***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (1 Viewer)

[St. Louis Bob]

You should start your own box of crap auction IMO

I bid $5000.

:LMAO:

 

[St. Louis Bob]

I had forgotten how boring most chicks' profiles are. I've heard all the bad cliches about dudes' profiles, but wow, most chicks just don't have anything to offer. They all love to travel, eat sushi and have read "Girl with a Dragon Tattoo" and "Hunger Games." Lots of depth here.

it can be almost boilerplate really. Too many of them love travel. Too many of them are surrounded by an awesome cadre of friends. Too many of them are looking to drop everything and fly out to Paris, Jakarta, Belize or wherever on a moment's notice. Too many of them are looking for a "partner in crime", which is an especially odious turn of phrase.

I think a good profile should read:

I like to do all kinds of things, it just depends on the mood I'm in. Sometimes I like to make love and other times I just like to ####.

 

[St. Louis Bob]

This thread disgusts me. <_<

 

[jon_mx]

Question: How long do you guys normally wait until going back online? My ex and I broke up around Christmas then slowed things down a bunch by only seeing each other every couple of weeks. We ended it for good last Friday. Including the slowed down part of the relationship, we were together for about 8.5 months. I don't think I am ready yet ... 1. I am still recovering emotionally. Started no contact last Friday and doing well with it. 2. I'm not sure I'm ready to see her profile online yet.

Turn in your man card

If you mean my double sided hmmmm toy, you can have it. The standard is to throw away all toys at the end of the relationship. What sucks is this thing was $160. At least we went in 50/50 on it, no pun intended.

$160??? Why is some molded rubber $160? Was there something extra fancy about this one?

It was about 130 plus lube and tax ... Easily 160. It will definitely be missed, one of my favs. She introduce me to this http://www.lelo.com/index.php?collectionName=femme-homme&groupName=INA-2 plan to buy soon!

I want to see the manual for how use that.

 

[OC Zed]

Question: How long do you guys normally wait until going back online? My ex and I broke up around Christmas then slowed things down a bunch by only seeing each other every couple of weeks. We ended it for good last Friday. Including the slowed down part of the relationship, we were together for about 8.5 months. I don't think I am ready yet ... 1. I am still recovering emotionally. Started no contact last Friday and doing well with it. 2. I'm not sure I'm ready to see her profile online yet.

Turn in your man card

If you mean my double sided hmmmm toy, you can have it. The standard is to throw away all toys at the end of the relationship. What sucks is this thing was $160. At least we went in 50/50 on it, no pun intended.

$160??? Why is some molded rubber $160? Was there something extra fancy about this one?

It was about 130 plus lube and tax ... Easily 160. It will definitely be missed, one of my favs. She introduce me to this http://www.lelo.com/index.php?collectionName=femme-homme&groupName=INA-2 plan to buy soon!

Damn. Women's toys are $$$.

 

[Keerock]

Question: How long do you guys normally wait until going back online? My ex and I broke up around Christmas then slowed things down a bunch by only seeing each other every couple of weeks. We ended it for good last Friday. Including the slowed down part of the relationship, we were together for about 8.5 months. I don't think I am ready yet ... 1. I am still recovering emotionally. Started no contact last Friday and doing well with it. 2. I'm not sure I'm ready to see her profile online yet.

Turn in your man card

If you mean my double sided hmmmm toy, you can have it. The standard is to throw away all toys at the end of the relationship. What sucks is this thing was $160. At least we went in 50/50 on it, no pun intended.

Can't you just throw them(non electronic anyway) in the dishwasher and rinse repeat? Or is it some sort of sentimental thing?

It's non electric. And yes, you can sterlize it in the dishwasher ... But, it's taboo. No new woman wants what the old woman had. I saved the box, thinking that if things didn't work, then I could wash it, and put it in the box only to bring it back out disguised as new. A little white lie never hurt anybody. But, as a friend brought up this weekend, it's a toy for two, not for one and it's quite obvious I didn't buy it just for me.

eBay with any pic of you two using it should bring in some solid coin.

 

[Buck Bradcanon]

You should start your own box of crap auction IMO

I bid $5000.

