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Wooing my neighbor: I came. I hugged. I wooed. Now moving on. (5 Viewers)

CurlyNight said:
Nothing is more entertaining than reading men's advice on how all woman really are esp when you hear many whine about how they don't understand women! lol :popcorn:
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I don't understand all women. I don't understand my wife much of the time.

That said, I am supremely confident the second hug is, at the very least, a universal sign of "I want more than a hug". 

 
CurlyNight said:
Nothing is more entertaining than reading men's advice on how all woman really are esp when you hear many whine about how they don't understand women! lol :popcorn:
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Just as there are plenty of differing opinions between the guys here on how the Colonel is playing this, there would likely be plenty of differing opinions between women...if there were more women on this site.

I don't think any guy here is taking up the mantle of *** official men's opinion ***.  I would hope no woman would take it upon herself to fill a similar role.

 
jwb said:
I don't understand all women. I don't understand my wife much of the time.

That said, I am supremely confident the second hug is, at the very least, a universal sign of "I want more than a hug". 
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.....And she will get more. I don't get the it had to be at that moment or all  is lost. Have to think that those saying that is schtick really..

 
So, hot woman, in your estimation, raises possibility of physical contact and then walks over to your door to provide an opportunity and you act the gentleman.  Not believing you could be so dense to have missed the obvious invitation she debases herself by reopening the door and taking the walk of submission back over to you and you give her a hug, nothing more.  On her walk back she was definitely thinking you were and are gay and oblivious. To her it was a walk of shame.  Twice she offered and you did not accept.  She is wondering right now about her desirability.  You have made her doubt herself.

You should have dented her pelvis with your turgid manroot, grinding it in.  Then, as the hug was breaking you should have grabbed her  and lifted her powerfully, forcefully, to draw her in for a kiss.  She would either have balked, and you would have information, or in my personal experience she would have been sucking in your tongue as she wrapped her legs around you.  That's when you tell her, "damn, I have to have you, when can we make this happen".

 
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Fatgirlinahousecoat: So, are you dashing next door for another hug tonight MLV?

The Randy #### Experience: She better be prepared to spend the night.

Big Steel Magnolia: Did you see the Hitler just found out Mona Lisa's neighbor is gay video?

Ministry of Labor Pain:  There's a sale on handbags at Nordstroms.  I expect a full update when I get back.

 
Ditkaless Wonders said:
So, hot woman, in your estimation raises possibility of physical contact and then walks over to your door to provide an opportunity and you act the gentleman.  Not believing you could be so dense to have missed the obvious invitation she debases herself by reopening the door and taking the walk of submission back over to you and you give her a hug, nothing more.  On her walk back she was definitely thinking you were and are gay and oblivious. to her it was a walk of shame.  Twice she offered and you did not accept.  She is wondering right now about her desirability.  You have made her doubt herself.

You should have dented her pelvis with your turgid manroot, grinding it in.  Then, as the hug was breaking you should have grabbed her  and lifted her powerfully, forcefully, to draw her in for a kiss.  She would either have balked, and you would have information, or in my personal experience she would have been sucking in your tongue as she wrapped her legs around you.  That's when you tell her, "damn, I have to have you, when can we make this happen".
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Pretty good band name here.  

 
pats3in4 said:
Just as there are plenty of differing opinions between the guys here on how the Colonel is playing this, there would likely be plenty of differing opinions between women...if there were more women on this site.

I don't think any guy here is taking up the mantle of *** official men's opinion ***.  I would hope no woman would take it upon herself to fill a similar role.
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You are correct. I'm not saying all women think like me. The two gals who have posted in here differ from me. We all are different. However taking in what we know about the situation, I don't think it's going to be that easy for him to blow it---and it's just plain hilarious how some of you who have whined about not understanding women are in here giving advice on us. Whether right or wrong, it is pretty funny.

