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#### YOU CANCER (1 Viewer)
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Evilgrin 72
Distributor of Pain
You have cancer? So sorry to hear that, man... hang in there.
shadyridr
Footballguy
My son is a cancer and my mom (ironically) also a cancer.Chemo is the worst. Really sucks. Prayers for you mom to get through this.
Koya
Footballguy
GL Shady. Its a horrible disease in its virulence and refusal to give up. My Fiance's grandparents (who essentially raised her) both are stricken to the point that they will miss our wedding in a couple weeks. A friend of mine lost both his parents over the last 10 years and he has been battling cancer himself now for the last 3 years (as of a few months ago it was not looking good, as of today prognosis is positive, but its a guarded optimism). He is 38.
The most important thing is to be there for those who are suffering, and understand and respect their choices - support them, love them, try to be strong but understand they know you are human and they know their pain hurts you as well. It's ok to show that at times.
The most important thing is to be there for those who are suffering, and understand and respect their choices - support them, love them, try to be strong but understand they know you are human and they know their pain hurts you as well. It's ok to show that at times.
mr roboto
Footballguy
My grandmother (she raised me 1/2 my life) died of leukemia 2 years ago yesterday. I was there for the end.She actually turned down chemo. She was terminal though. It would have given her another 1-2 years, but she didn't want to feel like #### for 1-2 years.Stupid f-ing disease.
JZilla
Footballguy
I lost my favorite uncle in '09 and now one of my best friends has been battling leukemia since the holidays. He'll be going in for a bone marrow transplant, hopefully, in a week or so.
Also, my grandfather's recently been diagnosed with lung cancer but he's been living on borrowed time for decades so I don't feel as bad.
Either way, for all the fake problems we ##### about around here ad nauseum, this is a real one that's really started to affect just about everybody. Suxor big time.
Also, my grandfather's recently been diagnosed with lung cancer but he's been living on borrowed time for decades so I don't feel as bad.
Either way, for all the fake problems we ##### about around here ad nauseum, this is a real one that's really started to affect just about everybody. Suxor big time.
wadegarrett
FFA Legend™
sorry to hear...hope it works out for your Mom
Idiot Boxer
Footballguy
Agreed. F you cancer.
** I feel the sentiment justified circumvention of the language filter.
** I feel the sentiment justified circumvention of the language filter.
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Evilgrin 72
Distributor of Pain
Sorry to hear it nevertheless. You just wish someone would find a cure already. Hang in there, GB.
mr roboto
Footballguy
Agreed. May Joe, on the eve of the great levitation, be especially forgiving.
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El Floppo
Footballguy
So sorry you're going through this, shady. I wish your mom a speedy recovery- t&p, gb.
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JZilla
Footballguy
I'd be curious as to how much modern living in general has actually affected cancer rates, and how. I've read bits and pieces and it sure seems like our diets and some other bad habits have been a huge contributor the past 50-100 years but nothing seems real certain. Anyway, I know I could be more careful, and a lot of us could pass better habits and knowledge onto our children.
Smack Tripper
Footballguy
I hear what you're saying, but every day is a gift, and be glad she's around to have bad days. In another time, she might have been gone by now. Focus on having here and around, and cancer frustrates because you really can never take any thing or any day for granted. But then again, maybe there are worse things in life then not taking things for granted.
shadyridr
Footballguy
I think thats all BS. The biggest contributor to the rising cancer rates is that people are living longer due to better technical advances in the medical world.
3 hour lunch
Footballguy
Sorry, shady....such a random, awful disease.
With all of the money being poured into research over the years, have we really gotten any better with treatment options? You'd think there would be some progress.
With all of the money being poured into research over the years, have we really gotten any better with treatment options? You'd think there would be some progress.
shadyridr
Footballguy
Maybe its just me but I find it hard to be glad for those days. But then again Ive always tended to have a difficulty looking at a glass half full. Im a very pessimistic/depressed person by nature.
mr roboto
Footballguy
I think what he means is that the 'bad days' mean she is alive, and will likely have at least some good days sprinkled in.When all the days are bad days, that's when I felt it was more desirable to have it over.
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JZilla
Footballguy
Yeah I don't know enough to argue one way or the other. I'd like to hear from somebody smart on the subject, not that you and I aren't Rhodes scholars. Not likely around here though.
shadyridr
Footballguy
In my Mom's case it appears the solution is always cut out all the cancer, have her suffer though pain from the operation, blast it with chemo, have her suffer with the side effects, have her iron counts go low, possibly get a transfusion, have her feel better for a few months, until tests show some more cancer, rinse, repeat, over the last 5 yrs (probably less but it seems like its been going on forever).
shadyridr
Footballguy
this is how I feel sometimes. Is that selfish?