 

[Buck Bradcanon]

This thread disgusts me. <_<

 

[EYLive]

Question: How long do you guys normally wait until going back online? My ex and I broke up around Christmas then slowed things down a bunch by only seeing each other every couple of weeks. We ended it for good last Friday. Including the slowed down part of the relationship, we were together for about 8.5 months. I don't think I am ready yet ... 1. I am still recovering emotionally. Started no contact last Friday and doing well with it. 2. I'm not sure I'm ready to see her profile online yet.

Turn in your man card

If you mean my double sided hmmmm toy, you can have it. The standard is to throw away all toys at the end of the relationship. What sucks is this thing was $160. At least we went in 50/50 on it, no pun intended.

Can't you just throw them(non electronic anyway) in the dishwasher and rinse repeat? Or is it some sort of sentimental thing?

It's non electric. And yes, you can sterlize it in the dishwasher ... But, it's taboo. No new woman wants what the old woman had. I saved the box, thinking that if things didn't work, then I could wash it, and put it in the box only to bring it back out disguised as new. A little white lie never hurt anybody. But, as a friend brought up this weekend, it's a toy for two, not for one and it's quite obvious I didn't buy it just for me.

eBay with any pic of you two using it should bring in some solid coin.

Meh, nothing that you haven't seen before, I'm sure. Yesterday day was a weird day for me ... I'm posting here about my toys (I'm normally more private than this) and then some guy propositioned me to join his "play party" with a couple of other people... When I said I don't swing his way, he said "I like to watch, you don't have to go my way, and this helps my relationship." I said no thanks and he's wanting to show me pictures to help change my mind. WTF.

You should at least humor him by accepting th:e: pics. It'd be rude not to.

 

[Disco Stu]

What do PM stand for??! PRIVATE Message!!!!11!!

 

[Uruk-Hai]

Beavers, in my opinion you should wait a few months before diving back in if the relationship had a pretty deep emotional connection. I know most here will probably disagree, but I know I screwed up some pretty awesome potential matches by being there too early (for me). It's different if you just want to screw someone but, if you're looking for something long-term, I'd get my feet back under me (not a euphemism) first.

 

[Joe T]

Beavers, in my opinion you should wait a few months before diving back in if the relationship had a pretty deep emotional connection. I know most here will probably disagree, but I know I screwed up some pretty awesome potential matches by being there too early (for me). It's different if you just want to screw someone but, if you're looking for something long-term, I'd get my feet back under me (not a euphemism) first.

Some truth here.

 

[(HULK)]

Beavers, my mom is a lesbian... it seems like every relationship she gets into she moves too fast and a few years down the road she and her partner find out that they're actually poorly suited for each other. I think that this can be a common issue in the lesbian community... not to stereotype, but some women are not the type to tap the breaks on a relationship... my mom isn't... the partners she ends up with are not. I don't know you beyond the i-stranger level, but if you think that sounds like you, just remember to not rush headlong into your next relationship. There really is never a reason to rush things. Anyways, good luck. Also, donate your double-ender to Goodwill... that'd be hysterical.

 

[Uruk-Hai]

Beavers, my mom is a lesbian... it seems like every relationship she gets into she moves too fast and a few years down the road she and her partner find out that they're actually poorly suited for each other. I think that this can be a common issue in the lesbian community... not to stereotype, but some women are not the type to tap the breaks on a relationship... my mom isn't... the partners she ends up with are not. I don't know you beyond the i-stranger level, but if you think that sounds like you, just remember to not rush headlong into your next relationship. There really is never a reason to rush things. Anyways, good luck. Also, donate your double-ender to Goodwill...

Just seeing the looks in the faces of the clerks at GW if that happened would be worth the price of admission by itself

Hulk, I don't think "moving too fast" is a female/lesbian thing. At least, not in my experience. I've done it - matter of fact, both of my failed marriages can be attributed to it on some level. Last I looked, I'm not a lesbian

 

[(HULK)]

Beavers, my mom is a lesbian... it seems like every relationship she gets into she moves too fast and a few years down the road she and her partner find out that they're actually poorly suited for each other. I think that this can be a common issue in the lesbian community... not to stereotype, but some women are not the type to tap the breaks on a relationship... my mom isn't... the partners she ends up with are not. I don't know you beyond the i-stranger level, but if you think that sounds like you, just remember to not rush headlong into your next relationship. There really is never a reason to rush things. Anyways, good luck. Also, donate your double-ender to Goodwill...

