So hungover this morning I accidently wore two different shoes (1 Viewer)

[SWC]

brohan just do what i like to call a crazy ivan which is a term from red october it goes like this when everything you are doing day in and day out is not making you happy just go a totally different direction you feel crummy sitting at home or going out with your current friends well change it go put in some volunteer time somewhere and feel good for doing it and then go to the gym and bust your butt until you are so tired you cant keep your eyes open then hit the sack early get a great night sleep and get up early have some coffee and listen to natures rush hour of birds going nuts just totally switch fields bromigo it works for the old swcer when im feelin down take that to the bank bromigo

 

[need2know]

brohan just do what i like to call a crazy ivan which is a term from red october it goes like this when everything you are doing day in and day out is not making you happy just go a totally different direction you feel crummy sitting at home or going out with your current friends well change it go put in some volunteer time somewhere and feel good for doing it and then go to the gym and bust your butt until you are so tired you cant keep your eyes open then hit the sack early get a great night sleep and get up early have some coffee and listen to natures rush hour of birds going nuts just totally switch fields bromigo it works for the old swcer when im feelin down take that to the bank bromigo

CRAZY IVAN! CRAZY IVAN!

 

[DocHolliday]

I've finally done it. I hit rock bottom.

I hit on a chick I work with and it got around and everyone at work hates my guts.

There has to be more to the story.......

 

[Skipdog77]

So driving drunk is cool, but hitting on a co-worker and having people maybe think less of you for it is "rock-bottom"?

Cool values, bro.

 

[TLEF316]

So driving drunk is cool, but hitting on a co-worker and having people maybe think less of you for it is "rock-bottom"?

Cool values, bro.

You don't get it. You're an average person with a less than exceptional IQ. His understanding of right or wrong transcends our world.

 

[RokNRole]

Why would everyone hate you for hitting on someone.  That's de rigeur in the hospitality industry.

You probably should be looking for a job with benefits anyway so you can get some medical insurance.  Hold on to this one in the meantime, though.  #### 'em if they're going to be bent at you for trying to snag some trim.  Bunch of hypocrites.

I'm not qualified for any job with benefits. 

Even when hen I was at the staffing agency I had to decline the healthcare. It would have been $60 out of my paycheck every week, and that's just if I'm not even using it. Now if I were to visit a shrink weekly there would be co-pays and prescription costs. There is no way I can swing that.

This country is a crock of ####

 

[RokNRole]

So driving drunk is cool, but hitting on a co-worker and having people maybe think less of you for it is "rock-bottom"?

Cool values, bro.

When did I say drunk driving is cool?

 

[Quint]

here you go: 

https://dallas.craigslist.org/dal/ret/d/warehouse-associatehourly/6248710436.html

get your resume in order and apply. 

lather. rinse. repeat. 

 

[squistion]

I'm not qualified for any job with benefits. 

Even when hen I was at the staffing agency I had to decline the healthcare. It would have been $60 out of my paycheck every week, and that's just if I'm not even using it. Now if I were to visit a shrink weekly there would be co-pays and prescription costs. There is no way I can swing that.

This country is a crock of ####

Really? I thought you said that you had coverage through your insurance, but it didn't cover doctor visits (or anything else) when you were relocated to Texas, because it was out of the service area, not because you declined taking the coverage due to expense.

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

I'm not qualified for any job with benefits. 

Even when hen I was at the staffing agency I had to decline the healthcare. It would have been $60 out of my paycheck every week, and that's just if I'm not even using it. Now if I were to visit a shrink weekly there would be co-pays and prescription costs. There is no way I can swing that.

This country is a crock of ####

You are a smart guy.  Maybe you can use that intellect to change your can't do attitude to a can do one.  Consider this possibility.  One job may not provide all of your needs, not at first, especially when you have a backlog of needs.  It may be a process.  Things may take time.

Temper expectations, adjust time horizons, and good luck.

 

[RokNRole]

Really? I thought you said that you had coverage through your insurance, but it didn't cover doctor visits (or anything else) when you were relocated to Texas, because it was out of the service area, not because you declined taking the coverage due to expense.

I had Medicaid not insurance. I declined the insurance my employer was offering.

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

Spend some of that energy you currently spend right now figuring out ways to insure things won't work out to figuring out ways where they will.

 

[RokNRole]

here you go: 

https://dallas.craigslist.org/dal/ret/d/warehouse-associatehourly/6248710436.html

get your resume in order and apply. 

lather. rinse. repeat. 

That's one of my old clients lol.

