Unexpected Roommates II (1 Viewer)

[[scooter]]

house is all filled up 

Ugh

"Ugh" is right.

I would just say, "Sorry, the house is full."

Don't throw his laziness back in his face. Let him learn that lesson on his own.

 

[AAABatteries]

One step forward, two steps back 

SIL didn’t have her lease renewed(has known for the past 4 months) and of course waited until the police were at the door to do anything about it 

now her high school aged son and and daughter have moved in with friends to make it through the school year, she has moved in with a friend, leaving the grandmother and oldest son homeless 

Now the oldest son is basically begging us to allow him to move in with us until he can find somewhere to live(no job)

Problem I have is that we once upon a time invited him to move in with us, with a couple stimulations, one either he has a job,  or two be enrolled at the local community college(this was 2 years ago)  Zippo, in two years since high school 

house is all filled up 

Ugh

Personally, I’d ask the SIL for the stimulations.

 

[Wrigley]

what has he been doing for the last year? 

I’m assuming he’s gotten very good at COD 

 

[Wrigley]

"Ugh" is right.

I would just say, "Sorry, the house is full."

Don't throw his laziness back in his face. Let him learn that lesson on his own.

This is what I want to do, but my wife is a huge softy 

I may just take him straight down to the Naval recruiter and ship him off 

 

[[scooter]]

"Ugh" is right.

I would just say, "Sorry, the house is full."

Don't throw his laziness back in his face. Let him learn that lesson on his own.

This is what I want to do, but my wife is a huge softy 

I may just take him straight down to the Naval recruiter and ship him off 

Ask your wife if she's going to wake his ### up every day to make him go look for a job.

 

[D-Day]

case of beer and she's yours(not even the good stuff)

Do I have to drink the whole case of beer to do her?

 

[Johnny Rock]

This is what I want to do, but my wife is a huge softy 

I may just take him straight down to the Naval recruiter and ship him off 

Tons of jobs available. He can live with a friend and get off his ###. Plus he had notice this was coming. Time to figure life out a bit. Sorry Mrs. Wrigley, no go. 

 

[comfortably numb]

Ugh, lesson to all the bf and gf.. you're not marrying just your spouse. Usually the farm come with it

 

[Wrigley]

Do I have to drink the whole case of beer to do her?

yes

 

[bucksoh]

Aren't you from ohio?  Don't recognize the bar!  Gl 

 

[NotSmart]

One step forward, two steps back 

SIL didn’t have her lease renewed(has known for the past 4 months) and of course waited until the police were at the door to do anything about it 

now her high school aged son and and daughter have moved in with friends to make it through the school year, she has moved in with a friend, leaving the grandmother and oldest son homeless 

Now the oldest son is basically begging us to allow him to move in with us until he can find somewhere to live(no job)

Problem I have is that we once upon a time invited him to move in with us, with a couple stimulations, one either he has a job,  or two be enrolled at the local community college(this was 2 years ago)  Zippo, in two years since high school 

house is all filled up 

Ugh

You're a good man Wrigley.

Best wishes that things get better.

 

[Binky The Doormat]

This is what I want to do, but my wife is a huge softy 

I may just take him straight down to the Naval recruiter and ship him off 

good luck with that ...it's a long process and they are pretty damn choosy these days.  

 

[SaintsInDome2006]

Old pic of SIL....I'll post a new one soon

Just for the sake of narration, who’s the one on the right?

 

[chet]

In the original thread, you say SIL's ex is a good guy but in the new thread you say he's abusive.  Same guy, I assume?  What happened?

GLLL

 

[Wrigley]

In the original thread, you say SIL's ex is a good guy but in the new thread you say he's abusive.  Same guy, I assume?  What happened?

GLLL

Her ex-husband took on the job of father after she left the biological father 

Both are nowhere to be found now 

 

[Wrigley]

Just for the sake of narration, who’s the one on the right?

SIL 

 

[SaintsInDome2006]

It sounds like you got two issues, the older nephew and the younger nephew?

- The older one - it sounds like you’ve got kids. They come way first. I’d just say no to the move in. But I’d take a shot at trying to find him a job offer, I mean anything anywhere. He can do that and get an apartment. Once you’ve done that you’ve done what you can do.

- The younger one with the GF - really I’d just try to establish some time with him before giving him life lessons. Take him to lunch or dinner a few times with your wife. Talk to him about other stuff. If he works in the GF then great.

I think family is family, so do what you can. GL.

 

[Wrigley]

good luck with that ...it's a long process and they are pretty damn choosy these days.  

Space Forces have to be taking people, right?

 

[Dezbelief]

It sounds like you got two issues, the older nephew and the younger nephew?

- The older one - it sounds like you’ve got kids. They come way first. I’d just say no to the move in. But I’d take a shot at trying to find him a job offer, I mean anything anywhere. He can do that and get an apartment. Once you’ve done that you’ve done what you can do.

- The younger one with the GF - really I’d just try to establish some time with him before giving him life lessons. Take him to lunch or dinner a few times with your wife. Talk to him about other stuff. If he works in the GF then great.

I think family is family, so do what you can. GL.

The thread is a year old and got updated. Two nephews but the issues above are the same kid.

What happened with the 15 yo gf, they still dating?