Just seeing the looks in the faces of the clerks at GW if that happened would be worth the price of admission by itself Hulk, I don't think "moving too fast" is a female/lesbian thing. At least, not in my experience. I've done it - matter of fact, both of my failed marriages can be attributed to it on some level. Last I looked, I'm not a lesbian

yeah, I know it's not exclusive the lesbians. Amongst the ones I know personally, it's a bit of an epidemic though. No idea if it applies here, just throwing out some unsolicited advice Lol.

 

[St. Louis Bob]

Question: How long do you guys normally wait until going back online? My ex and I broke up around Christmas then slowed things down a bunch by only seeing each other every couple of weeks. We ended it for good last Friday. Including the slowed down part of the relationship, we were together for about 8.5 months. I don't think I am ready yet ... 1. I am still recovering emotionally. Started no contact last Friday and doing well with it. 2. I'm not sure I'm ready to see her profile online yet.

Turn in your man card

If you mean my double sided hmmmm toy, you can have it. The standard is to throw away all toys at the end of the relationship. What sucks is this thing was $160. At least we went in 50/50 on it, no pun intended.

Can't you just throw them(non electronic anyway) in the dishwasher and rinse repeat? Or is it some sort of sentimental thing?

It's non electric. And yes, you can sterlize it in the dishwasher ... But, it's taboo. No new woman wants what the old woman had. I saved the box, thinking that if things didn't work, then I could wash it, and put it in the box only to bring it back out disguised as new. A little white lie never hurt anybody. But, as a friend brought up this weekend, it's a toy for two, not for one and it's quite obvious I didn't buy it just for me.

eBay with any pic of you two using it should bring in some solid coin.

Meh, nothing that you haven't seen before, I'm sure. Yesterday day was a weird day for me ... I'm posting here about my toys (I'm normally more private than this) and then some guy propositioned me to join his "play party" with a couple of other people... When I said I don't swing his way, he said "I like to watch, you don't have to go my way, and this helps my relationship." I said no thanks and he's wanting to show me pictures to help change my mind. WTF.

You should at least humor him by accepting th:e: pics. It'd be rude not to.

troof

 

[jon_mx]

Question: How long do you guys normally wait until going back online? My ex and I broke up around Christmas then slowed things down a bunch by only seeing each other every couple of weeks. We ended it for good last Friday. Including the slowed down part of the relationship, we were together for about 8.5 months. I don't think I am ready yet ... 1. I am still recovering emotionally. Started no contact last Friday and doing well with it. 2. I'm not sure I'm ready to see her profile online yet.

Turn in your man card

If you mean my double sided hmmmm toy, you can have it. The standard is to throw away all toys at the end of the relationship. What sucks is this thing was $160. At least we went in 50/50 on it, no pun intended.

Can't you just throw them(non electronic anyway) in the dishwasher and rinse repeat? Or is it some sort of sentimental thing?

It's non electric. And yes, you can sterlize it in the dishwasher ... But, it's taboo. No new woman wants what the old woman had. I saved the box, thinking that if things didn't work, then I could wash it, and put it in the box only to bring it back out disguised as new. A little white lie never hurt anybody. But, as a friend brought up this weekend, it's a toy for two, not for one and it's quite obvious I didn't buy it just for me.

Plus, it probably has lost that new toy smell.

 

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Cross posting from BBQfest thread...

BACKSTORY: Hosting a large party (3000 square foot scaffold booth at world championship of BBQ in Memphis. Riverside festival. 400 teams, 100,000 attendees, etc. Each booth is a private party with open bar, free food, etc for all guests invited.

For kicks I've created a Tinder account with a flyer for the party as the profile picture, and then a few other pictures of the food, bar, folks dancing, the DJ, etc. The goal, to swipe on ladies who looked appealing, and invite them + their girls to join the party to "stock the pond" a bit with some random young talent.

The results have been surprising... I think this idea has significant merit for anyone looking to add some ladies to the mix for any event they're planning.

Sooo... operation "stock the pond" is working pretty well I think...

A sampling of confirmed attendees thus far....

