***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (1 Viewer)

[offdee]

Sounds like it ended as well as possible.

Yep, she handled it like a trooper…impressed by that. Onward and upward!

 

[offdee]

Girl at work...I know, bad idea, but she's extremely hot, skinny with huge bewbs and divorced two months ago :wheelhouse: We work in different departments on opposite side of building so don't cross paths too often.

Anyways, ran into her on Friday and did some chatting/flirting. I shoot her an email saying we should get together for some drinks sometime.

Her reply: I'm in. Call me (phone #)

Call her? I'm guessing/hoping its just vernacular to get me her phone number and texting is still the right play here, no?

She wants the D ASAP

Yeah, a newly divorced woman really wants to get drilled early and often. Text, call, snail mail, there's no way to screw this up. Be well rested and hydrated so you can keep up with her.

and PM me a pic of her.

Done. FBG Legends get privileges.

She is SMOKING hot. Wow I'm jealous.

First date that was supposed to be last night never happened. She sent a have to cancel text around 2pm saying her daughter has the flu and was coming home to stay with her than the planned weekend with the dad. First instinct would be this is a cold feet kind of excuse, but the texts following that cancellation tell a much different story, so I'm now more confident than ever with this one.

 

[McGarnicle]

Girl at work...I know, bad idea, but she's extremely hot, skinny with huge bewbs and divorced two months ago :wheelhouse: We work in different departments on opposite side of building so don't cross paths too often.

Anyways, ran into her on Friday and did some chatting/flirting. I shoot her an email saying we should get together for some drinks sometime.

Her reply: I'm in. Call me (phone #)

Call her? I'm guessing/hoping its just vernacular to get me her phone number and texting is still the right play here, no?

She wants the D ASAP

Yeah, a newly divorced woman really wants to get drilled early and often. Text, call, snail mail, there's no way to screw this up. Be well rested and hydrated so you can keep up with her.

and PM me a pic of her.

Done. FBG Legends get privileges.

She is SMOKING hot. Wow I'm jealous.

First date that was supposed to be last night never happened. She sent a have to cancel text around 2pm saying her daughter has the flu and was coming home to stay with her than the planned weekend with the dad. First instinct would be this is a cold feet kind of excuse, but the texts following that cancellation tell a much different story, so I'm now more confident than ever with this one.

Offer to come over and break one off on her after she puts the brat to bed.

 

[jon_mx]

Sounds like a win-win.....no cost date plus the sechs!

 

[Major]

Girl at work...I know, bad idea, but she's extremely hot, skinny with huge bewbs and divorced two months ago :wheelhouse: We work in different departments on opposite side of building so don't cross paths too often.

Anyways, ran into her on Friday and did some chatting/flirting. I shoot her an email saying we should get together for some drinks sometime.

Her reply: I'm in. Call me (phone #)

Call her? I'm guessing/hoping its just vernacular to get me her phone number and texting is still the right play here, no?

She wants the D ASAP

Yeah, a newly divorced woman really wants to get drilled early and often. Text, call, snail mail, there's no way to screw this up. Be well rested and hydrated so you can keep up with her.

and PM me a pic of her.

Done. FBG Legends get privileges.

She is SMOKING hot. Wow I'm jealous.

First date that was supposed to be last night never happened. She sent a have to cancel text around 2pm saying her daughter has the flu and was coming home to stay with her than the planned weekend with the dad. First instinct would be this is a cold feet kind of excuse, but the texts following that cancellation tell a much different story, so I'm now more confident than ever with this one.

Offer to come over and break one off on her after she puts the brat to bed.

Yup. Before secks, just make sure she puts your japanese denim in the freezer so they're good to go the following day.

 

[Zow]

You're not a true dirtbag unless you call her 2-4 weeks later during a dry spell saying you miss her, then she comes over and you slam it 3 or 4 times, then the next morning say you were mistaken and the breakup was for the best.

In that text from a few weeks ago with what she's looking for she mentions how in the past she's done the "F-buddy" thing but is bored with that. During our conversation about that text she mentioned how when she was getting her Masters degree and also working full time she just wasn't interested in or have any time for any kind of relationship, but wasn't about to go two years with no sex. I'm hoping to parlay this into that status subliminally during my break it off session.

Something along the lines of.....(not in a place for a committed relationship right now, especially with holidays coming up, not fair to either of us...blah, blah, blah) We obviously have amazing sexual chemistry so I really hate to lose that, but believe you're looking for more. (you're a great girl, timing isn't right for us unfortunately, blah, blah, blah)

God this thread takes me back to a simpler time. So awesome.

Can't wait to hear how that conversation goes.

Well, just ended it with the Italian chick. Decided to take the text route so I could share the results here. (I'm here for you guys)

To set the stage, she wrote this morning saying it's weird she hasn't heard much from me over the past couple days and said she wanted to hang out Thursday night and she'd bring dinner, blah, blah, blah. I didn't respond and around 11am she sends another text asking if I'm still alive and hopes everything is alright. I write back shortly after "Sorry, lots going on. I'll write tonight"

A short while ago….

offdee: Crazy work week, but have also been doing some thinking. Since our talk a couple weeks ago I've come to the realization that I'm just not in a place or mindset to be in any kind of relationship right now. I know that's what you're wanting so I don't feel right about continuing….I told you I'd always be 100% honest and it's just not fair to string anything along. We obviously have amazing sexual chemistry so I really hate to lose that, but believe you're looking for more. You're a great girl, but ultimately just not the right timing for us unfortunately. Hope you understand.

Italian chica: I'm a tad disappointed to hear. I'm not sure if this makes any difference but not looking for a ton right now - I'd be willing to try this your way if you think it's worth it but if not I understand too. I just seldom find someone I have any interest in. In any event I've had fun & it was nice getting to know you. Take care.

offdee: I'd like to hang out every once in a while if you can be OK with that, but I just don't have the time, energy or interest to do the expected communication daily and see each other every/multiple times a week. I just wouldn't be a good committed partner right now and don't want to give any false impressions or expectations.

