What's new
Fantasy Football - Footballguys Forums

This is a sample guest message. Register a free account today to become a member! Once signed in, you'll be able to participate on this site by adding your own topics and posts, as well as connect with other members through your own private inbox!

What are your shortcomings? Specific lack of talent? Disability? (1 Viewer)

E

eoMMan

Footballguy
Where do you fall short? It could be something you can’t help or maybe something you simply don’t care to improve.

I could definitely be a better dancer but never cared enough to learn/practice.

:coffee:

 
fairly certain i have a learning disability and some form of dyslexia but never diagnosed. sometimes when i read i skip around all over the page and can't focus or recall where i was/left off. leaves me having read but not absorbed anything so i have to go over and over and over again to "get it".

 
Sing or anything musical.... Can't carry a tune even a little

Which is odd because I actually have rhythm

 
Last edited by a moderator:
Procrastination.

Like 90% of the problems in my life are because I just don't get stuff done when I have the time and put it off until the last minute.  I try to fight it but it has been a struggle my entire life.

My wife thinks it is because school was easy for me and since I didn't have to work hard or plan ahead then I developed bad habits.  Had a counselor once tell me it was a form of adrenaline addiction whereby I couldn't get myself motivated enough to do anything until the adrenaline from the panic of missing the deadline kicked in.  I think they are both partially right, but for whatever reason I kick the can down the road way too much.  I'm usually pretty good at the beginning of things and do my best work at the end but in the middle I just fizzle out.  The danger is that when things don't go smooth at the end and I actually do run out of time and miss deadlines.  It has literally cost me a job before and held me back in my career for 20 years now.

 
One thing I am not good at that I wish I was better at is construction/home repair or building things.  I can do simple tasks but anything larger than that I am not good at no matter how hard I try.  I am jealous of my little brother who is very good at it and has done some amazing things like completely remodel his basement.

That is part of the reason we built a new house instead of doing a remodel or buying one that needed some work.  I would really like to be able, but I have tried and it didn't turn out well.

 
Jayrod said:
Procrastination.

Like 90% of the problems in my life are because I just don't get stuff done when I have the time and put it off until the last minute.  I try to fight it but it has been a struggle my entire life.

My wife thinks it is because school was easy for me and since I didn't have to work hard or plan ahead then I developed bad habits.  Had a counselor once tell me it was a form of adrenaline addiction whereby I couldn't get myself motivated enough to do anything until the adrenaline from the panic of missing the deadline kicked in.  I think they are both partially right, but for whatever reason I kick the can down the road way too much.  I'm usually pretty good at the beginning of things and do my best work at the end but in the middle I just fizzle out.  The danger is that when things don't go smooth at the end and I actually do run out of time and miss deadlines.  It has literally cost me a job before and held me back in my career for 20 years now.
Click to expand...
Oh, and fighting.  Really not up to snuff in hand to hand combat at this point in my life.

 
1. I'm bad at staying in touch/being cognizant of people close to me. I let my work and hobbies sometimes overtake their priority. 

2. I'm genuinely horrible at basically any aspect of general manual labor (yardwork, any sort of handyman thing, cleaning around the house, etc.). For instance I've been fired at one job in my life and it was a landscaping summer job making minimum wage where my boss accused me of being lazy/intentionally screwing up when I was genuinely trying to explain to him my performance wasn't for lack of effort. Additionally, early on at least (she knows it now), my wife thought I was intentionally screwing up chores around the house to avoid doing them. 

3. I suck at art (drawing, music, etc.). 

 
Last edited by a moderator:
I'll go with disability, I could go on and on with things I'm not good at.

Severe claustrophobia is a major issue in my life. For most part it rarely ever comes up except with elevators which I avoid at all costs but that still has two big issues.

First one is a lot of places do not allow for stair access. Like pretty much any hotel in Vegas for starters. You can exit the stairs but you can't enter. So I may be willing to walk 15 flights of stairs but I can't even do that. This has led to things such as less traveling, seeking out of the way hotels with no elevators or calling ahead to see if they allow stair access,  less enjoyment when I do travel, issues keeping appointments with people both professionally and personally when elevator access is required.