 
Ray Karpis said:
Return the book you read that from.  That's Velveeta cheese...the whole "I just wanted to try it..."...just weird. 
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Look, he's not trying to nail a barfly. This is a delicate situation, think of the children. A slow, subtle approach is the best strategy. I'm sure you'll be the trusted voice when he's trying to figure out how to approach all the 60+ ladies at the nudist resort  ;)

 
CurlyNight said:
.....And she will get more. I don't get the it had to be at that moment or all  is lost. Have to think that those saying that is schtick really..
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I don't think all is lost. I do think this needs to be rectified, at least a bit.

There was interest. Now, if there were other men flirting with her, she may notice more instead of thinking "let's see where this goes first" (single mom or not, she's hot, and she gets hit on for sure). 

Not saying NRJ ever had exclusivity (or she had his). But this was going in a certain direction, and the second "just a hug" was a speed bump.    

Many of us were non-shtick-y in cheering his slow play, but a few of us have turned a bit on this specific second hug non-action. But I have faith - you don't get to be a Colonial and stand on that wall without some bullets dodged, and I have faith.   

 
Franknbeans said:
so in your opinion, when is all lost?
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When one doesn't want to associate with the other anymore? Certainly not because he didn't give her a kiss wherever at the second hug. lol While he'd love to be involved with her more than friends, he's fine if it doesn't go that way. This analysing all the moves and words the way some of you guys do in here has to be schtick?

 
cstu said:
Beta guys are the ones who have more kindness than confidence. They’re not nearly as assertive. They’re so passive as to be, well, almost feminine in nature. They are not going to put themselves on the line for rejection until it’s 100% clear that you like them. They would sooner wait to get a written notice in the mail that you’re really, truly interested in them than to follow up too much and potentially make you uncomfortable.
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I get it, You're an alpha male. You can beat your chest and stereotype me all you want with the bits of information I have chosen to share. I don't care, because you don't know me. I know that I'm kind, I'm confident, and I'm a great father to my kids. I know exactly what I bring to the table. I'm letting her know what I bring to the table while seeing what she, herself,  brings to the table. I'm willing to let it play out, rather than rush in, cause drama for my kids (and hers) over what would essentially be a fling if there weren't more substance there between us. I'm looking for more than a fling here. I don't know what it will be, but I like where it's headed so far.

I started this thread because I was genuinely not sure if the signs I was seeing (before all this really started) was interest, and I thought it might be fun to document. I did not start this thread because I needed help or advice on how to actually proceed with actions. That being said, I am open minded and I do appreciate outside perspectives and opinions, and I have read every single post in this thread. I'm blown away by the response rate here. I never thought people would really find this #### interesting. It's been pretty fun. 

Regardless of the steps, "slow play," or whatever else, I can't make it any clearer than this. 

 
DocHolliday said:
Congrats OP.  This hot woman wants you.  She initiated physical contact.  She came over to your house for two hugs.  There should have been more than hugging going on when she came back for that second hug but that has been beat to the ground already.  You are overthinking this.  Next time that you see her, kiss her and ask her out on a date already.  She is not holding back.  You are. 
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believe me when I say *I* am not overthinking this, GB

 
I'm telling you.....there is reason to hesitate here. Next door is great until she becomes fatal attraction. Remember the old saying, for every hot woman there is a guy somewhere happy to be rid of her.

 
ignore her statement of you initiating the next hug at your peril.

and it seems to me that there are some serious red flags that you're not sharing with us.  the personal issues, etc.  

 
Ditkaless Wonders said:
So, hot woman, in your estimation, raises possibility of physical contact and then walks over to your door to provide an opportunity and you act the gentleman.  Not believing you could be so dense to have missed the obvious invitation she debases herself by reopening the door and taking the walk of submission back over to you and you give her a hug, nothing more.  On her walk back she was definitely thinking you were and are gay and oblivious. To her it was a walk of shame.  Twice she offered and you did not accept.  She is wondering right now about her desirability.  You have made her doubt herself.

You should have dented her pelvis with your turgid manroot, grinding it in.  Then, as the hug was breaking you should have grabbed her  and lifted her powerfully, forcefully, to draw her in for a kiss.  She would either have balked, and you would have information, or in my personal experience she would have been sucking in your tongue as she wrapped her legs around you.  That's when you tell her, "damn, I have to have you, when can we make this happen".
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"El Fin".