Italian chica: I'm very busy myself but like to make time for someone I'm interested in. I see that is not the same on your end. Bummer but I can't compromise on some sort of interest being shown. I'm not that 2nd fiddle girl. Well it was worth asking anyways.

offdee: When you said "I'd be willing to try this your way" what did you think that was?

Italian chica: I just thought perhaps more space to an extent but not the side show portrayed. No worries it was worth at least asking about.

And scene.

Damn, I kinda feel bad for her. She handled it in a mature manner, no doubt she was a bit shocked and hurt but that's life.

Tex

Yeah she did. Tons of maturity there by her.

 

[Zow]

Girl at work...I know, bad idea, but she's extremely hot, skinny with huge bewbs and divorced two months ago :wheelhouse: We work in different departments on opposite side of building so don't cross paths too often.

Anyways, ran into her on Friday and did some chatting/flirting. I shoot her an email saying we should get together for some drinks sometime.

Her reply: I'm in. Call me (phone #)

Call her? I'm guessing/hoping its just vernacular to get me her phone number and texting is still the right play here, no?

She wants the D ASAP

Yeah, a newly divorced woman really wants to get drilled early and often. Text, call, snail mail, there's no way to screw this up. Be well rested and hydrated so you can keep up with her.

and PM me a pic of her.

Done. FBG Legends get privileges.

I'm no legend, but I'd like to see this. TIA.

Same here…

This if, after all, my thread.

 

[Zow]

You're not a true dirtbag unless you call her 2-4 weeks later during a dry spell saying you miss her, then she comes over and you slam it 3 or 4 times, then the next morning say you were mistaken and the breakup was for the best.

I did this a couple of times shortly before I met my wife.

This thread is definitely still a fun read. Makes me glad I had my days.

 

[offdee]

Girl at work...I know, bad idea, but she's extremely hot, skinny with huge bewbs and divorced two months ago :wheelhouse: We work in different departments on opposite side of building so don't cross paths too often.

Anyways, ran into her on Friday and did some chatting/flirting. I shoot her an email saying we should get together for some drinks sometime.

Her reply: I'm in. Call me (phone #)

Call her? I'm guessing/hoping its just vernacular to get me her phone number and texting is still the right play here, no?

She wants the D ASAP

Yeah, a newly divorced woman really wants to get drilled early and often. Text, call, snail mail, there's no way to screw this up. Be well rested and hydrated so you can keep up with her.

and PM me a pic of her.

Done. FBG Legends get privileges.

She is SMOKING hot. Wow I'm jealous.

First date that was supposed to be last night never happened. She sent a have to cancel text around 2pm saying her daughter has the flu and was coming home to stay with her than the planned weekend with the dad. First instinct would be this is a cold feet kind of excuse, but the texts following that cancellation tell a much different story, so I'm now more confident than ever with this one.

Just rescheduled for Thursday night after Thanksgiving family stuff done. She specifically mentioned how she didnt have the kids for the holiday this year, along with increasingly flirty texts about thinking about me in meeting rooms at work and stuff. Life aint bad.

 

[McGarnicle]

Girl at work...I know, bad idea, but she's extremely hot, skinny with huge bewbs and divorced two months ago :wheelhouse: We work in different departments on opposite side of building so don't cross paths too often.

Anyways, ran into her on Friday and did some chatting/flirting. I shoot her an email saying we should get together for some drinks sometime.

Her reply: I'm in. Call me (phone #)

Call her? I'm guessing/hoping its just vernacular to get me her phone number and texting is still the right play here, no?

She wants the D ASAP

Yeah, a newly divorced woman really wants to get drilled early and often. Text, call, snail mail, there's no way to screw this up. Be well rested and hydrated so you can keep up with her.

and PM me a pic of her.

Done. FBG Legends get privileges.

She is SMOKING hot. Wow I'm jealous.

First date that was supposed to be last night never happened. She sent a have to cancel text around 2pm saying her daughter has the flu and was coming home to stay with her than the planned weekend with the dad. First instinct would be this is a cold feet kind of excuse, but the texts following that cancellation tell a much different story, so I'm now more confident than ever with this one.

Just rescheduled for Thursday night after Thanksgiving family stuff done. She specifically mentioned how she didnt have the kids for the holiday this year, along with increasingly flirty texts about thinking about me in meeting rooms at work and stuff. Life aint bad.

You should show up at her door wearing nothing but a pilgrim hat.

 

[(HULK)]

Girl at work...I know, bad idea, but she's extremely hot, skinny with huge bewbs and divorced two months ago :wheelhouse: We work in different departments on opposite side of building so don't cross paths too often.

Anyways, ran into her on Friday and did some chatting/flirting. I shoot her an email saying we should get together for some drinks sometime.

Her reply: I'm in. Call me (phone #)

Call her? I'm guessing/hoping its just vernacular to get me her phone number and texting is still the right play here, no?

She wants the D ASAP

Yeah, a newly divorced woman really wants to get drilled early and often. Text, call, snail mail, there's no way to screw this up. Be well rested and hydrated so you can keep up with her.

and PM me a pic of her.

Done. FBG Legends get privileges.

She is SMOKING hot. Wow I'm jealous.

First date that was supposed to be last night never happened. She sent a have to cancel text around 2pm saying her daughter has the flu and was coming home to stay with her than the planned weekend with the dad. First instinct would be this is a cold feet kind of excuse, but the texts following that cancellation tell a much different story, so I'm now more confident than ever with this one.

Just rescheduled for Thursday night after Thanksgiving family stuff done. She specifically mentioned how she didnt have the kids for the holiday this year, along with increasingly flirty texts about thinking about me in meeting rooms at work and stuff. Life aint bad.

You should show up at her door wearing nothing but a pilgrim hat.

Then ask if she's ready to gobble gobble.

 

[xulf]

Then stuff her.

