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Very skillfully, just play it off like you have a great time hanging out with her but you're not ready to get emotionally invested yet..."I just wanna let you know I like you a lot and I want to continue to hang out, but I'm not ready to be serious with anyone...are you cool with that?" You can obviously sell it a bit better than that but you get the idea.
I like this approach.Slinger, as much of a #### as I am with women, I really don't want to get stalked again. That's my main concern.
Thanks, GB. Sounds like a plan.
I haven't read anything lately in this thread other than that comment I quoted. So I apologize if there's a backstory (I assume there is) I'm missing out on. I assumed she was the type of girl that may make him wait weeks/months for the sex and wants a relationship that he has no interest in. I would just move on in that case.
That's nice, but you also need to realize none of the girls mentioned in this thread are married...Hope I'm wrong but seems to be a lot of players in this thread.
Definitely looking forward to this weekend.Well, I'm not a good guy when it comes to women. Never claimed to be.I'm a great guy in EVERY other part of my life. But, it's the game. I'm 24, and I'm pretty sure I don't ever want to be married.So, #### it.Hope I'm wrong but seems to be a lot of players in this thread.
That's nice, but you also need to realize none of the girls mentioned in this thread are married...Hope I'm wrong but seems to be a lot of players in this thread.
Ok.huh, maybe I have my stories wrong...That's nice, but you also need to realize none of the girls mentioned in this thread are married...Hope I'm wrong but seems to be a lot of players in this thread.
Exactly...Girl I was exchanging e-mails with closed out the communication today. Reason..."other". Seriously, how much time would it have taken to say not interested or going a different direction. Half of these women are looking for pen pals or seeking attention. It's a numbers game.
I got the dreaded "other" a few times when I was on eharmony. I think it was code for "I think you're ugly."
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Well, honestly, if you didn't mind, you probably wouldn't be asking
Ooooo, this is ugly isn't it? No good answer here...AND BTW, I'd just like to add that it's after 3 in the morning and I just got home, and that freakin' guy is having NO effect on me at all.
Definitely looking forward to this weekend.Well, I'm not a good guy when it comes to women. Never claimed to be.I'm a great guy in EVERY other part of my life. But, it's the game. I'm 24, and I'm pretty sure I don't ever want to be married.So, #### it.Hope I'm wrong but seems to be a lot of players in this thread.
I don't recall a lot of backstory from you other than "I like where my life is right now & don't need any clutter" (or something like that - no doubt you'll correct me if I've got it wrong
). Unless you're in a really fragile place emotionally, I don't see why you don't call him. It's a cliche, but sometimes the best stuff comes along when you're not looking.
Was this one an i-date, Stu? I can't keep up with the various harems here. What's the potential here? Sex? Just hanging out until something better comes along? LTR?
.02 girls dig that guys even think about "moving slow". In my experience they eat it up and make them want it more ... hence the chase of "breaking you"I'm a little concerned that the bolded may backfire and slow things down. I don't want her to think she's being too aggressive.Maybe I'll change it to completely playing dumb...krista4 said:I take it back! I like this reply instead!JAA said:sounds like this girl likes the chase. I would recommend continuing to give it to her. Make her work for it.Stu: Me too... good times. And I'm glad I wasn't dumb enough to turn down the short drive to my car.Disco Stu said:Advice needed on post-date messaging. Today's message exchanges with last night's date...
My instinct here is to assure her that it's ok, I'm patient. But I've been patient to a fault in the past, so I'm not sure that's the best approach. Thoughts?Also, keep in mind that it's been a year since this girl has dated. And I'm getting the impression she assumes I'm not seeing anyone else.
Her: lol me too! so tell me... am I ruining your rebound by taking it too slow?
Stu: I thought we were moving fast. What am I missing out on? Details work for me
Stu: I thought we were moving fast. Taking what slow? What am I missing out on? Details work for me
Stick to bars and drinks with dates. Nothing long and have them start later at night.
waiting for the story to end. After it does I get my first kiss, and 
. "No Nonsense" you and your nice rack are on my bench.
