Split referral $ with new buyer? Sorry, no. (1 Viewer)

[PatsWillWin]

So you've never met or spoken with this woman. But you despise her enough that you would spite yourself and your MIL. And all she did was send a windfall your way. Is this accurate?

BUT SHE'S SKETCHY AND CHEAP!!! (Although I would ask how she could be considered "cheap" if she just gave the guy $100 for doing nothing.)

Asking for 1/2 of it much later...maybe "cheap" isn't the right word, but close enough.

Yeah "cheap" would be like if someone dropped $100 in your lap for nothing and you refused to split it with her because, we'll, you're cheap.She's tacky.

You're cheap. And petty.

 

[Dragons]

As you admit you did nothing, she did the work.

I don't get this line of thinking. He didn't do nothing, he bought his car there.

People who buy cars there do not get $100. People who buy cars there and refer others do.

He did nothing. He was gifted $100. Pay it forward, pay it back, whatever. But don't act like you're entitled to it and that someone else is tacky and cheap for having the creative thinking to get them both some money neither was entitled to.

 

[Willie Neslon]

As you admit you did nothing, she did the work.

I don't get this line of thinking. He didn't do nothing, he bought his car there.

People who buy cars there do not get $100. People who buy cars there and refer others do.

He did nothing. He was gifted $100. Pay it forward, pay it back, whatever. But don't act like you're entitled to it and that someone else is tacky and cheap for having the creative thinking to get them both some money neither was entitled to.

What creative thinking? How could she even even know there was a referral bonus? I'm guessing the dealer casually mentioned the referral fee and she took it upon herself to go through a third person to tell the original buyer that she wanted half of that money. She did nothing except put her friend in an awkward position to ask for money that wasn't hers to begin with.

 

[Dragons]

As you admit you did nothing, she did the work.

I don't get this line of thinking. He didn't do nothing, he bought his car there.

People who buy cars there do not get $100. People who buy cars there and refer others do.

He did nothing. He was gifted $100. Pay it forward, pay it back, whatever. But don't act like you're entitled to it and that someone else is tacky and cheap for having the creative thinking to get them both some money neither was entitled to.

What creative thinking? How could she even even know there was a referral bonus? I'm guessing the dealer casually mentioned the referral fee and she took it upon herself to go through a third person to tell the original buyer that she wanted half of that money. She did nothing except put her friend in an awkward position to ask for money that wasn't hers to begin with.

This might help close out some of the details.

I never mentioned to anyone that I could get $100 for a referral. I bought a car. My MIL must have mentioned it to this woman at some point. The woman is closing the deal and the salesman asks her if she knows of anyone who bought a car there because they could send them $100 referral bonus. She thinks that she also deserves something for simply mentioning my name. I get the check and tell my MIL. My MIL finds out afterward (as far as I know) that it was her friend and that she wants $50.

 

[Thunderlips]

I'm getting a Seinfeld/Bania "Nice Dinner for an Armani Suit" vibe from this lady. You do for people just to do. You don't always expect something out of it.The idea is that the OP gets the money for the referral...the dealership doesn't split the referral bonus with the person who does the referring.

To the OP, if the shoe were on the other foot, what would the lady do?

ETA: But to be fair, I'd have given her 50.00 without her even asking. That's doing back for the people who do for you.

 

[Willie Neslon]

As you admit you did nothing, she did the work.

I don't get this line of thinking. He didn't do nothing, he bought his car there.

People who buy cars there do not get $100. People who buy cars there and refer others do.

He did nothing. He was gifted $100. Pay it forward, pay it back, whatever. But don't act like you're entitled to it and that someone else is tacky and cheap for having the creative thinking to get them both some money neither was entitled to.

What creative thinking? How could she even even know there was a referral bonus? I'm guessing the dealer casually mentioned the referral fee and she took it upon herself to go through a third person to tell the original buyer that she wanted half of that money. She did nothing except put her friend in an awkward position to ask for money that wasn't hers to begin with.

This might help close out some of the details.

