been (ab)used as a sexual-buddy before.

I think she can be strung along another three months or so considering the level of self-esteem.

Of course she has been (or at least felt) used before. She's thirty years old. I assume she hasn't been locked in a convent the past fifteen years.

Speaking of reeking of desperation... is that you in your avatar?

Yes sir. The very picture I put as the main pic in my Match profile.

 

[cacksman]

Everything is a tradeoff. I tell myself I'd rather be single but I conveniently forget a lot of the miseries that went along with it. There are a lot of great things about being married too.

This isn't hard though -- if she's the one you want to get really serious with, you'll know it. You'll miss her when you're not with her and you'll want to spend more and more time together. You said you're not ready to give up the single life, so there's your answer. You'll never forgive yourself if you settle down before you're ready. You'll seethe every time you talk to a girl you know you could nail.

There are a lot of great women out there. You'll find another one just as good as her when it's time.

I mostly agree but disagree with the bolded: the right one is the right one, whenever she comes along.

But we're still a long way from that point with offdee and the lithe assertive gymnast.

There are a million right ones.

Bingo

 

[Joe T]

I'm moving on to match. The matches I'm getting on eh just are not good anymore. I did "date" two girls from eh for about a month each. Both were fun and there are some good stories there that I need to post.

But I'm up on match as of this morning. Should be fun.

 

[OC Zed]

I'm moving on to match. The matches I'm getting on eh just are not good anymore. I did "date" two girls from eh for about a month each. Both were fun and there are some good stories there that I need to post.

But I'm up on match as of this morning. Should be fun.

Which site were you on before? eH? I'm burned out on eH myself and am taking a break for a couple months. I'm considering hopping back on to Match in the new year...

 

[McGarnicle]

Translation: I banged every halfway decent looking woman with a pic who would respond to my messages who live within 100 miles of my home, therefore the site for me has been exhausted. Time to repeat with new site.

 

[OC Zed]

Translation: I banged every halfway decent looking woman with a pic who would respond to my messages who live within 100 miles of my home, therefore the site for me has been exhausted. Time to repeat with new site.

 

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So, along with all you guys and sharing the texts with some buddies, they all had similar reactions....probably a conversation better in person, could've done without the "checklist", but all in all nothing too over the top wrong here. She just likes me and wants to feel better about where she stands.

Yeah that's where I started to think "Ruh Roh Raggy"... definitely started to get into that crazy chick mentality. That said, by that age they're ALL at least a little crazy... and she doesn't sound too bad.

 

[Joe T]

Match is a little more difficult to figure out. EH keeps it pretty simple.

What the hell does the "She's Interested" section mean? I can't tell if that means someone viewed my profile, winked, smiled, or sent a message. Maybe it just takes a little getting used to.



Old story:

So about a month ago, I was out with with this girl for the third time. We met at a bar and watched whatever football game was on while playing some bar games. After a couple of hours and a few drinks she basically says lets get out of here. It was only 10 o'clock or so. So we leave and are walking back to her car which was a few blocks away. Casually, she says something like "hey, let's just go back to my place. I have drinks there." Blah blah blah. Then she stops me and says, "I need to tell you something." I am thinking wtf. "Ok." Her, "You can't be too aggressive with me tonight."

 

[Disco Stu]

Match is a little more difficult to figure out. EH keeps it pretty simple.

What the hell does the "She's Interested" section mean? I can't tell if that means someone viewed my profile, winked, smiled, or sent a message. Maybe it just takes a little getting used to.



Old story:

So about a month ago, I was out with with this girl for the third time. We met at a bar and watched whatever football game was on while playing some bar games. After a couple of hours and a few drinks she basically says lets get out of here. It was only 10 o'clock or so. So we leave and are walking back to her car which was a few blocks away. Casually, she says something like "hey, let's just go back to my place. I have drinks there." Blah blah blah. Then she stops me and says, "I need to tell you something." I am thinking wtf. "Ok." Her, "You can't be too aggressive with me tonight."

So, no anal?

 

[Scoresman]

Match is a little more difficult to figure out. EH keeps it pretty simple.

What the hell does the "She's Interested" section mean? I can't tell if that means someone viewed my profile, winked, smiled, or sent a message. Maybe it just takes a little getting used to.



