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Why I rarely post in the FFA.... (2 Viewers)

Pickle Rody

Pickle Rody

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So, I've been a board member since '05 and was a lurking guest for a couple years prior. I joined the boards to participate in excellent football conversation with like minded fans in the SP. I noticed traffic was almost threefold (or more) here in the FFA and started hanging out once in a while. Back then there was a good chance I'd find a topic that interested me and I'd learn a thing or two about the world around me.

I believe, although not really sure (my recollection is foggy,) that I've started a total of 2 threads in the FFA (this would make 3.) One was about adults using baby wipes....I was chastised immediately that I should have done a search first as there was already a thread devoted to the subject. Later, I started a thread discussing my experiences with being charged with molesting my own daughter. That thread and the responses I received led me to believe that most posters in the FFA were really good people at heart.

Fast forward to today and I find myself feeling the opposite. There is so very much hatred and vitriol being spewed and flung about in nearly every thread it is disgusting. While I have been commenting (posting) a little more recently I almost always find myself hesitating for fear of being ridiculed or lambasted for having an opinion. Not because of my beliefs but because it seems to be (actually is) the status quo these days to rip somebody a new one just because you can.....bannings/suspensions be damned. This type of interaction and behaviour appears to be humorous to a lot of you.

This type of attitude has now filtered into the SP on a more regular basis. Very, very sad.

For those of you lamenting the decline of the FFA may I suggest turning your inquiries on yourself. "What have I done or said lately to indicate I'm trying to be excellent to others?" "What can I do to change peoples perceptions of myself and this board?"

The back-and-forth nastiness is disgusting. I don't know, maybe this place has turned a corner and is lost and cannot get back on track. Sure, the new board upgrade has driven some folks away but I would bet that the downright ugliness shown to others by many of you is a very major factor in the decline that has been noted recently.

This nastiness and ugliness and all-around non-excellence being displayed towards each other is the main reason I do not express my views here more often. Heck, I might surprise some of you folks with my opinions, beliefs and thoughts....but you'll never find out because I feel it's not worth my time to weed through all the other stuff. 

So, this is just one persons thoughts on the decline of the FFA and why/how it affects me.

Rody

 
Fat Drunk and Stupid said:
The thread you started, banging on people who were paying tribute to Shining Path was great.  Awesome example of how the FFA should be. :mellow:

ETA :https://forums.footballguys.com/forum/topic/477045-shining-path/
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Sure, I admit, I was wrong in my perceptions about it. And I had forgotten about that thread, hence my comment about not really being sure how many topics I had started here over the years. My apolgies to anyone I may have offended with that thread. I was not excellent to others when I posted that.

 
Cold Dead Hands said:
I prefer the thread you started where you burned down your friend's house.
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Wasn't a friends house, was a house our painting crew left used staining rags behind in. But hey, that thread was more of a public service announcement than anything.

 
Cliff Clavin said:
Complaints about nastiness and ugliness from a Philly fan :lol:
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Not complaining at all, just stating my reasons for lack of involvement/participation here in the FFA. If you guys don't care why I feel this way it's okay with me. Just thought I'd share. 

Why does being an Eagles fan have anything to do with my comments. You don't know me. Seems absurd to lump me in with your general perception of Eagles fans as I've never complained about the usual stuff you hear about our fans.

 
seems relatively easy to avoid the vitriolic, bashing, bickering in here. unless you want to talk about religion or politics.

 
Ruffrodys05 said:
Any other topics I started that I cannot remember?
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I don't know about that but didn't you and I have a dustup about something some years back? College amateurism, maybe? For some reason I don't think I like you very much. But you know what they say, memory is the second thing to go.

Wait! Were you in the Mid-Atlantic FBG FF Leeg? Maybe we're good buddies! I forget which.

 
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You know, I always wondered why Ruffrodys05 wasn't more involved here in the FFA.  It made me kind of sad.  Now I'm even more sad to learn that it was our own damn fault. :(

 
roadkill1292 said:
I don't know about that but didn't you and I have a dustup about something some years back? College amateurism, maybe? For some reason I don't think I like you very much. But you know what they say, memory is the second thing to go.
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Sorry roadkill, I honestly don't remember ever getting into a dustup with you. Quite frankly I generally enjoy reading your posts and don't have an opinion on whether I like you or not. You seem to be a generally good guy. 

 
Once you understand that "most" of the hatred and vitriol being thrown around is by aliases that are just here to troll you'll be a lot happier.  IF more people would just ignore them and not engage they wouldn't be as numerous.

 
Cliff Clavin said:
Flyer fans littering the ice on Monday with bracelets given to them in honor of the late Ed Snider.
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Yes, that was a pathetic display by those fans and completely despicable. I'm proud to say I'm not one of them. Not proud of their actions in the least and I'm ashamed that simply being a fan of the Eagles/Flyers seems to give others the freedom to lump me in with the few who are scum.

 
from your molestation accusation thread I just read:

Hugh Jass said:   "Damn! This is one of those threads where I wish we could fast forward about 5 years or 10 years to get an update. After all the crap you've been/continue to go through you need a happy ending. Promise you'll come back then!!

Best of luck to you...."

Let's get an update RR
 
Hov34 said:
Once you understand that "most" of the hatred and vitriol being thrown around is by aliases that are just here to troll you'll be a lot happier.  IF more people would just ignore them and not engage they wouldn't be as numerous.
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I do understand. My post has nothing to do with my happiness.

 
You were charged with molesting your own daughter and had the balls to post it on a message board?  As innocent as I may be, I think I keep that to myself.   

 
cockroach said:
from your molestation accusation thread I just read:

Hugh Jass said:   "Damn! This is one of those threads where I wish we could fast forward about 5 years or 10 years to get an update. After all the crap you've been/continue to go through you need a happy ending. Promise you'll come back then!!

Best of luck to you...."

Let's get an update RR
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Sure.

My 23 yr. old son moved to Wisconsin in November and is working two jobs and loving life. He and I talk regularly. He is the only one I have contact with currently.

My (soon to be) 21 yr. old son is attending Temple University and I haven't spoken to him since 2009.

My (soon to be)17 yr. old daughter is attending a local prepatory school. She is very intelligent. Neither the ex nor I could afford to send her to this upscale school. She gained her scholarship through a local high school acceptance exam. Each year the prep school affords one female and one male from the local school system the opportunity to attend through an exam. She earned her way in. I am very proud of her. (I am very proud of them all, as most parents would be I suppose.) 

I hadn't spoken to her since '09 also, but in 2012/2013 we got together a couple times with the oldest also being present. At the time she indicated to me that she still felt I had done something terrible to hurt her back then. I chose not to try to influence her otherwise and just let her have her own feelings on it. We haven't spoken since. Through conversations with my oldest I know she is doing exceptionally well in school. 

I still hope to one day be closer to all my children. Time will tell.

As for me, I've put much of it behind me. There is a wonderful woman in my life right now. All is not rosey but I am happy.

 
Captain Cranks said:
You were charged with molesting your own daughter and had the balls to post it on a message board?  As innocent as I may be, I think I keep that to myself.   
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I had my reasons for discussing it here. The FFA came through for me then.

 
Ruffrodys05 said:
So, I've been a board member since '05 and was a lurking guest for a couple years prior. I joined the boards to participate in excellent football conversation with like minded fans in the SP. I noticed traffic was almost threefold (or more) here in the FFA and started hanging out once in a while. Back then there was a good chance I'd find a topic that interested me and I'd learn a thing or two about the world around me.

I believe, although not really sure (my recollection is foggy,) that I've started a total of 2 threads in the FFA (this would make 3.) One was about adults using baby wipes....I was chastised immediately that I should have done a search first as there was already a thread devoted to the subject. Later, I started a thread discussing my experiences with being charged with molesting my own daughter. That thread and the responses I received led me to believe that most posters in the FFA were really good people at heart.