 

[Bogart]

Best thing about online dating, the breakups are easier and easier. After a second date that had me faking a work emergency (who has a conference call on a Saturday evening?) and had her planing out the next six months of date, we had the following exchange last night.

Me (via OKCupid Message): "Yeah, about Wednesday. I'm going to have my kids that night, so it's going to be bad timing. Plus, that romantic spark that I expected to be there, really isn't there."

Her: "Thanks for being straight up. Good luck. ;-)"

Me: "Good luck to you."

Scene.

 

[offdee]

Best thing about online dating, the breakups are easier and easier. After a second date that had me faking a work emergency (who has a conference call on a Saturday evening?) and had her planing out the next six months of date, we had the following exchange last night.

Me (via OKCupid Message): "Yeah, about Wednesday. I'm going to have my kids that night, so it's going to be bad timing. Plus, that romantic spark that I expected to be there, really isn't there."

Her: "Thanks for being straight up. Good luck. ;-)"

Me: "Good luck to you."

Scene.

I think the mindset changes a bit when you get into online dating. Women get bombarded by messages daily and men visually see that there are so many available possibilities out there. The heartache of a breakup this early into a relationship usually stems from the thoughts of "oh no, I'm gonna be alone and how am I going to meet someone new?!"…not really an issue anymore with the online thing so a lot of that initial sting of getting broken up with isn't as dramatic.

 

[Gadabout]

Good stuff in here, fellas.

Soon I'll be looking to embark on a crushing crusade and I plan on reading through a lot of these pages.

 

[Zow]

Girl at work...I know, bad idea, but she's extremely hot, skinny with huge bewbs and divorced two months ago :wheelhouse: We work in different departments on opposite side of building so don't cross paths too often.

Anyways, ran into her on Friday and did some chatting/flirting. I shoot her an email saying we should get together for some drinks sometime.

Her reply: I'm in. Call me (phone #)

Call her? I'm guessing/hoping its just vernacular to get me her phone number and texting is still the right play here, no?

She wants the D ASAP

Yeah, a newly divorced woman really wants to get drilled early and often. Text, call, snail mail, there's no way to screw this up. Be well rested and hydrated so you can keep up with her.

and PM me a pic of her.

Done. FBG Legends get privileges.

She is SMOKING hot. Wow I'm jealous.

First date that was supposed to be last night never happened. She sent a have to cancel text around 2pm saying her daughter has the flu and was coming home to stay with her than the planned weekend with the dad. First instinct would be this is a cold feet kind of excuse, but the texts following that cancellation tell a much different story, so I'm now more confident than ever with this one.

Just rescheduled for Thursday night after Thanksgiving family stuff done. She specifically mentioned how she didnt have the kids for the holiday this year, along with increasingly flirty texts about thinking about me in meeting rooms at work and stuff. Life aint bad.

Not bad at all..

 

[EYLive]

Any chance you might post the photo where we discuss M:e:troid and Madd:e:n?

 

[St. Louis Bob]

Online dating sounds so neato torpedo.

 

[offdee]

Online dating sounds so neato torpedo.

If you're halfway decent looking and can hold an intelligent convrsation with a girl it's a friggin goldmine. I'm amazed at some of the guys profiles and messages these girls receive on a regular basis...on a first date they love to show the ridiculousness. All these idiots make my job effort free.

 

[offdee]

Girl at work...I know, bad idea, but she's extremely hot, skinny with huge bewbs and divorced two months ago :wheelhouse: We work in different departments on opposite side of building so don't cross paths too often.

Anyways, ran into her on Friday and did some chatting/flirting. I shoot her an email saying we should get together for some drinks sometime.

Her reply: I'm in. Call me (phone #)

Call her? I'm guessing/hoping its just vernacular to get me her phone number and texting is still the right play here, no?

She wants the D ASAP

Yeah, a newly divorced woman really wants to get drilled early and often. Text, call, snail mail, there's no way to screw this up. Be well rested and hydrated so you can keep up with her.

and PM me a pic of her.

Done. FBG Legends get privileges.

She is SMOKING hot. Wow I'm jealous.

First date that was supposed to be last night never happened. She sent a have to cancel text around 2pm saying her daughter has the flu and was coming home to stay with her than the planned weekend with the dad. First instinct would be this is a cold feet kind of excuse, but the texts following that cancellation tell a much different story, so I'm now more confident than ever with this one.

Just rescheduled for Thursday night after Thanksgiving family stuff done. She specifically mentioned how she didnt have the kids for the holiday this year, along with increasingly flirty texts about thinking about me in meeting rooms at work and stuff. Life aint bad.

Not bad at all..

Went out with a buddy last night and out of the blue get an impromptu text from this girl thats she's out downtown with a friend (she lives abouy a 30min drive away). We meet up and the rest is history. Confirmed fake bewbs, but still nice.

It was an interesting experience walking through bars with her. When I would walk away or if behind her when walking through a place guys would literally pull her arm, stop her, walk right up on her, etc to hit on her. During the secks session at 2am her phone buzzed basically the entire time with incoming texts from guys who are friends of hers (some we saw out) professing their love for her and how "that guy you were with is a joke". The attention must be nice, but after a while...eeesh.

Hanging out with her again tonight which was our originally planned first date night. Ah, life.

 

[Zow]

Went out with a buddy last night and out of the blue get an impromptu text from this girl thats she's out downtown with a friend (she lives abouy a 30min drive away). We meet up and the rest is history. Confirmed fake bewbs, but still nice.

It was an interesting experience walking through bars with her. When I would walk away or if behind her when walking through a place guys would literally pull her arm, stop her, walk right up on her, etc to hit on her. During the secks session at 2am her phone buzzed basically the entire time with incoming texts from guys who are friends of hers (some we saw out) professing their love for her and how "that guy you were with is a joke". The attention must be nice, but after a while...eeesh.

Hanging out with her again tonight which was our originally planned first date night. Ah, life.

Happy Thanksgiving to you, too.

