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Playing Games/Sports with kids (1 Viewer)

What's your thoughts on playing games/sports with kids?

  • Let them win all the time

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Let them win sometimes

    Votes: 16 30.8%
  • Play games/sports that match their skill levels so they have a shot at a legit win

    Votes: 3 5.8%
  • Kick their ### while you can. "You don't like it crybaby? Then beat me."

    Votes: 10 19.2%
  • Focus on skill development and fun

    Votes: 23 44.2%

  • Total voters
    52

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What's your thoughts on playing games/sports with kids?

Just wondering. Over the holiday a dad asked me not to play on my knees when playing basketball with his son. I'm 6'2". The kid was 6, maybe 3' 5"

 
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You have to be a good loser before you become a good winner. Help them, cheer them on, explain to them why they may not be winning. Card games like cribbage are awesome. 

 
You have to be a good loser before you become a good winner. Help them, cheer them on, explain to them why they may not be winning. Card games like cribbage are awesome. 
They should play cribbage in school. It is great for teaching math.

 
I voted let them win sometimes, but it really depends on the age of the kid.

I remember when my daughter was young I used to pray that she'd make shots at horse so she could win and we could do something else instead   :)

 
Depends on age.  When my kids were little I'd play at 25% so they still be interested.  Now my son is 14 and growing and I go all out.  We play 1 on 1 in the driveway  and I still beat him every time but he's getting closer. I'm guessing in a year or two tops he'll start to beat me on a regular basis.  He really wants to win and would be pissed if I took it easy on him now.

 
Still playing soccer with my kids and a bunch of others from the neighborhood.  My kids are 13 & 17, so I'm at the kick their ### for as long as I can, because that will end soon.  But growing up, I was never good with the "let them win" thinking.  Dealing with losing is good for you.

 
I usually let my kid win to build confidence.  However, when I sense that confidence is turning into arrogance, I knock him down a peg.  I think I'm striking a nice balance of teaching him to win and lose with class. 

 
What's your thoughts on playing games/sports with kids?

Just wondering. Over the holiday a dad asked me not to play on my knees when playing basketball with his son. I'm 6'2". The kid was 6, maybe 3' 5"
Sounds like the dad needs more work on his social skills than the kid needs on his basketball skills. 

 
Still playing soccer with my kids and a bunch of others from the neighborhood.  My kids are 13 & 17, so I'm at the kick their ### for as long as I can, because that will end soon.  But growing up, I was never good with the "let them win" thinking.  Dealing with losing is good for you.
Has to be some middle ground. I cant imagine a five-ten year old wanting to play anything if they always lose.....worse yet, they get use to it and are OK with losing.  

 
Has to be some middle ground. I cant imagine a five-ten year old wanting to play anything if they always lose.....worse yet, they get use to it and are OK with losing.  
That's how I see it. Early on when they first start playing a sport, I think you let them win sometimes, just to keep them interested in it. But as they get older and learn the sport more, I think you start trying in focus more on their individual development within the sport, more so than winning and losing.

 
in elementary school our basketball team had 7 kids. three of us were semi-athletic. the rest were out there because we needed a team/parents forced them.

the only games we won were in 8th grade when a 6'3" kid joined the team from another school.

our coach three of those years was the dad of one of my friends. he was a biker gang member. meaner than anyone i'd known to that point and it wasn't close. we sucked, he hated it and he hated us.

because we only had 7 guys... sometimes less at practices depending on family schedules... we'd often scrimmage against our girls team. sometimes coach & his buddy would be on a team with whoever showed up, against our starters. 

biker dad was about 6', average looking guy. buddy dad was about 6'3" or something and 300+ but think white Barkley.  they played in a men's league a couple nights a week. they would run up and down, firing fastball passes, picking pockets, shooting from distance, rebounding like they were playing grown men and worst of all fast-breaking and dunking on us.

dunking

on kids

we hated practice. when we'd #### up or not play balls out 500% against them.... we had less than no chance.... he would run us to death and scream about how much we sucked.

ruined any enjoyment i got from basketball. not that i was good or had a future or anything. but it made participating in a sport i enjoyed absolutely freaking miserable.

 
Focus on skill development and fun. That builds confidence the right way. Winning is by-product of hard work and having fun. 