Arizona Ron
Footballguy
No, you love you mom and don't want to see her go through pain. There's nothing wrong with that.
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
mr roboto
Footballguy
Not selfish at all. Just honest. Emotions are emotions. There is no judging in the feelings you have.
Copeman
Footballguy
My mom dealt with cancer for about 35 years, on and off. She started with thyroid cancer when I was about 5, then she had lung cancer in which half her left lung had to be removed. Later she got cancer at different times in most other organs. Then in her other lung. Breast cancer. Liver. Bladder, etc….She fought through major surgeries/chemo/radiation time and time again. Her last cancer she was also beating, but it traveled to her brain and by then she was too weak to do much about it. She passed last year. Tough seeing her/my family going through it.
Stay strong for your mom.
And I agree, and say it every day. F cancer.
There is a side of me that thinks there are cures for cancer, but these greedy pharma companies and insurance institutions make too much money off of the disease. This is the only tin hat/conspiracy thing I ever think of. And after what I’ve seen and dealt with regarding the disease (not only in my mom), I think I have some leeway in this thinking.
Stay strong for your mom.
And I agree, and say it every day. F cancer.
There is a side of me that thinks there are cures for cancer, but these greedy pharma companies and insurance institutions make too much money off of the disease. This is the only tin hat/conspiracy thing I ever think of. And after what I’ve seen and dealt with regarding the disease (not only in my mom), I think I have some leeway in this thinking.
I went through this in the late 80s and early ninties with my mom (bone marrow cancer)she endored more pain than I can imagine, but when the doctors gave her less that a year she stayed with us for 5, got to experience being a grandmother and my marriage. My point is that there are things that your mom may being experiencing that mean everything to her despite what she is going though, be happy for her to get to enjoy them, that's really the best you can do.
SpurrierisisGod
Footballguy
3rd time now for my mom. Someone mentioned it earlier, but I think it bears repeating. Respect their wishes. That goes for family, friends and the doctors to. The 2nd go around, my mom told her doc to just take both breasts off and he refused. Said it was too much trauma at once, plus the kind she had never jumps from one breast to the other. Guess what? It jumped to the other side. Same cancer. Now, after having one breast removed after radiation, chemo, etc., she now has to go through the same crap all over again.
I think she is about done with it and if it goes away and comes back for a 4th time, I'm pretty sure she's just going to say F- it and move on without treatment and I can't blame her. It's her choice. My sister on the other hand won't listen to any of that kind of talk.
My feeling is that she is 65-ish, led a decent life, raised two decent kids and gotten to see and spend time with her grandkids. What more could one ask for other than to not have cancer? Seems like she has earned the right to call her own shots.
I think she is about done with it and if it goes away and comes back for a 4th time, I'm pretty sure she's just going to say F- it and move on without treatment and I can't blame her. It's her choice. My sister on the other hand won't listen to any of that kind of talk.
My feeling is that she is 65-ish, led a decent life, raised two decent kids and gotten to see and spend time with her grandkids. What more could one ask for other than to not have cancer? Seems like she has earned the right to call her own shots.
Michael Brown
Footballguy
Sorry to hear about your mom Shady. Best wishes on her recovery.
shadyridr
Footballguy
Money makes the world go round. Wouldnt shock me in the least.And thanks for the story. My condolences
Michael Brown
Footballguy
Also, we can't pick and choose which spots to circumvent the language filter. Pandora's box and all that. It's there for a reason, so please respect it.
shadyridr
Footballguy
youre a ####in moderator? when did that happen
Idiot Boxer
Footballguy
I'm pretty sure cancer, child molesters and the Yankees would be where I'd draw the line.
Lost my Father-in-law (age 63) to throat cancer in 2009. Dad (71) was diagnosed with prostate the following March and defeated it with radiation. Best friends wife (37) just fought through breast cancer. Girl I work next to dads had colon cancer. Lady I worked with son (24!) is still fighting lymphoma. Hitting awfully close to home.
Agree with everyone, F cancer.
Agree with everyone, F cancer.
NCCommish
Footballguy
Fist let me say sorry to hear about your Mom. Cancer sucks.On the environmental side of cancer I find it unlikely that a diet rich in hormones,all manners of animal anti-virals and chemicals isn't causing some portion of cancer. Further we already have proof of cancer nodes being caused by pollution. So while we may not know the exact percentages I think it's likely environment plays a role.