disagree. this only works for girls who are cool as "friends with benifits". I would recommend to keep her in the mindset that you are still looking for your "Mrs Right". Not in the sense you want to get married, but in the sense that you are a desirable catch for a women. Make her think you want to be caught ... not simply "I want sex with no strings attached" Example:I really love hanging out like this. Its so nice to be away from the drama I am used to of relationships. Its nice to have time to figure out what I want.Key here is the 'love' word which will always get a womens attention. They will analyze to no ends what you really meant when you said that. You also convey that you dont want drama right now ("Oh he must be getting out of a relationship or had a bad one recently"). Finally, you want to figure things out but need time. Women are ok with time, women can date men for 10 frikken years before settling down. Women dont mind waiting for something they way, play that you are worth waiting for.Good luck
OK...my update."No Nonsense"......went on a second date. Started to realize she #####es and moans a lot. Started to get on my nerves. Also, she talks too much. When I dropped her off at her house it was late. We had been out for a long time and she feels the need to tell me this long drawn out story. I am like.......waiting for the story to end. After it does I get my first kiss, and
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some fun responses:including you? none
I don't see this as a cause for panic...in my iDating days my attitude was "if you're online dating, obviously you're dating around"...so I was completely up front about it...it wasn't so much a matter of numbers, just an admission that I was meeting a lot of people online, going out, you know "dating"...and I expected the girls were doing the same...if you're hoping for anything serious with this girl, you gotta be casually honest about it...if you're just looking to score, I suppose you tell her whatever you think she wants to hear...(on a related note, one of the more endearing moments with the then to-be-Mrs.-Code, was the day she gently broached the subject of whether I was sleeping with other iWomen, and all she asked was that if I was I wear protection to keep her clean, that might have been the first moment I thought she could be "the one"
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Does she have "Im rich" money or just enough money? If she has "Im rich" money, you gotta stay with this cougar. Lots of potential there!OK...my update."No Nonsense"......went on a second date. Started to realize she #####es and moans a lot. Started to get on my nerves. Also, she talks too much. When I dropped her off at her house it was late. We had been out for a long time and she feels the need to tell me this long drawn out story. I am like.......
How did she raise the support income topic?...sounds like a weird icebreaker...
:fbg:She gets over $6 million in child support?:fbg:
We were talking about our ex's and what they did. He is a VP for RIM, I joked that she must be getting some sweet support payments and she told me. I had no idea it would be this much!!! She wasn't pompous about it or seem to be bragging. She mentioned she gets about 24K /month in total support payments (Tax free). This will not have much influence on were things go for me. Money is nice, but it's not everything either.
It was nice meeting you last night Krista
Thats "Im rich" money. Definately dont want to set the boundaries that you pay for everything. There should be lots of opportunity here to utilize her
."You must go on lots of vacations? Where do you like to travel? I would love to go there some time."
Maybe even throw in a little "...I just haven't been able to afford it"...then show her a good time in bed and hope she rewards you with a tripThats "Im rich" money. Definately dont want to set the boundaries that you pay for everything. There should be lots of opportunity here to utilize her
I thought about that line. What I didnt like about that line is that she knows he knows she has money. Anybody with half a brain would be able to figure out that one. It might put her into a defensive mode where she would want him to prove he isnt out for her money..02Maybe even throw in a little "...I just haven't been able to afford it"...then show her a good time in bed and hope she rewards you with a tripThats "Im rich" money. Definately dont want to set the boundaries that you pay for everything. There should be lots of opportunity here to utilize her."You must go on lots of vacations? Where do you like to travel? I would love to go there some time."
I was being facetious...maybe I needed aI thought about that line. What I didnt like about that line is that she knows he knows she has money. Anybody with half a brain would be able to figure out that one. It might put her into a defensive mode where she would want him to prove he isnt out for her money..02Maybe even throw in a little "...I just haven't been able to afford it"...then show her a good time in bed and hope she rewards you with a tripThats "Im rich" money. Definately dont want to set the boundaries that you pay for everything. There should be lots of opportunity here to utilize her
in there
I was being facetious...maybe I needed aI thought about that line. What I didnt like about that line is that she knows he knows she has money. Anybody with half a brain would be able to figure out that one. It might put her into a defensive mode where she would want him to prove he isnt out for her money..02Maybe even throw in a little "...I just haven't been able to afford it"...then show her a good time in bed and hope she rewards you with a tripThats "Im rich" money. Definately dont want to set the boundaries that you pay for everything. There should be lots of opportunity here to utilize her
in there
I tried to pronounce this and injured my throat. Thanks a lot.Hey Keys, that sounds reasonable. Be a nice guy about it. And like LHUCKS said, tell her you still want to see her, but you don't want to rush into the relationship.
Edit to add:
Sounds like you have a touch of the crazy yourself.
It's nice to know that we can have the same effect on women that women can have on us.Take that!
Yeah, iDate. Girl I went out with Tuesday. Has relationship potential.Was this one an i-date, Stu? I can't keep up with the various harems here. What's the potential here? Sex? Just hanging out until something better comes along? LTR?
So you haven't answered yet? How about the old, "I'll tell if you tell."Yeah, iDate. Girl I went out with Tuesday. Has relationship potential.Was this one an i-date, Stu? I can't keep up with the various harems here. What's the potential here? Sex? Just hanging out until something better comes along? LTR?
You may have been putting those vibes out there, thus presenting Mr. "nice guy" a challenge. If you were out with super hotties (and you are no slouch yourself), he knows this will get himself brownie points for focusing on just you. He correctly was forward with you without putting you in an awkward spot. He sounds like good wing man material.Krista..you only live once. What is the harm really?Call the guy in a day or so. Just my 0.02.
Apparently I'm all alone on this one...I don't see this as a cause for panic...in my iDating days my attitude was "if you're online dating, obviously you're dating around"...so I was completely up front about it...it wasn't so much a matter of numbers, just an admission that I was meeting a lot of people online, going out, you know "dating"...and I expected the girls were doing the same...if you're hoping for anything serious with this girl, you gotta be casually honest about it...if you're just looking to score, I suppose you tell her whatever you think she wants to hear...