 

[RokNRole]

Spend some of that energy you currently spend right now figuring out ways to insure things won't work out to figuring out ways where they will.

People with severe depression have a bit of a hard time with that.

 

[RokNRole]

My ex gets back from England in a month and I'll know if she's going to be able to move there or not. If she does she said she will try to get some help from her friends there to hook me up with a job that will sponsor me for a visa and I can live with her and I'll have NHS health coverage.Seems like the best thing is to just get out of this country.

Can I marry her in England even if I'm still not divorced I'm America?

 

[Quint]

My ex gets back from England in a month and I'll know if she's going to be able to move there or not. If she does she said she will try to get some help from her friends there to hook me up with a job that will sponsor me for a visa and I can live with her and I'll have NHS health coverage.Seems like the best thing is to just get out of this country.

Can I marry her in England even if I'm still not divorced I'm America?

do you have a valid passport? 

 

[RokNRole]

do you have a valid passport? 

No. Are they difficult to get?

 

[Nugget]

I'm not qualified for any job with benefits. 

Even when hen I was at the staffing agency I had to decline the healthcare. It would have been $60 out of my paycheck every week, and that's just if I'm not even using it. Now if I were to visit a shrink weekly there would be co-pays and prescription costs. There is no way I can swing that.

This country is a crock of ####

Why don't you get two jobs?

 

[Quint]

No. Are they difficult to get?

typically, no. you'll need to acquire the proper documentation and it could take up to six weeks after your appointment to get the passport. you won't be able to board a plane to the UK without one. should run you about $60. 

 

[RokNRole]

Why don't you get two jobs?

Are you nuts?

 

[Swing 51]

You are a smart guy.

 

[Quint]

Are you nuts?

it's a valid question. there are plenty of people who work two (or more) PT jobs to make ends meet, or to earn extra cash. 

 

[RokNRole]

it's a valid question. there are plenty of people who work two (or more) PT jobs to make ends meet, or to earn extra cash. 

I'm not even going to go in to all the reasons why not

 

[SWC]

hey rock just work on small stuff get your head and chin up and smile a little maybe lay off all booze and other substances for a spell get some applications out stay focused on good housekeeping and working out get your mind and body right and then get r dun brohan take that to the bank 

 

[McGarnicle]

Is Rock Bottom Brewery still around? I used to love that place.

 

[fantasycurse42]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-3CmKofKTU

Good track.

 

[KCitons]

Why would everyone hate you for hitting on someone.  That's de rigeur in the hospitality industry.

You probably should be looking for a job with benefits anyway so you can get some medical insurance.  Hold on to this one in the meantime, though.  #### 'em if they're going to be bent at you for trying to snag some trim.  Bunch of hypocrites.

That's what he was doing when he was hitting on the co worker.

 

[Otis]

I wonder if instead of tending to a 70 page thread, if you devoted that time to job hunting and not whining so much, what would happen?

 

[Skipdog77]

When did I say drunk driving is cool?

Pretty much every time you do it?

 

[RokNRole]

Pretty much every time you do it?

That was a couple of times a few weeks ago

 

[Skipdog77]

I'm not even going to go in to all the reasons why not

Excuse-ometer down?

 

[Skipdog77]

That was a couple of times a few weeks ago

...and that didn't feel like rock bottom?

 

[RokNRole]

...and that didn't feel like rock bottom?

Idk. It didn't help me feel any better about myself.

 

[Skipdog77]

Idk. It didn't help me feel any better about myself.

It's up to you to make the changes you want, my man.  It's not easy, but it's achievable if you really want it.  Small steps.  But you gotta start somewhere. The longest journey begins with one step, yadda yadda yadda. 

Pretty much everything everyone has tried to help you with in here. 

Good luck. 

 

[belljr]

 

[RokNRole]

It's up to you to make the changes you want, my man.  It's not easy, but it's achievable if you really want it.  Small steps.  But you gotta start somewhere. The longest journey begins with one step, yadda yadda yadda. 

Pretty much everything everyone has tried to help you with in here. 

Good luck. 

Most people don't understand how difficult that first step is when you are severely depressed. They just label me a baby or troll.

 

[SWC]

i think most people just want you to take that first step instead of repeating how hard it is and not doing it take that to the bank brohan 

 

[jvdesigns2002]

First of all--Good luck with everything.  Secondly--I don't care what industry that you work in--hitting on a co-worker is something that should be avoided.   Period.  Even in the hospitality industry where some would argue that it might be a bit more acceptable--it's still questionable at best--and you should only start with minor playful flirts only if you are clearly invited to do so.  The fact that word about what you did spread around your workplace and nobody likes you there is a clear indication that you crossed the line.  