 

[McGarnicle]

Went out with a buddy last night and out of the blue get an impromptu text from this girl thats she's out downtown with a friend (she lives abouy a 30min drive away). We meet up and the rest is history. Confirmed fake bewbs, but still nice.

It was an interesting experience walking through bars with her. When I would walk away or if behind her when walking through a place guys would literally pull her arm, stop her, walk right up on her, etc to hit on her. During the secks session at 2am her phone buzzed basically the entire time with incoming texts from guys who are friends of hers (some we saw out) professing their love for her and how "that guy you were with is a joke". The attention must be nice, but after a while...eeesh.

Hanging out with her again tonight which was our originally planned first date night. Ah, life.

Awesome So I'm curious -- not that you're looking for a gf anyway, but putting out that quick precludes taking her seriously for a serious relationship, right? That's how I always operated anyway.

 

[Johnny Rock]

So are you still going on the original first date tonight? Technically you had sex with her BEFORE the first date. Quite an accomplishment since the first date was planned already.

 

[offdee]

So are you still going on the original first date tonight? Technically you had sex with her BEFORE the first date. Quite an accomplishment since the first date was planned already.

Laying next to her in bed right now..she's naked, but no secks occurred. She was at family Thanksgiving all day drinking and then came to my place and we drank red wine while we hung out. Hit her hard out of the blue and she just needed to pass out. So yeah, I'm typing on my iPad while a hot naked chick with fake triple D's (confirmed size tonight) is passed out 18 inches from me. So, I had secks with her on impromptu date 0, but no secks on official date 1. Seems about right.

 

[McGarnicle]

So are you still going on the original first date tonight? Technically you had sex with her BEFORE the first date. Quite an accomplishment since the first date was planned already.

Laying next to her in bed right now..she's naked, but no secks occurred. She was at family Thanksgiving all day drinking and then came to my place and we drank red wine while we hung out. Hit her hard out of the blue and she just needed to pass out. So yeah, I'm typing on my iPad while a hot naked chick with fake triple D's (confirmed size tonight) is passed out 18 inches from me. So, I had secks with her on impromptu date 0, but no secks on official date 1. Seems about right.

Pretend you're married and rub one out right there while she's snoring.

 

[Das Boot]

So are you still going on the original first date tonight? Technically you had sex with her BEFORE the first date. Quite an accomplishment since the first date was planned already.

Laying next to her in bed right now..she's naked, but no secks occurred. She was at family Thanksgiving all day drinking and then came to my place and we drank red wine while we hung out. Hit her hard out of the blue and she just needed to pass out. So yeah, I'm typing on my iPad while a hot naked chick with fake triple D's (confirmed size tonight) is passed out 18 inches from me. So, I had secks with her on impromptu date 0, but no secks on official date 1. Seems about right.

She'll respect you in the morning, so at least you got that going for you

 

[bweiser]

had dinner with my daughter last week ... she's 23 ... found out she has an account on OKcupid ... i have to delete mine now, right (if i have one; not even sure)

 

[(HULK)]

During the secks session at 2am her phone buzzed basically the entire time with incoming texts from guys who are friends of hers (some we saw out) professing their love for her and how "that guy you were with is a joke".

Who professes love for a friend via text? Lame.

And if you're a joke, I tell you to your face. Texting her like that seems very beta to me. Make a note of his name and if you are with her and see him out, AMOG him.

 

[jon_mx]

Offdee - the most interesting man in the world .

 

[jon_mx]

Offdee - the most interesting man in the world .

He does not have sex much, but when he does....

 

[offdee]

And my first Tindr setup has happened...drinks next Sat. St. Louis Bob pics to you shortly. God bless the Internet.

 

[Johnny Rock]

Please share the wealth with a PM for another married long-time FBG. Before the jokes roll in, I'm talking about me. Thanks.

 

[saintfool]

so i have a strange situation developing here recently. i am on Meetup for some group activities that are mostly focused on being a newly single dad. it's stuff to get me and my son out to meet different folks, hang out, playdates and the like. about 3 weeks ago, i was contacted directly by two separate women within the group.

both are asian-american and in their mid-30's. both actually have kids (1 each near my son's age) with the same name. both live in the 'burbs but not too far from me. one is divorced for a few years now while the other has just filed for divorce. i started talking with them as they had questions about other similar Meetup groups. both wanted to see about playdates for our kids. the divorcing one - i'll call K - is likes to vent and ask pick my brain about how i am handling my divorce. the other - i'll call L - is friendly, cool and seems to have her life together.she wants playdates for the kids too but just mainly seems socially active.

the problems began the other day for me, as i was invited by L out to get an after work drink. i don't think it's anything more than social really. i meet her and find her really very attractive. we have a nice time and a real easy chemistry. drinks become dinner and the night doesn't go late (i have family staying with me for Thanksgiving) but with some kissing by her car. we make plans to hang out again after Thanksgiving. she's keen to see me again.

the other woman, K, has told me that she's not ready to date anyone (not that i have asked her out) even though her marriage is over. while i flirt a little with her, i have tried to be a good guy and provide solid counsel to her. she very attractive, too, and also 9 years younger than i am. she wants to hang out, too, and she has made it very clear she is attracted to me.

there is a good chance that these two know one another through the Meetup group. i feel like i am on a collision course here that i'd rather avoid. oh, i forgot to mention that i have been seeing another woman i met on Match about 2 months ago.

this is all bad news right? i should shut this down before someone gets hurt, right?

