***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (3 Viewers)

[Leeroy Jenkins]

I feel like if you talked to the guy reasonably and explained to him what the situation was, he probably would have seated you without having to drop an extra $50. That's more impressive than a bribe IMO.

 

[Jabroniking]

I feel like if you talked to the guy reasonably and explained to him what the situation was, he probably would have seated you without having to drop an extra $50. That's more impressive than a bribe IMO.

I wasn't getting that vibe from him. He was kind of snooty.....or just aggrevated with how busy the place was. I didn't think he would listen to reason. Not only that...I actually did make a reservation in advance with some apparant airhead and she never wrote it down on the list. So, this guy probably thought I was feeding him a line when I did try to tell him what happened.

 

[Keys Myaths]

BTW--on eHarmony, if you run into this question (with a picture that will be revealed later):

5. What are your body-type preferences for your mate?

A) Thin and very lean

B) Muscular and athletic

C) Average - height and weight proportionate

D) Larger than average

She's D (well, most likely around Q, actually). 100% accurate.

 

[Woz]

BTW--on eHarmony, if you run into this question (with a picture that will be revealed later):5. What are your body-type preferences for your mate?A) Thin and very leanB) Muscular and athleticC) Average - height and weight proportionateD) Larger than averageShe's D (well, most likely around Q, actually). 100% accurate.

 

[Disco Stu]

I can't believe I'm going to do this...someone hold me, please.

Cue more shameless flirting from larryboy.

 

[Woz]

I can't believe I'm going to do this...someone hold me, please.

Cue more shameless flirting from larryboy.

i'm sure i'll get called a name somewhere...

 

[BassNBrew]

I can't believe I'm going to do this...someone hold me, please.

Cue more shameless flirting from larryboy.

i'm sure i'll get called a name somewhere...

Damn...you can't leave well enough alone.

 

[BassNBrew]

Interesting, Krista.

As of this day I officially give up on trying to understand women.

Surprised it took you this long.

No appreciation for saving you guys from either having to wait a super long time or the hassle of going somewhere else?Not impressed by the can-do attitude and the fact he gets things done?

Absolutely not. Why would I care if we just went somewhere else? Don't know where he lives but sounds like there must have been plenty of other options. "Can-do attitude" and "getting things done" just don't equate to this in my mind (bold added): "...pulled a $50 out of my wad, folded it up and put it in the maitr'des hand. I said listen my friend, this is our first date and the lady has never been here before. I'm sure I'm on the list." The way it was described made me picture a smarmy guy trying to impress "the little lady". I picture him ordering for her ("The lady will have...") and just generally acting as if she's helpless and in need of a "big man" to take care of her. I can't stand that stuff.

I'll admit that some women are going to go for that whole routine. But given that virtually no one I know would (I can't think of anyone who would, but I say "virtually" just in case I've forgotten someone), I am suggesting that it's a risky move. Wouldn't necessarily have ruined the date for me, but it would have been a big negative.

This wouldn't have gone over well with most of the women I date as Krista references above. Furthermore, if it does turn out to be a homerun, you've just set top shelf expectations for every Hallmark holiday.That said, congrats on a great date!!!

 

[Woz]

I can't believe I'm going to do this...someone hold me, please.

Cue more shameless flirting from larryboy.

i'm sure i'll get called a name somewhere...

Damn...you can't leave well enough alone.

it was "well enough"?

 

[krista4]

All right, actually going to weigh in with a semi-iDating update here. More than four years ago, I met a guy from nerve.com (at the time it was the place that creative/artsy types iDated in Chicago...now it appears to be almost in adultfriendfinder league ). I went out with him twice...I liked him fine but just wasn't into it. Don't really remember why, but think it was that I got back together with an ex-boyfriend instead.So about 3-1/2 years ago, he sent me an e-mail--kind of a "don't know if you'll remember me, but we went out to ____" thing, plus "The conversations we had stand out in my mind and I remember enjoying them so wanted to check in and wish you well." I always intended to respond, but am a world-champion procrastinator. Then a couple of weeks ago, I saw his name and remembered that I had not responded. Dug up his old e-mail and sent him this reply:

Mark,Ummmm...hello? I have to imagine that this might not even be your e-mail address any more. So, I'm just responding to your note of...three years ago? Truthfully, was online buying tix to a _____ show today and saw reference to a play being put on there next week, written by Mark _____. Don't know if it's the same Mark _____ (though it's hard to imagine lots of folks by that name), but it reminded me that you had sent this note, which I actually did intend to reply to, but then didn't do it quickly enough...and at some point it just seems too late, you know? Then there is a long waiting period--say, 3-1/2 years--after which if you reply it's not late, it's just kind of funny. Maybe.Anyway, if you're still out and about and want to be in touch, I promise to reply much more quickly. Well, I should specify, by "much more quickly" I mean within a week, not a year. In any case, I hope you're doing well!Krista

So now we've been in correspondence again and are planning to get together next week for dinner after he returns from a writers' colony thingie in NY. We'll see. I have definitely felt like my anti-dating stance is softening a bit the past couple of weeks...though when I feel that happening, I usually batten down the anti-dating hatches again.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Parent Care...... I must have someone who is willing to help me take care of my parents, now or when the time comes.

Jesus Christ.

:close:

 

[Disco Stu]

All right, actually going to weigh in with a semi-iDating update here. More than four years ago, I met a guy from nerve.com (at the time it was the place that creative/artsy types iDated in Chicago...now it appears to be almost in adultfriendfinder league :( ). I went out with him twice...I liked him fine but just wasn't into it. Don't really remember why, but think it was that I got back together with an ex-boyfriend instead.So about 3-1/2 years ago, he sent me an e-mail--kind of a "don't know if you'll remember me, but we went out to ____" thing, plus "The conversations we had stand out in my mind and I remember enjoying them so wanted to check in and wish you well." I always intended to respond, but am a world-champion procrastinator. Then a couple of weeks ago, I saw his name and remembered that I had not responded. Dug up his old e-mail and sent him this reply:

Mark,Ummmm...hello? I have to imagine that this might not even be your e-mail address any more. So, I'm just responding to your note of...three years ago? Truthfully, was online buying tix to a _____ show today and saw reference to a play being put on there next week, written by Mark _____. Don't know if it's the same Mark _____ (though it's hard to imagine lots of folks by that name), but it reminded me that you had sent this note, which I actually did intend to reply to, but then didn't do it quickly enough...and at some point it just seems too late, you know? Then there is a long waiting period--say, 3-1/2 years--after which if you reply it's not late, it's just kind of funny. Maybe.Anyway, if you're still out and about and want to be in touch, I promise to reply much more quickly. Well, I should specify, by "much more quickly" I mean within a week, not a year. In any case, I hope you're doing well!Krista

So now we've been in correspondence again and are planning to get together next week for dinner after he returns from a writers' colony thingie in NY. We'll see. I have definitely felt like my anti-dating stance is softening a bit the past couple of weeks...though when I feel that happening, I usually batten down the anti-dating hatches again.

This is pretty cool.

 

[Disco Stu]

Parent Care...... I must have someone who is willing to help me take care of my parents, now or when the time comes.Jesus Christ.:close:

If you read "take care of" in the Sopranos sense it's a pretty dark request.

 

[strykerpks]

All right, actually going to weigh in with a semi-iDating update here. More than four years ago, I met a guy from nerve.com (at the time it was the place that creative/artsy types iDated in Chicago...now it appears to be almost in adultfriendfinder league ). I went out with him twice...I liked him fine but just wasn't into it. Don't really remember why, but think it was that I got back together with an ex-boyfriend instead.So about 3-1/2 years ago, he sent me an e-mail--kind of a "don't know if you'll remember me, but we went out to ____" thing, plus "The conversations we had stand out in my mind and I remember enjoying them so wanted to check in and wish you well." I always intended to respond, but am a world-champion procrastinator. Then a couple of weeks ago, I saw his name and remembered that I had not responded. Dug up his old e-mail and sent him this reply:

Mark,Ummmm...hello? I have to imagine that this might not even be your e-mail address any more. So, I'm just responding to your note of...three years ago? Truthfully, was online buying tix to a _____ show today and saw reference to a play being put on there next week, written by Mark _____. Don't know if it's the same Mark _____ (though it's hard to imagine lots of folks by that name), but it reminded me that you had sent this note, which I actually did intend to reply to, but then didn't do it quickly enough...and at some point it just seems too late, you know? Then there is a long waiting period--say, 3-1/2 years--after which if you reply it's not late, it's just kind of funny. Maybe.Anyway, if you're still out and about and want to be in touch, I promise to reply much more quickly. Well, I should specify, by "much more quickly" I mean within a week, not a year. In any case, I hope you're doing well!Krista

So now we've been in correspondence again and are planning to get together next week for dinner after he returns from a writers' colony thingie in NY. We'll see. I have definitely felt like my anti-dating stance is softening a bit the past couple of weeks...though when I feel that happening, I usually batten down the anti-dating hatches again.