Secondly--sometimes--the best love is tough love--and I've been very guilty of presenting my advice to you in a tough love way.   This is not going to change now.   You really need to get help man.  I said earlier that I had a sister that almost died because of addiction issues that led her to make very self destructive decisions.   The one thing that you had going for you was a steady paycheck at a job that you were actually starting to like.  You managed to ruin that by caring about your junk more than you did about your brain and mental state.  Seriously man--you cannot put your issues on the back burner.  All the effort that you put into getting laid should be used to get yourself right.   I assure you that you will get a lot more tail in the future as a person that makes good decisions, is not an addict, and that is more successful ---because of all of those things.   For real man--stop getting in your own way and start taking yourself seriously.  

If you still have the job--you need to go up to the woman that you flirted with and clearly apologize and tell her that what you said/did was completely out of line --and that she shouldn't have to tolerate it in her workplace--and that you will not let it happen again.     If things are awkward beyond repair--start applying to new jobs,  because the more time that you have on your own---the more you can be self destructive. You need to be busy doing productive things--making money through working, going to AA meetings, or seeking free/inexpensive mental health from a professional.  This is not about being weak or being strong--its about being smart and about doing what's right.  Stop convincing yourself otherwise.  

 

[Vanilla Guerrilla]

...and that didn't feel like rock bottom?

Waiting to hit Roc(NRole) bottom.  That's where you get the best motivation.

 

[RokNRole]

First of all--Good luck with everything.  Secondly--I don't care what industry that you work in--hitting on a co-worker is something that should be avoided.   Period.  Even in the hospitality industry where some would argue that it might be a bit more acceptable--it's still questionable at best--and you should only start with minor playful flirts only if you are clearly invited to do so.  The fact that word about what you did spread around your workplace and nobody likes you there is a clear indication that you crossed the line.  

Secondly--sometimes--the best love is tough love--and I've been very guilty of presenting my advice to you in a tough love way.   This is not going to change now.   You really need to get help man.  I said earlier that I had a sister that almost died because of addiction issues that led her to make very self destructive decisions.   The one thing that you had going for you was a steady paycheck at a job that you were actually starting to like.  You managed to ruin that by caring about your junk more than you did about your brain and mental state.  Seriously man--you cannot put your issues on the back burner.  All the effort that you put into getting laid should be used to get yourself right.   I assure you that you will get a lot more tail in the future as a person that makes good decisions, is not an addict, and that is more successful ---because of all of those things.   For real man--stop getting in your own way and start taking yourself seriously.  

If you still have the job--you need to go up to the woman that you flirted with and clearly apologize and tell her that what you said/did was completely out of line --and that she shouldn't have to tolerate it in her workplace--and that you will not let it happen again.     If things are awkward beyond repair--start applying to new jobs,  because the more time that you have on your own---the more you can be self destructive. You need to be busy doing productive things--making money through working, going to AA meetings, or seeking free/inexpensive mental health from a professional.  This is not about being weak or being strong--its about being smart and about doing what's right.  Stop convincing yourself otherwise.  

I did apologize to her but she didn't tell anyone I apologized. I asked her to do so last night because I can tell some people are acting different towards me. She said she would do so.

 

[RokNRole]

First of all--Good luck with everything.  Secondly--I don't care what industry that you work in--hitting on a co-worker is something that should be avoided.   Period.  Even in the hospitality industry where some would argue that it might be a bit more acceptable--it's still questionable at best--and you should only start with minor playful flirts only if you are clearly invited to do so.  The fact that word about what you did spread around your workplace and nobody likes you there is a clear indication that you crossed the line.  

Secondly--sometimes--the best love is tough love--and I've been very guilty of presenting my advice to you in a tough love way.   This is not going to change now.   You really need to get help man.  I said earlier that I had a sister that almost died because of addiction issues that led her to make very self destructive decisions.   The one thing that you had going for you was a steady paycheck at a job that you were actually starting to like.  You managed to ruin that by caring about your junk more than you did about your brain and mental state.  Seriously man--you cannot put your issues on the back burner.  All the effort that you put into getting laid should be used to get yourself right.   I assure you that you will get a lot more tail in the future as a person that makes good decisions, is not an addict, and that is more successful ---because of all of those things.   For real man--stop getting in your own way and start taking yourself seriously.  