Ashley (middle) +5

Cami (native american) +3

Cami Alternate

Elizabeth +2

Elizabeth Alternate

Meagan +5
Meagan (right) Alternate

Tayla (left) +4

Tayla Alternate (left)

Kecia +3

Kecia Alternate

Carrie +4

Carrie Alternate

Hart +3
Hart Alternate

Have made it clear to all that the guestlist passes are for girlfriends only, they will not be allowed to bring guys in. They don't care. All the ladies are very excited about coming down and partying, many particular enamored with the open bar. Several have made a point to make it clear that all their friends will be single and looking to mingle.

I have no doubts there will be some duds in the mix, but every party does better with a decent mix of ladies thrown into the mix. Will be plenty of our female friends coming without this "pond stocking", and pretty much every guy on the team is married or might as well be... but just going that extra mile to be sure the vibe is all good.

 

[chauncey]

Brilliant idea icon. Keep us updated over here on how it turns out. And if Ashley's blond friend is coming I may have to book a flight to Memphis.

 

[St. Louis Bob]

Meagan +5

Meagan (right) Alternate

Would go a 7 here. Would also CRUSH!

 

[Buck Bradcanon]

GD it. Wow.

 

[EYLive]

Man, that's some snazzy organizing. I enjoy booze and booty, but I'd be most excited by the BBQ.

 

[[icon]]

Man, that's some snazzy organizing. I enjoy booze and booty, but I'd be most excited by the BBQ.

I've got a stunning GF of 11 years so all I'll benefit from this is a little eye candy. I'm okay with that. I figure the ladies will have fun, and the male guests will appreciate the effort. Soo.... Why not right?

Plus, being in the marketing/social media field .... it was a genuine curiosity/experiment.

 

[Johnny Rock]

Meagan +5Meagan (right) Alternate

Would go a 7 here. Would also CRUSH!

 

[BobbyLayne]

The trite profiles aside, I've been pleasantly surprised in my first week back on Match. Out of e-mails to 11 quality chicks, I've heard back from 4 of them... highest % I've had in a while. I went out on a first date with one of the ladies last night... I had a great time, but I'm not sure how into it she was. She seemed a bit more on the reserved side. We made tentative plans for next Saturday, so I need to keep the momentum going this week with the periodic texts.

IME reserved on a first date doesn't necessarily portend anything. The one life lesson I relearned this year in iDating: if a woman wants to be with you she'll make the time. If she makes any kind of excuse she's not interested. Be like water and seek the path of least resistance. Especially early on, never force anything.

Timing is everything. I have a super busy life between heavy responsibility in a small company, raising two kids by myself with no immediate family nearby, and time sucking charity work. I tend to date women who work in finance, law or as serial entrepreneurs. I live in a metropolis chock full of good looking, accomplished, available singles. Yet we both can and do make it happen when the chemistry is there.

There is an illusion to iDating the options are unlimited and a better option is no more than a few page views and a paragraph away. That's especially true in a large urban area. Yet at the end of the day it's about finding a true connection. Finding a date or getting laid is incredibly easy. Discovering someone who really gets you and vice versa is rare. I try to give each one an honest effort and see where it flows. But for me it has to be free, easy and natural.

/rambling

 

[Steve Tasker]

Tinder users: What is your method

1. If I like the first pic, I swipe right.

2. I am either very creepy or very selective, so I look at all the pics, then decide which way to swipe.

3. I make it rain and swipe right all day. Then I block all the fatties and ugly biatches.

I have tried all 3, and if you live in a big metropolitan area, these chicks start all looking the same. Using 3 at the moment, but these fat broads are aggressive on here.

TO finally steal your girl?

 

[OC Zed]

The trite profiles aside, I've been pleasantly surprised in my first week back on Match. Out of e-mails to 11 quality chicks, I've heard back from 4 of them... highest % I've had in a while. I went out on a first date with one of the ladies last night... I had a great time, but I'm not sure how into it she was. She seemed a bit more on the reserved side. We made tentative plans for next Saturday, so I need to keep the momentum going this week with the periodic texts.

IME reserved on a first date doesn't necessarily portend anything.The one life lesson I relearned this year in iDating: if a woman wants to be with you she'll make the time. If she makes any kind of excuse she's not interested. Be like water and seek the path of least resistance. Especially early on, never force anything.

