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If you're bad I'll trade jobs with you!!Just got my corporations grade back and I got an "A"Is the Riverton, Wyoming airport all we've heard and more?I'm bored, too...sitting in the xxxxx, Illinois mega-corporation. Of course, I have mountains of work I could do.Nah, just messing around.I'm bored. Sitting in the Riverton, Wyoming airport, and my flight is delayed.Hmmm...expected better from you. Bad day?I don't forget, I just choose not to care.
Wee.
Congrats!If you're bad I'll trade jobs with you!!Just got my corporations grade back and I got an "A"Is the Riverton, Wyoming airport all we've heard and more?I'm bored, too...sitting in the xxxxx, Illinois mega-corporation. Of course, I have mountains of work I could do. :(Nah, just messing around.I'm bored. Sitting in the Riverton, Wyoming airport, and my flight is delayed.Hmmm...expected better from you. Bad day?I don't forget, I just choose not to care.
Wee.
I'm trying to work out how I can retire from law in about a year and half, which would be perfect timing for you to take over my job. 
"ouch"She should respond with:Well for being a [insert something appropriate], I really didn't think your body odor would be as bad as it was...
Love it.One more--I pulled this one from a few weeks ago since I don't have any current horrific dating stories of my own. Same girl: one important note is that she's a huge Red Sox fan and hates the Cubs... On your dates, don't be This Guy:Sweet! And I meant to type "bored" instead of "bad" - I'm sure you're great at your job.Congrats!If you're bad I'll trade jobs with you!!Just got my corporations grade back and I got an "A"Is the Riverton, Wyoming airport all we've heard and more?I'm bored, too...sitting in the xxxxx, Illinois mega-corporation. Of course, I have mountains of work I could do.Nah, just messing around.I'm bored. Sitting in the Riverton, Wyoming airport, and my flight is delayed.Hmmm...expected better from you. Bad day?I don't forget, I just choose not to care.
Wee.I'm trying to work out how I can retire from law in about a year and half, which would be perfect timing for you to take over my job.
Body odor? That's all you got TU?....YOU'RE BETTER THAN THAT :shakesfist:
Too good, unfortunately. And I knew you meant "bored".Sweet! And I meant to type "bored" instead of "bad" - I'm sure you're great at your job.Congrats!If you're bad I'll trade jobs with you!!Just got my corporations grade back and I got an "A"Is the Riverton, Wyoming airport all we've heard and more?I'm bored, too...sitting in the xxxxx, Illinois mega-corporation. Of course, I have mountains of work I could do.Nah, just messing around.I'm bored. Sitting in the Riverton, Wyoming airport, and my flight is delayed.Hmmm...expected better from you. Bad day?I don't forget, I just choose not to care.
Wee.
That second dude sounds like the male version of the psycho chick I dated. I should have cancelled our only date before it even happened when she called like 3 times and left me three e-mails to confirm the plans we had made the night prior and then assumed since I didn't call her back within the hour I was dodging her.
BTW, I dig her proper use of brackets in the quotation she sent you...
You don't want the dude to go all MoP on her, and it doens't sound like anything physical happened (so no "I didn't think your #### would be so small" comments)What would you come up with?
You're totally right...I'd forgotten about this guy, but he wouldn't give up for a while either. Kept leaving messages, and my friend and I were debating whether she was obligated to tell him she was uninterested or if the many, many signals she had already given should have been enough, especially after one date. Then got some snippy "I think I'm being blown off" message, at which point I went on a rant, IIRC. Anyway, the point is...well, I'm not sure. It might be "ignoring is the best policy", or it might be "telling them there's no way in hell is the only way to go".
Just let me know when you want my paypal address. You can put that chapter behind you.No... just wondering which was the best way to "reject" someone. So far I've had a few e-mails ignored, gotten one "not interested," and seen a couple "read-deleteds" and, thinking about it, the "not interested" probably bothered me the most.**Although AMBO's ignoring my message pissed me off
I got some time... will probably wait another week then toss out one last e-mail just to see.Just let me know when you want my paypal address. You can put that chapter behind you.No... just wondering which was the best way to "reject" someone. So far I've had a few e-mails ignored, gotten one "not interested," and seen a couple "read-deleteds" and, thinking about it, the "not interested" probably bothered me the most.**Although AMBO's ignoring my message pissed me off
Brutal. And you know it.