Old story:

So about a month ago, I was out with with this girl for the third time. We met at a bar and watched whatever football game was on while playing some bar games. After a couple of hours and a few drinks she basically says lets get out of here. It was only 10 o'clock or so. So we leave and are walking back to her car which was a few blocks away. Casually, she says something like "hey, let's just go back to my place. I have drinks there." Blah blah blah. Then she stops me and says, "I need to tell you something." I am thinking wtf. "Ok." Her, "You can't be too aggressive with me tonight."

So, no anal?

Nah, "don't be aggressive" means "use lube"

 

[Joe T]

Match is a little more difficult to figure out. EH keeps it pretty simple.

What the hell does the "She's Interested" section mean? I can't tell if that means someone viewed my profile, winked, smiled, or sent a message. Maybe it just takes a little getting used to.



Old story:

So about a month ago, I was out with with this girl for the third time. We met at a bar and watched whatever football game was on while playing some bar games. After a couple of hours and a few drinks she basically says lets get out of here. It was only 10 o'clock or so. So we leave and are walking back to her car which was a few blocks away. Casually, she says something like "hey, let's just go back to my place. I have drinks there." Blah blah blah. Then she stops me and says, "I need to tell you something." I am thinking wtf. "Ok." Her, "You can't be too aggressive with me tonight."

So, no anal?

Nah, "don't be aggressive" means "use lube"

It wasn't "don't be agressive" it was "you CAN'T be too aggressive" as in it was impossible to be too aggressive with her that evening.

 

[OC Zed]

Match is a little more difficult to figure out. EH keeps it pretty simple.

What the hell does the "She's Interested" section mean? I can't tell if that means someone viewed my profile, winked, smiled, or sent a message. Maybe it just takes a little getting used to.



Old story:

So about a month ago, I was out with with this girl for the third time. We met at a bar and watched whatever football game was on while playing some bar games. After a couple of hours and a few drinks she basically says lets get out of here. It was only 10 o'clock or so. So we leave and are walking back to her car which was a few blocks away. Casually, she says something like "hey, let's just go back to my place. I have drinks there." Blah blah blah. Then she stops me and says, "I need to tell you something." I am thinking wtf. "Ok." Her, "You can't be too aggressive with me tonight."

So, no anal?

Nah, "don't be aggressive" means "use lube"

It wasn't "don't be agressive" it was "you CAN'T be too aggressive" as in it was impossible to be too aggressive with her that evening.

So why are you on Match again???

 

[Village Idiot]

Match is a little more difficult to figure out. EH keeps it pretty simple.

What the hell does the "She's Interested" section mean? I can't tell if that means someone viewed my profile, winked, smiled, or sent a message. Maybe it just takes a little getting used to.



Old story:

So about a month ago, I was out with with this girl for the third time. We met at a bar and watched whatever football game was on while playing some bar games. After a couple of hours and a few drinks she basically says lets get out of here. It was only 10 o'clock or so. So we leave and are walking back to her car which was a few blocks away. Casually, she says something like "hey, let's just go back to my place. I have drinks there." Blah blah blah. Then she stops me and says, "I need to tell you something." I am thinking wtf. "Ok." Her, "You can't be too aggressive with me tonight."

So, no anal?

Nah, "don't be aggressive" means "use lube"

It wasn't "don't be agressive" it was "you CAN'T be too aggressive" as in it was impossible to be too aggressive with her that evening.

I would like to subscribe to your news letter kind Sir.

Please share more details with us married men.

 

[offdee]

I'm starting to remember how I ended up getting married after I swore I never would.

You bang around for a while and it's fun as hell, then you meet a girl you really like and suddenly your mind isn't right. You're okay spending whole weekends with her. You stop calling other girls. You start telling yourself all the things that suck about casual dating -- the crazy ones, getting stood up, all the money you blow on dates, the wild swings between high exhilaration and crushing disappointment. Wouldn't it be great to settle down with this one great woman, you tell yourself. It would be a shame to let her get away.

:shudder:

For me it was stumbling onto a girl who I actually liked having around. Before that I couldn't wait for them to leave.

This is what I'm experiencing. This latest chick I want her to leave less quick than all the others recently, but at the end of the day I'm not overly "missing her" when we're not together. Not a good sign, but she's nice to look at and fun to bang, so there's that.

 

[OC Zed]

I'm starting to remember how I ended up getting married after I swore I never would.