 
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- I race my daughter couple times a week, and I will blow by her on occasion ... and it's mostly to teach her a lesson.  

she has very long legs/strides, but runs too damn upright ... I showed her how to run "the right way" (my way  :D ), and when she follows that guidance, I ease up on her, to build confidence ... plus it does allow her to move faster. 

she's very competitive, and takes her lessons and losses hard, but I always reassure her that she will get there in time. 

want so badly for her to try track, but she's too involved with her dancing and theater and music and swimming and singing right now. 

hoping for the fall season, think she's a natural  :thumbup:

 
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Our house rules are I can't block his shots, only get one offensive rebound. I don't back him down or shoot layups/putbacks. Otherwise, I'm playing to win. My greatest athletic achievement of the past decade came last week when I spotted him an "H", went down HORS to nothing and it looked like he was going to skunk me for the first time ever, when the old muscles started loosening up a bit and I went on a tear, completing the come-back with the good old left handed mid-range jumper which we both know he can't make.

 
If you're old enough to compete, you're old enough to lose.  I'm not talking a 3 year old playing chutes and ladders, or a kid learning how to hit the ball off a T.  If the boys wanted to play a game in the back yard, and keep score (their idea), then I was going to try to win.  I always was willing to play catch, shoot baskets, or throw batting practice.  But, when they started to want to keep score, then they were going to learn how to be good losers.

 
If you're old enough to compete, you're old enough to lose.  I'm not talking a 3 year old playing chutes and ladders, or a kid learning how to hit the ball off a T.  If the boys wanted to play a game in the back yard, and keep score (their idea), then I was going to try to win.  I always was willing to play catch, shoot baskets, or throw batting practice.  But, when they started to want to keep score, then they were going to learn how to be good losers.
I don't disagree with that at all.

 
Has to be some middle ground. I cant imagine a five-ten year old wanting to play anything if they always lose.....worse yet, they get use to it and are OK with losing.  
It's been a while since I played anything with winning/losing at stake with young ones.  When they were younger, I would focus more on skills development.  We didn't get into "competing" until they were older, and it was on their schedule.  When they started to "want to beat Dad" is when we started to compete, which is where my sentiment stems from.

 
Sounds like the dad needs more work on his social skills than the kid needs on his basketball skills. 
Dad's argument was, that the kid will wind up around 5'8"-10", so he needs to learn to play against people taller than him. 

 
You have to be a good loser before you become a good winner. Help them, cheer them on, explain to them why they may not be winning. Card games like cribbage are awesome. 


They should play cribbage in school. It is great for teaching math.


Taught my nephew when he was 6-7 years old. Still need to point out some things but he'll be able to hold his own in a couple years.


It's also a good long car ride game...


My 3rd grader did cribbage club one night a week after school.  I have talked him into playing for a $1 a game and dime a point yet.

 
Other card games to play or look into might be:

- Munchkin

- Mille Borne

- trading card games like Pokemon, Harry Potter, and others although Pokemon and Magic could be expensive. 

 
Other card games to play or look into might be:

- Munchkin

- Mille Borne

- trading card games like Pokemon, Harry Potter, and others although Pokemon and Magic could be expensive. 


WOW, what a blast from the past. Haven't heard or even thought of Mille Borne in decades. The 70s had great games.

 
in elementary school our basketball team had 7 kids. three of us were semi-athletic. the rest were out there because we needed a team/parents forced them.

the only games we won were in 8th grade when a 6'3" kid joined the team from another school.

our coach three of those years was the dad of one of my friends. he was a biker gang member. meaner than anyone i'd known to that point and it wasn't close. we sucked, he hated it and he hated us.

because we only had 7 guys... sometimes less at practices depending on family schedules... we'd often scrimmage against our girls team. sometimes coach & his buddy would be on a team with whoever showed up, against our starters. 

biker dad was about 6', average looking guy. buddy dad was about 6'3" or something and 300+ but think white Barkley.  they played in a men's league a couple nights a week. they would run up and down, firing fastball passes, picking pockets, shooting from distance, rebounding like they were playing grown men and worst of all fast-breaking and dunking on us.

dunking

on kids

we hated practice. when we'd #### up or not play balls out 500% against them.... we had less than no chance.... he would run us to death and scream about how much we sucked.

ruined any enjoyment i got from basketball. not that i was good or had a future or anything. but it made participating in a sport i enjoyed absolutely freaking miserable.
Not sure why you included the fact that the biker dad was an average looking guy.   :unsure:

 
Not sure why you included the fact that the biker dad was an average looking guy.   :unsure:
:unsure:   

i meant it to say he wasn't some super freak athlete but still bigger than a bunch of 10-13 year olds.

upon re-read............................. i stand by my statement :mellow:

 
Dad's argument was, that the kid will wind up around 5'8"-10", so he needs to learn to play against people taller than him. 
Yeah, I get it. I don't know why that's such a concern when another parent/adult is nice enough to be playing ball with my son at a holiday gathering. 

 

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