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johnnycakes
Footballguy
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She probably cuts and pastes this message to all americans. Its super vague. "drink that you like best", etc.
Disco Stu
Confirmed FBGal
Socrates11
Footballguy
Seems legit
TLEF316
Footballguy
It turned out that the girl and her fiancé had both cheated on each other multiple times.I was with a girl like this for a long time. She would always reach out to others under the guise that she was unhappy. Which might have been true but she never bothered to mention it to me only any guy that had a 6-pack and a cute smile. It's funny she never reached out to some porker to help her though difficult times...anyway. I'd be careful, odds are she's done this a million times and her man keeps a close eye on her. My line of thinking has always been that there are too many hot single and available girls out there to worry about messing with another mans woman. I think we need a little bro-code because we've all probably been the fiancee at some point in our lives.I approve of this though process.Yeah, this is kind where my head is at on this one. Their engagement probably isn't going to work out anyway (This girl was going way beyond just being "naturally flirty". She'll cheat eventually) but he still bought her a ring. If things were the other way around, I obviously wouldn't appreciate someone banging my drunk fiance (regardless of who initiated)I always shied away in these situations and even got pissed when I found out later that a girl I hooked up with was married or had a bf. That's just me; plenty of guys have no issue with it. Seems like your conscience was bothering you all night, so you put it out there. In my opinion you did the right thing. She could've said, actually, the relationship with the fiancé is on shaky ground anyway, then given you the green light. But she didn't. She still cares about the dude. We can put aside how thoughtless it is to forget about your fiancé all night until someone brings it up, but she was pretty drunk too.And I know plenty of people believe the onus falls only on the attached person, and if I turn it down they'd go bang someone else anyway. Just me personally, I think it's a #### move to bang someone else's chick.
And although I'll never see this girl again, I do have to see other members of the group. We've got the wedding in a few weeks and I'd hate for 2 members of the bridal party to be gossiping about how I nailed their engaged friend 6 weeks ago. Plus, my other buddy's new girlfriend (who was the other girl on the trip for the week) seems intent on hooking me up with someone. (is desperately trying to get me to tag along to her sister's birthday party in NYC next month) So in that sense, I'd hate to go from "my boyfriend's single friend" to "that guy who nailed a drunk engaged girl at the shore". Long term, I'm pretty sure this was a good play.
So yadda yadda yadda I probably should have just hooked up with her
Bogart
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Hi Buck
So getting more than a fair share of traffic on OKC and a friend of mine says there is a 3 months for 30 bucks special on match.com.
Gotta love the "I don't want to be alone for the holidays" time of year. Good times.
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Hi Buck
So getting more than a fair share of traffic on OKC and a friend of mine says there is a 3 months for 30 bucks special on match.com.
Gotta love the "I don't want to be alone for the holidays" time of year. Good times.
Buck Bradcanon
Footballguy
Did they get married? Also what is TLEF? Wondered that forever.
Buck Bradcanon
Footballguy
Sup Boges. Don't touchyer friend.
Frostillicus
Footballguy
TLEF316
Footballguy
DOn't believe so. They're both broke as far as I know and can't afford it. (At least that's the excuse she gave)
It's my first initial and the first few letters of my last name
TLEF316
Footballguy
Keerock
Footballguy
pats3in4
Footballguy
Just started, but there are a lot of divorced moms in a similar boat. And I do mean *a lot*.
Disco Stu
Confirmed FBGal
I was very upfront about having a kid but also VERY protective. There were a few girls I dated for 6+ months without introducing them to my son.
I was divorced four years before he finally met a girl I was dating. Now she's his stepmom.
saintfool
Dead sexy
i'm in my early 40's, with a young son (4-ish), and my divorce going through next month. i have i-dated since the separation with great success. i was upfront about it all, of course. some prospects wouldn't barely correspond with me because of my situation. they could have been great prospects otherwise but there are always more to choose from. i wasn't too upset.
i was careful to say to most i met that they shouldn't expect to meet my kid anytime soon. they also knew that my schedule was kind of not my own at times. so the type of profile that talked about their favorite thing was to "drop everything, grab a plane and fly to Jakarta for a long weekend of fritatas and tidal wave surfing" wasn't ever going to work. this just helped thin the numbers for me.
i met plenty of women were cool with all my complications and baggage. of those that went beyond "dates" and into something more complicated, i made a point of having sleepovers on nights my son wasn't home. i also described the women as "daddy's new friend" and invited them over to dinner once maybe 6-8 weeks into the thing. you get a sense of what they're looking for in that setting. some could deal with my attention being focused on him and mostly ignoring them for the night. i always made sure they left before his bedtime those first few times. one didn't like the ex-wife being such a presence in my life and she didn't understand how it worked with a divorced family. she clearly wasn't cut out for long term plans.
like everything, it's a matter of trial and error. you find a way to navigate the whole thing. i've been seeing the same woman for just over a year now and it is great. she's been a trooper when it got complicated. she loves being around my son too. it's working better than i could have imagined really.