You bang around for a while and it's fun as hell, then you meet a girl you really like and suddenly your mind isn't right. You're okay spending whole weekends with her. You stop calling other girls. You start telling yourself all the things that suck about casual dating -- the crazy ones, getting stood up, all the money you blow on dates, the wild swings between high exhilaration and crushing disappointment. Wouldn't it be great to settle down with this one great woman, you tell yourself. It would be a shame to let her get away.

:shudder:

For me it was stumbling onto a girl who I actually liked having around. Before that I couldn't wait for them to leave.

This is what I'm experiencing. This latest chick I want her to leave less quick than all the others recently, but at the end of the day I'm not overly "missing her" when we're not together. Not a good sign, but she's nice to look at and fun to bang, so there's that.

Maybe you are overthinking it... she's not asking to get engaged right now. If you like her company, see where things go. She's only 30 years old so it's not like her biological clock is pushing things yet.

 

[Scoresman]

I'm starting to remember how I ended up getting married after I swore I never would.

You bang around for a while and it's fun as hell, then you meet a girl you really like and suddenly your mind isn't right. You're okay spending whole weekends with her. You stop calling other girls. You start telling yourself all the things that suck about casual dating -- the crazy ones, getting stood up, all the money you blow on dates, the wild swings between high exhilaration and crushing disappointment. Wouldn't it be great to settle down with this one great woman, you tell yourself. It would be a shame to let her get away.

:shudder:

For me it was stumbling onto a girl who I actually liked having around. Before that I couldn't wait for them to leave.

This is what I'm experiencing. This latest chick I want her to leave less quick than all the others recently, but at the end of the day I'm not overly "missing her" when we're not together. Not a good sign, but she's nice to look at and fun to bang, so there's that.

this relationship is going places.

 

[Major]

I'm starting to remember how I ended up getting married after I swore I never would.

You bang around for a while and it's fun as hell, then you meet a girl you really like and suddenly your mind isn't right. You're okay spending whole weekends with her. You stop calling other girls. You start telling yourself all the things that suck about casual dating -- the crazy ones, getting stood up, all the money you blow on dates, the wild swings between high exhilaration and crushing disappointment. Wouldn't it be great to settle down with this one great woman, you tell yourself. It would be a shame to let her get away.

:shudder:

For me it was stumbling onto a girl who I actually liked having around. Before that I couldn't wait for them to leave.

This is what I'm experiencing. This latest chick I want her to leave less quick than all the others recently, but at the end of the day I'm not overly "missing her" when we're not together. Not a good sign, but she's nice to look at and fun to bang, so there's that.

this relationship is going places.

if only she knew :style:, they could talk for hours

 

[Major]

Old story:

So about a month ago, I was out with with this girl for the third time. We met at a bar and watched whatever football game was on while playing some bar games. After a couple of hours and a few drinks she basically says lets get out of here. It was only 10 o'clock or so. So we leave and are walking back to her car which was a few blocks away. Casually, she says something like "hey, let's just go back to my place. I have drinks there." Blah blah blah. Then she stops me and says, "I need to tell you something." I am thinking wtf. "Ok." Her, "You can't be too aggressive with me tonight."

the one thing I miss about iDating is the high number of nymphs trolling for d.....nice one Joe

 

[McGarnicle]

I'm starting to remember how I ended up getting married after I swore I never would.

You bang around for a while and it's fun as hell, then you meet a girl you really like and suddenly your mind isn't right. You're okay spending whole weekends with her. You stop calling other girls. You start telling yourself all the things that suck about casual dating -- the crazy ones, getting stood up, all the money you blow on dates, the wild swings between high exhilaration and crushing disappointment. Wouldn't it be great to settle down with this one great woman, you tell yourself. It would be a shame to let her get away.

:shudder:

For me it was stumbling onto a girl who I actually liked having around. Before that I couldn't wait for them to leave.

This is what I'm experiencing. This latest chick I want her to leave less quick than all the others recently, but at the end of the day I'm not overly "missing her" when we're not together. Not a good sign, but she's nice to look at and fun to bang, so there's that.

So at this point I'm wondering, have you ever had a serious relationship? It certainly can be an acquired taste. Not everyone can get excited about snuggling by the fireplace and making baby voice. You definitely talk about women in an analytical/objectified way.

 

[offdee]

I'm starting to remember how I ended up getting married after I swore I never would.