Timing is everything. I have a super busy life between heavy responsibility in a small company, raising two kids by myself with no immediate family nearby, and time sucking charity work. I tend to date women who work in finance, law or as serial entrepreneurs. I live in a metropolis chock full of good looking, accomplished, available singles. Yet we both can and do make it happen when the chemistry is there.

There is an illusion to iDating the options are unlimited and a better option is no more than a few page views and a paragraph away. That's especially true in a large urban area. Yet at the end of the day it's about finding a true connection. Finding a date or getting laid is incredibly easy. Discovering someone who really gets you and vice versa is rare. I try to give each one an honest effort and see where it flows. But for me it has to be free, easy and natural.

/rambling

This is all good stuff here.

As an update, that first date chick was actually very into me and is just on the reserved side in general. We've been on a few more dates since then and have great chemistry in a lot of ways, but I'm also starting to see some red flags of things that I'm not necessarily compatible with. I guess the obvious lesson here is you don't always get the complete picture of someone on the first date.

 

[zed2283]

Anyone using Mozilla have a hiccup getting onto OKC? Instead of going to the homepage, I got another page saying that the new CEO of Mozilla is against same-sex rights, so OKC would prefer that I use another browser to access the site. They had links to Chrome, IE, etc. but if I really, really wanted to use Mozilla I could scroll all the way down to the link at the bottom of the page.

 

[Disco Stu]

Anyone using Mozilla have a hiccup getting onto OKC? Instead of going to the homepage, I got another page saying that the new CEO of Mozilla is against same-sex rights, so OKC would prefer that I use another browser to access the site. They had links to Chrome, IE, etc. but if I really, really wanted to use Mozilla I could scroll all the way down to the link at the bottom of the page.

I heard about that. Sounds like more than a hiccup.

 

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Anyone using Mozilla have a hiccup getting onto OKC? Instead of going to the homepage, I got another page saying that the new CEO of Mozilla is against same-sex rights, so OKC would prefer that I use another browser to access the site. They had links to Chrome, IE, etc. but if I really, really wanted to use Mozilla I could scroll all the way down to the link at the bottom of the page.

Mozilla sucks now anyway

 

[Terpman22]

Tinder users: What is your method

1. If I like the first pic, I swipe right.

2. I am either very creepy or very selective, so I look at all the pics, then decide which way to swipe.

3. I make it rain and swipe right all day. Then I block all the fatties and ugly biatches.

I have tried all 3, and if you live in a big metropolitan area, these chicks start all looking the same. Using 3 at the moment, but these fat broads are aggressive on here.

TO finally steal your girl?

She don't go black. Or Dumb. (I tricked her on the one I could)

 

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Two women tend to get very emotional so pretty much every female that I've slept with, I developed some strong bond.

The least surprising thing ever posted on these forums

 

[offdee]

The work girl relationship ran its course, so have been back on the dating scene the past month or so. The OKCupid well seems to be dried up for me (note: downtown Milwaukee area)....every single profile that I find attractive are girls that I've already chatted with/met for drinks, dated for a short period or secks'd (or all of the above). So, this past weekend signed up for 3 months on Match just to see what it's like. So far, not impressed....a few decent options but nothing fantastic yet. The women on there seem to be more desparate than on OKC...lots more women contacting me first along with the "winking" and "liking" garbage. Not that it matters, but I actually like the funtionality of OKC better than Match...more user friendly and simpler IMO (I guess with a pay site they feel the need to give all kinds of different crap to click on that is basically useless).

Here's the horror in all of this (and I kinda hate myself for it)...I actually liked being in a one girl relationship for those few months with work girl. Ended up where we realized we were completely different people, lived very different lives, had some communication barriers, etc. so would never work long term....but on the surface with the crazy chemistry/attraction and just enjoying times together in the moment was really nice. The problem now is that work girl was so hot and the chemistry so great that I now find myself needing a different level of talent to grab my interest...so going to be a rare find I feel which is a bit discouraging. I still have a number of outlets for hookups if I want them (and have given in to some), but my mindset has shifted a bit into actually wanting a real relationship with someone I care about and can treat well. The times I have just had random hookups recently I kinda feel bad about it the next day. Ugh, what have I become?!?!

