Couple of eHarmony issues I wanted to hear people's opinions on...1. "Wants to have kids": the truth is that I do not. But I put "maybe". Have you guys ever seen someone who answered "no"? What would be your reaction to that? If I were doing this more seriously, I think I'd be tempted to be completely honest and say "no", just to weed out the people looking for baby mammas. (I don't mind, and in some ways prefer, guys who already have kids, but just don't want any of my own.)2. Closing out people to whom you're not physically attracted: I don't close someone out immediately even if I pull up their profile and know that there's not a snowball's chance in hell...I do this (or rather, don't) because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. My general rule of thumb is that I will advance two steps beyond the point where I find that someone is physically unappealing to me. In other words, if their picture is in their initial profile, I'll still do the short answers and the must haves/can't stands but then will close it, or if it shows up at a later point, I'll advance two steps from there. When I do close, I always just choose "I'm taking a break from dating" or "I have too much going on in my life at the moment". I've the feeling I'm overthinking this.

I just hate the idea that people would know they're being closed based on their appearance. And I figure the first two stages take virtually no time anyway, so I'm not wasting much of their time or mine. Am I

?3. Not really an issue but just an observation...I seem to be matched overwhelmingly with Asian men, and in particular Indian and Korean guys. I don't care about race one way or another, but I wonder what this says about how I answered the questions in the personality test. I also get a lot of Europeans. Proportionately few white guys born in the US, and probably a proportion of black guys that approximates their population percentage.