Second one is just embarrassment. Can't tell you how many times I've been with a group of people where we are heading somewhere that requires elevators and all of sudden I have to make up some excuse and hope like hell I can get stair access so I can join them.

 
Pretty sure I have sports Tourettes.  Is that a thing? I'm the most calm, mild mannered person you would ever meet in normal daily life. Even in high stress situations. But put me in a competitive sports situation and I lose my #### to the point where it scares those around me. And it is never directed at others. Only at myself. But if I make a mistake I lose my #### and go complete lizard brain maniac screaming, cursing, etc. for just a few seconds. Then I feel better and move on to the next point, play, whatever. I've tried to stop. I can't.

 
Zow said:
I'm genuinely horrible at basically any aspect of general manual labor (yardwork, any sort of handyman thing, cleaning around the house, etc.). For instance I've been fired at one job in my life and it was a landscaping summer job making minimum wage where my boss accused me of being lazy/intentionally screwing up when I was genuinely trying to explain to him my performance wasn't for lack of effort. Additionally, early on at least (she knows it now), my wife thought I was intentionally screwing up chores around the house to avoid doing them. 
Click to expand...
I never got into Everybody Loves Raymond, but my wife was sure to share this episode with me sometime shortly after we started living together. If you're not familiar with it...just watch this scene and that'll be enough.

Obviously, I share this short coming with you. I'm okay in the yard, but there is a hard line in the sand with all things cleaning and handy man work. 

 
Zow said:
1. I'm bad at staying in touch/being cognizant of people close to me. I let my work and hobbies sometimes overtake their priority. 

2. I'm genuinely horrible at basically any aspect of general manual labor (yardwork, any sort of handyman thing, cleaning around the house, etc.). For instance I've been fired at one job in my life and it was a landscaping summer job making minimum wage where my boss accused me of being lazy/intentionally screwing up when I was genuinely trying to explain to him my performance wasn't for lack of effort. Additionally, early on at least (she knows it now), my wife thought I was intentionally screwing up chores around the house to avoid doing them. 

3. I suck at art (drawing, music, etc.). 
Click to expand...
Sure you are.  Well played.  

 
I'm growing hair everywhere, and I mean everywhere, on my body except where I want it to grow.   Nature is just effed up sometimes.  

 
menobrown said:
Second one is just embarrassment. Can't tell you how many times I've been with a group of people where we are heading somewhere that requires elevators and all of sudden I have to make up some excuse and hope like hell I can get stair access so I can join them.
Click to expand...
I'm not in your shoes, but I wouldn't be embarrassed if I were you.   That seems perfectly normal considering your disability.    If someone told me that, I wouldn't think oddly about that at all.   Heck I might even join you depending on how many flights we're talking.  Always good to burn off some calories.  

 
Last edited by a moderator:
NutterButter said:
Sure you are.  Well played.  
Click to expand...
You're not the first to say that, and of course I like the collateral benefit of being able to avoid these things now (my wife has zero expectations of me doing them provided I have zero problem with her paying somebody to do them), but I really, truly, am awful. I cannot build even the simplest set of drawers, I genuinely don't see smudges on mirrors, if the trash can is overflowing I didn't notice it, and those no chance of me mowing and edging a lawn where it looks even decently okay. 

 
NutterButter said:
I'm not in your shoes, but I wouldn't be embarrassed if I were you.   That seems perfectly normal considering your disability.    If someone told me that, I wouldn't think oddly about that at all.   Heck I might even join you depending on how many flights we're talking.  Always good to burn off some calories.  
Click to expand...
Same. If somebody say he had claustrophobia, I'd get it. Same with somebody not flying or going on a rollercoaster due to a fear of heights or whatever. 

 
Jayrod said:
Procrastination.

Like 90% of the problems in my life are because I just don't get stuff done when I have the time and put it off until the last minute.  I try to fight it but it has been a struggle my entire life.