Fast forward to today and I find myself feeling the opposite. There is so very much hatred and vitriol being spewed and flung about in nearly every thread it is disgusting. While I have been commenting (posting) a little more recently I almost always find myself hesitating for fear of being ridiculed or lambasted for having an opinion. Not because of my beliefs but because it seems to be (actually is) the status quo these days to rip somebody a new one just because you can.....bannings/suspensions be damned. This type of interaction and behaviour appears to be humorous to a lot of you.

This type of attitude has now filtered into the SP on a more regular basis. Very, very sad.

For those of you lamenting the decline of the FFA may I suggest turning your inquiries on yourself. "What have I done or said lately to indicate I'm trying to be excellent to others?" "What can I do to change peoples perceptions of myself and this board?"

The back-and-forth nastiness is disgusting. I don't know, maybe this place has turned a corner and is lost and cannot get back on track. Sure, the new board upgrade has driven some folks away but I would bet that the downright ugliness shown to others by many of you is a very major factor in the decline that has been noted recently.

This nastiness and ugliness and all-around non-excellence being displayed towards each other is the main reason I do not express my views here more often. Heck, I might surprise some of you folks with my opinions, beliefs and thoughts....but you'll never find out because I feel it's not worth my time to weed through all the other stuff. 

So, this is just one persons thoughts on the decline of the FFA and why/how it affects me.

Rody
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JB alias??

 
Swing 51 said:
From his comments in this thread I don't think he's much of a hockey fan. 
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I'm a huge Flyers fan. We ditched cable a year ago and I don't get the opportunity to watch games unless I head out to the local watering hole. I generally don't watch any sports but football at the bars. So I apologize, I didnt quite catch the bracelet comment or what it referred to. I am greatly disappointed in the Flyers postseason, but their play leading up to it didn't instill a lot of confidence that they would be able to get past the Caps.

 
Da Guru said:
JB alias??
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I admit, I have one alias that I set up back in '06 or something. I've never posted under it. I might be able to remember the password and give it a go. I think it's Eaters of the Dead. Should I out myself?

 
Ruffrodys05 said:
Sure.

My 23 yr. old son moved to Wisconsin in November and is working two jobs and loving life. He and I talk regularly. He is the only one I have contact with currently.

My (soon to be) 21 yr. old son is attending Temple University and I haven't spoken to him since 2009.

My (soon to be)17 yr. old daughter is attending a local prepatory school. She is very intelligent. Neither the ex nor I could afford to send her to this upscale school. She gained her scholarship through a local high school acceptance exam. Each year the prep school affords one female and one male from the local school system the opportunity to attend through an exam. She earned her way in. I am very proud of her. (I am very proud of them all, as most parents would be I suppose.) 

I hadn't spoken to her since '09 also, but in 2012/2013 we got together a couple times with the oldest also being present. At the time she indicated to me that she still felt I had done something terrible to hurt her back then. I chose not to try to influence her otherwise and just let her have her own feelings on it. We haven't spoken since. Through conversations with my oldest I know she is doing exceptionally well in school. 

I still hope to one day be closer to all my children. Time will tell.

As for me, I've put much of it behind me. There is a wonderful woman in my life right now. All is not rosey but I am happy.
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Damn, thanks.

Kind of bitter sweet with the lack of contact/relationship.  Sounds like they're all turning out okay though, so that's good.   BOL

 
Hi Rody.  I am in agreement with you here.  

I am also a long-time lurker that has been around from the cheatsheet.net days.  I used to check the FFA multiple times per hour and there were plenty of great, interesting topics.  I'd be curious to see how many page views I have contributed over the years.  I still glance the FFA a few times a day.  

Many of the older posters have left, the topics are less interesting, the replies have become more sarcastic and malicious, plus the new board upgrade format is loathed by seemingly all.  I find Reddit to have better content and discussion.

I look at the replies that your thread has received; case in point.  It's really too bad.  The FFA used to be awesome.

 
Nigel Tufnel said:
I think I got you confused with Ruffrodys03. 
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This type of post goes to the heart of my OP. Why do you feel the need to inject schtick into this thread? Are you purposely trying to prove my point? Why do you feel compelled to be specifically non-excellent?

 
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