 
This has probably been covered, but stay away.  You don't want an ex living next door. So, unless you end up getting married you'll be sorry. On the other hand, you'll also be sorry if you do end up getting married. Lose/lose  

Continue to be a great father, be single and sleep with women that don't live in the neighborhood. 

 
First time I've ever seen a neck tattoo today. 

Pretty hot girl I saw had the tattoo of the roman numeral number "2" on the back of her neck. 

Reminded me of this back of the neck tattoo girl that NRJ is chasing. Never saw one before. 

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
I get it, You're an alpha male. You can beat your chest and stereotype me all you want with the bits of information I have chosen to share. I don't care, because you don't know me. I know that I'm kind, I'm confident, and I'm a great father to my kids. I know exactly what I bring to the table. I'm letting her know what I bring to the table while seeing what she, herself,  brings to the table. I'm willing to let it play out, rather than rush in, cause drama for my kids (and hers) over what would essentially be a fling if there weren't more substance there between us. I'm looking for more than a fling here. I don't know what it will be, but I like where it's headed so far.

I started this thread because I was genuinely not sure if the signs I was seeing (before all this really started) was interest, and I thought it might be fun to document. I did not start this thread because I needed help or advice on how to actually proceed with actions. That being said, I am open minded and I do appreciate outside perspectives and opinions, and I have read every single post in this thread. I'm blown away by the response rate here. I never thought people would really find this #### interesting. It's been pretty fun. 

Regardless of the steps, "slow play," or whatever else, I can't make it any clearer than this. 
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Was a fan of all of it until hug #2. Still a fan, really.

But kiss her already, Colonel. Or at the very, very minimum, ask her on a real date. 

 
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Nathan R. Jessep said:
I get it, You're an alpha male. You can beat your chest and stereotype me all you want with the bits of information I have chosen to share. I don't care, because you don't know me. I know that I'm kind, I'm confident, and I'm a great father to my kids. I know exactly what I bring to the table. I'm letting her know what I bring to the table while seeing what she, herself,  brings to the table. I'm willing to let it play out, rather than rush in, cause drama for my kids (and hers) over what would essentially be a fling if there weren't more substance there between us. I'm looking for more than a fling here. I don't know what it will be, but I like where it's headed so far.

I started this thread because I was genuinely not sure if the signs I was seeing (before all this really started) was interest, and I thought it might be fun to document. I did not start this thread because I needed help or advice on how to actually proceed with actions. That being said, I am open minded and I do appreciate outside perspectives and opinions, and I have read every single post in this thread. I'm blown away by the response rate here. I never thought people would really find this #### interesting. It's been pretty fun. 

Regardless of the steps, "slow play," or whatever else, I can't make it any clearer than this. 
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I read this post like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aoMmbUmKN0E

 
[icon] said:
Do you think a woman coming back for a second "hug" doesn't want to be kissed? 


You guys keep talking about why the rush... First off this situation is in NO danger of even getting anywhere near "Rush" status anytime soon. :lol:

And why? Because she's practically begging him for some movement here. 
 
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She absolutely wanted to be kissed.  It doesn't mean he "messed up" by not doing it, but there is zero doubt about this. Z-freaking-oh.  Or Z-freaking-roh.  Whatever.  

 
I admire the Colonel. In a day of tinderbumblebeefacemymatchbox, we have an old-fashioned romantic gentlemen here. 

Well done, sir.  :thumbup:

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
I get it, You're an alpha male. You can beat your chest and stereotype me all you want with the bits of information I have chosen to share. I don't care, because you don't know me. I know that I'm kind, I'm confident, and I'm a great father to my kids. I know exactly what I bring to the table. I'm letting her know what I bring to the table while seeing what she, herself,  brings to the table. I'm willing to let it play out, rather than rush in, cause drama for my kids (and hers) over what would essentially be a fling if there weren't more substance there between us. I'm looking for more than a fling here. I don't know what it will be, but I like where it's headed so far.