OOC, what goes through a woman's mind when being contacted after a long time? I happened to find a business card while cleaning some things tonight and recall the woman who gave it to me about a year ago. I don't think I'll send her an email but this is a dynamic of dating that is interesting. I would think that a woman would find it strange (if not completely ) to get an email from a guy a year (or 3 1/2 years) later but if a guy were to receive it, he might just remember and give it a shot (a la your experience)PS Why has your "non-dating" philosophy changed recently? Not trying to pry, just curious....TIA

 

[strykerpks]

Parent Care...... I must have someone who is willing to help me take care of my parents, now or when the time comes.Jesus Christ.:close:

Dude, Keys....what's up with the crazies? Did you get strykerDisease?ETA: I left myself WIDE open there

 

[krista4]

All right, actually going to weigh in with a semi-iDating update here. More than four years ago, I met a guy from nerve.com (at the time it was the place that creative/artsy types iDated in Chicago...now it appears to be almost in adultfriendfinder league :( ). I went out with him twice...I liked him fine but just wasn't into it. Don't really remember why, but think it was that I got back together with an ex-boyfriend instead.So about 3-1/2 years ago, he sent me an e-mail--kind of a "don't know if you'll remember me, but we went out to ____" thing, plus "The conversations we had stand out in my mind and I remember enjoying them so wanted to check in and wish you well." I always intended to respond, but am a world-champion procrastinator. Then a couple of weeks ago, I saw his name and remembered that I had not responded. Dug up his old e-mail and sent him this reply:

Mark,Ummmm...hello? I have to imagine that this might not even be your e-mail address any more. So, I'm just responding to your note of...three years ago? Truthfully, was online buying tix to a _____ show today and saw reference to a play being put on there next week, written by Mark _____. Don't know if it's the same Mark _____ (though it's hard to imagine lots of folks by that name), but it reminded me that you had sent this note, which I actually did intend to reply to, but then didn't do it quickly enough...and at some point it just seems too late, you know? Then there is a long waiting period--say, 3-1/2 years--after which if you reply it's not late, it's just kind of funny. Maybe.Anyway, if you're still out and about and want to be in touch, I promise to reply much more quickly. Well, I should specify, by "much more quickly" I mean within a week, not a year. In any case, I hope you're doing well!Krista

So now we've been in correspondence again and are planning to get together next week for dinner after he returns from a writers' colony thingie in NY. We'll see. I have definitely felt like my anti-dating stance is softening a bit the past couple of weeks...though when I feel that happening, I usually batten down the anti-dating hatches again.

OOC, what goes through a woman's mind when being contacted after a long time? I happened to find a business card while cleaning some things tonight and recall the woman who gave it to me about a year ago. I don't think I'll send her an email but this is a dynamic of dating that is interesting. I would think that a woman would find it strange (if not completely ) to get an email from a guy a year (or 3 1/2 years) later but if a guy were to receive it, he might just remember and give it a shot (a la your experience)PS Why has your "non-dating" philosophy changed recently? Not trying to pry, just curious....TIA

When being contacted after a long time, I just figure I'm really memorable. Serious answer: I wouldn't/don't find it strange or stalkerish at all. Happens a lot, actually, and I always have a positive (albeit sometimes delayed) response. If you decide to contact that woman, I don't think she's find it weird, and she likely would be pleasantly surprised.As for why my anti-dating philosophy might be changing, it's primarily a result of falling madly in love with larryboy.

 

[krista4]

Parent Care...... I must have someone who is willing to help me take care of my parents, now or when the time comes.Jesus Christ.:close:

Dude, Keys....what's up with the crazies? Did you get strykerDisease?ETA: I left myself WIDE open there

 

[JAA]

Are we so jaded that we cannot believe that dates under these circumstances could actually happen?Jabroniking, that's awesome, sound like a great experience that might very well keep on giving...Good on ya!

I prefaced by saying that I had no reason to think it didnt happen. It just sounded too perfect, a rarity around these parts given recent abortion conversations, seedy 11pm meetings in parks and bringing along the kids. Again,

late to the , but ...

