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Please keep Chance in your thoughts and prayers (1 Viewer)

Tonight we sat down with my 11-year-old son and told him that his brother was not going to get better. It was the most difficult conversation I've ever had in my life. My wife, son and I just held each other and cried. We're in the process of getting him a professional to talk to. He's going to need a lot of support.

I can't put into words how much I am hurting right now. But this thread, and your words, really do help. This really is a community and I can't thank you enough for helping prop me up.

 
Bob Magaw said:
Some religions have it that children choose their parents.

If that is true, Chance couldn't possibly have made a better choice.

He is incredibly blessed to be surrounded by the love and support that transcends the words you are using to describe this ordeal and can be tangibly and palpably felt through the screen I am looking at this through.

Your family is also obviously blessed by the presence of a child like Chance that could evoke such an outpouring of love and understanding.

In our thoughts and prayers, BB, Chance and your family.
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This is what I was thinking but could not have expressed as well as you did. Beautifully put.

 
I'm so sorry BB. I can't imagine what you and your family are going through, but you're in my thoughts and prayers.

 
You, Chance and the entire family are loved.

It may be by a group of internet miscreants, but dammit, know you are loved. I'm sure Chance can feel that, and hopefully you can, too.

 
Sorry to hear this. I know you have a lot of people here pulling for your family. I'm sure you have a lot of local support as well.

 
I haven't been in the FFA in a while, and was absolutely stunned and saddened to see and read this thread. I know anything I say has already been said, but BB, I'm so, so sorry for you and your family, and am sending all of my thoughts, prayers, good vibes, and positive energy your way. No parent should ever have to go through this, and I wish you and your family all the strength in the universe to make it through this time.

 
bigbottom said:
Tonight we sat down with my 11-year-old son and told him that his brother was not going to get better. It was the most difficult conversation I've ever had in my life. My wife, son and I just held each other and cried. We're in the process of getting him a professional to talk to. He's going to need a lot of support.

I can't put into words how much I am hurting right now. But this thread, and your words, really do help. This really is a community and I can't thank you enough for helping prop me up.
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If you need to feel propped up, that's great that this thread can do that for you.I don't think I'm alone in feeling that your willingness to share your journey through this and your obvious courage and love for your family prop all of us up, too.

 
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No words make sense to type, but just know we are all here sending good vibes and prayers of comfort.

 
Sorry man. I've literally sat here for 20 minutes but can't come up with the right words... My heart breaks for you and your family.

 
man. I somehow haven't seen this thread until now. Heartbreaking.

As impossible as it seems to do, and as banal as it seems for me to type it out -- your family needs you to be strong now. Do it, for them. I wish there was something I/we all could do. Sending positive thoughts to you and your family tonight, BB.

 
Biggie I know this is unimaginably hard and I'm so sorry. But this is one of the most important times of your life right now and like it or not you will never forget it. You're never going to look back at today fondly, but there will be days in your life that you wish you could come back to today and relive it or do something different. I don't know what's going to be important to you or your wife when you're 70 and looking back at your life but try to think about the things you might regret not doing and do them now while you still can. I don't know what kind of regrets Chance's brother might have when he's 20, or 30, or 70, but his memories are going to last a long time too. I don't know what that means to you. But if that means taking pictures, or extending an olive branch to family or friends you haven't talked to in a while, or having some kind of conversation you will wish you had had later, or having them make "my favorite things about my brother" books together, but try imagining 70 year old biggie and his family talking about these days and saying "I wish I'd...". Once you have an idea what that list would be, and you've internalized it, throw it out, and spend the rest of your time living in the now. I hope you guys have all the time in the world left together, and I'm praying for the same miracle that so many of us are, but most of all I hope that you can find as much peace as a parent can in this horrible situation.

