Son's friend always tries to hold his hands (1 Viewer)

[RokNRole]

how old?

they're 7. they aren't thinking of hand holding in remotely the same way as you are.

in kindergarten many kids are required to hold hands when lining up.. for the bathroom.. the bus.. lunch, etc.  

who ####### cares

This explains a lot about the direction our society is going.

 

[Quez]

My kid is a little younger (5) and all his friends want to hug him.  He never does it to the other kids, but Everytime I pick him up there are a few kids that want to hug him goodbye.  At soccer there were some kids that would hug each other, sometimes 3 at a time. and end up falling.  I don't know if it's them playing rough, or if it's normal...  All I know is my kid just stands there kind of akward like he isn't down with it.

 

[boots11234]

We're raising a bunch of beta males.  

 

[otb_lifer]

the marijuana (gateway drug) of physical encounters 

 

[Rick James]

how old?

they're 7. they aren't thinking of hand holding in remotely the same way as you are.

in kindergarten many kids are required to hold hands when lining up.. for the bathroom.. the bus.. lunch, etc.  

who ####### cares

i mean his son cares

 

[Boston]

how old?

they're 7. they aren't thinking of hand holding in remotely the same way as you are.

in kindergarten many kids are required to hold hands when lining up.. for the bathroom.. the bus.. lunch, etc.  

who ####### cares

There is a big difference between Kindergarten and being told by your teacher to hold hands for safety/organizational reasons and a second grade boy holding hands with another boy who wants no part of it... 

 

[wikkidpissah]

it's not you, it's me

 

[Doctor Detroit]

i don't think you can catch the gay at 7.  

 

[E-Z Glider]

I remember this episode..

The Beaver:  Gee, Wally! I don't like it when Bobby tries to hold my hand.  I mean... like, we're gonna be in the 3rd grade next year and people are looking at us all funny and stuff.

Wally: Oh, Beav!  Knock it off.  I think its kinda cute.

Eddie Haskell: C'mon Beav, we know you're really into it.  Maybe Bobby can dress up like the little queen he is..

Ward Cleaver:  That's enough boys.  Beaver, tell Bobby to keep his hands to himself or I'll punch his Dad in the throat.

June Cleaver:  And I can talk to his Mom too.  That's the respectful thing to do.  Well... this explains why Bobby is always so well dressed.

Ward Cleaver:  June, do you think I was too hard on the Beaver?

June Cleaver:  Don't flatter yourself, Big Boy.

Been saving this thread all day. Figured there had to be good stuff in here. This post saved it.  

 

[bagger]

My son is in the second grade. He became really good friends with this one kid. My wife told me months ago when they play in the schoolyard the kid tries to hold his hands. I think it makes my son uncomfortable because he always pulls his hand away. Today I witnessed it first hand. I was taking a walk to the store with both of them and multiple times he tried grabbing his hand. And both times my son pulled it away. I asked him about it later and he did admit it made him uncomfortable so my wife and I told him he should tell his friend next time he tries to do it that it makes him feel uncomfortable and nobody should make him feel like that. Anything else we should do? Talk to the parents or leave it alone for now?

Sorry for the weird thread. 

Talk to your son and even the kids parents. Our oldest son (1st grade) has a habit of doing that to his guy buddies and we constantly tell him it may make his friends feel uncomfortable. Think it is just a habit as he's a chill kid and we have a pretty loving family. We'd welcome the dialogue from another parent although who knows what this kids parents are like.

Not a big deal but if your son is uncomfortable he should definitely let his friend know.

 

[shadyridr]

i don't think you can catch the gay at 7.  

That was never my concern and in sorry if people thought that's what this thread was about

 

[Osaurus]

Is his friend Turkish?

 

[[icon]]

i don't think you can catch the gay at 7.  

....Now, NINE?.... whoa nelly.... don't even get me started. :blowsout:

 

 

[RokNRole]

That was never my concern and in sorry if people thought that's what this thread was about

What is the concern?

 

[Peyton Marino]

C'mon this isnt rocket science. Men speak better to men, women speak better to women. We communicate differently.

You know this to be true. Or at least not an idea from another universe.

buddy what are you talking about

 

[shadyridr]

What is the concern?

Someone making my son uncomfortable and him not voicing his feelings. We've rectified and he said he will tell him next time he does it.

 

[mr. furley]

http://fox11online.com/news/offbeat/ultrasound-shows-twin-babies-kissing-in-the-womb

please advice

 

[Higgs]

Age isnt the point.

The point is that someone is doing something physical that makes your kid uncomfortable. As a parent you need to encourage that speaking up and as a parent you need to back it up with action so the child knows that they feel protected when someone touches them inappropriately. Even something as simple as hand holding.

 Good advice.  I'd also give thought to mentioning it to the kid's parents.  Not in any type of accusatory manner mind you - just as an FYI.  If my kid were doing that I'd want to know.  Your call Shady.  Good luck. 

 

[sbonomo]

C'mon this isnt rocket science. Men speak better to men, women speak better to women. We communicate differently.

You know this to be true. Or at least not an idea from another universe.

Good luck with this one....wow. What do you do in your everyday life, wait for a male to serve you, hang up every time a women answer a call, etc?

 

[sbonomo]

We're raising a bunch of beta bottom males.  

fixed

 

[Osaurus]

http://fox11online.com/news/offbeat/ultrasound-shows-twin-babies-kissing-in-the-womb

please advice

Pouncey twins?