I stand by it 100%
After the well placed "Blue Horse Shoe" quote expectations are high, have to say I'm a little disappointed as well
XTalk to her, yes, but don't ask her questions like "How do you feel about me?" or "Do you think we...have a chance?" Act confidence even if you're not.
I understand waht you are saying, believe me I am not like that.Will keep the convo casual and laid back. I'm NOT ready to propose marriage or anything here.XTalk to her, yes, but don't ask her questions like "How do you feel about me?" or "Do you think we...have a chance?" Act confidence even if you're not.
Now if you two hang out again you must, must, must get a kiss out of it or else you're on the wrong ladder.
GL and make us proud.
As you know I met my wife iDating and she was very shy at first...I think the play here is to move forward casually but with intention...pressing her to open up about how she feels will actually cause her to clam up, instead play it cool but keep things moving and when she begins to get comfortable she'll open up...focus on continuing to build and if it's a fit she'll come around...
That's it exactly.......I feel like I had no game.I didn't get the normal queue's and signs I normally get.It was just a weird place for me.
Which one was this Bankerguy? I'm afraid I lost track.
Tiny Shy BlondeShe is smartFunnyandHot!Just has trust issues from before and really shy.Keep in mind this was a "sleep over" date out of town for her.Maybe she was just a bit uncomfortable with the whole set up.I just know I am confused and more than a bit interested by her.Which one was this Bankerguy? I'm afraid I lost track.
I've been there too. Like Code said, keep things rolling with her.
Gotcha. I am sure she was very uncomfortable and I wouldn't read too much into it. I don't blame her for being shy but that isn't a bad thing. Don't push it, especially if she has trust issues from before. Just take it as it comes.
You know what you're doing. Just play it cool, line up date 2, and get some liquor in you. You'll be fine. Like I said, the ones I mentioned above I swore I had completely lost at the end of the first dates. It's amazing how some things can turn around (or how some chicks are just difficult to figure out).
All good advice from everyone; I have nothing to add.Otis, didn't you have four lined up when you got back from San Diego? Any of those upcoming?
Have talked since. She's seeing another, but stated you never know what the future holds. Here's the good part. She's been a member of e-harmony for several motnhs and the matches they've sent her are under 30. I've probably gotten 300 matches in the same timeframe. This supports my contention that e-harmony is heavily weighted with female members.
Hot girls are also likely have more dating experience, so they know the ins and outs so to speak.We haven't seen pics of all these ladies have we?OK, here's my update from e-harmony...1) Blue Cross girl - meh...stop talking.2) High Society with big ### - Ended communications with me after first date. Maybe she was mad I oVVned her in ping-pong.3) VP Girl - Killer personality, fair looks, slightly above average bod. She works too much and isn't the least bit active. Furthermore, there's no way to contact her in the eve. Pretty much drifted apart.4) Bikegirl1 - Never met other than phone conversations. She texted me that she was running late for out meeting...we had no meeting planned.Here's the good part. She's been a member of e-harmony for several motnhs and the matches they've sent her are under 30. I've probably gotten 300 matches in the same timeframe. This supports my contention that e-harmony is heavily weighted with female members.7) Longdistancehottie - Still stuck in slow e-mail mode.E-mailing several others not worth noting.OK, while this all went down a 5'11" red headed goddess (former model) has been flirting with me. Went out today for lunch and things went great. Great personality, smoking body (and that's an understatement), fun girl. Making plans for second date. On top of this, the lady I dated last year that's graced the pages of Playboy has started calling me again (4 times in the last week) and we're on for lunch next week. May be nothing, but still a week's worth of spank material. Question to the FBG ladies...I like super hotties as much as the next guy. That said, a nice looking fun girl would be great to date too. How come does the number of repeat dates increase almost directly proportional based solely on hotness? Here's what I got for clues...1) The hotter the lady, the better the conversation. With the average ladies I feel like I'm doing a job interview trying to lead the conversation and end up dominating it. With the hotties it's a good give a take.2) With the hotties I feel almost nerveous but seem to be on my game. With the average ladies I feel confident and in control but nothing seems to flow.3) The hotter the gal, the more I know where I stand after a date.Seems like I'm giving off some kind of tell that I'm not enthralled with a girl that's killing the date. I can't figure out what it might be. The only other thing I can think of is that the hot girls are more confident and hence talkative. Maybe I build better when the foundation has been laid? Seriously at a loss here.