I never mentioned to anyone that I could get $100 for a referral. I bought a car. My MIL must have mentioned it to this woman at some point. The woman is closing the deal and the salesman asks her if she knows of anyone who bought a car there because they could send them $100 referral bonus. She thinks that she also deserves something for simply mentioning my name. I get the check and tell my MIL. My MIL finds out afterward (as far as I know) that it was her friend and that she wants $50.

Right. So the woman had no idea about the referral bonus until the dealer mentioned it. think about it from the woman's perspective for a second:

Imagine you need a new lawnmower. You tell your friend you're looking to buy a new mower. He tells you his daughter and her husband got a great deal at a certain store. You say great and go check it out. You walk into the store and tell the salesman that your friends daughter and son-in-law got a great deal on a mower. He shows you what they have. It really is a good deal and you buy a mower. The salesman rings you up and asks for the name of your friend's daughter and son-in-law because they get a $100 bonus for referring you. You tell him and leave the store with your new mower. When you get home you call your friend, tell him that you bought a mower at the place he told you about and you ask him to tell his daughter that she owes you fifty bucks from the referral bonus.

On what planet is that not obnoxious?

 

[Van Dyman]

MIL doesn't make sense. If she thought the friend was wrong to ask for half the money, then she would have simply told her friend "no way, you're being stupid" and you would have never even found out about it.

Car salesman doesn't make sense. He has a customer about to buy a car, who was not referred by anyone. So why go to this length (or any length) to find someone that he could send a referral bonus to?

Did I miss something somewhere?

 

[ILUVBEER99]

i always split referral money 50/50, it's agreed on beforehand so this situation is a bit different. i'd have no issue giving her half. She used your name to get the referral money, without that you'd have gotten zero.

 

[johnnycakes]

i always split referral money 50/50, it's agreed on beforehand so this situation is a bit different. i'd have no issue giving her half. She used your name to get the referral money, without that you'd have gotten zero.

I think he should charge her $50 for use of his name during the negotiations.

 

[NorvilleBarnes]

MIL doesn't make sense. If she thought the friend was wrong to ask for half the money, then she would have simply told her friend "no way, you're being stupid" and you would have never even found out about it.

Car salesman doesn't make sense. He has a customer about to buy a car, who was not referred by anyone. So why go to this length (or any length) to find someone that he could send a referral bonus to?

Did I miss something somewhere?

MIL friend is gaming the ref deal, Salesman is fine with it because a, it's not his money and b, he has at least a slim chance of getting more refs from dum-dum. MILf thinks dum-dum can't be as dum as he looks and will go along. Dum-dum acts like he just won the lottery and doesn't want to share. He'll just take the windfall to the Applebees bar where the bartender will comp him a tall drink when he orders a regular hoping he'll tip more. She too will be disappointed and go home a trade dum-dum stories with her boyfriend who sells cars and has a similar story.

 

[parasaurolophus]

I wouldgive the money to my MIL. If she wanted to pass it on, fine. My conscience would be clear.

 

[SHIZNITTTT]

In my line of work referral bonuses are the norm, over the years I have had some really nice bonuses. I 100% always give the referral bonus to the person who is hired, I don't have to give them anything, but usually they throw me 50% and everyone is happy.

 

[Mr.Pack]

As you admit you did nothing, she did the work.

I don't get this line of thinking. He didn't do nothing, he bought his car there.

People who buy cars there do not get $100. People who buy cars there and refer others do.

He did nothing. He was gifted $100. Pay it forward, pay it back, whatever. But don't act like you're entitled to it and that someone else is tacky and cheap for having the creative thinking to get them both some money neither was entitled to.

What creative thinking? How could she even even know there was a referral bonus? I'm guessing the dealer casually mentioned the referral fee and she took it upon herself to go through a third person to tell the original buyer that she wanted half of that money. She did nothing except put her friend in an awkward position to ask for money that wasn't hers to begin with.

This might help close out some of the details.

I never mentioned to anyone that I could get $100 for a referral. I bought a car. My MIL must have mentioned it to this woman at some point. The woman is closing the deal and the salesman asks her if she knows of anyone who bought a car there because they could send them $100 referral bonus. She thinks that she also deserves something for simply mentioning my name. I get the check and tell my MIL. My MIL finds out afterward (as far as I know) that it was her friend and that she wants $50.