 

[Das Boot]

so i have a strange situation developing here recently. i am on Meetup for some group activities that are mostly focused on being a newly single dad. it's stuff to get me and my son out to meet different folks, hang out, playdates and the like. about 3 weeks ago, i was contacted directly by two separate women within the group.

both are asian-american and in their mid-30's. both actually have kids (1 each near my son's age) with the same name. both live in the 'burbs but not too far from me. one is divorced for a few years now while the other has just filed for divorce. i started talking with them as they had questions about other similar Meetup groups. both wanted to see about playdates for our kids. the divorcing one - i'll call K - is likes to vent and ask pick my brain about how i am handling my divorce. the other - i'll call L - is friendly, cool and seems to have her life together.she wants playdates for the kids too but just mainly seems socially active.

the problems began the other day for me, as i was invited by L out to get an after work drink. i don't think it's anything more than social really. i meet her and find her really very attractive. we have a nice time and a real easy chemistry. drinks become dinner and the night doesn't go late (i have family staying with me for Thanksgiving) but with some kissing by her car. we make plans to hang out again after Thanksgiving. she's keen to see me again.

the other woman, K, has told me that she's not ready to date anyone (not that i have asked her out) even though her marriage is over. while i flirt a little with her, i have tried to be a good guy and provide solid counsel to her. she very attractive, too, and also 9 years younger than i am. she wants to hang out, too, and she has made it very clear she is attracted to me.

there is a good chance that these two know one another through the Meetup group. i feel like i am on a collision course here that i'd rather avoid. oh, i forgot to mention that i have been seeing another woman i met on Match about 2 months ago.

this is all bad news right? i should shut this down before someone gets hurt, right?

Sounds like L is the winning play to me... has her stuff together, good chemistry, kids the same age, what's not to like?

K would just end up a quickie rebound most likely.

Unless the Match woman is serious enough that you shouldn't be out fishing.

 

[McGarnicle]

so i have a strange situation developing here recently. i am on Meetup for some group activities that are mostly focused on being a newly single dad. it's stuff to get me and my son out to meet different folks, hang out, playdates and the like. about 3 weeks ago, i was contacted directly by two separate women within the group.

both are asian-american and in their mid-30's. both actually have kids (1 each near my son's age) with the same name. both live in the 'burbs but not too far from me. one is divorced for a few years now while the other has just filed for divorce. i started talking with them as they had questions about other similar Meetup groups. both wanted to see about playdates for our kids. the divorcing one - i'll call K - is likes to vent and ask pick my brain about how i am handling my divorce. the other - i'll call L - is friendly, cool and seems to have her life together.she wants playdates for the kids too but just mainly seems socially active.

the problems began the other day for me, as i was invited by L out to get an after work drink. i don't think it's anything more than social really. i meet her and find her really very attractive. we have a nice time and a real easy chemistry. drinks become dinner and the night doesn't go late (i have family staying with me for Thanksgiving) but with some kissing by her car. we make plans to hang out again after Thanksgiving. she's keen to see me again.

the other woman, K, has told me that she's not ready to date anyone (not that i have asked her out) even though her marriage is over. while i flirt a little with her, i have tried to be a good guy and provide solid counsel to her. she very attractive, too, and also 9 years younger than i am. she wants to hang out, too, and she has made it very clear she is attracted to me.

there is a good chance that these two know one another through the Meetup group. i feel like i am on a collision course here that i'd rather avoid. oh, i forgot to mention that i have been seeing another woman i met on Match about 2 months ago.

this is all bad news right? i should shut this down before someone gets hurt, right?

Bad news because your penis will be sore from all that #####?

 

[Otis]

I'm starting to remember how I ended up getting married after I swore I never would.

You bang around for a while and it's fun as hell, then you meet a girl you really like and suddenly your mind isn't right. You're okay spending whole weekends with her. You stop calling other girls. You start telling yourself all the things that suck about casual dating -- the crazy ones, getting stood up, all the money you blow on dates, the wild swings between high exhilaration and crushing disappointment. Wouldn't it be great to settle down with this one great woman, you tell yourself. It would be a shame to let her get away.

:shudder:

For me it was stumbling onto a girl who I actually liked having around. Before that I couldn't wait for them to leave.

This is what I'm experiencing. This latest chick I want her to leave less quick than all the others recently, but at the end of the day I'm not overly "missing her" when we're not together. Not a good sign, but she's nice to look at and fun to bang, so there's that.

Decided as I was laying in bed with her Sunday morning that I would be ending it...she just hasn't been made aware yet (other than me declining her secks advances after she woke up).Just not in the mindframe at all for a committed relationship right now, and I know she really wants that. Latest discussions of upcoming holidays, etc makes me very uneasy. And at this point all I'm doing is looking for things that bug me, so not a good sign at all. She does this baby voice thing every once in a while that drives me absolutely bonkers. Planning to cut the chord tonight or tomorrow night.

Not a good thing for a girl to do when you're on the fence. Good for you turning down sex. Some guys would get as much as possible before dumping the girl. Me for example.

 

[Otis]

Girl at work...I know, bad idea, but she's extremely hot, skinny with huge bewbs and divorced two months ago :wheelhouse: We work in different departments on opposite side of building so don't cross paths too often.

Anyways, ran into her on Friday and did some chatting/flirting. I shoot her an email saying we should get together for some drinks sometime.

Her reply: I'm in. Call me (phone #)

Call her? I'm guessing/hoping its just vernacular to get me her phone number and texting is still the right play here, no?

She wants the D ASAP

Yeah, a newly divorced woman really wants to get drilled early and often. Text, call, snail mail, there's no way to screw this up. Be well rested and hydrated so you can keep up with her.

and PM me a pic of her.

Done. FBG Legends get privileges.

She is SMOKING hot. Wow I'm jealous.

Legend checking in. I'll take a PM.

 

[Otis]

Girl at work...I know, bad idea, but she's extremely hot, skinny with huge bewbs and divorced two months ago :wheelhouse: We work in different departments on opposite side of building so don't cross paths too often.

Anyways, ran into her on Friday and did some chatting/flirting. I shoot her an email saying we should get together for some drinks sometime.

Her reply: I'm in. Call me (phone #)

Call her? I'm guessing/hoping its just vernacular to get me her phone number and texting is still the right play here, no?

She wants the D ASAP

Yeah, a newly divorced woman really wants to get drilled early and often. Text, call, snail mail, there's no way to screw this up. Be well rested and hydrated so you can keep up with her.

and PM me a pic of her.

