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Then again Gecko isn't what he used to be.GordonGekko said:When Otis used to talk about the era before he met his current wife, he would talk about how he cheated on every last one of them. But that when he met his wife, it all changed, because she was the "hottest" or the premium of them all.I should've let whoever is running Gecko run with it for a bit.
Nothing kills threads faster than good news.
That's not a "character" change, that's a "circumstance" change.
Put Otis' wife in a massive car accident or some situation where she ends up 350 pounds or disfigured, and give it enough time, and that character will eventually pull through the mask. He'll be right back to cheating.
The "circumstance" is right now, his wife is young and nice looking and the envy of some people he knows. That circumstance might and does and could change. It wouldn't be the first time that someone with a real problem with the concept of fidelity ended up trading in their old model for the newer shinier model a few years down the road.
Did your wife have a change in CHARACTER or did she have a change in CIRCUMSTANCE?
A change in character would be if there was no sweetheart job with big pay, and she suddenly stopped and said to herself that she had to start considering what was best for the kids, the marriage and the family unit. She would have sat down and talked to you, not blamed you for the situation. She would have put the kids first, not made herself the primary consideration when under duress.
What she got was a change in circumstance. And what if that new job situation doesn't work out. What if the one she has doesn't work out. What then?
What she has proven is when times were tough, things were under duress, when stress was up, she chose herself. Above you, above your marriage, above your kids. It's when a person is at their lowest, when they are struggling, when they are suffering, when they are in pain, that's when you see, by their actions, their character emerge.
It would be a "happy story" if she chose to do what was right for your marriage and your family when it was the hardest thing in the world for her to do. Not when she could finally support her spending habits and still feel validated by her social circle.
When those circumstances change, you will have to deal with her character again, but then her character was made clear the last time you two had to duke it out over money.
It's your life, your choice, but is this what you want to teach your kids?
How can you have love without respect? How can you have respect without a basic sense of dignity? That's what you are teaching them.
If you believe this is a happy ending, then I feel sorry for your children.
Probably for the best I stepped in.