No...it means it sounded cool so she checked the box.
Stu...sorry to hear that about your grandpa.gl at the reception if you chose to go.My Debbie Downer update...Went to Spamalot tonight, but not with an iChick. Have been out with this girl four(?) times now, and I'm about done. Spamalot is ####### hilarious though.I'll be in MN/WI from Thur-Mon for the funeral and need tomorrow night to get ready, so won't have anything to report anytime soon. Although there's a wedding reception that I may "crash" (sister/BIL invited), so who knows...
A couple of new pics are up including cellgirl who I'm meeting on Thursday. Two have already been posted. One I can't copy for some reason and the ones where communication has ceased are no longer accessible (and not worth the effort in any event).
Do you mean "ended communication" in the eHarmony sense?...because i found this was a tricky bit once I met someone in person...when to close out communication on eHarmony because we'd "transcended" the site, without sending the wrong impression early...ending the communication on the site for me was about house cleaning my inbox, not ending communication with a prospect...my wife (eHarmony) to this day busts my balls for closing communication with her on the site after our second date...If you mean she stopped communicating with you outside the site, then carry on...
I filled out the survey for this, and everything's ready to go, but I haven't paid.Is it any good, or a waste of time?BassNBrew said:
Since you're not looking for anything serious, I think there are better options. I haven't used e-harmony for this reason.Just based on initial impressions, this is how I'd rank them from most casual to most serious...
I initially read the bolded as "callgirl".BassNBrew said:OK, here's my update from e-harmony...
1) Blue Cross girl - meh...stop talking.
2) High Society with big ### - Ended communications with me after first date. Maybe she was mad I oVVned her in ping-pong.
3) VP Girl - Killer personality, fair looks, slightly above average bod. She works too much and isn't the least bit active. Furthermore, there's no way to contact her in the eve. Pretty much drifted apart.
4) Bikegirl1 - Never met other than phone conversations. She texted me that she was running late for out meeting...we had no meeting planned.
5) Bikegirl2 - Went out Sunday. Killer bod, meh the rest. 40 and never married...probably issues there. She was very reserved. Well up a major bank corporate chain. Sent her an open ended e-mail Monday with no reply to date. Will call 2morrow.
6) Cellgirl - Meeting Thursday eve. Phone conversations have been great. She has killer bod, but short hairHere's the good part. She's been a member of e-harmony for several motnhs and the matches they've sent her are under 30. I've probably gotten 300 matches in the same timeframe. This supports my contention that e-harmony is heavily weighted with female members.
7) Longdistancehottie - Still stuck in slow e-mail mode.
E-mailing several others not worth noting.
OK, while this all went down a 5'11" red headed goddess (former model) has been flirting with me. Went out today for lunch and things went great. Great personality, smoking body (and that's an understatement), fun girl. Making plans for second date. On top of this, the lady I dated last year that's graced the pages of Playboy has started calling me again (4 times in the last week) and we're on for lunch next week. May be nothing, but still a week's worth of spank material.
Question to the FBG ladies...I like super hotties as much as the next guy. That said, a nice looking fun girl would be great to date too. How come does the number of repeat dates increase almost directly proportional based solely on hotness? Here's what I got for clues...
1) The hotter the lady, the better the conversation. With the average ladies I feel like I'm doing a job interview trying to lead the conversation and end up dominating it. With the hotties it's a good give a take.
2) With the hotties I feel almost nerveous but seem to be on my game. With the average ladies I feel confident and in control but nothing seems to flow.
3) The hotter the gal, the more I know where I stand after a date.
Seems like I'm giving off some kind of tell that I'm not enthralled with a girl that's killing the date. I can't figure out what it might be. The only other thing I can think of is that the hot girls are more confident and hence talkative. Maybe I build better when the foundation has been laid? Seriously at a loss here.
Sounds like you're very busy with this! I think the dates go better with the hotties because they are more confident, leading to more give-and-take in the conversations as you've noted. Not having been on the dates with you ( 
), it's impossible to say whether you're giving off some "not interested" vibe with the others that is making the dates less interesting, but I doubt you are.