Done. FBG Legends get privileges.

She is SMOKING hot. Wow I'm jealous.

First date that was supposed to be last night never happened. She sent a have to cancel text around 2pm saying her daughter has the flu and was coming home to stay with her than the planned weekend with the dad. First instinct would be this is a cold feet kind of excuse, but the texts following that cancellation tell a much different story, so I'm now more confident than ever with this one.

Just rescheduled for Thursday night after Thanksgiving family stuff done. She specifically mentioned how she didnt have the kids for the holiday this year, along with increasingly flirty texts about thinking about me in meeting rooms at work and stuff. Life aint bad.

You should show up at her door wearing nothing but a pilgrim hat.

I love this thread!

 

[Otis]

God this thread takes me back. Idating is awesome, glad to see folks in here crushing it. I definitely made a nice run of it over a span way back when. NYC was just such an easy place for this, there were more women than days. And that was back when I think online dating was maybe still a little taboo. These days it must be becoming standard operating procedure.

Great stuff. Keep it up gentlemen.

 

[offdee]

so i have a strange situation developing here recently. i am on Meetup for some group activities that are mostly focused on being a newly single dad. it's stuff to get me and my son out to meet different folks, hang out, playdates and the like. about 3 weeks ago, i was contacted directly by two separate women within the group.

both are asian-american and in their mid-30's. both actually have kids (1 each near my son's age) with the same name. both live in the 'burbs but not too far from me. one is divorced for a few years now while the other has just filed for divorce. i started talking with them as they had questions about other similar Meetup groups. both wanted to see about playdates for our kids. the divorcing one - i'll call K - is likes to vent and ask pick my brain about how i am handling my divorce. the other - i'll call L - is friendly, cool and seems to have her life together.she wants playdates for the kids too but just mainly seems socially active.

the problems began the other day for me, as i was invited by L out to get an after work drink. i don't think it's anything more than social really. i meet her and find her really very attractive. we have a nice time and a real easy chemistry. drinks become dinner and the night doesn't go late (i have family staying with me for Thanksgiving) but with some kissing by her car. we make plans to hang out again after Thanksgiving. she's keen to see me again.

the other woman, K, has told me that she's not ready to date anyone (not that i have asked her out) even though her marriage is over. while i flirt a little with her, i have tried to be a good guy and provide solid counsel to her. she very attractive, too, and also 9 years younger than i am. she wants to hang out, too, and she has made it very clear she is attracted to me.

there is a good chance that these two know one another through the Meetup group. i feel like i am on a collision course here that i'd rather avoid. oh, i forgot to mention that i have been seeing another woman i met on Match about 2 months ago.

this is all bad news right? i should shut this down before someone gets hurt, right?

Match girl: continue dating her as normal. Do not tell her about any other girls....you're casually dating right now, nothing wrong with that.

Meetup girl that you find the most attractive/most chemistry: start hanging out with her more regularly and up the sexual vibe. Do not tell her about any other girls....you're casually dating right now, nothing wrong with that.

Remaining Meetup girl: Because chances are the two meetup girls cross paths you have to tread lightly here. This one you straight up tell her the situation and be bluntly honest. "I'm casually dating right now and just looking to spend time with new and interesting people...not looking for anything serious, but if the perfect one comes along than who knows. I want to be completely honest here and tell you I'm seeing one other girl right now. I'd like to spend more time with you as well, but understand if you're not comfortable with that.". Just see how she reacts...she may just be perfectly fine with it. This then covers you if the two meetups ever cross paths...the lesser meetup girl wont ever make a scene because she already knows the deal. The better meetup girl will never know.

At the end of the day, just have fun with it and enjoy the ride and don't overthink it too much. The irony is that the more women you have in your stable, the more desirable you become to additional women. Your mindset and confidence changes in how you deal with them (which is attractive to them knowing you have options).

 

[Disco Stu]

So are you still going on the original first date tonight? Technically you had sex with her BEFORE the first date. Quite an accomplishment since the first date was planned already.

Laying next to her in bed right now..she's naked, but no secks occurred. She was at family Thanksgiving all day drinking and then came to my place and we drank red wine while we hung out. Hit her hard out of the blue and she just needed to pass out. So yeah, I'm typing on my iPad while a hot naked chick with fake triple D's (confirmed size tonight) is passed out 18 inches from me. So, I had secks with her on impromptu date 0, but no secks on official date 1. Seems about right.

Triple Ds?? Good lord. Is she a stripper?And why haven't I seen pics yet?

 

[Das Boot]

so i have a strange situation developing here recently. i am on Meetup for some group activities that are mostly focused on being a newly single dad. it's stuff to get me and my son out to meet different folks, hang out, playdates and the like. about 3 weeks ago, i was contacted directly by two separate women within the group.

both are asian-american and in their mid-30's. both actually have kids (1 each near my son's age) with the same name. both live in the 'burbs but not too far from me. one is divorced for a few years now while the other has just filed for divorce. i started talking with them as they had questions about other similar Meetup groups. both wanted to see about playdates for our kids. the divorcing one - i'll call K - is likes to vent and ask pick my brain about how i am handling my divorce. the other - i'll call L - is friendly, cool and seems to have her life together.she wants playdates for the kids too but just mainly seems socially active.

the problems began the other day for me, as i was invited by L out to get an after work drink. i don't think it's anything more than social really. i meet her and find her really very attractive. we have a nice time and a real easy chemistry. drinks become dinner and the night doesn't go late (i have family staying with me for Thanksgiving) but with some kissing by her car. we make plans to hang out again after Thanksgiving. she's keen to see me again.

the other woman, K, has told me that she's not ready to date anyone (not that i have asked her out) even though her marriage is over. while i flirt a little with her, i have tried to be a good guy and provide solid counsel to her. she very attractive, too, and also 9 years younger than i am. she wants to hang out, too, and she has made it very clear she is attracted to me.

there is a good chance that these two know one another through the Meetup group. i feel like i am on a collision course here that i'd rather avoid. oh, i forgot to mention that i have been seeing another woman i met on Match about 2 months ago.

this is all bad news right? i should shut this down before someone gets hurt, right?