 

[Terpman22]

The work girl relationship ran its course, so have been back on the dating scene the past month or so. The OKCupid well seems to be dried up for me (note: downtown Milwaukee area)....every single profile that I find attractive are girls that I've already chatted with/met for drinks, dated for a short period or secks'd (or all of the above). So, this past weekend signed up for 3 months on Match just to see what it's like. So far, not impressed....a few decent options but nothing fantastic yet. The women on there seem to be more desparate than on OKC...lots more women contacting me first along with the "winking" and "liking" garbage. Not that it matters, but I actually like the funtionality of OKC better than Match...more user friendly and simpler IMO (I guess with a pay site they feel the need to give all kinds of different crap to click on that is basically useless).

Here's the horror in all of this (and I kinda hate myself for it)...I actually liked being in a one girl relationship for those few months with work girl. Ended up where we realized we were completely different people, lived very different lives, had some communication barriers, etc. so would never work long term....but on the surface with the crazy chemistry/attraction and just enjoying times together in the moment was really nice. The problem now is that work girl was so hot and the chemistry so great that I now find myself needing a different level of talent to grab my interest...so going to be a rare find I feel which is a bit discouraging. I still have a number of outlets for hookups if I want them (and have given in to some), but my mindset has shifted a bit into actually wanting a real relationship with someone I care about and can treat well. The times I have just had random hookups recently I kinda feel bad about it the next day. Ugh, what have I become?!?!

 

[EYLive]

Ugh, what have I become?!?!

An adult?

People grow out of phases whether they want to or not. It just happens.

 

[saintfool]

The work girl relationship ran its course, so have been back on the dating scene the past month or so. The OKCupid well seems to be dried up for me (note: downtown Milwaukee area)....every single profile that I find attractive are girls that I've already chatted with/met for drinks, dated for a short period or secks'd (or all of the above). So, this past weekend signed up for 3 months on Match just to see what it's like. So far, not impressed....a few decent options but nothing fantastic yet. The women on there seem to be more desparate than on OKC...lots more women contacting me first along with the "winking" and "liking" garbage. Not that it matters, but I actually like the funtionality of OKC better than Match...more user friendly and simpler IMO (I guess with a pay site they feel the need to give all kinds of different crap to click on that is basically useless).

Here's the horror in all of this (and I kinda hate myself for it)...I actually liked being in a one girl relationship for those few months with work girl. Ended up where we realized we were completely different people, lived very different lives, had some communication barriers, etc. so would never work long term....but on the surface with the crazy chemistry/attraction and just enjoying times together in the moment was really nice. The problem now is that work girl was so hot and the chemistry so great that I now find myself needing a different level of talent to grab my interest...so going to be a rare find I feel which is a bit discouraging. I still have a number of outlets for hookups if I want them (and have given in to some), but my mindset has shifted a bit into actually wanting a real relationship with someone I care about and can treat well. The times I have just had random hookups recently I kinda feel bad about it the next day. Ugh, what have I become?!?!

Hey, Otis 6 years ago!

 

[McGarnicle]

The work girl relationship ran its course, so have been back on the dating scene the past month or so. The OKCupid well seems to be dried up for me (note: downtown Milwaukee area)....every single profile that I find attractive are girls that I've already chatted with/met for drinks, dated for a short period or secks'd (or all of the above). So, this past weekend signed up for 3 months on Match just to see what it's like. So far, not impressed....a few decent options but nothing fantastic yet. The women on there seem to be more desparate than on OKC...lots more women contacting me first along with the "winking" and "liking" garbage. Not that it matters, but I actually like the funtionality of OKC better than Match...more user friendly and simpler IMO (I guess with a pay site they feel the need to give all kinds of different crap to click on that is basically useless).

Here's the horror in all of this (and I kinda hate myself for it)...I actually liked being in a one girl relationship for those few months with work girl. Ended up where we realized we were completely different people, lived very different lives, had some communication barriers, etc. so would never work long term....but on the surface with the crazy chemistry/attraction and just enjoying times together in the moment was really nice. The problem now is that work girl was so hot and the chemistry so great that I now find myself needing a different level of talent to grab my interest...so going to be a rare find I feel which is a bit discouraging. I still have a number of outlets for hookups if I want them (and have given in to some), but my mindset has shifted a bit into actually wanting a real relationship with someone I care about and can treat well. The times I have just had random hookups recently I kinda feel bad about it the next day. Ugh, what have I become?!?!