If you still have the job--you need to go up to the woman that you flirted with and clearly apologize and tell her that what you said/did was completely out of line --and that she shouldn't have to tolerate it in her workplace--and that you will not let it happen again.     If things are awkward beyond repair--start applying to new jobs,  because the more time that you have on your own---the more you can be self destructive. You need to be busy doing productive things--making money through working, going to AA meetings, or seeking free/inexpensive mental health from a professional.  This is not about being weak or being strong--its about being smart and about doing what's right.  Stop convincing yourself otherwise.  

My sister has never had this issue and I never said she did.

This happens a lot. I'm constantly being accused of saying things I didn't say.

 

[RokNRole]

First of all--Good luck with everything.  Secondly--I don't care what industry that you work in--hitting on a co-worker is something that should be avoided.   Period.  Even in the hospitality industry where some would argue that it might be a bit more acceptable--it's still questionable at best--and you should only start with minor playful flirts only if you are clearly invited to do so.  The fact that word about what you did spread around your workplace and nobody likes you there is a clear indication that you crossed the line.  

Secondly--sometimes--the best love is tough love--and I've been very guilty of presenting my advice to you in a tough love way.   This is not going to change now.   You really need to get help man.  I said earlier that I had a sister that almost died because of addiction issues that led her to make very self destructive decisions.   The one thing that you had going for you was a steady paycheck at a job that you were actually starting to like.  You managed to ruin that by caring about your junk more than you did about your brain and mental state.  Seriously man--you cannot put your issues on the back burner.  All the effort that you put into getting laid should be used to get yourself right.   I assure you that you will get a lot more tail in the future as a person that makes good decisions, is not an addict, and that is more successful ---because of all of those things.   For real man--stop getting in your own way and start taking yourself seriously.  

If you still have the job--you need to go up to the woman that you flirted with and clearly apologize and tell her that what you said/did was completely out of line --and that she shouldn't have to tolerate it in her workplace--and that you will not let it happen again.     If things are awkward beyond repair--start applying to new jobs,  because the more time that you have on your own---the more you can be self destructive. You need to be busy doing productive things--making money through working, going to AA meetings, or seeking free/inexpensive mental health from a professional.  This is not about being weak or being strong--its about being smart and about doing what's right.  Stop convincing yourself otherwise.  

I'm not leaving this job immediately and I'm not getting fired. I'm going to wait and see if things smooth over.

 

[Galileo]

First of all--Good luck with everything.  Secondly--I don't care what industry that you work in--hitting on a co-worker is something that should be avoided.   Period.  Even in the hospitality industry where some would argue that it might be a bit more acceptable--it's still questionable at best--and you should only start with minor playful flirts only if you are clearly invited to do so.  The fact that word about what you did spread around your workplace and nobody likes you there is a clear indication that you crossed the line.  

Heck, I married a co-worker

 

[jvdesigns2002]

Heck, I married a co-worker

The ends don't always justify the means my man.  I assure you that for every success story like yours--there are plenty of work place failures, terminations and lawsuits as a result of inappropriate flirting at the workplace.   With that being said--congrats on things working out for you.   

 

[jvdesigns2002]

My sister has never had this issue and I never said she did.

This happens a lot. I'm constantly being accused of saying things I didn't say.

I never said anything about your sister or inferred that you said anything about your sister. I said that I had a sister that almost died due to drug addiction and self destructive behavior.  

 

[RokNRole]

I never said anything about your sister or inferred that you said anything about your sister. I said that I had a sister that almost died due to drug addiction and self destructive behavior.  

My bad.

im still a little hungover

 

[Statorama]

The ends don't always justify the means my man.  I assure you that for every success story like yours--there are plenty of work place failures, terminations and lawsuits as a result of inappropriate flirting at the workplace.   With that being said--congrats on things working out for you.   

Lots of pressure that first time too...if you're a pasta noodle down there when you try to plant the flag word will get around to that cute Latina in the mailroom you've had your eye on

 

[Grace Under Pressure]

Put me in the Crazy Ivan camp as well.

 

[Conanthecontrarian]

I did apologize to her but she didn't tell anyone I apologized. I asked her to do so last night because I can tell some people are acting different towards me. She said she would do so.

so this "everybody hates me because I hit on a co-worker" could just all be in your head. nobody has said or done anything, you just think they are acting different towards you.

crazy thought, but do you think you might be overeacting to the situation by saying "you gotta find a new job now"?

 

[Conanthecontrarian]

My bad.

im still a little hungover

still drinking to excess? nice move on your part!