Match girl: continue dating her as normal. Do not tell her about any other girls....you're casually dating right now, nothing wrong with that.

Meetup girl that you find the most attractive/most chemistry: start hanging out with her more regularly and up the sexual vibe. Do not tell her about any other girls....you're casually dating right now, nothing wrong with that.

Remaining Meetup girl: Because chances are the two meetup girls cross paths you have to tread lightly here. This one you straight up tell her the situation and be bluntly honest. "I'm casually dating right now and just looking to spend time with new and interesting people...not looking for anything serious, but if the perfect one comes along than who knows. I want to be completely honest here and tell you I'm seeing one other girl right now. I'd like to spend more time with you as well, but understand if you're not comfortable with that.". Just see how she reacts...she may just be perfectly fine with it. This then covers you if the two meetups ever cross paths...the lesser meetup girl wont ever make a scene because she already knows the deal. The better meetup girl will never know.

At the end of the day, just have fun with it and enjoy the ride and don't overthink it too much. The irony is that the more women you have in your stable, the more desirable you become to additional women. Your mindset and confidence changes in how you deal with them (which is attractive to them knowing you have options).

Your advice is always solid and clearly you are hitting at a Ted Williams level average.

It's not a lock that meetup #2 wouldn't say anything to meetup #1 though.

 

[Joe T]

Big fan of the girls posting bikini photos on match.

 

[saintfool]

so i have a strange situation developing here recently. i am on Meetup for some group activities that are mostly focused on being a newly single dad. it's stuff to get me and my son out to meet different folks, hang out, playdates and the like. about 3 weeks ago, i was contacted directly by two separate women within the group.

both are asian-american and in their mid-30's. both actually have kids (1 each near my son's age) with the same name. both live in the 'burbs but not too far from me. one is divorced for a few years now while the other has just filed for divorce. i started talking with them as they had questions about other similar Meetup groups. both wanted to see about playdates for our kids. the divorcing one - i'll call K - is likes to vent and ask pick my brain about how i am handling my divorce. the other - i'll call L - is friendly, cool and seems to have her life together.she wants playdates for the kids too but just mainly seems socially active.

the problems began the other day for me, as i was invited by L out to get an after work drink. i don't think it's anything more than social really. i meet her and find her really very attractive. we have a nice time and a real easy chemistry. drinks become dinner and the night doesn't go late (i have family staying with me for Thanksgiving) but with some kissing by her car. we make plans to hang out again after Thanksgiving. she's keen to see me again.

the other woman, K, has told me that she's not ready to date anyone (not that i have asked her out) even though her marriage is over. while i flirt a little with her, i have tried to be a good guy and provide solid counsel to her. she very attractive, too, and also 9 years younger than i am. she wants to hang out, too, and she has made it very clear she is attracted to me.

there is a good chance that these two know one another through the Meetup group. i feel like i am on a collision course here that i'd rather avoid. oh, i forgot to mention that i have been seeing another woman i met on Match about 2 months ago.

this is all bad news right? i should shut this down before someone gets hurt, right?

Match girl: continue dating her as normal. Do not tell her about any other girls....you're casually dating right now, nothing wrong with that.

Meetup girl that you find the most attractive/most chemistry: start hanging out with her more regularly and up the sexual vibe. Do not tell her about any other girls....you're casually dating right now, nothing wrong with that.

Remaining Meetup girl: Because chances are the two meetup girls cross paths you have to tread lightly here. This one you straight up tell her the situation and be bluntly honest. "I'm casually dating right now and just looking to spend time with new and interesting people...not looking for anything serious, but if the perfect one comes along than who knows. I want to be completely honest here and tell you I'm seeing one other girl right now. I'd like to spend more time with you as well, but understand if you're not comfortable with that.". Just see how she reacts...she may just be perfectly fine with it. This then covers you if the two meetups ever cross paths...the lesser meetup girl wont ever make a scene because she already knows the deal. The better meetup girl will never know.

At the end of the day, just have fun with it and enjoy the ride and don't overthink it too much. The irony is that the more women you have in your stable, the more desirable you become to additional women. Your mindset and confidence changes in how you deal with them (which is attractive to them knowing you have options).

Your advice is always solid and clearly you are hitting at a Ted Williams level average.

It's not a lock that meetup #2 wouldn't say anything to meetup #1 though.

quick update here...

Meetup woman L (the already divorced one) and I hung out again Sunday. It was nice and relaxed. I told her I was dating others and she said that was fine. She's been in open relationships before that have lasted months apparently. She likes her life, wants company but isn't rushing. She did tell me that we did have a "friend in common" and that brings me to Meetup Woman K (just starting her divorce).

K is interested but her situation is a total mess. I'm going to put her on the back burner for a few months until things settle down for her. I'll tell her she needs a little time to process what's happening to her before she thinks about dating. I have time with her I think. In the meantime, this gives me some time to see what happens with these other women.

 

[offdee]

quick update here...

Meetup woman L (the already divorced one) and I hung out again Sunday. It was nice and relaxed. I told her I was dating others and she said that was fine. She's been in open relationships before that have lasted months apparently. She likes her life, wants company but isn't rushing. She did tell me that we did have a "friend in common" and that brings me to Meetup Woman K (just starting her divorce).

K is interested but her situation is a total mess. I'm going to put her on the back burner for a few months until things settle down for her. I'll tell her she needs a little time to process what's happening to her before she thinks about dating. I have time with her I think. In the meantime, this gives me some time to see what happens with these other women.