Jayrod
Footballguy
Who is this guy?Non-moderator username?
TheAristocrat
Footballguy
Sorry to hear. Best thoughts and wishes to you and your family.
goldenchild
Footballguy
I'm sorry to hear about this news shady. Hang in there. I lost my MIL to cancer a few years back (yesterday she would have been 56).
Hoping she pulls through okay.
Hoping she pulls through okay.
johnnycakes
Footballguy
My mother died of uterine cancer a little over a year ago. When diagnosed, it was too late for radiation, and we opted out of chemo based on the advice of my late friend, who died several years ago from lung cancer and whose last words to me were, "JC, if you ever get cancer and have a choice between chemo and death, take the death." So it took her about 3 weeks to die, but the only time she was on paid medication was in the final hours of her life, when she complained of pain. They put her on drip morphine, and that was all she wrote.
Then there's my dad, who doesn't have cancer, but who cannot carry on a coherent conversation and cannot stand to support his own weight. He's living at home with a live-in nurse. She has to clean him, bathe him, and feed him almost like a baby.
So I say #### you, old age. I'd just as soon die by the time I'm 70 and save the system from having to pay for my social security and Medicare. If all that is still around by then.
Then there's my dad, who doesn't have cancer, but who cannot carry on a coherent conversation and cannot stand to support his own weight. He's living at home with a live-in nurse. She has to clean him, bathe him, and feed him almost like a baby.
So I say #### you, old age. I'd just as soon die by the time I'm 70 and save the system from having to pay for my social security and Medicare. If all that is still around by then.
Jayrod
Footballguy
My wife and I have 7 of our 8 grandparents still alive, all in their 80's. 5 of the 7 are completely self reliant, out of the other 2, one has extremely advanced Alzheimer's and the other is on oxygen 24/7.Our families have been very lucky to avoid cancer.Feel for anyone who has to suffer through this. I did watch a good friend of mine's mother die of Leukemia a few years ago. Very sad as none of her 3 boys had any kids yet...but she did get to meet all of their wives at least. That is the closest I've ever been to a serious cancer patient.
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Tom Servo
Nittany Beavers
BigJim®
Footballguy
Very sorry to hear that. It hits home with me as I visited my mom's grave on mother's day, with 4 and 6 year old grand sons she would have relished. One week in 1999 she was toting her own canoe on a camping trip, the next she was given a 6 month death sentence with pancreatic C. Hopefully your mom's prognosis is better, but I tried to look at that last window of time as a bit of a blessing - being able to say all of the things a kid might not be able to say losing a parent in a heart attack/car accident scenario. I'm sure you are already, but make the most of this time, and give her all the support you can.
Arsenal of Doom
Footballguy
I ruptured a disk in my neck back in early March, which required a spinal fusion to fix. The MRI also showed something on my thyroid, which I didn't think much of at the time since 95% of thyroid nodules are benign and I had more immediate concerns with my neck. Unfortunately when I had my biopsy of the nodule it turned up as an unusual tissue type that can't be diagnosed as malignant benign without being removed.
I’m scheduled to have that half of my thyroid removed on 5/31, and will know later in the week if it is malignant or not. It’s a struggle just dealing with the uncertainty at this point. I’m hopeful it will still be nothing, but it’s hard not to linger on the more difficult outcomes particularly since I have a 5 year old son and am essentially the sole support for my family.
This has made me do more research though, and there is really promising work being done on identifying and targeting cancer stem cells. The way we treat cancer could leap forward dramatically in the next decade, as drugs are being developed that target the specific cells that cause cancers to grow and metastasize.
I’m scheduled to have that half of my thyroid removed on 5/31, and will know later in the week if it is malignant or not. It’s a struggle just dealing with the uncertainty at this point. I’m hopeful it will still be nothing, but it’s hard not to linger on the more difficult outcomes particularly since I have a 5 year old son and am essentially the sole support for my family.
This has made me do more research though, and there is really promising work being done on identifying and targeting cancer stem cells. The way we treat cancer could leap forward dramatically in the next decade, as drugs are being developed that target the specific cells that cause cancers to grow and metastasize.
shader
Footballguy
Read Good Calories, Bad Calories.Lots of anecdotal evidence (though much is documented) of missionary doctors going to islands and lands that had no access to modern foods. These individuals did not get cancer. Then within a short time of getting access to sugary foods and processed carbs, cancer and similar diseases started appearing in the population.Very difficult to scientifically test, as it would require a large number of people staying off of sugar and processed foods for their entire lives....But interesting nonetheless.'JZilla said:
