In my work life, I do like the advice of "it's easier to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission."
Don't get married. If you do get married, have a pre-nup.
*In retrospect, I should have listened.
Works well in all facets of life in my opinion. Works with my students, works with my wife. “I statements” would be the technical term. Good advice.My old boss on managing people .. "Don't tell employees what to do, instead ask them for their help"
Been doing it ever since.
Thats because it’s OK to be racist to white people now. It’s even encouraged.
I got involutarilily caught in the similar "Your incompetence is not my emergency".
In a similar vein is the message from Mr. Rogers, as reemphasized by Tom Hanks -- WAIT (Why Am I Talking?) There's much to be said to shutting up and listening, or as you state, pausing to think first.I don't remember where I picked this one up at but somewhere along the way I learned "P.T.A." Pause, Think, Act. It changed my life and probably saved my marriage. I preach that acronym to anyone I've ever given advice to. Whether it be personally or professionally. Nothing good usually happens from reacting without thinking.
A mentality I've developed through the years has been: Never a problem; Always an opportunity. The solution might not be easy or enjoyable, but the opportunity always exists to resolve an issue; improve a situation; remove a burden.When you take your boss a problem, always take with it a solution.