You bang around for a while and it's fun as hell, then you meet a girl you really like and suddenly your mind isn't right. You're okay spending whole weekends with her. You stop calling other girls. You start telling yourself all the things that suck about casual dating -- the crazy ones, getting stood up, all the money you blow on dates, the wild swings between high exhilaration and crushing disappointment. Wouldn't it be great to settle down with this one great woman, you tell yourself. It would be a shame to let her get away.

:shudder:

For me it was stumbling onto a girl who I actually liked having around. Before that I couldn't wait for them to leave.

This is what I'm experiencing. This latest chick I want her to leave less quick than all the others recently, but at the end of the day I'm not overly "missing her" when we're not together. Not a good sign, but she's nice to look at and fun to bang, so there's that.

So at this point I'm wondering, have you ever had a serious relationship? It certainly can be an acquired taste. Not everyone can get excited about snuggling by the fireplace and making baby voice. You definitely talk about women in an analytical/objectified way.

Married and divorced...dated for two years and married for 4 yrs. Most painless divorce you'd ever hear about, and still good with each other today (Happy Bday texts, that sort of thing). Just ended up being different people and we moved on.After divorce (in 2007) played bachelor for a year and then was with someone for about 4 yrs....lived together for 2+ yrs during that period and ended things about 8 months ago.

 

[McGarnicle]

I'm starting to remember how I ended up getting married after I swore I never would.

You bang around for a while and it's fun as hell, then you meet a girl you really like and suddenly your mind isn't right. You're okay spending whole weekends with her. You stop calling other girls. You start telling yourself all the things that suck about casual dating -- the crazy ones, getting stood up, all the money you blow on dates, the wild swings between high exhilaration and crushing disappointment. Wouldn't it be great to settle down with this one great woman, you tell yourself. It would be a shame to let her get away.

:shudder:

For me it was stumbling onto a girl who I actually liked having around. Before that I couldn't wait for them to leave.

This is what I'm experiencing. This latest chick I want her to leave less quick than all the others recently, but at the end of the day I'm not overly "missing her" when we're not together. Not a good sign, but she's nice to look at and fun to bang, so there's that.

So at this point I'm wondering, have you ever had a serious relationship? It certainly can be an acquired taste. Not everyone can get excited about snuggling by the fireplace and making baby voice. You definitely talk about women in an analytical/objectified way.

Married and divorced...dated for two years and married for 4 yrs. Most painless divorce you'd ever hear about, and still good with each other today (Happy Bday texts, that sort of thing). Just ended up being different people and we moved on.After divorce (in 2007) played bachelor for a year and then was with someone for about 4 yrs....lived together for 2+ yrs during that period and ended things about 8 months ago.

Ahh, rebound bangin'. My guess would be that the timing isn't right with this new chick. Keep whorin' around I say.

 

[Joe T]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

 

[Scoresman]

what I liked about eharmony was that their whole process gave you plenty of time to weed out the crazies. I met four women on there, one of them now my wife, and all of them were pretty cool chicks. I never went into a first meeting worried that any of them were crazy.

 

[ConnSKINS26]

what I liked about eharmony was that their whole process gave you plenty of time to weed out the crazies. I met four women on there, one of them now my wife, and all of them were pretty cool chicks. I never went into a first meeting worried that any of them were crazy.

Well, yeah, but all you need are some feet pics and you're golden. It's not so easy for everyone.

 

[Scoresman]

what I liked about eharmony was that their whole process gave you plenty of time to weed out the crazies. I met four women on there, one of them now my wife, and all of them were pretty cool chicks. I never went into a first meeting worried that any of them were crazy.

Well, yeah, but all you need are some feet pics and you're golden. It's not so easy for everyone.

nah, i'm not that one dimensional. my wife has great feet though, like the kind that are so good you just wanna pee on them.

 

[Keerock]

what I liked about eharmony was that their whole process gave you plenty of time to weed out the crazies. I met four women on there, one of them now my wife, and all of them were pretty cool chicks. I never went into a first meeting worried that any of them were crazy.

Well, yeah, but all you need are some feet pics and you're golden. It's not so easy for everyone.

nah, i'm not that one dimensional. my wife has great feet though, like the kind that are so good you just wanna pee on them.

 

[Steve Tasker]

I'm starting to remember how I ended up getting married after I swore I never would.