 

[Alias]

I got something to share. Did you ever have someone REFUSE to answer a multiple choice question from eHarmony? I got a write in answer of:

This is really one of the first things you want to know about me?

 

[Tremendous Upside]

I got something to share. Did you ever have someone REFUSE to answer a multiple choice question from eHarmony? I got a write in answer of:

This is really one of the first things you want to know about me?

Was it the "do you do anal on the first date?" question?

 

[Alias]

It's the last question I asked, and it is a stock eHarmony question. I didn't think it was THAT over the line...

5. How would you assess your verbal intimacy skills?

A) I am extremely comfortable talking about my innermost needs and desires.

B) With the exception of a couple areas, I'm comfortable being verbally intimate.

C) I'm still learning to be verbally intimate, but my skills are improving.

D) It's hard work for me to discuss my intimate feelings.

 

[Alias]

Okay, so I've been on eHarmony a while now.This is the first time I've seen this "must-have":Abstinent...... I must have a spouse who has saved himself/herself sexually for marriage.:closematch:

wait 'til you get the pornography one... "I can't be with someone who owns or looks at pornography of any sort"

I just got that one

I am seriously thinking of closing this one out. If she was hotter I would put up with this "flaw", but she is really borderline in terms of looks. I call it a flaw because I take it she doesn't like the secks or has a low libido or at the very least really frowns upon porn, but why, for religious reasons? I am by no means a porn addict, I don't own any movies, but I don't want some chick breaking up for me if she finds an mpeg on my PC or something, just seems a little extreme.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

It's the last question I asked, and it is a stock eHarmony question. I didn't think it was THAT over the line...5. How would you assess your verbal intimacy skills?A) I am extremely comfortable talking about my innermost needs and desires.B) With the exception of a couple areas, I'm comfortable being verbally intimate.C) I'm still learning to be verbally intimate, but my skills are improving.D) It's hard work for me to discuss my intimate feelings.

Isn't that basically what eHarmony is all about? Going beyond the basics and discussing/,atching based on "true" intimacy?

 

[Alias]

It's the last question I asked, and it is a stock eHarmony question. I didn't think it was THAT over the line...5. How would you assess your verbal intimacy skills?A) I am extremely comfortable talking about my innermost needs and desires.B) With the exception of a couple areas, I'm comfortable being verbally intimate.C) I'm still learning to be verbally intimate, but my skills are improving.D) It's hard work for me to discuss my intimate feelings.

Isn't that basically what eHarmony is all about? Going beyond the basics and discussing/,atching based on "true" intimacy?

I take her response as being reserved in her feelings. I usually get A or B as answers which are fine. Actually any of the answers are fine since they are all honest. I closed her out since she was not my type anyway, tall blonde with short hair - three strikes!

 

[BassNBrew]

It's the last question I asked, and it is a stock eHarmony question. I didn't think it was THAT over the line...5. How would you assess your verbal intimacy skills?A) I am extremely comfortable talking about my innermost needs and desires.B) With the exception of a couple areas, I'm comfortable being verbally intimate.C) I'm still learning to be verbally intimate, but my skills are improving.D) It's hard work for me to discuss my intimate feelings.

Nothing personal dude, but that's a lame question for a guy to ask a chick. She's probably wondering if you tap your foot in the stall on occasion. Beyond that, what female isn't going to answer a or b? Are you really learning anything about them from this question?Also, please send the tall blondes my direction. tia

 

[Alias]

It's the last question I asked, and it is a stock eHarmony question. I didn't think it was THAT over the line...5. How would you assess your verbal intimacy skills?A) I am extremely comfortable talking about my innermost needs and desires.B) With the exception of a couple areas, I'm comfortable being verbally intimate.C) I'm still learning to be verbally intimate, but my skills are improving.D) It's hard work for me to discuss my intimate feelings.

Nothing personal dude, but that's a lame question for a guy to ask a chick. She's probably wondering if you tap your foot in the stall on occasion. Beyond that, what female isn't going to answer a or b? Are you really learning anything about them from this question?Also, please send the tall blondes my direction. tia

What 5 questions do you use? I think all of the questions at eHarmony are pretty tame/lame and you do not really learn anything about the other person. To answer your question when I get a response like I did from this one then I realize she is confrontational about petty issues and it raises a red flag.Here's another question I ask:If you went out to eat with a friend, which of the following would you prefer?A) a nice 4-star restaurantB) a basic steakhouseC) an undiscovered hideawayD) a hole in the wall with great food I mean really are you going to close a match based on any of those answers?