OC Zed
Footballguy
My experience is pretty similar... I've introduced my daughter only to a couple of women I have dated and I had been with both for about 9 months by that point. This obviously depends a lot on how old your child is, how involved mom is, etc.
One thing I'll add here is that I was surprised as to the number of women I dated who did not realize I had a kid before going on our first date even though I made it explicitly clear in my dating profile (this was primarily on eHarmony which doesn't necessarily have a "kids" box to check for partial custody parents - but it was still very clear in my profile narrative). And these were women who were fairly on the ball otherwise (ie, not your typical airheaded bimbos). Moral of the story: chicks are as bad at reading guys' profiles as guys are with chicks' profiles.
ETA: The age of the women you are dating matters in all of this. I've made it a point to date only women without children of their own. With that being said, I initially encountered a lot of resistance from women when I first became single in my mid-30s. Most of those women were of similar age and were very adamant on having their own children (I don't want any more at this point). Now that it's a few years later and I've been dating women in their late 30s/early 40s, many more women have let go of having their own biological kids and are open to dating guys with children and possibly assuming a step mom role down the road. Just something to consider.
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Bogart
Footballguy
Pretty much like the other guys here. 10 yo and 6 yo here. Real protective of anyone meeting my kids, but also really open about what my schedule is. My ex remarried less than 6 months after our divorce was final, so I didn't want too much change early on.
That said, the only girl who has met my kids was after we quit dating, and she was "Dad's Friend".
I'm pretty comfortable with my dating world and my parenting world not colliding at this point, and girls I have dated for the most part have been cool with it. The only exception was one girl who was insisted that we go out when I had my kids and get a babysitter. That relationship didn't last long.
saintfool
Dead sexy
i don't think the age part matters as much in my experience. i went back and forth about dating women with kid(s). it makes it complicated, for sure, but there is a case to be made for both. often the ones with kids are pretty clear they aren't looking for anything serious anytime soon, which can be helpful. i did make it a point of dating only women who had been in "real" relationships. they seemed to understand the ex-wife situation a little better. i will add that i never had much luck meeting with other separated parents. those women - with or without children - seemed the least interested in meeting another separated person.
pats3in4
Footballguy
To expand on my earlier reply...
i-dating offers a way to filter out quickly people who may be incompatible with the kid situation. On Match.com for example, you check boxes in your profile on things like "Yes, I have kids", "Yes, they live with me part of the time", "No, I do not want any more kids", and "I'm okay if my date has kids". And then you check similar boxes for what you are looking for in a date, the big one being "She's okay if I have kids".
So then you search with those filters and come up with a large number of matches. Granted it is not an exact science, but it is very helpful. Some of the women even address their kid+dating philosophy in their profile paragraphs. A lot of these women feel the exact same way you do. Then it's just a matter of reaching out to them.
Papa Georgio
Footballguy
Regarding separated guys - usually the ones who want to just be friends until your divorce is over are the ones you want for future relationship purposes and the ones who don't care are good for fun only. When I was separated years ago there were so many girls that didn't want to get involved with me physically and while I understood I was also not appreciative of it at the time. Several of them have become friends that I still talk to today.
Disco Stu
Confirmed FBGal
Wrighteous Ray
Footballguy
saintfool
Dead sexy
It's completely unnecessary. In cities with a healthy dating pool, there is no shortage of quality - whatever that means to you - available women. Tinder, Match, OkC, whatever. Age doesn't keep you from finding what you want.
McGarnicle
Footballguy
Was just cleaning out a drawer, ran across my collection of chicks' numbers from back in the day. Took them out one by one and laid them out on the desk, reminiscing over each one. Then whipped out my crank and jerked off to it. 
sbonomo
Footballguy
there are some strange people on the internet......Was just cleaning out a drawer, ran across my collection of chicks' numbers from back in the day. Took them out one by one and laid them out on the desk, reminiscing over each one. Then whipped out my crank and jerked off to it.
McGarnicle
Footballguy
I just don't know how to shock you people anymore.
Bogart
Footballguy
I'm rich. You're hot.
Interesting article about the booming "sugar daddy" dating environment. If only I had the income of the average FBG.
Interesting article about the booming "sugar daddy" dating environment. If only I had the income of the average FBG.
identikit
Footballguy
identikit
Footballguy
Keeping the overhead low.Wait. Low six figure income, an ex wife, 3 kids and lives in a trailer? This is a sugar daddy?