You bang around for a while and it's fun as hell, then you meet a girl you really like and suddenly your mind isn't right. You're okay spending whole weekends with her. You stop calling other girls. You start telling yourself all the things that suck about casual dating -- the crazy ones, getting stood up, all the money you blow on dates, the wild swings between high exhilaration and crushing disappointment. Wouldn't it be great to settle down with this one great woman, you tell yourself. It would be a shame to let her get away.

:shudder:

For me it was stumbling onto a girl who I actually liked having around. Before that I couldn't wait for them to leave.

This is what I'm experiencing. This latest chick I want her to leave less quick than all the others recently, but at the end of the day I'm not overly "missing her" when we're not together. Not a good sign, but she's nice to look at and fun to bang, so there's that.

So at this point I'm wondering, have you ever had a serious relationship? It certainly can be an acquired taste. Not everyone can get excited about snuggling by the fireplace and making baby voice. You definitely talk about women in an analytical/objectified way.

Married and divorced...dated for two years and married for 4 yrs. Most painless divorce you'd ever hear about, and still good with each other today (Happy Bday texts, that sort of thing). Just ended up being different people and we moved on.After divorce (in 2007) played bachelor for a year and then was with someone for about 4 yrs....lived together for 2+ yrs during that period and ended things about 8 months ago.

If you ever feel the need to post more pictures of your ex, you know, for cathartic purposes, I think we'd all be okay with it if you posted them here.

 

[OC Zed]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

But then the downside is that those hot chicks are getting 45 e-mails per day from every single guy in a 30-mile radius. You really have to figure out how to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

I'm a decent looking, 37-year old guy with a good job (attorney), but I couldn't much traction with Match the first time around a couple years ago as a lot of chicks were weeding me out b/c of already having a kid and my height (5'8"). If I go on again, I'm going to stick chicks in their late 30s and older so I don't have to deal with the early/mid-30s chicks who are still deadset on having kids of their own and insisting on only dating alpha-studs.

 

[Joe T]

To 10: Hey, my name is Mike and I wanted to say I like your profile. I find it very cool that you're a nurse - it's a great profession where a lot of good is done. Not so much like mine where I on occassion defend pedophiles and other fun people... Anyways, if you'd like to have a drink sometime let me know. Take care, Mike

Still awesome.

Still.

 

[Joe T]

I've now messaged over 60 women in just a few days. I love hotties.

Jesus Christ dude, I've actually held off on e-mailing the chicks I find the most attractive 1) because I want to see if they e-mail me first and 2) I want to see what works/doesn't work with the other girls I've contacted.

Probably a decent strategy. Otis is a little more impulsive for that. So far I've got 2 responses out of 60-something, which really leads me to only one conclusion -- I'll need to start upping the quantity of messages I send.

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[James Daulton]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

But then the downside is that those hot chicks are getting 45 e-mails per day from every single guy in a 30-mile radius. You really have to figure out how to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

I'm a decent looking, 37-year old guy with a good job (attorney), but I couldn't much traction with Match the first time around a couple years ago as a lot of chicks were weeding me out b/c of already having a kid and my height (5'8"). If I go on again, I'm going to stick chicks in their late 30s and older so I don't have to deal with the early/mid-30s chicks who are still deadset on having kids of their own and insisting on only dating alpha-studs.

You really got turn-downs because you're 5'8? That's close to average and it means you're probably not frauding on your height like a lot of guys probably do.

 

[Scoresman]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

But then the downside is that those hot chicks are getting 45 e-mails per day from every single guy in a 30-mile radius. You really have to figure out how to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

I'm a decent looking, 37-year old guy with a good job (attorney), but I couldn't much traction with Match the first time around a couple years ago as a lot of chicks were weeding me out b/c of already having a kid and my height (5'8"). If I go on again, I'm going to stick chicks in their late 30s and older so I don't have to deal with the early/mid-30s chicks who are still deadset on having kids of their own and insisting on only dating alpha-studs.

You really got turn-downs because you're 5'8? That's close to average and it means you're probably not frauding on your height like a lot of guys probably do.

when you're a hot chick who gets 50 messages a day, you can afford to be picky about stuff like that.

 

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Wait... I'm 6' so I should be saying I'm 6'2" or something?

(don't actually have a profile, but if I did the game calls for exaggeration?)

 

[offdee]

Wait... I'm 6' so I should be saying I'm 6'2" or something?

(don't actually have a profile, but if I did the game calls for exaggeration?)

Nobody notices or will call you out on an inch or two...yes, taller is better.