Right. So the woman had no idea about the referral bonus until the dealer mentioned it. think about it from the woman's perspective for a second:

Imagine you need a new lawnmower. You tell your friend you're looking to buy a new mower. He tells you his daughter and her husband got a great deal at a certain store. You say great and go check it out. You walk into the store and tell the salesman that your friends daughter and son-in-law got a great deal on a mower. He shows you what they have. It really is a good deal and you buy a mower. The salesman rings you up and asks for the name of your friend's daughter and son-in-law because they get a $100 bonus for referring you. You tell him and leave the store with your new mower. When you get home you call your friend, tell him that you bought a mower at the place he told you about and you ask him to tell his daughter that she owes you fifty bucks from the referral bonus.

On what planet is that not obnoxious?

You are one great fisherman.

 

[Corporation]

MIL doesn't make sense. If she thought the friend was wrong to ask for half the money, then she would have simply told her friend "no way, you're being stupid" and you would have never even found out about it.

Car salesman doesn't make sense. He has a customer about to buy a car, who was not referred by anyone. So why go to this length (or any length) to find someone that he could send a referral bonus to?

Did I miss something somewhere?

MIL friend is gaming the ref deal, Salesman is fine with it because a, it's not his money and b, he has at least a slim chance of getting more refs from dum-dum. MILf thinks dum-dum can't be as dum as he looks and will go along. Dum-dum acts like he just won the lottery and doesn't want to share. He'll just take the windfall to the Applebees bar where the bartender will comp him a tall drink when he orders a regular hoping he'll tip more. She too will be disappointed and go home a trade dum-dum stories with her boyfriend who sells cars and has a similar story.

I doubt she's a MILF though.

 

[NorvilleBarnes]

MIL doesn't make sense. If she thought the friend was wrong to ask for half the money, then she would have simply told her friend "no way, you're being stupid" and you would have never even found out about it.

Car salesman doesn't make sense. He has a customer about to buy a car, who was not referred by anyone. So why go to this length (or any length) to find someone that he could send a referral bonus to?

Did I miss something somewhere?

MIL friend is gaming the ref deal, Salesman is fine with it because a, it's not his money and b, he has at least a slim chance of getting more refs from dum-dum. MILf thinks dum-dum can't be as dum as he looks and will go along. Dum-dum acts like he just won the lottery and doesn't want to share. He'll just take the windfall to the Applebees bar where the bartender will comp him a tall drink when he orders a regular hoping he'll tip more. She too will be disappointed and go home a trade dum-dum stories with her boyfriend who sells cars and has a similar story.

I doubt she's a MILF though.

Mother I'd Like to Friend

 

[Willie Neslon]

As you admit you did nothing, she did the work.

I don't get this line of thinking. He didn't do nothing, he bought his car there.

People who buy cars there do not get $100. People who buy cars there and refer others do.

He did nothing. He was gifted $100. Pay it forward, pay it back, whatever. But don't act like you're entitled to it and that someone else is tacky and cheap for having the creative thinking to get them both some money neither was entitled to.

What creative thinking? How could she even even know there was a referral bonus? I'm guessing the dealer casually mentioned the referral fee and she took it upon herself to go through a third person to tell the original buyer that she wanted half of that money. She did nothing except put her friend in an awkward position to ask for money that wasn't hers to begin with.

This might help close out some of the details.

I never mentioned to anyone that I could get $100 for a referral. I bought a car. My MIL must have mentioned it to this woman at some point. The woman is closing the deal and the salesman asks her if she knows of anyone who bought a car there because they could send them $100 referral bonus. She thinks that she also deserves something for simply mentioning my name. I get the check and tell my MIL. My MIL finds out afterward (as far as I know) that it was her friend and that she wants $50.