 

[BassNBrew]

What 5 questions do you use? I think all of the questions at eHarmony are pretty tame/lame and you do not really learn anything about the other person. To answer your question when I get a response like I did from this one then I realize she is confrontational about petty issues and it raises a red flag.

1. When in a relationship, how much personal space do you generally find you need? I closed based on the following replies...I don't need space and like lots of together time or my time working is enough and like to spend the rest with my partner.2. How important is chemistry to you? Like to have this answer in case I do end up dating this person just to file away. 3. Your idea of adventure is: If your answer isn't a or explained, you're closed out. 4. Would you rather date someone who is: Trying to get a feel for how they would deal with my schedule since I work some nights and weekends. 5. What do you think of "Soul Mates?" Yeah...probably lame. This 5th question gets changed around often.

 

[Alias]

I think the chemistry question is very lame and I do not use it.

Regardless, refusing to answer any of those multiple choice questions just screams "I AM A DIFFICULT PERSON"

 

[krista4]

I think the chemistry question is very lame and I do not use it.Regardless, refusing to answer any of those multiple choice questions just screams "I AM A DIFFICULT PERSON"

First of all, the one you sent is one of the ones I see most frequently. She's going to have problems with a lot of people. Second, these are basically blow-off questions anyway. I've never closed anyone on the basis of these, and can't imagine I would unless someone said something like "I represent pedophiles and fun stuff like that."

 

[Alias]

First eHarmony iDate tentatively setup for next week. An English chick that has lived here for 3 years. Just got off the phone, she sounds cool - sounds like she likes to drink (she was talking about going out to watch the rugby world cup and put back a lot of beers) and works about a stones throw from my apartment

Only thing I am a little nervous about is that the only picture she has of herself is the dreaded headshot. I couldn't find a creative way to ask her what type of body she has. She did say she dated a lot in nyc so I guess there is a chance she is not a fattie. I need a dry run anyway.

 

[Sister Havana]

Update time, since it's been a while since I posted one:

Wisconsin cutie: So after we had a really good evening and he had to leave early the next morning because of a family emergency...then I didn't see him around for several days. (This is someone who was usually on all the time.) Finally I saw him online and we chatted - but it was awfully strained and awkward. We haven't talked since. I kind of have the feeling that the emergency was an emergency trip to He's Just Not That Into Me-ville. However, he hasn't defriended me on Facebook or taken me off his PoF favorites either. Who knows?

On the local front: I haven't seen cute dog park guy since the dog park, but we've been emailing and texting up a storm, trying to figure out a time to get together again. The past couple weeks have been super busy for both of us and it seems like we're never free on the same days. Next week is going to be a bit less busy for me so I am hoping we can meet up then.

I haven't heard from cool message guy in a while after a really promising start. I'm thinking of taking a tip from some of the posters here and sending the proverbial Hail Mary message - we'll see.

Speaking of guys I haven't heard from in a while - there was a guy I talked to on Lavalife when I first joined, who is downright adorable. We never could find a time to meet that worked for both of us and the communication kind of died out. He contacted me for the first time in forever last week and we've chatted a few times since then. (and talked on the phone, too!) I'm hoping we can meet up soon!

I've also been talking to a couple other local guys that seem promising. I am hoping to meet up with at least one of them this weekend! I have a wedding to go to this Saturday and I'm taking a platonic guy friend as my date. (I figure a wedding = WAY too high pressure for a first or second date!) It's going to be a huge wedding (400 people invited) so I would hope there may be one or two hot single men there.

 

[Aerial Assault]

I got something to share. Did you ever have someone REFUSE to answer a multiple choice question from eHarmony? I got a write in answer of:

This is really one of the first things you want to know about me?

Yup. One time I asked one of the pat ones and I got "I really hate answering these questions." :close: People are really weird.

 

[The Real Hipster Doofus]

Well I think I am finally going to take the plunge and get on match.com. At my age (22) I am really just looking for a supplemental way to meet women outside of the usual ways. Especially considering I just moved back home after four years out of state. I have read a lot of this thread but haven't made my way through it all yet. My question is what do you suggest for the first meet with women? I really don't want to get roped into dinners, etc when I might know after 30 seconds of meeting that I want anything to do with her. Not sure if the whole meet for drinks thing works with my age group or not. I am in the metro Detroit area if that makes any difference. Any thoughts?