 

[Scoresman]

Wait... I'm 6' so I should be saying I'm 6'2" or something?

(don't actually have a profile, but if I did the game calls for exaggeration?)

Nobody notices or will call you out on an inch or two...yes, taller is better.

This is true. I put 5'11 on mine even though I'm 5'10. I'm a little taller than 5'10 so I just rounded up. My wife later called me out on it and I still play ignorant.

 

[Witz]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

But then the downside is that those hot chicks are getting 45 e-mails per day from every single guy in a 30-mile radius. You really have to figure out how to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

I'm a decent looking, 37-year old guy with a good job (attorney), but I couldn't much traction with Match the first time around a couple years ago as a lot of chicks were weeding me out b/c of already having a kid and my height (5'8"). If I go on again, I'm going to stick chicks in their late 30s and older so I don't have to deal with the early/mid-30s chicks who are still deadset on having kids of their own and insisting on only dating alpha-studs.

You really got turn-downs because you're 5'8? That's close to average and it means you're probably not frauding on your height like a lot of guys probably do.

when you're a hot chick who gets 50 messages a day, you can afford to be picky about stuff like that.

They probably figured he was really 5'6 since everyone adds 2 inches.

 

[[icon]]

Wait... I'm 6' so I should be saying I'm 6'2" or something?

(don't actually have a profile, but if I did the game calls for exaggeration?)

Nobody notices or will call you out on an inch or two...yes, taller is better.

This doesn't seem right. I mean women are always truthful about body type, age, weight, etc.... it would seem a little dishonest for men to not return the favor.

 

[OC Zed]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

But then the downside is that those hot chicks are getting 45 e-mails per day from every single guy in a 30-mile radius. You really have to figure out how to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

I'm a decent looking, 37-year old guy with a good job (attorney), but I couldn't much traction with Match the first time around a couple years ago as a lot of chicks were weeding me out b/c of already having a kid and my height (5'8"). If I go on again, I'm going to stick chicks in their late 30s and older so I don't have to deal with the early/mid-30s chicks who are still deadset on having kids of their own and insisting on only dating alpha-studs.

You really got turn-downs because you're 5'8? That's close to average and it means you're probably not frauding on your height like a lot of guys probably do.

when you're a hot chick who gets 50 messages a day, you can afford to be picky about stuff like that.

BINGO

Most chicks openly list their height requirements as being 5'10" and above. The last time around I was 35 years old and reaching out to chicks in the 30-36 years old bracket. Now I'm 37 and am happy pursuing older chicks who are much less fussy about that stuff (and not nearly as in demand with other dudes as 30 year old bunnies ).

 

[Otis]

I've now messaged over 60 women in just a few days. I love hotties.

Jesus Christ dude, I've actually held off on e-mailing the chicks I find the most attractive 1) because I want to see if they e-mail me first and 2) I want to see what works/doesn't work with the other girls I've contacted.

Probably a decent strategy. Otis is a little more impulsive for that. So far I've got 2 responses out of 60-something, which really leads me to only one conclusion -- I'll need to start upping the quantity of messages I send.

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He's heating up

 

[offdee]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

But then the downside is that those hot chicks are getting 45 e-mails per day from every single guy in a 30-mile radius. You really have to figure out how to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

I'm a decent looking, 37-year old guy with a good job (attorney), but I couldn't much traction with Match the first time around a couple years ago as a lot of chicks were weeding me out b/c of already having a kid and my height (5'8"). If I go on again, I'm going to stick chicks in their late 30s and older so I don't have to deal with the early/mid-30s chicks who are still deadset on having kids of their own and insisting on only dating alpha-studs.

You really got turn-downs because you're 5'8? That's close to average and it means you're probably not frauding on your height like a lot of guys probably do.

when you're a hot chick who gets 50 messages a day, you can afford to be picky about stuff like that.

BINGO

Most chicks openly list their height requirements as being 5'10" and above. The last time around I was 35 years old and reaching out to chicks in the 30-36 years old bracket. Now I'm 37 and am happy pursuing older chicks who are much less fussy about that stuff (and not nearly as in demand with other dudes as 30 year old bunnies ).

Height and sense of humor are probably the two most desired traits in a guy.

In regards to height women correlate taller to "protective" traits and also want to be able to wear high heels and still look aesthetically pleasing standing next to their partner. Being the same height or taller than a guy makes a woman feel less feminine.