I started this thread because I was genuinely not sure if the signs I was seeing (before all this really started) was interest, and I thought it might be fun to document. I did not start this thread because I needed help or advice on how to actually proceed with actions. That being said, I am open minded and I do appreciate outside perspectives and opinions, and I have read every single post in this thread. I'm blown away by the response rate here. I never thought people would really find this #### interesting. It's been pretty fun. 

Regardless of the steps, "slow play," or whatever else, I can't make it any clearer than this. 
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I'm honestly shocked it took 73 pages to pull out the alpha/beta shtick.  Way to set the meatheads straight, hugsy.  

 
Ditkaless Wonders said:
So, hot woman, in your estimation, raises possibility of physical contact and then walks over to your door to provide an opportunity and you act the gentleman.  Not believing you could be so dense to have missed the obvious invitation she debases herself by reopening the door and taking the walk of submission back over to you and you give her a hug, nothing more.  On her walk back she was definitely thinking you were and are gay and oblivious. To her it was a walk of shame.  Twice she offered and you did not accept.  She is wondering right now about her desirability.  You have made her doubt herself.
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You'll just have to trust me when I say that's not the case. She text me almost immediately when she got back inside and settled. 

Believe me, I was thinking about kissing her WHILE I was holding her in my arms, and as I have already stated once since the last big update, I was reading her body language and made the decision based strictly upon that, not upon her text message, as the repliers here are doing. 

The circumstances of what led up to the hugs in the first place (the first, and then more for the second) dictated some in the situation also. Again, not something that would be read here and figured into the decision, and I fully realize that. 

I understand to many, or all, it looks like I "denied" her, but it just didn't go down exactly like that. I realize there is also some blame to be placed upon the writers! ;)  

Thank you for the always thoughtful responses, DW. Preciate it, GB.

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
You'll just have to trust me when I say that's not the case. She text me almost immediately when she got back inside and settled. 

Believe me, I was thinking about kissing her WHILE I was holding her in my arms, and as I have already stated once since the last big update, I was reading her body language and made the decision based strictly upon that, not upon her text message, as the repliers here are doing. 

The circumstances of what led up to the hugs in the first place (the first, and then more for the second) dictated some in the situation also. Again, not something that would be read here and figured into the decision, and I fully realize that. 

I understand to many, or all, it looks like I "denied" her, but it just didn't go down exactly like that. I realize there is also some blame to be placed upon the writers! ;)  

Thank you for the always thoughtful responses, DW. Preciate it, GB.
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Love the absolutes and certainties in here... Are you sure you don't want to post what you are holding back?? ;)

 
Blind Tiger said:
This has probably been covered, but stay away.  You don't want an ex living next door. So, unless you end up getting married you'll be sorry. On the other hand, you'll also be sorry if you do end up getting married. Lose/lose  

Continue to be a great father, be single and sleep with women that don't live in the neighborhood. 
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It's a pretty good out actually. If things start to head south he can do the whole "hey I don't want things to be awkward as neighbors" shtick. She's used to be taken to Dumpsville so she'll agree, promise to see him around the neighborhood and then will get another neck tattoo, but this time with his name on it. 

 
NRJ I do like that you are not trying to play games or act like someone else with her. You mentioned you are putting it all on the table on what kind of guy you are. 

I did this after my divorce when I would meet girls. I didn't try to act like someone else or play games. I figured hell I am who I am and they can either like it or not. It worked out great I'm married to a great women now for 10 years. 

You go this.

 
Wooderson said:
NRJ I do like that you are not trying to play games or act like someone else with her. You mentioned you are putting it all on the table on what kind of guy you are. 

I did this after my divorce when I would meet girls. I didn't try to act like someone else or play games. I figured hell I am who I am and they can either like it or not. It worked out great I'm married to a great women now for 10 years. 

You go this.
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this is absolutely correct

I don't care if it's a ####### Saints t-shirt, hugging her and not kissing her because I didn't ####### feel like it, or whatever else, if one is not being himself, it's a setup for failure anyway you slice it. 

 
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