 
I wish you were in the SF Bay Area. I'd love to have been able to give you all big hugs and bring Chance whatever I am able to as a personal wish list fulfiller. (((hugs)))

 
I can't come up with any words. I simply echo the overall sentiment here in this thread. I'm glad we can be of some help to you, and simply wish I/we could do more.

 
bigbottom said:
Tonight we sat down with my 11-year-old son and told him that his brother was not going to get better. It was the most difficult conversation I've ever had in my life. My wife, son and I just held each other and cried. We're in the process of getting him a professional to talk to. He's going to need a lot of support.

I can't put into words how much I am hurting right now. But this thread, and your words, really do help. This really is a community and I can't thank you enough for helping prop me up.
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My two daughters are 13 and 11. I cannot imagine what this must have been like. Cannot ####### imagine it.

 
bigbottom said:
Tonight we sat down with my 11-year-old son and told him that his brother was not going to get better. It was the most difficult conversation I've ever had in my life. My wife, son and I just held each other and cried. We're in the process of getting him a professional to talk to. He's going to need a lot of support.

I can't put into words how much I am hurting right now. But this thread, and your words, really do help. This really is a community and I can't thank you enough for helping prop me up.
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BB, I can't even imagine. I have two boys of my own and my heart aches reading this. I know the upcoming time will be difficult for all of you but I will say a special prayer for your youngest as I know it will be hard for him to process. Continued prayers and good thoughts to you and your family.

 
bigbottom said:
Tonight we sat down with my 11-year-old son and told him that his brother was not going to get better. It was the most difficult conversation I've ever had in my life. My wife, son and I just held each other and cried. We're in the process of getting him a professional to talk to. He's going to need a lot of support.

I can't put into words how much I am hurting right now. But this thread, and your words, really do help. This really is a community and I can't thank you enough for helping prop me up.
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It's the other way around.

We are all proud of you.

What you did tonight was very courageous.

 
Again BB, this is so saddening. I have a 13 y/o son... and a 15 y/o daughter, but ever since you've been posting about Chance's situation, I have looked at my son in both a greatfulness (knock on wood because it can happen to anyone), and... I'm not sure of the words, but trying to imagine myself in the same position as you. It's an absolute heartwrentching situation that nobody should have to deal with. I can say I empathise, but JC, who, other than somone in your situation can even understand what you're going through? I can try to imagine, but it's not even close.

 
[SIZE=10.5pt]BB if you're up to it, it would be nice to hear a little bit about what kind of kid Chance is. I saw the videos you posted in earlier threads, and read what you have posted, but I (and I bet others) would like to know a liitle more about Chance. If you aren't up to it, of course I completely understand...[/SIZE]

 
I'm so very sorry. The most difficult thread I have ever read and I can't stop crying (two boys of my own). Again, I'm so sorry.

 
I haven't read much of this thread simply because it's too much to handle. My sister died when I was 12, but I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through as a parent. You and your family are in my thoughts BB and if there's anything big or small that an iFriend in Cincinnati can do, don't hesitate to reach out.

 
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It is so terribly sad and difficult. Stories like this make others realize how well they have it. It is going to be rough the next few weeks, but stay strong for your wife and sons. Your family is in everyones thoughts and prayers.

 
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I am confident that you will continue to find the strength that you need. Just so sorry that you have to. Best thoughts to Chance and the family.

 
I echo everyone else's thoughts and kind words. I couldn't possibly imagine what you're going thru. After reading your update last night, I crawled into Little 'Zooks' bed and slept next him all night.

It's an unbelievably tragic thing you're going thru and you're are handling it with class and dignity. You are amazing BB.

 
bigbottom said:
We spent the morning at the hospital today and learned that because Chance's condition has deteriorated, there are no remaining treatment options. We are currently making arrangements for hospice care. We have family here in town and flying in from the west coast, so Chance will be surrounded by loved ones. Thank you all for your kind words of support.
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Very sorry to hear BB, thoughts and prayers to Chance, you and your family. I can't imagine what you are going through and have no words other than we are all here for anything Change, you or your family may need.

