Venting vs gossiping or backbiting (1 Viewer)

[dutch]

As it refers to talking to someone else about a third party, venting, imo, is a release or expression of frustration about someone while gossiping is more intentionally catty and bitey and often mean or nasty.

Am I right in these definitions and if so do I owe someone an apology for venting about them if they found out about it?

 

[Galileo]

What did you say about them and to whom?

 

[dutch]

As a for instance, if my coworker, Bill was pushing me to do something while I was currently tied up with something else and he just kept pushing me, am I in the wrong if I run into "Bob" in the break room and say "WTF is up with Bill, wont stop bugging?? Jesus christ?!?"

 

[dutch]

Now add in that Bill hears about this...

 

[lardonastick]

What grade is everyone in?

 

[dutch]

Believe it or not its adults, and she is pretty upset with me for venting to a mutual friend.  In fact, she is upset with both of us

 

[Galileo]

Believe it or not its adults, and she is pretty upset with me for venting to a mutual friend.  In fact, she is upset with both of us

Her name is Bill?  She's got bigger problems than you.

 

[Doctor Detroit]

Have sex with Bill’s wife IMO

 

[sbonomo]

Why don’t you let bill know that you are busy and you will address his/her concerns when you have time?  Or you can continue to be passive agressive and talk with coworkers that don’t have anything to do with the request.  

 

[Buckychudd]

Are you a woman?

 

[dgreen]

Backbiting? Is Marv Albert involved?

 

[gianmarco]

Please merge with "How old were you when you became a man" thread.

TIA.

 

[dgreen]

Are you a woman?

Is his/her name Bill?

 

[wikkidpissah]

For the first 30 years of my adulthood, i never apologized for anything, as a matter of policy. I was quite interestingly successful during this era, but was a bit of a carrier, of both mirth & misery, throughout. I have been a regular and positively prostratic apologizer for the 15 years since. It actually doesn't matter why, but i decided that apologizing - no matter how much or little fault existed - was an excellent way to remind myself that i had become humble enough to both truly master my world and be actually kind, the best thing a human can be. Apologize, if only for the exercise.

 

[Ignoramus]

As a for instance, if my coworker, Bill was pushing me to do something while I was currently tied up with something else and he just kept pushing me, am I in the wrong if I run into "Bob" in the break room and say "WTF is up with Bill, wont stop bugging?? Jesus christ?!?"

"Hey, thanks for letting me vent, Bob. Just kind of got worked up there."

Ingratiates you to Bob. Doesn't get back to Bill. Let's you vent. Win-win-win.

 

[sublimeone]

Apologize like this: Sally, I was just venting to Bob. It's nothing personal - I was just getting overwhelmed and sometimes it helps me process to talk to somebody. You know we're pals - please accept my apology. 

 

[nirad3]

Backbiting? Is Marv Albert involved?

YES!