You're going to get married and knock out a bunch of kids and be like the rest of the schlubs in here. It was a good run.

 

[fantasycurse42]

Question: How long do you guys normally wait until going back online? My ex and I broke up around Christmas then slowed things down a bunch by only seeing each other every couple of weeks. We ended it for good last Friday. Including the slowed down part of the relationship, we were together for about 8.5 months. I don't think I am ready yet ... 1. I am still recovering emotionally. Started no contact last Friday and doing well with it. 2. I'm not sure I'm ready to see her profile online yet.

Turn in your man card

 

[fantasycurse42]

Ugh, what have I become?!?!

At 37 you have two options (both work & the grass is always greener):

• Keep whoring it up, nothing wrong with this option and just about every married man is jealous. If you meet someone, great, if not your married friends at 45 will still be jealous

• Get on the serious relationship hunt - Keep whoring it on up the side, but keep your eyes open. A lot of the time, the relationship comes out of left field when you aren't even looking for it... The window for kids is closing - You don't want to be the 63 year old dad attending your oldest kid's HS graduation. Even if don't want kids, your dating pool will narrow due to conflict of interests.

 

[Buck Bradcanon]

The work girl relationship ran its course, so have been back on the dating scene the past month or so. The OKCupid well seems to be dried up for me (note: downtown Milwaukee area)....every single profile that I find attractive are girls that I've already chatted with/met for drinks, dated for a short period or secks'd (or all of the above). So, this past weekend signed up for 3 months on Match just to see what it's like. So far, not impressed....a few decent options but nothing fantastic yet. The women on there seem to be more desparate than on OKC...lots more women contacting me first along with the "winking" and "liking" garbage. Not that it matters, but I actually like the funtionality of OKC better than Match...more user friendly and simpler IMO (I guess with a pay site they feel the need to give all kinds of different crap to click on that is basically useless).

Here's the horror in all of this (and I kinda hate myself for it)...I actually liked being in a one girl relationship for those few months with work girl. Ended up where we realized we were completely different people, lived very different lives, had some communication barriers, etc. so would never work long term....but on the surface with the crazy chemistry/attraction and just enjoying times together in the moment was really nice. The problem now is that work girl was so hot and the chemistry so great that I now find myself needing a different level of talent to grab my interest...so going to be a rare find I feel which is a bit discouraging. I still have a number of outlets for hookups if I want them (and have given in to some), but my mindset has shifted a bit into actually wanting a real relationship with someone I care about and can treat well. The times I have just had random hookups recently I kinda feel bad about it the next day. Ugh, what have I become?!?!

Sorry to hear your penis is taking a week or so break from insane amts of poon.

 

[BobbyLayne]

The work girl relationship ran its course, so have been back on the dating scene the past month or so. The OKCupid well seems to be dried up for me (note: downtown Milwaukee area)....every single profile that I find attractive are girls that I've already chatted with/met for drinks, dated for a short period or secks'd (or all of the above). So, this past weekend signed up for 3 months on Match just to see what it's like. So far, not impressed....a few decent options but nothing fantastic yet. The women on there seem to be more desparate than on OKC...lots more women contacting me first along with the "winking" and "liking" garbage. Not that it matters, but I actually like the funtionality of OKC better than Match...more user friendly and simpler IMO (I guess with a pay site they feel the need to give all kinds of different crap to click on that is basically useless).

Here's the horror in all of this (and I kinda hate myself for it)...I actually liked being in a one girl relationship for those few months with work girl. Ended up where we realized we were completely different people, lived very different lives, had some communication barriers, etc. so would never work long term....but on the surface with the crazy chemistry/attraction and just enjoying times together in the moment was really nice. The problem now is that work girl was so hot and the chemistry so great that I now find myself needing a different level of talent to grab my interest...so going to be a rare find I feel which is a bit discouraging. I still have a number of outlets for hookups if I want them (and have given in to some), but my mindset has shifted a bit into actually wanting a real relationship with someone I care about and can treat well. The times I have just had random hookups recently I kinda feel bad about it the next day. Ugh, what have I become?!?!