 

[Tremendous Upside]

Well I think I am finally going to take the plunge and get on match.com. At my age (22) I am really just looking for a supplemental way to meet women outside of the usual ways. Especially considering I just moved back home after four years out of state. I have read a lot of this thread but haven't made my way through it all yet. My question is what do you suggest for the first meet with women? I really don't want to get roped into dinners, etc when I might know after 30 seconds of meeting that I want anything to do with her. Not sure if the whole meet for drinks thing works with my age group or not. I am in the metro Detroit area if that makes any difference. Any thoughts?

Definitely the meet for drinks route...Nothing crazy, just drinks at a bar, I always prefer one where I know we can play pool, darts, etc, anything to break up the potential "job interview" awkwardness of the first meet...

 

[ScottNorwood]

First eHarmony iDate tentatively setup for next week. An English chick that has lived here for 3 years. Just got off the phone, she sounds cool - sounds like she likes to drink (she was talking about going out to watch the rugby world cup and put back a lot of beers) and works about a stones throw from my apartment Only thing I am a little nervous about is that the only picture she has of herself is the dreaded headshot. I couldn't find a creative way to ask her what type of body she has. She did say she dated a lot in nyc so I guess there is a chance she is not a fattie. I need a dry run anyway.

What are you too good to date a fatty? Get in there!

 

[Sister Havana]

Oh yes...and I've been chatting with this guy on lavalife and I kind of had my suspicions that he is a Nigerian scammer (there are a lot of red flags) - well, I think I've got confirmation on this. I will post this conversation in the underground.

ETA: conversation posted!

 

[Uruk-Hai]

Looks like we have a new contestant at the Underground.

 

[krista4]

Looks like we have a new contestant at the Underground.

Spankings to be doled out at an appropriate time.

 

[Uruk-Hai]

Looks like we have a new contestant at the Underground.

Spankings to be doled out at an appropriate time.

Are you an Evelyn Wood graduate? I thought I read fast...

 

[krista4]

Oh yes...and I've been chatting with this guy on lavalife and I kind of had my suspicions that he is a Nigerian scammer (there are a lot of red flags) - well, I think I've got confirmation on this. I will post this conversation in the underground. ETA: conversation posted!

Just read this one!

 

[krista4]

Update time, since it's been a while since I posted one:Wisconsin cutie: So after we had a really good evening and he had to leave early the next morning because of a family emergency...then I didn't see him around for several days. (This is someone who was usually on all the time.) Finally I saw him online and we chatted - but it was awfully strained and awkward. We haven't talked since. I kind of have the feeling that the emergency was an emergency trip to He's Just Not That Into Me-ville. However, he hasn't defriended me on Facebook or taken me off his PoF favorites either. Who knows? On the local front: I haven't seen cute dog park guy since the dog park, but we've been emailing and texting up a storm, trying to figure out a time to get together again. The past couple weeks have been super busy for both of us and it seems like we're never free on the same days. Next week is going to be a bit less busy for me so I am hoping we can meet up then. I haven't heard from cool message guy in a while after a really promising start. I'm thinking of taking a tip from some of the posters here and sending the proverbial Hail Mary message - we'll see. Speaking of guys I haven't heard from in a while - there was a guy I talked to on Lavalife when I first joined, who is downright adorable. We never could find a time to meet that worked for both of us and the communication kind of died out. He contacted me for the first time in forever last week and we've chatted a few times since then. (and talked on the phone, too!) I'm hoping we can meet up soon!I've also been talking to a couple other local guys that seem promising. I am hoping to meet up with at least one of them this weekend! I have a wedding to go to this Saturday and I'm taking a platonic guy friend as my date. (I figure a wedding = WAY too high pressure for a first or second date!) It's going to be a huge wedding (400 people invited) so I would hope there may be one or two hot single men there.

Sorry to hear about Wisconsin cutie--I kind of suspected that the emergency was a lie, but was hoping for the best. Oh well, sounds like you have plenty of other options!

 

[Uruk-Hai]

Oh yes...and I've been chatting with this guy on lavalife and I kind of had my suspicions that he is a Nigerian scammer (there are a lot of red flags) - well, I think I've got confirmation on this. I will post this conversation in the underground.