Bogart
Footballguy
Solid point. I guess any one can be a sugar daddy if their sugar baby has expectations low enough. It's all about the act of paying for companionship. It's like a sliding scale.Keeping the overhead low.Wait. Low six figure income, an ex wife, 3 kids and lives in a trailer? This is a sugar daddy?
One girl that I have dated off OKCupid, the Wiccan actually, I almost didn't ask out, because a lot of her profile talked about being pampered and treated like a princess. Turns out for her, being pampered was going to decent restaurants instead of fast food and being treated like a princess was the one or two texts a day just telling her you were thinking about her.
On my scale, she was about as low maintenance as they come, but to her she was being difficult based on her past experiences.
OK, where do I begin.....
Set up profiles on OKC and later Match as preliminary investigation prior to upcoming separation. I decided not to actually do anything prior to ex's move to new place. I also listed my profile far outside my city, in a location where I knew I had a business conference coming up. In short, "began" dating mid september to now and was being pretty moderate.
My impressions on OKC: quality, at least in my area is pretty low. I did some looking at the guy/girl ratio and it is at least 3/1 here. Since it is a free site, I think the number of knuckleheads on both sides are very high. I don't live in a metro area but am within 50 miles. I did end up meeting up with a few chicks on the website and went 3 for 5. What I found surprising is there is a number of very intelligent and successful women on these sites. Three of those five were project manager, Senior Vice President at a bank, and a manager of a transplant unit at a very large hospital. This really surprised me.
Impressions of Match: quality ok, but better for certain than OKC. Number of options are probably at least 3x's as many. I think the various different ways (wink, photo like, favorite, outright message) gives women plenty of options where OKC is much more limited in expressing interest. The "response" the first week I listed my profile was frankly overwhelming, I'm almost glad I didn't live anywhere near the location as I wouldn't have known where I would have found the time anyways.
So as to my location, I have yet to list myself locally as it's already difficult to juggle existing inventory with busy schedule otherwise. My conference was this past week, and in the six weeks of advance preparation I was able to easily set up three dates for the three nights I was there. I ended up canceling one to hang out with peers, one was mediocre, and the other was very impressive to include a sleepover of epic proportions. I've also popped my profile in other locations with one night business travel with easy success. OKC is much easier to jump around cities. I always explain I don't live there if it gets to actual communication part and frankly, some of the women I think actually prefer that you don't live there if they have the same agenda.
I'll be adding to this for certain in the months to come.
Set up profiles on OKC and later Match as preliminary investigation prior to upcoming separation. I decided not to actually do anything prior to ex's move to new place. I also listed my profile far outside my city, in a location where I knew I had a business conference coming up. In short, "began" dating mid september to now and was being pretty moderate.
My impressions on OKC: quality, at least in my area is pretty low. I did some looking at the guy/girl ratio and it is at least 3/1 here. Since it is a free site, I think the number of knuckleheads on both sides are very high. I don't live in a metro area but am within 50 miles. I did end up meeting up with a few chicks on the website and went 3 for 5. What I found surprising is there is a number of very intelligent and successful women on these sites. Three of those five were project manager, Senior Vice President at a bank, and a manager of a transplant unit at a very large hospital. This really surprised me.
Impressions of Match: quality ok, but better for certain than OKC. Number of options are probably at least 3x's as many. I think the various different ways (wink, photo like, favorite, outright message) gives women plenty of options where OKC is much more limited in expressing interest. The "response" the first week I listed my profile was frankly overwhelming, I'm almost glad I didn't live anywhere near the location as I wouldn't have known where I would have found the time anyways.
So as to my location, I have yet to list myself locally as it's already difficult to juggle existing inventory with busy schedule otherwise. My conference was this past week, and in the six weeks of advance preparation I was able to easily set up three dates for the three nights I was there. I ended up canceling one to hang out with peers, one was mediocre, and the other was very impressive to include a sleepover of epic proportions. I've also popped my profile in other locations with one night business travel with easy success. OKC is much easier to jump around cities. I always explain I don't live there if it gets to actual communication part and frankly, some of the women I think actually prefer that you don't live there if they have the same agenda.
I'll be adding to this for certain in the months to come.
OC Zed
Footballguy
identikit
Footballguy
saintfool
Dead sexy
sounds like this guyWait. Low six figure income, an ex wife, 3 kids and lives in a trailer? This is a sugar daddy?
identikit
Footballguy
29 Cove Road.sounds like this guyWait. Low six figure income, an ex wife, 3 kids and lives in a trailer? This is a sugar daddy?
Perfect.