An adult?

Aw who am I kidding. 51 and still banging random chicks. Grateful to be living in Manhattan, where there is never a shortage of babes who actually prefer hookups over relationships.

 

[saintfool]

i've been seeing the same woman i met on Match since October. it's mostly great between us. when my soon-to-be ex-wife met her a few months ago, it was awesome. living well is the best revenge.

 

[Sarnoff]

Jumping back in the pool. OKCupid was working pretty well for meeting a specific "type" of girl, I had my routine down pretty well, but I'm not looking for those types of girls at the moment. So, I think I'll give Tinder a whirl. Any crash course on how to use this thing?

 

[Slider6]

Jumping back in the pool. OKCupid was working pretty well for meeting a specific "type" of girl, I had my routine down pretty well, but I'm not looking for those types of girls at the moment. So, I think I'll give Tinder a whirl. Any crash course on how to use this thing?

Swipe "yes" to all (other than fatties or anything you obviously don't want). If you get a match, then decide if you want to communicate with them.

 

[Sarnoff]

Jumping back in the pool. OKCupid was working pretty well for meeting a specific "type" of girl, I had my routine down pretty well, but I'm not looking for those types of girls at the moment. So, I think I'll give Tinder a whirl. Any crash course on how to use this thing?

Swipe "yes" to all (other than fatties or anything you obviously don't want). If you get a match, then decide if you want to communicate with them.

Gotcha. I had a good "script" for OKC that usually got results in 2-3 messages. Wondering if anyone's worked out a good system.

 

[Slider6]

Jumping back in the pool. OKCupid was working pretty well for meeting a specific "type" of girl, I had my routine down pretty well, but I'm not looking for those types of girls at the moment. So, I think I'll give Tinder a whirl. Any crash course on how to use this thing?

Swipe "yes" to all (other than fatties or anything you obviously don't want). If you get a match, then decide if you want to communicate with them.

Gotcha. I had a good "script" for OKC that usually got results in 2-3 messages. Wondering if anyone's worked out a good system.

Tinder seems more like a "hook up" type of app. You have to strike while the iron is hot. I don't have anything good worked out yet though.

 

[fatguyinalittlecoat]

Not sure this belongs here, but we did start off after meeting online.

Dated a girl a couple of years ago, and we have kept in touch since as "friends". We text regularly and have gotten together a few times since, again as "friends".

A few weeks ago we both had a free weekend, so I mentioned getting a hotel room, and was shot down. This weekend we both have free again so we are working on getting together. My last reply was, "I am up for anything as long as it ends with sex." Her reply was "typical guy response."

Was that wrong? I'm 45 she is 46. I wouldn't mind "dating" her again, but I am also tired of playing games.

Not very smooth...

I guess I'm not that worried about it. She knows me. I guess I should have mentioned that if we go out tomorrow, I don't really care how the date ends. But I did want to plant the seed.

You should also clarify that the sex you are talking about involves you and her. Because I see an obvious loophole here.

 

[mquinnjr]

Jumping back in the pool. OKCupid was working pretty well for meeting a specific "type" of girl, I had my routine down pretty well, but I'm not looking for those types of girls at the moment. So, I think I'll give Tinder a whirl. Any crash course on how to use this thing?

Swipe "yes" to all (other than fatties or anything you obviously don't want). If you get a match, then decide if you want to communicate with them.

I'd say swipe all yes, and just block from further communication any fatties/double baggers that match to you. My friends told me every guy does this, just a work-around of their match system that mindlessly expedites the process.

 

[chauncey]

I'm fairly new using Tinder and have had mixed yet entertaining results. Seems like every female under age 35 is on there. If anyone here has some good strategies/stories/pics please share.

 

[offdee]

I'd say swipe all yes, and just block from further communication any fatties/double baggers that match to you. My friends told me every guy does this, just a work-around of their match system that mindlessly expedites the process.

What's the point of this? Why not just take the extra second to decide if she's attractive enough to communicate with and say "no" to the majority so you're not getting bothered by the pigs or need to take the time then to block?