My wife thinks it is because school was easy for me and since I didn't have to work hard or plan ahead then I developed bad habits.  Had a counselor once tell me it was a form of adrenaline addiction whereby I couldn't get myself motivated enough to do anything until the adrenaline from the panic of missing the deadline kicked in.  I think they are both partially right, but for whatever reason I kick the can down the road way too much.  I'm usually pretty good at the beginning of things and do my best work at the end but in the middle I just fizzle out.  The danger is that when things don't go smooth at the end and I actually do run out of time and miss deadlines.  It has literally cost me a job before and held me back in my career for 20 years now.
Click to expand...


my weak point is that I care too much ...and work too hard.

 
i have a hard time caring about anything, l mean, i just don’t care.  concerned with me and mine, otherwise, light yourself on fire, i hardly care.

 
Generally speaking.....I lack self-confidence and tend to be very negative. Tends to manifest itself in certain sports (I get down on myself WAY too easily on the golf course) and social situations. I'm not great at talking to strangers and tend to assume the worst when someone doesn't immediately warm up to me (think I did something wrong or said something wrong)

Also....I'm a horrendous dancer. Everyone in my family has natural rhythm but I'm a total goof out there. Thankfully I mostly get over this after like 3-4 drinks at a wedding. 

 
TLEF316 said:
Also....I'm a horrendous dancer. Everyone in my family has natural rhythm but I'm a total goof out there. Thankfully I mostly get over this after like 3-4 drinks at a wedding. 
Click to expand...
Love dancing at weddings.  I probably look ridiculous but I could care less.  I wish I had more weddings to go to.  

 
1. Anything involving skilled or semi-skilled manual labor.  I'm one of those people who has to hire somebody to install a light fixture, for example.  My dad is great at this sort of stuff, but I did not inherit that particular gene.

2. Not sure if it's really a shortcoming or not, but I'm highly introverted and I simply refuse to engage in the kind of networking that would have been necessary to propel my career further than it went.  But that's okay, because I wouldn't be a good fit for positions that require networking to get.  That's a good screening tool to sort for extroversion.  

 
Terrible handwriting.  I mean....it's worse than my 6 year old twins.  I can't really draw very well either. Pictionary with me is like riding in a car driven by Stevie Wonder. 

I'd characterize my ambition and drive as very low-T.  I work maybe 5 hours a day and make what I make.  I could hustle and make a LOT more, but I don't.....care.  

I really like my sleep.  I'm up by 630 for work and 7ish on weekends, but I rarely see north of 10pm.  

I drink way too much, but I'm getting better coming out of Covid.  I didn't handle lockdown well and let my lack of impulse control steer the wheel too many times.  Made some adjustments, exercising a lot more, playing a ton of disc golf, still coaching soccer, hiking, camping etc so staying busy = drinking less.  

Awful dancer too.  But like Karoke - which I love - I just let it loose.  I suck.  But I enjoy it.

I'd hate to know why my wife really thinks of my sexual prowess.  If it's anything like my dancing or work ethic, well......just lie to me. 

I am way too sensitive and that can cause challenges in my relationships. I can be a handful for family and friends.  But, I'm aware of it and working in it too.  

I type too much to get my point across.  I take too long to tell stories. My emails are way toooooo long.

 
  • Like others, I'm the opposite of handy (footy?) My wife is way better at some of that stuff than I am. Fortunately, we live in a condo, not a house, so there's not as much for me to do and we have a super. And God forbid I should ever try to fix anything on my car.
  • I'm a "time optimist", which is another way of saying I'm constantly late for things
  • I'm probably undiagnosed ADHD. I get very easily distracted, and the past couple years of Zoom calls and such probably hasn't helped
 
I have no patience for stupid/unhelpful people and don't feel compelled to pretend to be nice to them.

Every year I get worse at golf.   

 
General Malaise said:
I really like my sleep.  I'm up by 630 for work and 7ish on weekends, but I rarely see north of 10pm.  
Click to expand...
Most brain studies would indicate that (long term) this is a strength, not a weakness. I'm envious. A consistent sleep schedule like that would be a benefit in so many ways imo.