Harsh reality is an average looking 6-3 guy will generally pull more tail than a 5-8 good looking guy.

ETA: I'm 6-1 which is perfectly fine in most cases, and still list my profile as 6-2. There's absolutely no downside in going up an inch (unless you're already 6-6+)

 

[Major]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

But then the downside is that those hot chicks are getting 45 e-mails per day from every single guy in a 30-mile radius. You really have to figure out how to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

I'm a decent looking, 37-year old guy with a good job (attorney), but I couldn't much traction with Match the first time around a couple years ago as a lot of chicks were weeding me out b/c of already having a kid and my height (5'8"). If I go on again, I'm going to stick chicks in their late 30s and older so I don't have to deal with the early/mid-30s chicks who are still deadset on having kids of their own and insisting on only dating alpha-studs.

You really got turn-downs because you're 5'8? That's close to average and it means you're probably not frauding on your height like a lot of guys probably do.

Buy some Timberlands. It worked for Costanza. You're now 5'10"

Do what works best but I wouldn't give up on the younger women. I share similar stats but no kid and taller. I also wear $200 jeans, so there's that. Point being, cast your net wide and take the hottest/coolest ones. I think the post 35-40 yr old set and 22-27 set balance nicely together. Pick your poison.

 

[Major]

Wait... I'm 6' so I should be saying I'm 6'2" or something?

(don't actually have a profile, but if I did the game calls for exaggeration?)

Nobody notices or will call you out on an inch or two...yes, taller is better.

This doesn't seem right. I mean women are always truthful about body type, age, weight, etc.... it would seem a little dishonest for men to not return the favor.

when I date online, part of my schtick is requesting full body pics with them holding up a newspaper with today's date.

 

[OC Zed]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

But then the downside is that those hot chicks are getting 45 e-mails per day from every single guy in a 30-mile radius. You really have to figure out how to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

I'm a decent looking, 37-year old guy with a good job (attorney), but I couldn't much traction with Match the first time around a couple years ago as a lot of chicks were weeding me out b/c of already having a kid and my height (5'8"). If I go on again, I'm going to stick chicks in their late 30s and older so I don't have to deal with the early/mid-30s chicks who are still deadset on having kids of their own and insisting on only dating alpha-studs.

You really got turn-downs because you're 5'8? That's close to average and it means you're probably not frauding on your height like a lot of guys probably do.

Buy some Timberlands. It worked for Costanza. You're now 5'10"

Do what works best but I wouldn't give up on the younger women. I share similar stats but no kid and taller. I also wear $200 jeans, so there's that. Point being, cast your net wide and take the hottest/coolest ones. I think the post 35-40 yr old set and 22-27 set balance nicely together. Pick your poison.

I feel awkward about lying.



And I don't foresee myself going back to younger (early 30s and below) women as I don't want to have any more kids at this point. There's also a basic maturity and generational mindset that I feel more comfortable with in the older chicks.

 

[Major]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

But then the downside is that those hot chicks are getting 45 e-mails per day from every single guy in a 30-mile radius. You really have to figure out how to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

I'm a decent looking, 37-year old guy with a good job (attorney), but I couldn't much traction with Match the first time around a couple years ago as a lot of chicks were weeding me out b/c of already having a kid and my height (5'8"). If I go on again, I'm going to stick chicks in their late 30s and older so I don't have to deal with the early/mid-30s chicks who are still deadset on having kids of their own and insisting on only dating alpha-studs.

You really got turn-downs because you're 5'8? That's close to average and it means you're probably not frauding on your height like a lot of guys probably do.

Buy some Timberlands. It worked for Costanza. You're now 5'10"

Do what works best but I wouldn't give up on the younger women. I share similar stats but no kid and taller. I also wear $200 jeans, so there's that. Point being, cast your net wide and take the hottest/coolest ones. I think the post 35-40 yr old set and 22-27 set balance nicely together. Pick your poison.

I feel awkward about lying.



And I don't foresee myself going back to younger (early 30s and below) women as I don't want to have any more kids at this point. There's also a basic maturity and generational mindset that I feel more comfortable with in the older chicks.

 

[OC Zed]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

But then the downside is that those hot chicks are getting 45 e-mails per day from every single guy in a 30-mile radius. You really have to figure out how to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

I'm a decent looking, 37-year old guy with a good job (attorney), but I couldn't much traction with Match the first time around a couple years ago as a lot of chicks were weeding me out b/c of already having a kid and my height (5'8"). If I go on again, I'm going to stick chicks in their late 30s and older so I don't have to deal with the early/mid-30s chicks who are still deadset on having kids of their own and insisting on only dating alpha-studs.