Sounds like you're approaching wisely. I've actually found that just being honest about not looking for anything serious peaks there interest more than proclaiming you're looking for one devoted true love. At some point they'll always ask me if I'm looking for a serious committed relationship, and always answer with something along the lines of "of course if the right girl comes along, with great chemistry, etc. but I don't plan on settling for anything less than perfect". That always perks them up a bit and immediately they start to try and prove all of the ways they are so great.

As said earlier, the less desperate you act, the better the results. Mindset at all times is that you are the prize. Good luck GB!

 

[McGarnicle]

quick update here...

Meetup woman L (the already divorced one) and I hung out again Sunday. It was nice and relaxed. I told her I was dating others and she said that was fine. She's been in open relationships before that have lasted months apparently. She likes her life, wants company but isn't rushing. She did tell me that we did have a "friend in common" and that brings me to Meetup Woman K (just starting her divorce).

K is interested but her situation is a total mess. I'm going to put her on the back burner for a few months until things settle down for her. I'll tell her she needs a little time to process what's happening to her before she thinks about dating. I have time with her I think. In the meantime, this gives me some time to see what happens with these other women.

Sounds like you're approaching wisely. I've actually found that just being honest about not looking for anything serious peaks there interest more than proclaiming you're looking for one devoted true love. At some point they'll always ask me if I'm looking for a serious committed relationship, and always answer with something along the lines of "of course if the right girl comes along, with great chemistry, etc. but I don't plan on settling for anything less than perfect". That always perks them up a bit and immediately they start to try and prove all of the ways they are so great.

As said earlier, the less desperate you act, the better the results. Mindset at all times is that you are the prize. Good luck GB!

I had one that would blow me before we went out, like as an appetizer. Because she thought it was really important to make her man happy, she said. They all say that. But it was this exact scenario, I told her I was never, ever getting married and she was trying to change my mind.

 

[offdee]

quick update here...

Meetup woman L (the already divorced one) and I hung out again Sunday. It was nice and relaxed. I told her I was dating others and she said that was fine. She's been in open relationships before that have lasted months apparently. She likes her life, wants company but isn't rushing. She did tell me that we did have a "friend in common" and that brings me to Meetup Woman K (just starting her divorce).

K is interested but her situation is a total mess. I'm going to put her on the back burner for a few months until things settle down for her. I'll tell her she needs a little time to process what's happening to her before she thinks about dating. I have time with her I think. In the meantime, this gives me some time to see what happens with these other women.

Sounds like you're approaching wisely. I've actually found that just being honest about not looking for anything serious peaks there interest more than proclaiming you're looking for one devoted true love. At some point they'll always ask me if I'm looking for a serious committed relationship, and always answer with something along the lines of "of course if the right girl comes along, with great chemistry, etc. but I don't plan on settling for anything less than perfect". That always perks them up a bit and immediately they start to try and prove all of the ways they are so great.

As said earlier, the less desperate you act, the better the results. Mindset at all times is that you are the prize. Good luck GB!

I had one that would blow me before we went out, like as an appetizer. Because she thought it was really important to make her man happy, she said. They all say that. But it was this exact scenario, I told her I was never, ever getting married and she was trying to change my mind.

It really is crazy. Once you fully grasp and become comfortable with the fact that basically everything you think you should be saying/acting is actually the OPPOSITE of what actually works with women is when dating becomes easy. Hot women are so used to being catered to and fawned over it's no longer interesting to them and actually annoying....when they meet a confident guy that acts like their presence is no big deal is when they start to precipitate.

ETA: not saying be a complete ##### either. Still be a nice guy, but just exude confidence that you are the prize.

 

[Major]

quick update here...

Meetup woman L (the already divorced one) and I hung out again Sunday. It was nice and relaxed. I told her I was dating others and she said that was fine. She's been in open relationships before that have lasted months apparently. She likes her life, wants company but isn't rushing. She did tell me that we did have a "friend in common" and that brings me to Meetup Woman K (just starting her divorce).

K is interested but her situation is a total mess. I'm going to put her on the back burner for a few months until things settle down for her. I'll tell her she needs a little time to process what's happening to her before she thinks about dating. I have time with her I think. In the meantime, this gives me some time to see what happens with these other women.

Sounds like you're approaching wisely. I've actually found that just being honest about not looking for anything serious peaks there interest more than proclaiming you're looking for one devoted true love. At some point they'll always ask me if I'm looking for a serious committed relationship, and always answer with something along the lines of "of course if the right girl comes along, with great chemistry, etc. but I don't plan on settling for anything less than perfect". That always perks them up a bit and immediately they start to try and prove all of the ways they are so great.

As said earlier, the less desperate you act, the better the results. Mindset at all times is that you are the prize. Good luck GB!

I had one that would blow me before we went out, like as an appetizer. Because she thought it was really important to make her man happy, she said. They all say that. But it was this exact scenario, I told her I was never, ever getting married and she was trying to change my mind.

It really is crazy. Once you fully grasp and become comfortable with the fact that basically everything you think you should be saying/acting is actually the OPPOSITE of what actually works with women is when dating becomes easy. Hot women are so used to being catered to and fawned over it's no longer interesting to them and actually annoying....when they meet a confident guy that acts like their presence is no big deal is when they start to precipitate.

ETA: not saying be a complete ##### either. Still be a nice guy, but just exude confidence that you are the prize.

So f'n true. When I like a girl, I try to picture her as being some fat disgusting woman I despise the first few encounters. It really helps me close deals b/c I act indifferent, friendly but with negs, etc. When you put that p on a pedestal, you f'd.

 

[McGarnicle]

On that first date, always mention you have another one planned in two hours and she has 45 minutes to convince you to cancel with the other girl. Then set the stopwatch on your phone to 45:00:00, place it in front of her, and hit Start. Then mention you heard somewhere that the other girl might be a nymphomaniac.

 

[Major]

On that first date, always mention you have another one planned in two hours and she has 45 minutes to convince you to cancel with the other girl. Then set the stopwatch on your phone to 45:00:00, place it in front of her, and hit Start. Then mention you heard somewhere that the other girl might be a nymphomaniac.