Right. So the woman had no idea about the referral bonus until the dealer mentioned it. think about it from the woman's perspective for a second:

Imagine you need a new lawnmower. You tell your friend you're looking to buy a new mower. He tells you his daughter and her husband got a great deal at a certain store. You say great and go check it out. You walk into the store and tell the salesman that your friends daughter and son-in-law got a great deal on a mower. He shows you what they have. It really is a good deal and you buy a mower. The salesman rings you up and asks for the name of your friend's daughter and son-in-law because they get a $100 bonus for referring you. You tell him and leave the store with your new mower. When you get home you call your friend, tell him that you bought a mower at the place he told you about and you ask him to tell his daughter that she owes you fifty bucks from the referral bonus.

On what planet is that not obnoxious?

You are one great fisherman.

How am i a fisherman? My example is different from the real story? Yes, it's only fifty bucks but who does what she did?

 

[jabarony]

The friend probably knew about the $, waited a few weeks expecting the OP to get his bonus and at least send along a "thank you" like a decent person would. However senor entitlement didn't deem that necessary, so now he's experiencing the brunt of the MIL n friend's old school wrath (deservedly so). Decorum-lacking chump proceeds to call out crotchety old bitty on message board.

 

[Mr.Pack]

As you admit you did nothing, she did the work.

I don't get this line of thinking. He didn't do nothing, he bought his car there.

People who buy cars there do not get $100. People who buy cars there and refer others do.

He did nothing. He was gifted $100. Pay it forward, pay it back, whatever. But don't act like you're entitled to it and that someone else is tacky and cheap for having the creative thinking to get them both some money neither was entitled to.

What creative thinking? How could she even even know there was a referral bonus? I'm guessing the dealer casually mentioned the referral fee and she took it upon herself to go through a third person to tell the original buyer that she wanted half of that money. She did nothing except put her friend in an awkward position to ask for money that wasn't hers to begin with.

This might help close out some of the details.

I never mentioned to anyone that I could get $100 for a referral. I bought a car. My MIL must have mentioned it to this woman at some point. The woman is closing the deal and the salesman asks her if she knows of anyone who bought a car there because they could send them $100 referral bonus. She thinks that she also deserves something for simply mentioning my name. I get the check and tell my MIL. My MIL finds out afterward (as far as I know) that it was her friend and that she wants $50.

Right. So the woman had no idea about the referral bonus until the dealer mentioned it. think about it from the woman's perspective for a second:

Imagine you need a new lawnmower. You tell your friend you're looking to buy a new mower. He tells you his daughter and her husband got a great deal at a certain store. You say great and go check it out. You walk into the store and tell the salesman that your friends daughter and son-in-law got a great deal on a mower. He shows you what they have. It really is a good deal and you buy a mower. The salesman rings you up and asks for the name of your friend's daughter and son-in-law because they get a $100 bonus for referring you. You tell him and leave the store with your new mower. When you get home you call your friend, tell him that you bought a mower at the place he told you about and you ask him to tell his daughter that she owes you fifty bucks from the referral bonus.

On what planet is that not obnoxious?

You are one great fisherman.

How am i a fisherman? My example is different from the real story? Yes, it's only fifty bucks but who does what she did?

 

[Willie Neslon]

As you admit you did nothing, she did the work.

I don't get this line of thinking. He didn't do nothing, he bought his car there.

People who buy cars there do not get $100. People who buy cars there and refer others do.

He did nothing. He was gifted $100. Pay it forward, pay it back, whatever. But don't act like you're entitled to it and that someone else is tacky and cheap for having the creative thinking to get them both some money neither was entitled to.

What creative thinking? How could she even even know there was a referral bonus? I'm guessing the dealer casually mentioned the referral fee and she took it upon herself to go through a third person to tell the original buyer that she wanted half of that money. She did nothing except put her friend in an awkward position to ask for money that wasn't hers to begin with.

This might help close out some of the details.

I never mentioned to anyone that I could get $100 for a referral. I bought a car. My MIL must have mentioned it to this woman at some point. The woman is closing the deal and the salesman asks her if she knows of anyone who bought a car there because they could send them $100 referral bonus. She thinks that she also deserves something for simply mentioning my name. I get the check and tell my MIL. My MIL finds out afterward (as far as I know) that it was her friend and that she wants $50.