Just as a follow up, what single hour of the day do you consider your most productive? Assuming some level of variance of course.

 
BoltBacker said:
Most brain studies would indicate that (long term) this is a strength, not a weakness. I'm envious. A consistent sleep schedule like that would be a benefit in so many ways imo.

Just as a follow up, what single hour of the day do you consider your most productive? Assuming some level of variance of course.
Click to expand...
Oh my God, I forgot that bedtime procrastination is absolutely one of my worst qualities. I even started a whole thread about it here a few months ago. The goal was that talking about it would inspire me to be more aware of it. Hasn't helped at all.

 
Impatience and highly critical/judgemental at times.

My wife is the sweetest, most patient and non-judgemental person I’ve ever known, so she definitely provides a role model to clean up my act.

 
Ron Swanson said:
Pretty sure I have sports Tourettes.  Is that a thing? I'm the most calm, mild mannered person you would ever meet in normal daily life. Even in high stress situations. But put me in a competitive sports situation and I lose my #### to the point where it scares those around me. And it is never directed at others. Only at myself. But if I make a mistake I lose my #### and go complete lizard brain maniac screaming, cursing, etc. for just a few seconds. Then I feel better and move on to the next point, play, whatever. I've tried to stop. I can't.
Click to expand...
This is me too 100%.  My wife and I have been together for coming up on 20 yrs, she says the only time I ever yell is at the TV for sports or at myself while doing something competitive.  
 

I’m also maybe the worlds worst speller.  It’s bad enough that my 7 yr old knows not to ask me how to spell something.  

 
menobrown said:
I'll go with disability, I could go on and on with things I'm not good at.

Severe claustrophobia is a major issue in my life. For most part it rarely ever comes up except with elevators which I avoid at all costs but that still has two big issues.

First one is a lot of places do not allow for stair access. Like pretty much any hotel in Vegas for starters. You can exit the stairs but you can't enter. So I may be willing to walk 15 flights of stairs but I can't even do that. This has led to things such as less traveling, seeking out of the way hotels with no elevators or calling ahead to see if they allow stair access,  less enjoyment when I do travel, issues keeping appointments with people both professionally and personally when elevator access is required.

Second one is just embarrassment. Can't tell you how many times I've been with a group of people where we are heading somewhere that requires elevators and all of sudden I have to make up some excuse and hope like hell I can get stair access so I can join them.
Click to expand...
Not claustrophobic, but I also avoid elevators. You’re absolutely right that access to stairways is often limited, with exit stairwells in particular being blocked, or leading to employee only areas. It’s sometimes fun to explore the bowels of hotels, etc., but really sucks when you have to ascend back up multiple flights when the exit is locked.

I don’t make up excuses for opting out of elevators, just explain I prefer the exercise when I break away to take the stairs.

 
Oh gosh.  I have soo many.  Terrible dancer, can’t sing,  my handwriting is nice when I take my time—but I have a bad habit of scribbling, improving my body flexibility in general (while I grew up playing basketball, tennis and other sports—I never really stretched beforehand—as I get older—I wish I would have).  I also have some claustrophobia. I think in terms of mentally/emotionally—I probably care too much about what others think—and I tend to take things too personally. Even though I’m aware of this—and legit have gotten better at handling it—-I still have lots of room to improve. My diet can also use improvement.  I like sweets. I walk 20-25k steps a day—but if i coupled that with better diet and nutrition—I feel like my health would definitely go up a few notches.  

 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

Joe Bryant
5 Practices For A New Year
Replies
0
Views
269
Joe Bryant
Joe Bryant
Joe Bryant
A Glimpse of Beauty In an Ugly Place
Replies
0
Views
229
Joe Bryant
Joe Bryant
BobbyLayne
Yes, Gen Z is staring at you. The question is why.
2
Replies
77
Views
2K
QUEZILLA
Q

Users who are viewing this thread

Total: 1 (members: 0, guests: 1)
Back
Top