Joe T
Footballguy
McGarnicle
Footballguy
I approve.Would be even better if you posted the Tinder pic and then your own, right after...finishing...you know, on her.
chauncey
Footballguy
I need to move to your town. All I get on tinder are tatted up single moms that are 8.5 on the christo scale.
McGarnicle
Footballguy
Bankerguy
Footballguy
Alright, I will play along and post an uber quick update.
Fall, is dating season. It seems as soon as summer is over all the single ladies are the hunt. Opportunity knocks fella's.
Last week was epic for new contacts. I am chatting with about 10 serious contenders, all in the beginning phase. 4 of them I would say they are 8-8.5's. One is a 9 and 30 years old. I am 41 and have earthly idea why she wants to meet me other then a witty/well written profile. I am rarely nervous meeting girls...but damn. Maybe will post a pic.
Met a girl last night. She is a slightly overweight squirting, bi, and open to going to swing clubs who was amazing in bed. |Offered to let me phone film her BJ. Not sure it's a love match, but might hang in there for a 3 some or 3. LOL...takes all kinds.
I am meeting the 9 on Friday and will do my best to not propose marriage during drinks.
Fall, is dating season. It seems as soon as summer is over all the single ladies are the hunt. Opportunity knocks fella's.
Last week was epic for new contacts. I am chatting with about 10 serious contenders, all in the beginning phase. 4 of them I would say they are 8-8.5's. One is a 9 and 30 years old. I am 41 and have earthly idea why she wants to meet me other then a witty/well written profile. I am rarely nervous meeting girls...but damn. Maybe will post a pic.
Met a girl last night. She is a slightly overweight squirting, bi, and open to going to swing clubs who was amazing in bed. |Offered to let me phone film her BJ. Not sure it's a love match, but might hang in there for a 3 some or 3. LOL...takes all kinds.
I am meeting the 9 on Friday and will do my best to not propose marriage during drinks.
offdee
Footballguy
I'm with an amazing woman (going on 7+ months now), but boy do I miss these days sometimes. Godspeed GB.
Bankerguy
Footballguy
Update...
So, tonight is the date with "9". This is quite possibly the only girl to ever have me this nervous. I feel like I am about to be run over by a truck, yet I know I have to let it happen...lol.
I am 41, date a lot and usually do quite well meeting reasonably attractive women. I usually date 7 or 8's and do well. My approach with the online dating is liking very different then many of you. I have spent a lot of time crafting a well written profile. I rarely if ever write a women first. First off, you already know they are interested which saves lots of time. I also tend to do better with sexually liberal gals as opposed to the 5 date rule girls.
So, I have been talking to this girl for about 3 weeks. It started when I was at a party with of bunch of my friends. I was saying to some people that while I was having fun dating...I just hadn't really found a connection with someone I could see falling for. Literally about 10 mins later I was written by "9"...for the rest of the night I chatted with her. I fully thought it was a fake profile made by one of my buddies messing with me. This girl is a 30 year brunette who looks like a model. I still have no idea why she wants to date me, but who cares. I was still so unsure about her realness as every pic look perfect, like they were stock photos or something. I made her send me another pic sticking her tongue out with 2 fingers in the air...she delivered them 3 mins later.
Anyways, could you all hold hands and say a little prayer for your i.buddy BG.
Please let this be the one...
So, tonight is the date with "9". This is quite possibly the only girl to ever have me this nervous. I feel like I am about to be run over by a truck, yet I know I have to let it happen...lol.
I am 41, date a lot and usually do quite well meeting reasonably attractive women. I usually date 7 or 8's and do well. My approach with the online dating is liking very different then many of you. I have spent a lot of time crafting a well written profile. I rarely if ever write a women first. First off, you already know they are interested which saves lots of time. I also tend to do better with sexually liberal gals as opposed to the 5 date rule girls.
So, I have been talking to this girl for about 3 weeks. It started when I was at a party with of bunch of my friends. I was saying to some people that while I was having fun dating...I just hadn't really found a connection with someone I could see falling for. Literally about 10 mins later I was written by "9"...for the rest of the night I chatted with her. I fully thought it was a fake profile made by one of my buddies messing with me. This girl is a 30 year brunette who looks like a model. I still have no idea why she wants to date me, but who cares. I was still so unsure about her realness as every pic look perfect, like they were stock photos or something. I made her send me another pic sticking her tongue out with 2 fingers in the air...she delivered them 3 mins later.
Anyways, could you all hold hands and say a little prayer for your i.buddy BG.
Please let this be the one...
johnnycakes
Footballguy
If you use "Bankerguy" as your i-dating pseudonym, if you think about it for a bit, you might get some inkling of why you never have to contact the women first and what this "9" may see in you.