Right. So the woman had no idea about the referral bonus until the dealer mentioned it. think about it from the woman's perspective for a second:

Imagine you need a new lawnmower. You tell your friend you're looking to buy a new mower. He tells you his daughter and her husband got a great deal at a certain store. You say great and go check it out. You walk into the store and tell the salesman that your friends daughter and son-in-law got a great deal on a mower. He shows you what they have. It really is a good deal and you buy a mower. The salesman rings you up and asks for the name of your friend's daughter and son-in-law because they get a $100 bonus for referring you. You tell him and leave the store with your new mower. When you get home you call your friend, tell him that you bought a mower at the place he told you about and you ask him to tell his daughter that she owes you fifty bucks from the referral bonus.

On what planet is that not obnoxious?

You are one great fisherman.

How am i a fisherman? My example is different from the real story? Yes, it's only fifty bucks but who does what she did?

I'm not. to think that what she did is acceptable is strange.

 

[flapgreen]

 

[Van Dyman]

MIL doesn't make sense. If she thought the friend was wrong to ask for half the money, then she would have simply told her friend "no way, you're being stupid" and you would have never even found out about it.

Car salesman doesn't make sense. He has a customer about to buy a car, who was not referred by anyone. So why go to this length (or any length) to find someone that he could send a referral bonus to?

Did I miss something somewhere?

MIL friend is gaming the ref deal, Salesman is fine with it because a, it's not his money and b, he has at least a slim chance of getting more refs from dum-dum. MILf thinks dum-dum can't be as dum as he looks and will go along. Dum-dum acts like he just won the lottery and doesn't want to share. He'll just take the windfall to the Applebees bar where the bartender will comp him a tall drink when he orders a regular hoping he'll tip more. She too will be disappointed and go home a trade dum-dum stories with her boyfriend who sells cars and has a similar story.

Now I have this stuck in my head. Thanks a lot.

 

[Ned]

Let's see if I understand the scenario correctly: You bought a car at the dealership and knew of the referral bonus but it wasn't worth your efforts to refer anyone. Your MIL's friend maybe likes your car and heads to the same dealership where she learns of the referral bonus program. So--when she buys the car she takes the initiative to get the bonus and places it in your name. I think you're way off base here and should not only give it to her but thank her for the fifty.

If the M-I-L (who is supposedly friends with this woman and knows her well) doesn't think he should give the $50. then why would he? The woman didn't bring up the $50 until after the topic was raised by the M-I-L. Under those circumstances I can see why he wouldn't give it.

Sounds to me like its very possible the lady mentioned it much earlier and the MIL forgot about it:A couple of days go by and my wife mentions it to her Mother. She then explains to us "Oh yeah, xxxx said you guys owe her $50. She told me she'd split the referral money with you."

When I told my MIL of the $100 she had no idea. It wasn't until at least a week later when she saw her friend again that her friend mentioned she wanted the $50. I imagine this woman almost demanded it, not simply asking.

You don't know this woman. Stop cooking #### up in your head to make yourself feel better about keeping the money.

 

[AAABatteries]

I thought the whole referral thing was always an implied 50/50 whether the person tells you ahead of time or not?

 

[renesauz]

As cheap as she is, you're worse.

You did nothing for the money. She did SOMETHING at least. Just give her the 50 bucks and be done with it.

 

[renesauz]

I'm getting a Seinfeld/Bania "Nice Dinner for an Armani Suit" vibe from this lady. You do for people just to do. You don't always expect something out of it.The idea is that the OP gets the money for the referral...the dealership doesn't split the referral bonus with the person who does the referring.

To the OP, if the shoe were on the other foot, what would the lady do?

ETA: But to be fair, I'd have given her 50.00 without her even asking. That's doing back for the people who do for you.

This. If someone gave my name as a referral and it netted me a check like that, I'd be happy to split it, even if they asked after the fact.

 

[renesauz]

The friend probably knew about the $, waited a few weeks expecting the OP to get his bonus and at least send along a "thank you" like a decent person would. However senor entitlement didn't deem that necessary, so now he's experiencing the brunt of the MIL n friend's old school wrath (deservedly so). Decorum-lacking chump proceeds to call out crotchety old bitty on message board.

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