ETA: conversation posted!

Just read this one!

I think Havana's going to have him sending money soon.

 

[Gordo]

I've never really dared to get started on this thread. Can I get a Cliff's Notes of the past 6328 posts to get me up to speed?

TIA

 

[Uruk-Hai]

I've never really dared to get started on this thread. Can I get a Cliff's Notes of the past 6328 posts to get me up to speed?TIA

This thread has it all: psycho dates, i-fights amongst FFA members, potential 3-somes, advice for dating, Woz, & larryboy. I would rarely say this, but this thread is worth reading from the beginning.

 

[krista4]

I've never really dared to get started on this thread. Can I get a Cliff's Notes of the past 6328 posts to get me up to speed?TIA

People meet on the interwebs and go on dates. Some of them are successful; some less so. If a restaurant loses your reservation and you need to pay off the host for a table, do it subtly.Think that's pretty much it.

 

[Woz]

I've never really dared to get started on this thread. Can I get a Cliff's Notes of the past 6328 posts to get me up to speed?TIA

People meet on the interwebs and go on dates. Some of them are successful; some less so. If a restaurant loses your reservation and you need to pay off the host for a table, do it subtly.Think that's pretty much it.

One guy has a hell of a date. Another guy has a date from hell. Same guy has chick break into his place. Not so coincidentally guy is single and dropped out of the race. . And there's some direct drama amongst the players. Some cocky ignorant dude runs his mouth, a girl acts like, well, a girl, and a real life nerd acts like an itoughguy. Oh and some wacko pisses on a bar. Hilarity definitely does/doesn't ensue. Quality reading either way.

 

[Disco Stu]

Possible TMI update posted.

I'm still about 10 days behind but better late than never, right?

 

[strykerpks]

Possible TMI update posted. I'm still about 10 days behind but better late than never, right?

 

[Woz]

Woz had himself a week and will recap aftr a date tonight.

 

[krista4]

Second one: the guy requested fast-track and I said fine; he sent me his e-mail address, and I told him I'd send a message when I had a chance. So I did (one day later, which is very fast for me), and then got three messages from him in succession. The first was inviting me to gmail chat. The second:

Krista,It would be a lie to not tell you that I have been waiting a bit for your email. When I read your profile, it was a bit comical, considering you were matched-up with your ex in your prior stinct with eHarmony. I am attracted to educated, professional and "worldy" women in general and it is no wonder, I reached out to you. Thank you for your compliments. I do believe in giving especially to my partner to be and loved ones in my family and people in general. I was not always like this. I have been selfish, arrogant and self-centered. Then my son came along, divorce happened, and I simply grew-up. If you want honesty, this is it. My job - I am an enterprise software sales manager for a software company based out of San Diego and I am here in Chicago. I work with a well known entrepreneur and my role is primarily to sell, plan and strategize our products and position our ecosystem vision and articulate it to fortune 500 companies. I many ways, I shape the market especially with complex web applications. I do complex deals and work with cios and coos of companies like ADP, reynolds, Sabre, JP Morgan, etc. I also deal with Software as a Service market companies who are in business to provide real time on demand solutions to other companies.My son is Tristan. Matter of fact, he is sitting and watching cartoons. He is a darling. I love my boy. We do a lot of thigns together. Might be worth talking about him on the phone. My Divine Mother ... She is my Mother and guiding light. Please visit this site below...www.sriaurobindosociety.org.inI just bought my first condo. Here are some sample pics. I invited you to join gmail and there is an instant chat there and we can communicate through.

The third:

Krista,Just to make sure we are on the same page...sharing information about you; just simply share openly whatever you want me to know and ask away any questions and I will answer them. I like to try open, honest and straightforward approach...Along the way, a touch of romance might add spice to the conversation - even emails.Cheers,

:(

Having not responded to those e-mails, I received a fourth one today:

I am hoping that you are alive and fine. please email me when you have a moment and we can communicate. better yet, call me. i am interested in speaking with you and learning and listening to you. Krista, have a good day.

HEEEEEEE'S BACK!

Krista,Hope you are doing well. I feel very sheepish writing this email..Regardless, I have good amount of respect for you to reach out to you.. wondering if you have time to try to connect with me.Thanks.

My god, now I almost feel like I have to respond. I feel bad for the guy. :(And it's not like we've even met or talked, so he can't be in a complete swoon over KristaCharm. Freaky.