You really got turn-downs because you're 5'8? That's close to average and it means you're probably not frauding on your height like a lot of guys probably do.

Buy some Timberlands. It worked for Costanza. You're now 5'10"

Do what works best but I wouldn't give up on the younger women. I share similar stats but no kid and taller. I also wear $200 jeans, so there's that. Point being, cast your net wide and take the hottest/coolest ones. I think the post 35-40 yr old set and 22-27 set balance nicely together. Pick your poison.

I feel awkward about lying.



And I don't foresee myself going back to younger (early 30s and below) women as I don't want to have any more kids at this point. There's also a basic maturity and generational mindset that I feel more comfortable with in the older chicks.

With that being said, for the last few weeks I've also been hitting on a late-20s chick who works at my local bar. I think she's into me.

 

[Disco Stu]

Match is pretty addictive. Being able to search definitely makes it more fun. But wow, there are a lot of chicks around here.

But then the downside is that those hot chicks are getting 45 e-mails per day from every single guy in a 30-mile radius. You really have to figure out how to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

I'm a decent looking, 37-year old guy with a good job (attorney), but I couldn't much traction with Match the first time around a couple years ago as a lot of chicks were weeding me out b/c of already having a kid and my height (5'8"). If I go on again, I'm going to stick chicks in their late 30s and older so I don't have to deal with the early/mid-30s chicks who are still deadset on having kids of their own and insisting on only dating alpha-studs.

You really got turn-downs because you're 5'8? That's close to average and it means you're probably not frauding on your height like a lot of guys probably do.

when you're a hot chick who gets 50 messages a day, you can afford to be picky about stuff like that.

BINGO

Most chicks openly list their height requirements as being 5'10" and above. The last time around I was 35 years old and reaching out to chicks in the 30-36 years old bracket. Now I'm 37 and am happy pursuing older chicks who are much less fussy about that stuff (and not nearly as in demand with other dudes as 30 year old bunnies ).

Height and sense of humor are probably the two most desired traits in a guy.

In regards to height women correlate taller to "protective" traits and also want to be able to wear high heels and still look aesthetically pleasing standing next to their partner. Being the same height or taller than a guy makes a woman feel less feminine.

Harsh reality is an average looking 6-3 guy will generally pull more tail than a 5-8 good looking guy.

ETA: I'm 6-1 which is perfectly fine in most cases, and still list my profile as 6-2. There's absolutely no downside in going up an inch (unless you're already 6-6+)

And agreed on the other stuff, except I personally wouldn't lie about height. Though you're very unlikely to get called on one inch of embellishment (also true in the pants area).

 

[Disco Stu]

And FWIW, I always thought being tall was a much bigger advantage in regular dating than in idating. Reading a number has much less impact than standing there staring up at it.

 

[Joe T]

Wait... I'm 6' so I should be saying I'm 6'2" or something?

(don't actually have a profile, but if I did the game calls for exaggeration?)

Nobody notices or will call you out on an inch or two...yes, taller is better.

This doesn't seem right. I mean women are always truthful about body type, age, weight, etc.... it would seem a little dishonest for men to not return the favor.

when I date online, part of my schtick is requesting full body pics with them holding up a newspaper with today's date.

lol. I'm stealing this. Right. Now.

 

[Joe T]

Drunk emailing on Match. Not sure if this is a good idea or bad, but will try it out and report the results in the morning. Just sent this one to what looks like a hottish 31 y.o. chick who is looking for guys 35-47 which makes no sense at all. But her profile is all schitck anyway. Here's the message (I feel very Wozzy posting this) so hammer away.

"Hey! You look cute and are funny. I think we should meet up for a drink. But if you are not comfortable with that we can do it separate. You go to Mi Cocina and I'll go to Mattito's and then we can just drink margaritas and text each other. It'll be fun. Do you like to talk about politics, religion, pink sheets, spoiler alerts, springrolls? Got to run! bye"

 

[Joe T]

To a hot 36 y.o. - one of the hottest I've seen on here.

"Hey. It looks like you've been some really cool places. What beach is that? Are those pics recent? Please take a self photo holding up today's newspaper. Thx. Bye!"