 
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If you haven't done it already this would be a good time to help him write an everything I love about my brother book and let his brother do the same. Get some positive thoughts out there and create something meaningful for both of them.
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This is a great idea, hopefully you all have the strength to do something like this.

 
bigbottom said:
We spent the morning at the hospital today and learned that because Chance's condition has deteriorated, there are no remaining treatment options. We are currently making arrangements for hospice care. We have family here in town and flying in from the west coast, so Chance will be surrounded by loved ones. Thank you all for your kind words of support.
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Praying for comfort for Chance and for your family.

 
BB, have you seen this article, or anything similar?

The results of an 18-month study released today identify for the first time a link between cancer risks and hazardous air pollutants being released in Harris County.

In particular, the study conducted by the University of Texas School of Public Health found that children living within two miles of the Houston Ship Channel had a 56 percent increased risk of contracting acute lymphocytic leukemia when compared to children living more than 10 miles from the channel.

In addition, children who were living in areas with increased emissions of 1,3-butadiene from petrochemical industries were found to have an increased risk of developing any type of leukemia, acute lymphocytic leukemia and acute myeloid leukemia.

This preliminary epidemiologic investigation, which was sponsored by Houston's health department and the Centers for Disease Control, found an "association'' but was not detailed enough to prove pollutants actually caused these illnesses, stressed Ann Coker, one of the primary investigators.

Using $30,000 in grants, the study examined data from the Texas Cancer Registry of reported cases of leukemia and lymphoma in both Harris County adults and children from 1995 to 2003. It also examined emissions of 1,3-butadiene and benzene recorded since 1992 at the Texas Commission on Environmental Quality monitoring sites in Harris County.

Although two connections with emissions were uncovered, the study did not detect any associations between benzene emissions in either adults or children and no associations were found between adults and 1,3-butadiene.
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bostonfred said:
Biggie I know this is unimaginably hard and I'm so sorry. But this is one of the most important times of your life right now and like it or not you will never forget it. You're never going to look back at today fondly, but there will be days in your life that you wish you could come back to today and relive it or do something different. I don't know what's going to be important to you or your wife when you're 70 and looking back at your life but try to think about the things you might regret not doing and do them now while you still can. I don't know what kind of regrets Chance's brother might have when he's 20, or 30, or 70, but his memories are going to last a long time too. I don't know what that means to you. But if that means taking pictures, or extending an olive branch to family or friends you haven't talked to in a while, or having some kind of conversation you will wish you had had later, or having them make "my favorite things about my brother" books together, but try imagining 70 year old biggie and his family talking about these days and saying "I wish I'd...". Once you have an idea what that list would be, and you've internalized it, throw it out, and spend the rest of your time living in the now. I hope you guys have all the time in the world left together, and I'm praying for the same miracle that so many of us are, but most of all I hope that you can find as much peace as a parent can in this horrible situation.
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I really like this advice, bf.

BB, good luck getting through this time. Hold your family close.

 
bigbottom said:
Tonight we sat down with my 11-year-old son and told him that his brother was not going to get better. It was the most difficult conversation I've ever had in my life. My wife, son and I just held each other and cried. We're in the process of getting him a professional to talk to. He's going to need a lot of support.

I can't put into words how much I am hurting right now. But this thread, and your words, really do help. This really is a community and I can't thank you enough for helping prop me up.
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There really aren't words to express what I would like to say to you. This whole situation is really just too hard to comprehend as a father. My deepest sympathies BB.

 
I thought I was having such a crappy morning and pouting about a few things that are going wrong...then I opened this thread and realized that none of that stuff even matters.

I know for a fact that everybody here was hoping for positve news. That being said BB you can be proud and take some solace in the fact that you stepped up did what a father and man is supposed to do during these difficult times..your family did everything that a family could possibly do. As a father myself I can only imagine what you are going through right now. This quote has been around awhile but this thread reminded me of it "You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only option" God Bless you and your family during this most difficult time.

DG

 
I've lost count how many times this thread has brought me to tears; I cannot imagine how painful this must be for you and your family, BB.

Heartfelt thanks for sharing and continuing to update us. You are a class act, good guy, great father, and an inspiration.

Bless Chance and your family.

Words seem inadequate.

 
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