 

[SaintsInDome2006]

Lol sorry, sheesh ok. I thought there were three kids. How’s progress?

 

[Wrigley]

Lol sorry, sheesh ok. I thought there were three kids. How’s progress?

She has 3 kids, two still in HS(both have found friends to stay with through the school year) and an almost 20 yr old(whom wants to move in with us, wife and 3 young girls)

Problem is 20yr old doesn’t do anything, and is content playing the victim card to gain sympathy to continue doing nothing 

Wife believes that being around a more structured environment will help motivate him to get off his rump    I’m not so sure, as I’ve had numerous man-to-man conversations with him and he still has done nothing to better himself 

looks like my wife has relented, and is going to invite him over to talk about what we expect of him    Help with the girls, find a job, sign up for school  

This isn’t going to end well 

 

[Peak]

This isn’t going to end well 

GL!

I had my BIL move in with my wife and I for almost a year.  He was slow to get a job, and the one he did get wouldn't have paid enough to cover rent on a new place.  He was happy just to hang around and buy pizza once a week as a way to repay us ("Hey! I'll do dinner once a week as a thank you!"  )  I finally got my wife on board to have him move out once we had a kid on the way.  To this day he's still unmotivated and barely covering his rent - I think Mom/Dad is helping him financially.  I'm just glad he's out of my house, and I often use him as an example when my kids try to be lazy/unmotivated with schoolwork, chores, etc. 

 

[[scooter]]

She has 3 kids, two still in HS(both have found friends to stay with through the school year) and an almost 20 yr old(whom wants to move in with us, wife and 3 young girls)

Problem is 20yr old doesn’t do anything, and is content playing the victim card to gain sympathy to continue doing nothing 

Wife believes that being around a more structured environment will help motivate him to get off his rump    I’m not so sure, as I’ve had numerous man-to-man conversations with him and he still has done nothing to better himself 

looks like my wife has relented, and is going to invite him over to talk about what we expect of him    Help with the girls, find a job, sign up for school  

This isn’t going to end well 

Is your house really a structured environment?

 

[Wrigley]

Is your house really a structured environment?

My wife is nails, I’m the weak link 

 

[Dan Lambskin]

GL!

I had my BIL move in with my wife and I for almost a year.  He was slow to get a job, and the one he did get wouldn't have paid enough to cover rent on a new place.  He was happy just to hang around and buy pizza once a week as a way to repay us ("Hey! I'll do dinner once a week as a thank you!"  )  I finally got my wife on board to have him move out once we had a kid on the way.  To this day he's still unmotivated and barely covering his rent - I think Mom/Dad is helping him financially.  I'm just glad he's out of my house, and I often use him as an example when my kids try to be lazy/unmotivated with schoolwork, chores, etc. 

https://m.imgur.com/oL185FX?r

 

[SaintsInDome2006]

Wife believes that being around a more structured environment will help motivate him to get off his rump    I’m not so sure, as I’ve had numerous man-to-man conversations with him and he still has done nothing to better himself 

  looks like my wife has relented, and is going to invite him over to talk about what we expect of him    Help with the girls, find a job, sign up for school  

I’ll say this again. Try to line up a job for him. Call some friends or business or work contacts. Does he like anything? Just not bartending. Anything else would be good, but just put it to him.

 

[Wrigley]

I’ll say this again. Try to line up a job for him. Call some friends or business or work contacts. Does he like anything? Just not bartending. Anything else would be good, but just put it to him.

His mother was the bartender(and alcoholic) 

He has zero interests outside of airsoft and video games 

He’s talked of being a fireman, but has refused to take even the smallest steps to make this happen....he’s a great talker, action is what he is lacking 

I would have a really hard time backing him, knowing his lack of work ethic

 

[matuski]

I’ll say this again. Try to line up a job for him. Call some friends or business or work contacts. Does he like anything? Just not bartending. Anything else would be good, but just put it to him.

Why would you ever line up a person for a job knowing they won't hold up their end of the bargain?

 

[GroveDiesel]

If he moves in, tenant laws may kick in (even if he doesn't say rent), and it will be next to impossible to ever force him to leave if he doesn't want to.

 

[eoMMan]

I’m assuming he’s gotten very good at COD 

Dude, if he cooks well, bring him in!  Fish can be difficult.

 

[SaintsInDome2006]

Why would you ever line up a person for a job knowing they won't hold up their end of the bargain?

Trying to be positive and find a solution, besides the kid is never going to amount to anything and will end up like his Maw.

I'm just not one for no way out. But good luck to Wrigley, sincerely.

 

[Wrigley]

Trying to be positive and find a solution, besides the kid is never going to amount to anything and will end up like his Maw.

I'm just not one for no way out. But good luck to Wrigley, sincerely.

His mom is a piece of work, both nothing like his father who's over $100K in arrears for back child support.

Biological father really is a lazy waste of space

 

[matuski]

Trying to be positive and find a solution, besides the kid is never going to amount to anything and will end up like his Maw.

I'm just not one for no way out. But good luck to Wrigley, sincerely.

Granted, I made this mistake with my nephew.  Although I didn't know him this well.. got him an interview with a solid company, he was in by my name.  Never showed up for interview.  Set me back a ways with that manager.